Arkayel

Hi,

My Mom went for her interview at USA embassy in Kiev Ukraine on JUNE 11. IR5 VISA. Interview was at 8.a.m . It took total of 20 minutes. She was asked 4 questions:

1 What's your daughter's name?

2. How long has she been living in USA?

3. How she met her husband?

4. Which state she lives in?

That was it. They also did a quick check of some papers, did not look at originals at all. One document was I-864a, which had a couple of errors that we sent to her instead of NVC because they were going to send the NVC documents to Embassy soon.

Everything went very smoothly. We did everything our selves, did a lot of checking here for other peoples experiences. Some other Internet searching.

Hope this helps others. We look forward to my Mother coming here soon. She wants to spend the Summer in Ukraine then plans to be here maybe by September.

Olga

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seriously, when young russian women became such an easy catch. I ve missed something , unless those are scammers, who would run away once they have what they wasted their times for. Russia is not a traditional Asia, where age difference isnt big deal and a man in the later years is discussed as a wise man rather than old. You wont really see Russian girl and Russian man living together, having 20 years difference, unless its a war or some disaster time. Dont be confused, thts not the case. If those are ready to have sexy times with you, Eduard, and those are like real young/no kids get ready your ca$h on table.

I am russian, turning 24yr, - my fiance is 28 yr.

It is fun to read all the generalities people post. There is truth to most of them, but when some say "This is a fact" and it is not backup up with references I get skeptical. Milushka, I dated a Russian women a few years ago when she was 26. She had lived with a Russian man(42) when she was 19 until she became pregnant, and he wanted her to abort or he would leave. She kept her boy and she never saw him again. There was no war or large disaster. She told me she liked older men. This happens everywhere, even the USA. I won't say it is the norm anywhere. And no she was not a scammer. Eduard does tend to overstate, since he seems to be pushing that site. But he does have some truth in there. But it is not as easy as he says either.

I think most of the men in VJ are like me, who were family men without a family. For various reasons we were not finding anyone in the USA and were lucky to find our match in RUB countries. Many of us are older, with some age difference in our brides. And no matter what you say it did not matter too much to the other partner! My wife is 23 years younger, and told me that is not normal in Ukraine. But I was the only one out of many responses who matched her. And I had been looking for a couple of years and do not agree with Eduard that it is easy, even with help. It takes work. The work does not stop after marriage either! For both partners.

My wife says people hang around the Main Railway station (It is on the Subway station Vokzalna) and carry signs trying to rent apartments. Near the front entrance. She says about 200hryvna (~$25) a day is normal. Maybe your Fiancee can check this in advance.

You can write to me and I can give you a number my wife used for last summer, this was just one place. She says it is a nice place.

Look at your State Board of Education site to see who they accept for accreditation of credits from other countries, etc. We used Educational Credential Evaluator, Inc. based in Wisconsin because they are accepted in Minnesota. The website tells you everything, and you can call and they are helpful. My wife had to send the information she had such as transcripts, ID, and if she had one a catalog or description of each course. She had no way of doing this for her Ukraine University so had to write up a description herself. That was not so easy.

But it is worthwhile since it gives the wife a lot of credit, and she got her BA equivalent.

Good Luck!

I haven't researched this at all, but thought someone here might save me some time. My fiancee plans on bringing her mobile phone (Cyrillic and English alphabets) to the USA. I assume, however, that she will not be able to charge the phone in my home due to the 110/220 difference in electricity between USA and Russia. I am sure she would like to have a Cyrillic phone to SMS her children and friends back home. Any suggestions on where to get a Cyrillic cell phone that operates on our electrical system? Or am I better off buying some kind of transformer so that she can charge her phone, and if so, any suggestions on a reliable product? Are transformers prone to causing damage?

Hi,

My wife brought 2 phones with her from Ukraine. I saw she had one charger that was rated for 110 to 220V, and 50 to 60cycle. I just had to get a simple adapter to plug the round pins in and with the blades to plug into our USA outlets. For her other phone I looked online and found a charger for her phone that used 110V for about $7 plus shipping. It works great, and she is happy!

Hope that helps.

Thank you!

I think you are right. Plus it's hard to decide who is right if you hear only one side of the story. But somehow he is not here and not asking for help to solve this problem. He is not actually makingany researches about it. what can it mean? People who really care do at least something, right? Once I made him go to the lawyer with me to find out my real situation, and even after that he didn't move.

