todd412

May i just throw in my 2 cents....

Ive been keeping ALL of my and my wife's cell / house phone bills.

I was thinking that when it came time to submit my own I-751 that i would include just the cover sheets with the front page of some of the bills.

If i / we got a RFE or interview then you can always produce the itemised records and highlight all off the calls that you have made to each other over the last year or two....

What better way to prove that you are actually in contact with each other than proof of all those thousands of calls youve made to each other over the years....

Obviously if you werent a legit couple and it was a sham marriage you wouldnt have such records.

Im not saying send them all 1st time round, but maybe some of them and be sure to keep the rest in case of a RFE or interview.

if anyone else thinks this is stupid, remember that such cell phone records are proof enough to prove associations and convict people of certain crimes in court - so why not let it work the other way for you?

Hey everyone,

Thanks again to everyone that replied.

even the negative comments are helpful as it gives me some ideas as to how USCIS might think.

Since my last post "Grandad" has passed away (and no i didnt push him down a set of stairs!) We have decided to go through some counselling and see what happens. I hope it works out but if it doesnt then we will go our seperate ways and see what happens with a good faith I-751 waiver.

If they approve it, great! - if not ill go back home.

I know this might sound like a crazy question to some, but when grandad died he left a $700,000 house to both of us, along with a sizeable lump sum. IF we do decide to spilt im of the opinion that she can just have everything as given the circumstances i really want nothing other than out. IF we do in fact split, would me just giving her everything count against me with USCIS???? (i dont want them looking at it like a payoff!)

In the mean time Ive just started as a Police Officer so maybe that will count for me when they take the waiver into consideration.

Warlord, i understand your comments about the 2nd marriage - but when i said that my question was purely out of interest, it was exactly that - out of interest!. There is no other woman and after this debacable im not too sure if ill be getting married again anytime soon (if ever!)

Thanks again,

Todd

Hey Casboyle!

Hows it go then?????

Waiting with baited breath

t

Wow,

thanks for posting - good luck to you for Monday, i really mean it.

Look forward to hearing about the positive outcome!

Thanks

Todd

Again thankyou for your replies...

ive got no problems coming on here and baring my soul.... if i get critism for it then so be it - i dare say that i deserve some.

I'm not some fraudster thats here making all of this up - there would be no point at all in me asking for advice if i wasnt presenting the full facts, because obviously if i was lying then any advice given on a fake situation would be useless.

As for what happened with "Grandad" - well he did have a nurse that used to come over every day and do his legs etc but she ended up leaving him for a house move... so he asked me to do his legs etc for a couple of weeks till he could find someone else... well time passed and that was 9 months ago.

Should i be doing it? - No, but its hard to say no to the guy who put a roof over our head and literally paid cash for a house thats now worth in the Mid $600's and is all ours.

Until i found out about the history thing, i really did think he was a nice guy and didnt mind helping him out...

And no, i dont do that full time... like i said i have a 9-5 job.

As for wanting out, and staying here.... Well i gave up everything in England to start a new life here - i did it with honorable intentions and regardless of whether or not things work out between us or not i still have ties here, I like it here and I can get my old job back, but here.

I came here clean, but was cheated by the other party.... its going to be hard enough starting over again - and thats staying here.... going back would just be even worse.

Having said that, she can have the house and everything else - im not the goldigger type.

Thankyou mermaid, i have the proof and have it well documented - ill go for the waiver and the worst they can do is say no.

Thanks

todd

Thankyou both for taking the time to reply -

I hear what your saying about marrying out of love, and i withgout a shadow of a doubt did that.

When we were talking about getting married I actually tried to get her to come to england with me, but she refused on the basis of her grandfather being here and that she needed to care for him.

Well here goes..

After we got married, the "grandfather" bought us a new house to life in - cash (he's very wealthy) as a wedding present and gift to his beloved granddaughter.

Well it turns out that granfather isnt grandfather at all, and in fact is an old guy that she used to sleep with several years ago (before the marriage) and in return for this mutually benificial exchange he took care of her.

Now id be willing to forgive and move on, but she wont leave him - ontop of that me being the nice guy that i am ive been taking care of "grandad" everyday - basically a nurse who free of charge changes the bandages on his legs (he has cancer) and showers him in additiion to all of the domestic stuff.

Its all pretty messed up

having said that i really do still love her, but i cant deal with this.

If makes me a bad person then so be it - but i just cant, he doesnt know that i know....

its all a mess

thanks

Hello everyone,

I fully expect a torrent of abuse from a lot of people and to be called a fraudster etc… but heres my sob story –

I’m a British guy, left a good job in the UK to come here and marry my US wife.

Got married August 2004, Got Conditional GC August 2005.

Wife and I are and have had problems, no abuse or anything crazy – we both just want different things out of life, plus she has confessed to a few things about her past life that had I know about Im not too sure that I would have married her in the 1st place.

Our marriage is real, no doubt about it. We are not talking divorce yet but I can see it coming – I know how everything goes about the good faith waiver etc once the divorce goes through, but does anyone know what my chances are? – I mean the worst they can do is send me back to the UK, and ive got no problem with that – but ive got so many financial ties here that it would just be a huge pain in the ###.

I work in a Government job, I have the following proof of our relationship –

Joint tax returns for 2004 and 2005

Stack of utility bills in both names for the whole marriage

2 x Car registrations and finance bills goes to each of us at the same address

Whole marriages bank statesments showing us both paying our wages in and paying joint bills

Cell phone records showing that we call each other about 5-8 times a day for up to 30 mins a pop (as any real couple would do)

Several credit cards in both names

A huge pile of birthday / valentines / xmas etc cards from across the years to each other and from both of our respective families mentioning both of our names.

Copies of both of our health insurance cards covering both of us.

Letters from our work showing each other as Next of Kin and life insurance benificiarys.

Copies of cell phone text messages in which she details her faults and confessions

Emails to each other

I’ve no doubt that I could get at least 15 affidavits from other people (neighbors, co-workers etc) showing that we lived / existed as a couple – but don’t have them yet.

Copies of all medical bills used by her and paid for by my insurance

Receipts and doctors notes for an IVF treatment that we went though together in an attempt to get pregnant together, which failed and cost us $6500 out of pocket.

Photographs of us together taking trips, at work functions, house parties and of course photos from the wedding (attended by 200+ people) And a big pile of stuff like little notes relating to everyday things that we’ve written to each other.

Any one have any ideas what my chances are?

And purely out of interest, what happens if I re-marry before the expiration of the conditional card??? – can I still prove good faith, would it hurt me etc???

Thankyou all for thaking the time for reading this.

Todd