zibra0000

Our divorce is final..and i brought a copy of my divorce to my interview...she just want to keep scaring rest of my life eventhoug i didnt take police report to my interview cuz i really didnt want to trash her.

Im trying eventhoug kind hard splitting especialy being with a person for so damn long...but i really really appreciating her for threatening me like that....

Now my ex is threatening me to call immigration i dnt get it? Hmmm she doesnt want me to move on at all.

Thank you all for your support.

Ok thank god today i checked uscis.gov for my case and it says they schedule me for my oath ceremony.

Thank you so much.im still worry a lil bit cuz she didnt give me any letter saying gongratulation or approved or anything.she just said good you done you did good..and i was walking out other officer said to me gongratulation so i dnt know.

I had my interview yesterday...the officer was super nice. We were chatting about a lot of other things than my actual application. She asked me 6 questions got them right. And she let me read a sentencr and read a sentence was good. She asked me who lives with me in thr house i said me and my wife and my step son. But i got divorced so she is my ex.so then she started asking me when we got divorced and why and i was honest with her and told her it didnt workout. Anyway i had some taxes that i owed it was a mistake me filling the stupid w3 when i got hired but i showed her papers from the irs that iam paying my taxes and ive instalment agreement with thr irs. So then we started talking about other stuff and about my job and thier system was broken..so she told me ok good you done everything is good and then she told me that they will contact me about 30 to 45days about my oath and where and such..but at the end she sidnt gave me any envolope saying its approved or anything ??

But my point is why they are asking for it if im applying for 5 yrs role??

Of course that's if she isn't willing to give you the copy, because if you can get it, you can bring it.

I hope u still remember ny case..anyway yesterday i recieved a letter for my interview and they are asking me to bring marriage certificate and my spouse naturalization certificate and our previuos divorces.at the time when i applied i was married bur i applied for 5 yrs role and now we r going throug divorce so why they are asking me to bring this document if i applied for 5 yrs role??or it doesnt matter they will still want me to bring it anyway??

You say, you've decided to apply under the 5 year rule, so I assume you've had your green card for at least 5 years.

If you've had your green card for 5 years, then you can apply whether you are married or divorced.

If you've been married for under 5 years, then you may not want to apply right now, because you'll have to present evidence of your marriage.

If you pass the 5 year mark, then you shouldn't worry about anything, just go ahead and apply. You probably won't even be asked anything about your marriage/divorce, but as long as you're open and honest you shouldn't have any trouble.

So basically, if you're applying based on 5 years of permanent residency, it won't matter if you are married or divorced.

I hope u still remember ny case..anyway yesterday i recieved a letter for my interview and they are asking me to bring marriage certificate and my spouse naturalization certificate and our previuos divorces.at the time when i applied i was married bur i applied for 5 yrs role and now we r going throug divorce so why they are asking me to bring this document if i applied for 5 yrs role??or it doesnt matter they will still want me to bring it anyway??

My friend get out and apply on your own.

have a good life.

one of my friend had almost same situation. he took divorce at 4th year marriage. waited for one more year and you can apply after 5year.

I hope u still remember ny case..anyway yesterday i recieved a letter for my interview and they are asking me to bring marriage certificate and my spouse naturalization certificate and our previuos divorces.at the time when i applied i was married bur i applied for 5 yrs role and now we r going throug divorce so why they are asking me to bring this document if i applied for 5 yrs role??or it doesnt matter they will still want me to bring it anyway??

The fact that she is a citizen and you are not, means nothing. Don't let her hold anything over you for that. She has no power over the situation. You need to do what is right for you and if leaving her and filing for divorce is it, then you need to do that. She is holding the power over you because you are letting her.

Thank you for your support and the advice thank yo..u

The police report about the domestic violence is always there.

There's nothing they can hold against you. If you were deceiving her then they will be idiots to believe that you put up with her for 5 yrs!...u fortunately, some Americans like to pick up a phone and make outrageous claims thinking they will have their way.

If any of this had happened with 2 yrs of you coming then it might be an issue.

