twostar55

#1 - if OP is asking whether he should marry this woman, my answer would be NO....cos she deserves a better man than him.

If she doesn't read it, and signs it, without having her own independent counsel represent HER best interests, it won't be worth the paper it's written on.

So all I have to do the next time I don't want to be bound by an agreement I signed, I just have to say I signed it without reading it and my obligation is removed????? I think you are wrong.

You are very correct there, not reading something and signing makes no difference, if you sign something you agree to what on the contract.

This is what hangs a lot of people in the computer world, it is what is called an end user license agreement, when you install a program and click yes to the lengthy agreement at the beginning of the install, you just signed that contract, and it holds up in court. Like if you install the program on many computers when you only have one copy of the program and it states in the electronic contract can only be used on 1 computer, people get taken to court and loose every day, the argument "I did not read that EULA" dose not fly.

I have heard there is legal precedence in some states of invalidating a pre-nup if the person signed a document that was not written there native language and that person was not adequately represented. Can't say this for sure but it is what I have heard

#2 - I am not aware of 'I didn't read it' as a defense for invalidating the pre-nupt. I do agree if there's a language barrier, maybe....however...OP has waited til she left everything...left her with not much of a choice, therefore she could theoretically claim she signed it under duress & protest.

I think that I have some ommited some things that may have led to a mis-understanding. In good faith, I brought my fiancee over here and I have supported her fully.

A couple of weeks after we arrive I find out she is opening my mail, and also my e-mail. I do not think that this is right-----------even when you are married. I simply think that mail addressed to you is your private business....and, by the way, I have nothing to hide--------it was the principle of the thing that I did not like--this cause me to have secound thoughts about the whole thing.

I always thought that the VisaJourney website was a fair forum for helping each other. I have never called anyone names or made bad comments to anyone. I was simply asking for a little advice.

Most responses, unfortunately, were way out of line and way too judgemental.

Ok, honestly, anyone who has property or their own business should sign a prenup REGARDLESS of how in love or trusting they are and what have you. It's there to protect BOTH people, so I'm sure the OP had her best interest in mind as well. It shouldn't be so offensive and insulting. You can never truly know if someone will end up screwing you over down the line. I know of someone who is now losing everything because he trusted her and of course, why shouldn't he have, right? You want to trust the person you're marrying with your LIFE... and everything that your LIFE includes.. who doesn't??? But sometimes, things just don't happen the way you want them to. What's the problem with signing a prenup even if it was a surprise??? If you feel deeply in your heart that your relationship will last and you'll live happily forever after, then who cares! You've got nothing to worry about, right?

I like to think of it in terms of tv court dramas... you know, they always tell suspects that if they're innocent, then there's nothing to worry about. If you're sure, then just sign the damn thing and forget it. If something DOES go wrong, you're protected. Right???

Thanks for showing some logic and common sense,

Twostar55

So because she wont sign your prenup you want to dump her in a country she does not know with an 11 year old child in tow.....

Wow what a man you are.....

I wish her well in overcoming meeting a man like you...

Kezzie

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Yeah,

God bless you too,

A question:

If the U.S. petitioner wants the K-1 holder to leave (his/her household) before the the 90-day period, is the U.S. petitioner required by law to support the K-1 holder for the remainder of the 90 day period until they must leave the country?

Thanks

I would react exactly the same way if my husband had suddenly asked me to sign any prenup.... if this had been something you had both talked about before she gave up her whole life for you and came to the USA then she changed her mind then I could see your point... but she did not know you wanted this before she gave up her life to come and be your wife... the one you want to share everything with... the person who is ment to mean more to you than anything...

If you feel that you can not marry her because of the reaction to your OMG I must protect my business and my assets then I hope you will compensate her for what she has already given up and pay all her expences to get her back home....

Kezzie

Things do not automatically go the way we want them to all of the time. I feel that now, at this time, I am disovering something about my finacee that I did not know before--thank God now than later. She appears to me to be illogical. We do not live in the "old days" anymore. I have seen and heard to many sad stories about divorces and the resulting hassles.

She is not "giving up her whole life"--she is a very strong women, so please do not make it sound so melodramatic and sacrificial.

What is your problem with a pre-nupt? Does it not make sense to you? Whether its six months before a marriage or two weeks?

My finacee and her 11 year old daughter and I arrived here in the U.S. last August 2nd.

The daughter enrolled in school and is doing OK.

I have a on-going 24 year -old business that I have been very successful at. I also own several income-producing real estate properties.

About a month ago, on the advice of my attorney and CPA, I discussed with my finacee about preparing a pre-nupt agreement.

She really suprised me---she became very offfended that I would suggest such a thing. I attempted to explain to her that it would be in BOTH of our interests. She is a university graduate and skilled in the business world, so maybe I mis-calculated her desires, character, or whatever.

Now, I am having very serious doubts about the marriage. Her time in the U.S. is runnning out.

You might be ready to tell me--"why didn't you two talk about this a long time ago?" Well, to me, it makes a heck of a lot of sense to have a prenupt in this day and age in America--especially when both parties have financial interestes (she owns two apartments in her home country) and 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce within three years in this country.

