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I completely agree. My husband has been here from the DR since August. He has been nothing but sweet and thankful. I had to beg him to get some warmer clothes. He mows the lawn and washes the dishes. He cooks what he wants to eat and never expects ANYTHING from me. He does tell me I don't have to thank him but I do because I appreciate all he is doing. He says that since he is not working, he needs to do everything.
I do find that he chats with his family (they don't have video chat so he uses WhatsApp) often at our home but I am grateful for that since I think it helps with his loneliness. I was so worried about how he would adjust since his country and lifestyle is so different but he has been wonderful.
Honestly. Set limits. Tell him that is not acceptable behavior. If this is going to be forever, you have to be happy. He can be homesick but he can't be a brat and he can't be a jerk to you who is trying so hard. You have done FAR more than I would have done.
Good luck. I hope he opens his eyes and realizes how good he has it!

I completely agree. My husband has been here from the DR since August. He has been nothing but sweet and thankful. I had to beg him to get some warmer clothes. He mows the lawn and washes the dishes. He cooks what he wants to eat and never expects ANYTHING from me. He does tell me I don't have to thank him but I do because I appreciate all he is doing. He says that since he is not working, he needs to do everything.
I do find that he chats with his family (they don't have video chat so he uses WhatsApp) often at our home but I am grateful for that since I think it helps with his loneliness. I was so worried about how he would adjust since his country and lifestyle is so different but he has been wonderful.
Honestly. Set limits. Tell him that is not acceptable behavior. If this is going to be forever, you have to be happy. He can be homesick but he can't be a brat and he can't be a jerk to you who is trying so hard. You have done FAR more than I would have done.
Good luck. I hope he opens his eyes and realizes how good he has it!

I completely agree. My husband has been here from the DR since August. He has been nothing but sweet and thankful. I had to beg him to get some warmer clothes. He mows the lawn and washes the dishes. He cooks what he wants to eat and never expects ANYTHING from me. He does tell me I don't have to thank him but I do because I appreciate all he is doing. He says that since he is not working, he needs to do everything.
I do find that he chats with his family (they don't have video chat so he uses WhatsApp) often at our home but I am grateful for that since I think it helps with his loneliness. I was so worried about how he would adjust since his country and lifestyle is so different but he has been wonderful.
Honestly. Set limits. Tell him that is not acceptable behavior. If this is going to be forever, you have to be happy. He can be homesick but he can't be a brat and he can't be a jerk to you who is trying so hard. You have done FAR more than I would have done.
Good luck. I hope he opens his eyes and realizes how good he has it!

I guess I am comforted to come here and read that this happened to so many other people tonight. I have been very patient, never check USCIS and haven't even spent a lot of time on Visa Journey until the last few weeks (trusting in the process). I sent our application in March and got our NOA1 in early April so I was fully prepared to wait the full 5 months or so. When I saw that we had been transferred I got my hopes up and then this text and e-mail tonight, really made me excited.....until I read the same thing that all of you read. The same thing I got several weeks saying we had been transferred on 8/11.
I spoke to my fiance tonight and told him I was sad and a little frustrated. As usual, he is the calm and rational one....."it will happen when it's time. What else happened in your day?" Basically, get over it and move on. I know he's right. Dwelling on it will do no good - maybe it was a mistake or a sign but I will as the song say "Let it go!!!!" and keep doing what I need to do and trust that our NOA2 will be here when I least expect it and at exactly the right time for us.
Good luck to all!