Make sure you document any evidence of control and abuse. You could use that in your divorce proceedings.

She's just blackmailing you with calling immigration. Anyone can call them but they are not fools to fall for any complains and favor the caller.

Hold your peace and move of the house for your own safety if you have to.

I swear to you that is my case i never have a dollar in my pocket and im workjng monday throu sunday like an idiot..i cant even go and have fun with male freinds that i work with and im nt talking bar or strip club.im just trying to havr basketball game or just paint ball fight or something...now lets say she call immi after divorce and trying to make them believe that i led her on this whole time as she like to say..what could i do to prove to them that i didnt???

Make sure you protect all your immigration documents from her because looking at the way she is acting she could hide your documents to sabotage you.

I have heard about petitioner's hiding their beneficiary's documents on arrival in the USA just to keep the person under control.

Joint account is good but have a personal account on the side. Joint account should just have money for collective household expenses. Like you both can put a specified amount from each paycheck to help to household bills.

No one wants to be the dog to work all the time and not see a penny of their money.

Thank you so much...i been wanting to apply for citizemahip this whole time im with her and she always make it harder for me always...but you right thank you so much...

There's nothing she can do at the point to get you deported. If I were you, I wouldnt worry about Naturalization until your divorce is done...if you live here legally, I dont think there's a huge difference in what you van or cannot do as a permanent resident.

Deal with your relationship issue first than you can always do your citizenship.

Thank you so much that was very helpful i read it all and it is helpfull...i mean eventhoug i didnt report it to the uscic when she got arrested and i droppes charges is it late now to contact uscis about the abuse?

I'm sorry about your situation! I just had my interview today and they handed me a brocure that might be relevant to you:

Its called "Information on the Legal Rights Available to Immigrant Victims of Domestic Violence in the united States and Facts about Immigrating on a Marriage-Based Visa"

and is available online here: http://www.uscis.gov/news/fact-sheets/information-legal-rights-available-immigrant-victims-domestic-violence-united-states-and-facts-about-immigrating-marriage-based-visa-fact-sheet

Well the cop did come to our house and did arrest her for domestic violence.she went to jail.judge dis ask me if she can come back to the house till the hearing day..prosecuter asked me about what i want to do and i said i want to drop charges and her case was dismiss...i mean the police department should have abuse report still in there right?well how the immi can judge the marriage was not bonafide?it was bonafide it was in good faith..and we been living togheter all this time we shared everything my money its her money.everything its on our names titles lease bank taxs bills everything....i mean what else i can have to prove to uscis in case that the marriage was bonafide???

Depending on your state you may be able to get divorced because of domestic violence, if not I think most states now a days allow no fault divorces. Meaning you can get divorced without really having to give the court an explanation. Since you have been an LPR for 5 years already, you clearly aren't a conditional resident so your immigration status cannot be affected in any way by getting divorced. All USCIS cares about is that the marriage was entered into good faith and not for immigration purposes, they do not care if you get divorced. As for the domestic violence and the threat to call immigration you may want to have proof that she is the abuser and not you, just in case. The reason I say this is because if for whatever reason she does or says something that makes them think you were the abuser, you may have a problem with the moral character part of the naturalization process. You are perfectly capable of naturalizing and getting divorced without any issue whatsoever, assuming you don't have other problems that would affect citizenship. Get police reports for the incidents and make sure they state her as the abuser and see if you could move out and get a restraining order against her, this way you have the upper hand. Also don't try to hit her back because I was watching a court tv show yesterday where the wife was the abuser and the husband defended himself and he was arrested after HE called the cops on her, it was ridiculous.