I tried to explain the benefits of the agreement not only for me, but for HER, also. She told me she would absolutely not read it, but would sign it, and she was very upset about the whole thing.

Her reaction seems so childish to me. Do I want to marry this woman?

Has anyone else been in this situation? Thanks.

Dear All!

We are filling the Application for a SSCard and there is something needs to be clarified:

the question 8 and 9. they ask for my fiance's mother's and father's name and their SSN.... My fiance is from Kyrgyz republic and her parent's don't have a SSN.

How to answer on those questions?

Thanks a lot!

Okay here is my question.

I just sent the K1 visa packet to the Laguna Niguel service center last month. I am returning back to Russia to visit my fiance in November. She wants to marry in Russia before she leaves her friends and family to come to the US. She is a very religious person so this is very important to her. Obviously the K1 visa will still be in the works in November. If we marry in Russia while the K1 is still working it way through, will this cause her problems at the interview? We still plan on marrying in the US to complete the process.

Based on my experience, you should have a "cerimonial' wedding in Russia. In other words "not official" concering the U.S. goverment. Otherwise, it wold seem to me if you have this ceremony in Russia, it could be construed as a legal marriage in a foreign country--and then you are possibly looking at K-3 situation.

I plan to go down town to apply for my ssn today i have my passport and I-94 IS THATENOUGH?

From what I have read, it should be. I found a "form EM-00154: Evidence of Employment Authorization for K-1". A part of it states "Some I-94s issued to K-1s are stamped or annotated EMPLOYMENT AUTHORIZED, and some are not. Either way, the I-94 is proof a K-1 alien is authorized to work".

I will make sure my fiancee takes this with her when she applies for her SSN. I have read that some Social Security office workers are not aware of the above guidelines.

I hope I addressed your question.

Hello, everyone---

Thanks to a lot of you, and with your good advice, my fiancee, her daughter, and I will be coming to the U.S. in a couple of weeks.

Everything OK, right? Well, I spoke to my fiancee tonight, and it seems her "ex and his new wife" are making some "demands". My fiancee, who has worked hard to provide a decent living for herself and her daughter, has happened to have paid for two apartments in Bishkek-one for her daughter in case she may want to move back to her home country, and the other for simply an investment--all of these properties are in her name.

Now, this ex-clown is telling her that he has some "contacts" in the legal/secrurity system that may make it "difficult" for her to leave her country if she does not give in to his and her demands.

My fiancee and her daughter both have all of their legal documents and everything--ready to fly to America.

I am so damn angry about the whole thing. I told my fiancee that if I have too, I will go the the American embassy in Bishkek, or, for the matter of that, to Almaty, and fix all of this.

God, to go this far----------

Thanks for your reply,

Twostar

Thank you for your comment--

I think the whole thing boils down to my fiancee's property investment in her home country. She, understandbly, wants to leave her homeland and not worry about her ex-clown and his "dealings". So, I think the thing I must do is clarify this with her when I see her next week. I am just "spouting off" now, but I am very grateful for this site, because everyone her has given me great advice. Thanks........

Hello, everyone---

Thanks to a lot of you, and with your good advice, my fiancee, her daughter, and I will be coming to the U.S. in a couple of weeks.

Everything OK, right? Well, I spoke to my fiancee tonight, and it seems her "ex and his new wife" are making some "demands". My fiancee, who has worked hard to provide a decent living for herself and her daughter, has happened to have paid for two apartments in Bishkek-one for her daughter in case she may want to move back to her home country, and the other for simply an investment--all of these properties are in her name.

Now, this ex-clown is telling her that he has some "contacts" in the legal/secrurity system that may make it "difficult" for her to leave her country if she does not give in to his and her demands.

My fiancee and her daughter both have all of their legal documents and everything--ready to fly to America.

I am so damn angry about the whole thing. I told my fiancee that if I have too, I will go the the American embassy in Bishkek, or, for the matter of that, to Almaty, and fix all of this.

God, to go this far----------

Thanks for your reply,

Twostar

meauxna,

And as a practical matter, many juvenile dilinquents have groups of friends who might want to practice their marial arts skills.

Yodrak

But he said that it might take awhile to get it in the system and suggested removing the visa from the the passport.

Wow, I didn't know you could do that.

Although I can see the point of tearing the visa out of the young mans passort (I had to laugh at that one),

isn't that a criminal offense?----tampering with a passport? .....Just wondering.

My K1 visa is processing....when my fiance goes to his interview will he need to bring all the notices that i received....like including transfer notices?? If he does not have one of them will that be a big problem?

Hi,

What exactly do you mean by "transfer notices"?

I sent my application to Nebraska but it was transferred to California. I received a notice stating that it would be transferred to California. And I think I should be receiving one stating that the application was received by CSC. Sorry, I know i word things a little funny and make everything more confusing.

OK,

It wouldn't hurt if he brought all of the notices--just in case. It does not seem to me that it would be a big problem if was missing some notices---- but I do not know for sure. In my case, when I had doubts about whether to send something, I sent it anyway. But not before I made a couple of copies of it first !

