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Hi

Can anyone tell me if its ok too visit my gf in California during a K1 process.I have my medical in London next weds and would like too visit gf next friday for 1 or 2 weeks.

Does anyone know how long it's taking to get a medical appointment in London? I'm going to go look through the timelines, but just thought I'd throw it out there in case anyone knew. Thanks!!

right now its like less than two weeks!

A K-1 visa is not a "trial period to see if being together is going to work out" it is a non-immigrant visa for a SPECIFIC intent, being that they have an intent to marry. So if they did not marry within that 90 day mark, then the visa was used for some other reason. Immigration doesnt take lightly on people being finicky.

my fiance and I have been "together" for 2 years and have spent a total of 3.5 months physically together to avoid visiting TOO much. We are going for the K1 because because we do need a trial period...thank God they give us three months. This process wreaks havoc on a relationship. My fiance and I love eachother very much but we havent spent enough time living together obviously. I dont believe the government gives us the option of having a long term relationship opposed to marriage. Only other alternative is a visit every six months.

meddykomp i already did that last week or so, and i was told my petition was with an officer, and all that, i just dont see how it takes a month to read a letter i wrote and printed in 5 minutes.

Wow I have to give you thumbs up for explaing your WHOLE scenario to us! (have a breath) You're going through a NIGHTMARE!!!!! I think you have every reason to vent on here. I also think "squeaky wheel gets the oil" I'd be calling nonstop so much they would know my name and someone would give me an answer. Good luck.

Yes your fiance would have to be able to support you but lets not forget about sponsors here. I'm certain you will read enough on here to calm your nerves. The answer is out there DONT WORRY!

I wouldn't go with hitting or abusing option. from what u posted i wouldn't think this is an option.

Ahem, since you quoted me in your post, I'd just like to clarify that I as well did not consider the "abuse possibility" for this particular poster, since I wrote:

"But from your post I would say that's about the furthest thing from your mind".

Just wanted to make sure I was not misunderstood

Boy that sure happens a lot on here! I think you were quite clear on your post so no worries.

I'm trying to figure out how much time it there between packet 4 and the actual interview date? Since travel arrangements need to be made...we dont want to wait until the last minute to buy a ticket! TIA

You can send back the checklist before you get the Police Clearance just mark it as applied for that way the consulate can start processing your application as it takes them 6-8 weeks to process it and the Police Clearance only takes 40 days, you will have your Police Clearance before they hve processed your application.

Adele

Adele - the op filled out all forms online and printed them out. It is safe to go ahead and fill out these forms before packet 3 arrives to save time?

I filled in the .pdf versions of the forms in packet 3 they sent and printed them off...filled them in CORRECTLY this time, following the vj example forms and advice from rebecca etc... Wrote my covering letter and sent off all 4 forms (includes DS-156 duplicate). Just gotta wait till i get my police certificate so I can send back the checklist

I was re-reading the medical instructions again and it says "if you can't get a medical date before the interview don't worry we will look over the results when we recieve them and contact you about your case." So is there still a possible way you think I could manage to sneak them onto the same day?

Also I had one question. It goes on about evidence that the applicant won't become a public charge...now it says bank balance can be used as proof. If I got a letter from the bank that states how much we have saved (since July 05)....money is for going back, interview, medical etc etc, hotel.....will they take that into account in our favor as it is savings..?

ty for making me understand packet 3

Apparentely you dont need the police cert to send back the checklist. I think you will delay your interview if you wait for that! Someone correct me if im wrong but get that thing in the mail!

You say you need the police record to send back with checklist???

After nearly having a heart attack yesterday about this the embassy informs us we can pay inside -- thank god!

You pay inside the embassy? So they do handle money?

Will this slow things down at the service centers?!

Is it just me or does London appear to be getting slower? When looking at the timelines prior to february the average wait time between sending packet 3 and receiving packet 4 and interview date was a month but since the 2nd week in February things appeared to have slowed down with the waiting time maybe 8 weeks or more? Im at the 5 week mark my friend's son submitted his pk3 3 weeks before me and still hasnt heard anything?

Adele

I've been keeping an eye on this. Can you please tell us when you get your packet 4? Do you think wait depends individual circumstaces? I would think that most delays due to error would be back at the service centers.