Depending on your state you may be able to get divorced because of domestic violence, if not I think most states now a days allow no fault divorces. Meaning you can get divorced without really having to give the court an explanation. Since you have been an LPR for 5 years already, you clearly aren't a conditional resident so your immigration status cannot be affected in any way by getting divorced. All USCIS cares about is that the marriage was entered into good faith and not for immigration purposes, they do not care if you get divorced. As for the domestic violence and the threat to call immigration you may want to have proof that she is the abuser and not you, just in case. The reason I say this is because if for whatever reason she does or says something that makes them think you were the abuser, you may have a problem with the moral character part of the naturalization process. You are perfectly capable of naturalizing and getting divorced without any issue whatsoever, assuming you don't have other problems that would affect citizenship. Get police reports for the incidents and make sure they state her as the abuser and see if you could move out and get a restraining order against her, this way you have the upper hand. Also don't try to hit her back because I was watching a court tv show yesterday where the wife was the abuser and the husband defended himself and he was arrested after HE called the cops on her, it was ridiculous.

Thank you so much for your support thank you.....now im reading all those comment from all those wonderfull people here and i feel like i was living in the dark big time..

zibra0000, if you are a legal permanent resident and you have been for 5 years, you don't need your wife to apply for citizenship. She can tell you she will call USCIS (immigration) all she wants and will not make a difference. I can't believe that you a falling for those threats or that you are actually being abused. If this is your real situation, you need to move out, if someone is abusing you and you don't do anything about it, they might think you are OK with it and actually like it. She has absolutely no power over you or your legal status if in fact you have been an LPR for 5 years. If you apply for citizenship you need an address that she won't be able to intercept you correspondance from USCIS, you will need the actual appointment letters. You don't need her to become a US citizen and she can't get Joe Arpaio to come after you either.

Good luck to you...

Thank you so much for the support..just a question if you dont mind ..did your friend face any hardnship getting his citizemshi due to his divorce??thank you so much

My friend get out and apply on your own.

have a good life.

one of my friend had almost same situation. he took divorce at 4th year marriage. waited for one more year and you can apply after 5year.

Shes a maniac...does she have to sign or all i need is just fill out the paper and send them to the court and the court will make her sign them??..thank you soo much jenny you such a wonderfull heloer to me....

You have to be careful for the divorce due too she is violence person. She might kill you if she is mad. If you want to divorce, you better don't want her find you and have attorney to talk to her, disappear from her life. I hate to said this. Wish everyone work out to have a happy life

Yeah she hit me more than one and last time i had enough and i called the police and they arrested her cuz they found marks on me from her nails all over my neck...so they arrested her for domestic violence ..but i did dropped charges and we got back togheter nd her case was dismiss but the judge did say if something happen it will be based on previuos incident...but she still the verbal and emotion abuse nonstop....

She is not right. Did she hit you?next time she hit you, call the police to get police report. Then you are free. I heard someone married USC , USC hit her, she called the police for police report, they just married 6 month, she divorce then get 10 year gc directly due to abuse. I think your wife love you, worry lose you, so she check you everything. You need to let her know if she continue abuse you. You will leave her alone.you already get 10 year gc no one can kick you out USA.let her know this. She might become better.my husband treat me better than before now.

Thank you so much for your advice...but as you as immigrant comming different country not easy..and as immigrant people always give us the bad side automatically....eventhoug i been supporting her all this time....i think im gonna get over my fair nd get it done cuz its driving mr nutts i cant even have friend i cant even have my own money that im busting my butt for it....im really sorry for you to hear all this and thanks for all the support...

The fact that she is a citizen and you are not, means nothing. Don't let her hold anything over you for that. She has no power over the situation. You need to do what is right for you and if leaving her and filing for divorce is it, then you need to do that. She is holding the power over you because you are letting her.

I really appreciate sharing your experience with me thank you so much....but theres a differencr between being non caring or quick temper or non responsible and being abusive and controling and agressive..my wife abused me physicaly emtionaly and verbaly and bcuz shea us citizen anf im permanent resident she think she can do whatever her heart desire...i mean shes forbiden me to not work with female at work i cant help it theres male and female everywhere and ahe doeant understand that..i found my self in situatn that ive to beg ny associate directeur to change my hours so i wont be working with female that is not right...by the way im the only person that has income in the house shes nt working....and i dnt mind it but she doesnt appreciate it ar all..i

Put your paycheck in to your own account, cancel the joint account. That my USC husband did cancel our joint account. We fight for joint account all the time before.he never tell me a word when he spent 2000 dollars in joint account. When I found it, he said that is our money, why should I let you know every time I spend something. Then I am mad then we said something to heart each other. Finally he close the joint account to eliminate the fight. I really don't know why the imm office want to see joint account? It cause lots of fight. Now we don't have joint acc . When I give him some money, he appreciate . He spend something on me, I am happy.