Well, I gess I wanted to be fooled and blind. My desire was to help and I hve now what I have and I can't change anything:)

You are Welcome Tashyta,

I know this is hard, but you need to concentrate on yourself and take what you can learn from this. I hope you do not grow too hard a shell to protect your heart. After all, to have a good relationship you need to risk your heart to be able to build trust. There is no shame in letting yourself become vulnerable and caring for someone else. The only thing you need to do is to learn more about what type of person you wish to spend your life with, and try again when you feel ready.

You sound like a caring, loyal person, and I believe you can find the person who cares for you just as much with some patience and time. Our experiences help us to improve in the future if we can learn from them! Try not to be bitter, and look to the future!

Best Wishes.

Hi again.

Well, I see there was some response to my post. I think someone was a bit too sensitive and did not see my real point. I was trying to explain that if someone does not want help it does little good to try to persuade or force them. I have seen this many times, and no matter what the problem is it has to be their choice. You sure read a lot into what I said that as not there.

Also I see many people who use problems as excuses to get their way. This is really disgusting to me, since the people who really need the help become tainted with the bad things others do using the camouflage of the problem. As you see, I am talking about other things besides just PTSD. How do we know that all his problems are caused by being deployed anyway? To me he sounds like a jerk who is taking advantage of Tashyta. She is the one I have sympathy for. And I admit we only have her side of the story, but that is what I am using unless I hear something from her Fiancee... (smile)

I see you also lashed at Tashyta in your zeal. At least you caught that after someone reacted to you. I am a vet and know a lot more than you think about this. I am sympathetic, but we do not even know if this guy has PTSD! This is speculation. We do know he is not holding his end of the bargain with Tashyta! Save your help for her since she is asking for it.

Thanks Caladan for having more common sense about what I said. I do admit I was harsh, but I think Tashyta is getting a raw deal. And reading posts by people about how she can help her Fiancee after he has been irresponsible and gotten her in trouble really bothered me. If he cared about her he would at least have gotten her to go home before and tried to get his self together without adversely affecting her.

I wish you Luck Tashyta.

A similar thing happened to me a couple of years ago. You did the right thing Lancep. If you wait for CIS it might have been found after some more time. But maybe not!

I had received a notice that my packet was sent to NVC. I waited a little and started checking. Kept getting the message that there was no packet there. I got more and more frustrated since I was told to check with the previous previous service center. The typical response was to wait. I started to call many people and tried to get some action. I tried my congressman and senator. After a couple of months they found it, but the explanation was vague. I gather that they misfiled it and did not want to really say so. Typical CYA. They will not give you the real reason, and I am sure you are right that many times they screw up and eventually fix it. That is why they do not want you to bug them before 90 days...

Because of this delay I my Fiancee thought I was playing her and we parted ways. I now am starting the process again after meeting a wonderful woman. If there is any delay I won't hesitate to raise a ruckus!!! I will not be very patient and no 90 day wait before I do so!

Glad you are in action again Lancep Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!

Tashyta,

The people mean well who are replying to you. My outlook might sound harsh, but from the clues you give I think it is accurate.

You mention he already gave excuses when you first came, and you did not get married within the original 90 days. There was nothing new for him except he actually had to make the decision then. There are many people here who have to make this decision within the 90 days. Most marry well before this. If he wants more time, he can visit you at your home for a few months. Actually, I have little patience for this kind of excuse. It is pretty stupid since the whole process of the Fiancee Visa is a risk. it seems pretty cruel of him to get you in trouble with the law because he has these stupid excuses...

To me he made his decision and has kept you in misery ever since. You need to go. He is not going to change at this time. Maybe he will wake up when you are gone. But with you here he has no reason to change things, he has you to comfort him as he lets you... And let's face it, he is being very selfish. How can he say he is trying to keep you from his problems? You obviously are very worried now. How can it be worse if you were married? There are so many married couples that have had hard times, and he is just giving you excuses.

As far as any problems because of being deployed in Iraq. Who cares? I say this is harsh, but as with anyone with a problem such as PTSD or Financial or Drugs, or Alcohol, or anything else, if you are not ready for help it will not be successful if others try to force it.

So you should go. That is the only way you will know if he really loves you and cares. As I say, he is being very selfish to keep you in misery and to have you in trouble with the government for his own comfort. He needs tough love! And when you go you can get a fresh perspective away from him. Maybe you will see that he has been using you, or just that he is confused. But no matter what, you cannot help him until he is ready. And he will just drag you down farther at this time! You need to take care of yourself and do not try all this band-aid stuff other people are suggesting. He is just not ready or caring enough for growing your relationship any farther. And you have to be aware of this harsh fact. Sorry that you are in pain.

Best Wishes.