My K1 visa is processing....when my fiance goes to his interview will he need to bring all the notices that i received....like including transfer notices?? If he does not have one of them will that be a big problem?

Hi,

What exactly do you mean by "transfer notices"?

Hi all

Please, can anyone tell me do I have to submit my last year tax return or my last 3 yrs? any input would be appreciated. This is for Bangkok Embassy. Thank you very much

Bill

Hi,

I submitted my last 3 years returns----better too much than not enough.

Hey guys!! I am filling out the I-129f and I have a question. Number 10 asks how my citizenship was acquired (which was through birth). It then says give the certificate number, date, and place it was issued. Is that for folks born here, or is it just for the naturalized citizens? I ask because I don't have a certificate number on my original certificate. I can only tell where it was issued and when. Also, how did you all assemble your pictures to send in with your application package? And did you have to have YOUR (USC) letter of intent to marry notarized or not??? Thanks guys!! The package is almost finished???

I'll try to answer your questions.

#1 I was the petitioner, was born here, and gave my birth certificate number, date, and place it was issued.

#2 It seems very odd that there is not some kind of number on your original certificate (?)

#3 When you say pictures, I take it to mean the two of you together. My photos consisted of pictures that were downloaded off of e-mail and simply printed on paper, and put into my 129 package.

#4 I did not have my USC letter of intent notarized.

Hope this helps.

YOU GO WITH THEM!!!

As a US Citizen, you can go through either line... but in this case, if you go through immigration, you will not be allowed back in and have to wait for them to clear immigration.

Stay with them, and go to the "Immigrant Visa" line, or ask and officer when you first enter the immigration area where do people with immigrant visas (or K-1 visas) go. (Technically the K-1 is NOT and immigrant visa, but you will be processed with the other immigrant visas).

We had to wait 45 minutes to get through immigration.

Thanks to everyone for their help. Just to add a little info--our POE is JFK. And another question--I've read that at JFK my fiancee would be able to apply for a temporary 90-day work visa--is this true? If so, how would she go about it?

Thanks again.

Hello everyone,

Next month I will be returning home from Kyrgyzstan with my fiancee and her 11 year-old daughter. I have gone through immigration in the U.S. many times before, but only by myself. What do I do this next time? Do I stay with them, and all three of us go to a special line? Or, do they go to a separate area? Am I supposed to be present with them when they hand their visas to the immigration officer?

Your help is appreciated....

I think that in most cases, the services of an attorney are not needed. On my visajourney, I chose to hire one based on the advice of the members here. It can bring, at least, a certain "peice of mind". A lawyer is like any other service--be it a doctor, auto mechanic, accountant, whatever. If and when you find a good one, they can be invaluable.

All that being said, I would not hire an attorney unless there was a clear doubt/problem in any step of the process.

CONGRADULATIONS AND MUCH LUCK !!!!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!

best wishes to you both

Thank you so much for your wishes---------

CONGRATS!!!

Hello everyone,

I was wondering when I would be able to write this post--I am still having difficulty believing it....

My fiancee in Krygzstan received her visa in the Almaty consulate in Kazakshtan yesterday. Both of us really thought she would issued a denial based upon an overstay in the U.S. Recently, I took your advice,an immigration attorney, prepared 601/hardship letter, and sent all of this to my fiancee--to use in case she needed it.

The over-stay was never mentioned. It was, according to my fiancee, a crowded, noisy interview day at the consular office, but the CO was cordial and complimented my fiancee on her English, and told her to come back the next day for her visa.

We want to thank all of you who helped us with your advice. We will continue to maintain our timeline.

I hope I will be able to help someone else sometime on this forum.........

I hope I am in the correct discussion site...

My fiancee just received her visa, and I was wondering if you all had any suggestions for relatively cheap airfares and/or agencies you have dealt with?

Many thanks for your help....

Hello everyone,

I was wondering when I would be able to write this post--I am still having difficulty believing it....

My fiancee in Krygzstan received her visa in the Almaty consulate in Kazakshtan yesterday. Both of us really thought she would issued a denial based upon an overstay in the U.S. Recently, I took your advice,an immigration attorney, prepared 601/hardship letter, and sent all of this to my fiancee--to use in case she needed it.

The over-stay was never mentioned. It was, according to my fiancee, a crowded, noisy interview day at the consular office, but the CO was cordial and complimented my fiancee on her English, and told her to come back the next day for her visa.

We want to thank all of you who helped us with your advice. We will continue to maintain our timeline.

I hope I will be able to help someone else sometime on this forum.........

I must say all of you are great with the recommendations. I am in the middle of the whole process, and quite a few of you have helped a lot. Thanks. I search the latest topics to see if I can help anyone else with the experiences I have had.

My question..... upon submitting the 134 form, must I give my recent bank account statements? Or, are my last 3 years income tax forms (1040), my current W-2, and my sworn asset declarations enough? I am self-employed. I have owned my business for the past 22 years. It is a corporation, and, legally, I am a corporate officer. Would this be enough for the consular officer ? .....

Thanks again.