If you are married or divorced, it won't affect your 5 year rule citizen application.

I do under stand your situation. I have been go through these too.when I got 10 year green card, he said you got your permanent card, he want to divorce due to I use his computer. He suspect I check his email. I didn't. We fight fie 4 month for nothing. Then I told him, when I married him I don't have anything , now I have everything, good job, nice house. I still want to give us a chance together. I can find someone younger to love me if he doesn't love me anymore. Then we both cry. We love each other , so we are still together now. We do not fight a lot now. After 5 years marriage, I know what not to say to cause fight. When he raise his voice, I just ignore him. He is unhappy for me not to fight back.we fight for nothing. What is the point to say something to hurt each other for nothing. Hope you talk your wife and work things out. Tell her you are not hurry to apply citizen. Work your relation ship out first. If you are not working out. You still can apply for citizen. Just don't let her know it. If you already divorced, how came she know it. Wish you both can work things out

She is in charge of any fly enter the house...the finance everything..calling the back everyday to see if i spend a dollar somewhere and hell if i dnt give her good explanation....i wish if ive seperate account..i mentioned that one time having seperate account and she almost lost it on me...i mean im just hoping it wont be no delay on my proccess...cuz shes the us citizen nd im nt nd she knows that too...im realy sorry for you to hear all this im realy sorry..

If you don't tell your wife you apply for citizen, she will never know it.

She knows she have upper hand bcuz shes the us citizen and me as permanent resident gotta suffer hmmm....is there any differnce if she divorce me or i divorce her??

You are good to apply us citizen. My girlfriend divorce his USC husband with 3 years, she got the citizen. Can you tell your wife, life is too short,why don't we enjoy the life together, if not,she cannt control you for the rest of life. Io won't dismiss your visa .she is the one abuse you.

Yeah i been lpr for 5 yrs and yeah my fair is if she caused my proccess to be delayed because of calling immi..which i dnt know why anyway but thats what im worry about

You say, you've decided to apply under the 5 year rule, so I assume you've had your green card for at least 5 years.

If you've had your green card for 5 years, then you can apply whether you are married or divorced.

If you've been married for under 5 years, then you may not want to apply right now, because you'll have to present evidence of your marriage.

If you pass the 5 year mark, then you shouldn't worry about anything, just go ahead and apply. You probably won't even be asked anything about your marriage/divorce, but as long as you're open and honest you shouldn't have any trouble.

So basically, if you're applying based on 5 years of permanent residency, it won't matter if you are married or divorced.

8/20/2009...yeah doesnt apply for marriage but as far as she threatning me with immi office after divorce..basically i have to stay in abusive relationship or call immi office you know...im really down bcuz of this...i just dnt know what to do and not having a family close to me or just a friend cuz of course she make sure ive no friend....hmmmm

5 year rule does not apply for marriage, it is 5 years as a LPR, when did you get your residency status?

good luck

I been married for over 5 years.everything was fine till my us citizen wife started to control me and abuse me...we had an incident where the police officer came and arrested her for domestic violence.i realy cant have freinds i cant even go to the gym i mean kind life i dnt wish it for nobody not even my enemy...anyway we are still married but things not going well for us...i decided to apply for us citizenship under 5 yrs rule.but my wife and i talking about divorce if we get divorced will it have any impact on my us citizenship?and now my wife is threatning me to call immi office on me is that will keep me away from having us citizenship?and does the immi office will ask me about why i get divorce and if he does should i tell him i just dnt feel like trashing my wife to another person by going into details? Please i will appreciate any help you guys will offer me thank you so much.