Mellylamelle

As I say, no rhyme or reason! I see people who filed months after me have finished this whole stupid process, it's very frustrating! (Although I am actually happy for those people.) I'm feeling particularly down about it at the moment because we are so close to being done and we just got a checklist for some really stupid things and that pushes everything back further.

But one thing that has always cheered me up is looking on VJ at other people ranting about the same thing because in nearly all cases eventually their case moves forward and they get the visa. We will get there!

You should be able to sort the tax issue without much trouble. I lived in the UK for nine years and for the first few I didn't know I was supposed to file taxes (this is quite common), and then I was afraid to file them because it had been so long! (Also quite common!) Knowing I wanted to bring my husband to the US, I finally bit the bullet and got the past three years of tax returns completed and filed. I was under the threshold for all three years, and as I didn't owe the IRS anything, I didn't have any penalties to pay. As far as I am aware, as long as you have three years of back taxes filed, you're good.
Good luck to you!