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If your husband refuse to file for ROC, then you can divorce and file on your own.

You do not qualify for an H1b while holding a green card. If you want an H1b, then you will need to give up the green card first by terminating your status by leaving the US.

My CR1 visa is valid only till Aug 2016. If H1 works I can anyway work only after Oct 2016. Hence was wondering if it can work that way.

The reason I don't want to divorce and file for ROC is because I want to try to save our marriage. I do not wish to divorce for purpose of saving GC.

Hi

I am currently on CR1 visa (marriage based green card). Due to marital issues, husband does not want to help to remove conditions on CR1 visa and make it permanent GC.

My employer is willing to apply for H1B visa under premium processing.

Can someone please help if this kind of application can work out? I have all the evidences that the marriage was in good faith.

Please help! Thank you

I am sorry to hear the situation you are in now.

You may have already done so but my last advise is to seek help from (yours and his) friends to help with his suspicious mind.

You (the suspect in his eyes) have very little thing to do or say anything to change his mind other than completely given in to his demands (which to me is unreasonable).

Marriage consular (paid by you) and friends may be of some assistance with the mistrusts. I think you love him and he love you so there is a chance you both could save the marriage.

Best of luck to the both of you and God Bless!

Thanks Jam

1. I spoke to his close friends, who so far heard only his version of stories. When I told them the complete situation and they tried to talk to him, he said its his personal matter and will sort out with me.

2. Already did marriage counseling (whose payment I did) but still could not generate trust in him (In his words, I am doing things transactional).

Thank you for your prayers

Abuse isn't always violent. Abuse can be emotional, psychological or even financial (as in OP's case, possibly).

Following things have happened during the last few months since he and his family started pushing me for money and investments.

1. He withdrew showing love, affection and physical relations

2. His father told me to leave the country and go back to India. When I told him I will check with Cops if asking me to do so is the right thing to ask, he snatched away the phone from me, punched me and left me with bleeding finger. Husband snatched away cell phone and threw in toilet. Later he pleaded me to not make a call to cops as it will spoil his career and everything. I did not make any calls. His parents left the house next day and moved to relatives place. Husband went out of house for 3 weeks. They all told me they got scared if I call cops, hence they left me alone in house.

I thought it was my mistake to tell them I should check with cops and should not have done that

Money matters are always ugly!

So, the very fair question to ask him is that would he do all same things he asked of you if he is in your shoes?

Even with the cultural influences, I guess it's about the fairness to the each of you.

You both need a joint account with some contribution from each party on monthly basics. From that joint account, let him invest / use a portion of it to his family interest and your family interest equally.

You'll also need your own account where he or his family can't touch.

You at least need all the joint statements and joint tax returns for ROC.

I already agreed to this arrangement long back. Surrendered to his request to avoid having joint account and give him expenses in cash.

But after doing that he says I am doing it but very transactional (not doing it genuinely) and that is why he wants divorce now.

I even gave him a blank check to show him that I am trying to do it genuinely. Its all the mistrust that he has developed in his head!

Only god can help me here. Thanks Jam for all your inputs! God bless you

So, some yes and some no. It begs a bigger question - do you think he has been a good husband to you?

If so, why not share your income with him for your family?

It's entirely different matter if he is blowing your money on the drugs / gambling and boozes.

But if he is using your money for supporting your family with him, what seems to be the problems?

The problem was that he wanted to invest our money (my and his) in name of his father back in India. Also, it was having best of both the cultures (indian and American).

I did cooking, cleaning, living with his parents, doing everything for them and taking care of house (the indian way) and when it came to money matters it never felt like "our" since he wanted to have his fathers involvement all the time. Please note, father has elder son who is not doing good financially and would also be a stakeholder in this kind of arrangement technically.

All of this set up resulted in miscommunication and mistrust!

What do evidences do you have to prove financial co-mingled for your ROC then?

we jointly filed for income tax return last year. Unfortunately, I do not have a copy of it and he does not give me when I asked for it.

I have his name as middle name in salary account.

Does that suffice?

On the contrary, questions I have are

1. Did he share his income with you and have put your name in his bank accounts?

2. Did he put you as a beneficiary in any insurances?

3. Did he provide for you and for your child(ren) when you have no job / no income?

4. Did he share the property he own with you?

If he did all that for you, don't you think it's only natural for you to return all the favors to him as a couple when you have an income?