I was just wondering how can some of you deal with the loneliness?

Yesterday was my fiancee's birthday. She went out with her friends and brother to celebrate. I wish I was there. I felt sad and angry. The reason I was angry is because it may take 16-24 months for her to get her visa. She is from the Dominican Republic and USA embassy over there is slow.

I called her and we sometimes speak 3 times per day. Maybe 5-15 minutes in the morning and in the afternoon at nights we would talk for 1-3 hours. But it is not the same. Yesterday we spoke only for 5 minutes. She didnt have cell phone service where she was, over there you need to have three different phone companies just to make sure you have services every where. Her batteries ran out, so ill have to wait until the electricity to come back for her to recharge her cell.

I'll have to wait until July 27th to visit her.

Invest in a webcam. Serious..you still go nuts but at least I can see mine watch tv, clean the house, deal with the kids.....its on 24/7. Obsessed? yep

I was just wondering how can some of you deal with the loneliness?

The Consulate has been delaying our visa for close to three years now. We have received so many blue slips I have lost count. I get to see my fiancee an average of once a year.

I won't sugar coat it, it's a very painful situation to be in. I have experienced bouts of fear, depression, anger and rage (internal) for what seems a very long time.

When people are in opressive situations with little control they develop methods for thinking that strenghten their mental resolve. I found that emphasizing growth in our relationship through regular communication really helped. When we talk. I try not to spend too much time lementing about the situation and focus on communicating my love and devotion to her. When she expresses fear, I am understanding but use that opportunity to remind her that we are in this for the long haul.

A method I use to keep fear from encroaching on my thoughts is to divide the idea of us together as dependant upon a visa, from our own relationship. Our relationship is something between only us, and as long as we tend it with love, hope and patience it will survive this process. There is no room for the Consulate in our relationship. Although it effects our relationship by preventing physical presence, it does not stop us from loving each other. The visa is another thing separate from our relationship.

It also helps to minimize the importance of the Consulate and the immigration process (in your mind). You have to look at your life together as a long timeline. Assuming that you plan to spend the rest of your lives together, how long would that line be? Now how much of that timeline will be consumed with this awful, drawn-out process. Two years, four years, out of how long a life from this point?,fifty+? If you think of the Consulate or the process as a slow, dark thunderstorm moving over your head, you know that eventually it will pass, and the storm will go along and rain on someone else.

I hope this helps. It's never easy, but all you can do is learn to cope. Get up every day and just go about your life as best as you can in this situation. What more could you do?

This couldnt have been explained better. You have put this craziness into perspective for me. Thanks for that.

When I first came on here and was filling out my application I asked one question and was made to feel like an idiot...I didn't ask anymore. But then again I wouldn't have known who to PM anyway!....although I did get 4 sympathy PM's

Im not surprised this happened to you. People post their email on here and the forums lets us utilize personal messages so we dont get ridiculed. I see no harm in it especially when you're trying to avoid a lynching crowd.

When I first came on here and was filling out my application I asked one question and was made to feel like an idiot...I didn't ask anymore. But then again I wouldn't have known who to PM anyway!....although I did get 4 sympathy PM's

I totally agree ... Some people get so arrogant when someone asks a question that they don't ask future questions because they are worried about looking like and idiot again ....

Sometimes when you are searching for something on VJ it is not always easy to find what you are looking for or to know what to search ... I spent like 2 hours looking for the doctor information for Vancouver a while back and was unable to find it ... Because I didn't want someone to give me a hard time about not searching for it properly or for asking stupid questions I decided to PM a fellow Vancouverite got the answer very easy ....

I think sometimes people need to be a little more patient with the new people ... Remember all of us were once new on this site and overwhelmed with what to do and how to do it ..

Thats just my 2 (canadian) cents worth

Did you read a thread a few days back they had to put a lock on because a poster came off as sound rude with her title then apologized but still the crowd gave her hell so she left and STILL they wouldnt stop! No wonder people are afraid to post!

Get your fiance onto this site and tell him to read, read, read. If he's serious about you, he'll do it.

Thats a bit harsh dont you think? My fiance handles the majority of the paperwork because I trust her to get it right. When she rattles off information to me I simply write it down and I do as she asked. I dont question what a form means and even I asked what an NOA1 meant! Does this mean Im not serious about my future wife?