If he didn't do any of these for you, I agree with other posters and get a divorce and get a GC under ROC on your own.

Hi Jam

1. He did provide me food, clothing and shelter when I came to USA. No he did not put my name to his bank accounts

2. No he did not put me as beneficiary in any insurances

3. Yes he did

4. No he did not

Which is more important to you? The green card may be acquired without the marriage. All the questions you asked pertain to the GC so I'm guessing that's more important to you.

It's difficult for anyone on this forum to give you marital advice on so little info. Talk to someone close, a friend, coworker, or your priest. Alternatively, there are many posts discussing divorce waivers and the GC.

Good luck.

Marriage is my priority but parallel I have many responsibilities to be taken care of and hence GC is important as well, as my job is dependent on it.

I spoke to his relatives, marriage counselor and friends. Misunderstanding and money matters brought us at this stage.

Thank you all for your suggestions. God bless you all

Is there a reason you cannot divorce?

I really want to save our marriage

Hello All

I am an indian who got married to American citizen and came to USA on CR1 visa in Aug 2014.

Husband has been forcing me and my family to pay him money and have his name added to my salary accounts and make other financial investment since then.

As I did not give in to his demands, he is not willing to apply jointly for removal of my conditions on CR1 visa (marriage based green card).

Can somebody please help me on this?

1. Can I file for waiver without applying for divorce?

2. Can my company apply for H1b visa and get me stay in USA on H1 visa?

3. Is there any other way to save GC?

Thank you for any inputs!

God bless you.

Hello

My cousin is applying for tourist visa from India. He has ongoing court case in India for beating bus driver on road.

I would like to know should this be declared while applying for tourist visa? If yes, what are the chances of approval.

Thanks for your suggestion / guidance.

Thanks

Thank you Hotter Otter..Yes I have received my SSN number.

Hello

I have immigrated to USA 2 weeks back, based on CR1 visa stamping (green card) on my passport.

I am yet awaiting my physical green card.

Would like to know if I can go ahead and start working in USA based on this scenario.

Thank you

Puja

When are you planning to fly? I believe your POE will be charlotte, let us know your POE experience as mine will also be same in middle of sept. Thanks for all the information. It was of great help.

31 august. My POE is LA. Will share the experience

All the best..!! btw where in charlotte ?

Congratulations!!!! What an amazing moment it will be..I can totally understand...

Let us know, when you receive the passport back with visa stamped on it :-)

Thank you ..!!

Passport received today itself..!!!

Good to know your experience, can you also tell us about biometrics appointment at VAC?

Best of luck for your interview, keep us posted about the approval story and when you receive the passport with visa stamped on it.

I scheduled Biometrics appointment on ustraveldocs.com post receiving the interview letter.

Require valid passport, DS 260 confirmation page and interview letter for fingerprinting. To be present at VAC 15 minutes before the scheduled appointment. The lady inside took my thumb impression, finger impressions and photograph. They stamped on DS 260 confirmation page (which we need to carry along at the time of interview).

10 mins and it was over. All the best...!! Will keep posted

Hello VJ members

I will be shortly moving to USA on CR1 visa to North Carolina. Wanted to know what is the process to apply for SSN card.

Thanks in advance for pointers.

Thank you team_gn and mtempelaar for all the pointers and suggestions..!! I am sure they will help me

God bless you

Thank you so much for all the pointers

Have a nice day

Hi All

I would be moving on CR1 visa (Green Card) by the end of August 2014. I am a computer engineer by graduation qualification and Masters in Management studies from India with overall 5 years of professional work experience.

Had a few queries about career prospect in NC :

- What are the possible platforms to search for professional jobs related to Human Resource in USA?

- Is it easier to find jobs related to HR or Business Analyst in any IT firm?

- What kind of salary should one expect?

Any pointers are highly appreciated

Thank you.

Dear vj members

My residential address has been changed from the one that we have submitted in DS 260 form.

Do i need the update the same in the DS 260 application form, while taking the form for interview purpose?

Did they ask you for the petitioner's birth certificate?if so it's a photocopy ok or has to be original?

They have asked for beneficiary's birth certificate.

Good question!

But that is the main reason why you should Always get copies of everything you send to them.

But at interview they asked me for it again, Even though I also provided them on different occasions during this process.

ok Thanks