badamont

What a mess.
If as originally posted--if everything is true--the guy ought to be strung up.
But the "if" is such a big thing.
At first--I was almost certain that this was about me and my wife--who abruptly left me on January 8th and whose whereabouts are unknown except.....and--get this--whose last call was from Mesa, Arizona, where the OP lives.
When Juliet left--seeing the misery ahead--I did create a paper and asked her to at least jointly end the marriage. And seeing the similarity I became almost certain that the OP was fronting for my Juliet. People repeatedly had warned me: "expect a VAWA." Have no doubt--that is a fear-inducing thought.
Yet--later the OP talked about the immigrant having taught for 15 years--so that knocks my case out--or so it seems.
Does she have a case: Yes, No, Maybe so...VAWA seems notorious for not verifying what is claimed. From what I hear, often the "accused" or rather "the one who does not even know he/she is accused) and yes, VAWA is used by males against females too. Read up on it VAWA IS abused by immigrants. Constitutional Rights go right out the window. In fact some allege that VAWA is used purposely by seditious elements as a means to gain entry to the US, sort of by a back door. I don't care to debate that--but after reading on VAWA--I see so very many problem and it seems more often to me that the immigrant side can misuse it intentionally. IMHO VAWA needs to be tightened--investigative improvements need to be made.
But how terribly sad to have come to America to find something remarkably different than what was promised and expected.. My heart goes out to this woman if things are as OP says.
And yet, my Juliet come to America--rushed to file for a SS Card--rushed to get married, and rushed to get notice that AOS was accepted by USCIS--unbeknownst to me opens a new account here and asks just two questions: When does AOS get accepted? And then then then, within hours of USCIS acceptance of AOS she split. Gone. What am I to think?
Split as in: "Thank you," at the airport. No tears, no looking back--no response for days--until I made a plea on Facebook whereupon I got a:" I"m ok, than you for your consideration." Huh? What about "to love and cherish till death do us part?" Did I miss something, was it "to love and cherish until United Air takes off?"
I still expect a VAWA claim, though I would fight it tooth and nail and have tons of evidence that would disprove such a claim such as: I called Woman's Protective Services and asked them to intervene because I was so fearful that I might accidentally not protect her, or that dropping her off at the airport would constitute "abandonment" = cruel abuse. Or that by her standing outside in 5 degree weather without a coat to force me to take her to the airport required action on my part.
VAWA is good--nobody should be abused, but from what I have read VAWA often--very often--never even makes an effort to analyze evidence objectively.
What a sad mess--while most K-1's come and go--with more or less a normal amount of friction and arguments, and ultimately successful and healthy relationships--clearly there are abusive elements on both sides. We cannot tell in this case.

In my case Ate (elder sister), or so as my Juliet says lives here undocumented (illegally) and has for many years. She works enough to have, or so the evidence seems, purchased two houses in Cebu and land in Bohol, Philippines, and to build a house in Cebu. Juliet says Ate works under-the-table as an LNA (Licensed Nurses Assintance) but nursing records are public--and I looked them up--wrong! Ate has failed the LNA 4x--she is not a licensed LNA but yet appears to be working in the health field. Put this together and I cannot wonder if it is that Ate is coaching my Juliet--and that in time, or perhaps already--(unlike most cases--accused often do not even have an idea) and that a VAWA claim is in action of forthcoming. How can I even tell?
Clearly VAWA could be effective IF the system could truly investigate the facts and weed out the real abusers and also weed out the scammers.
And please--anyone who gets involved--be very careful. Demand objective facts. Please don't be an enabler, yet on the other hand--when you see true abuse--if you can, be an advocate.
OP I do hope this gets sorted out--life is too short and you are correct--if the woman taught for 15 years, even if she is only 35--she will ilkely never get a job in the Phils--age discrimination is rampant--to a degree that most American cannot fathom.
And yet I look at my almost friend who is an immigrant in NH, my state and see the wondrous photos of her lovely daughter--and the smiles of the father--and I think, even if some us us unwittingly fall by the wayside--it is worth it--and I will edure, no matter what. Of this I am certain.

I agree with Gowon....my wife self adjusted herself after her divorce. She came to America, got married. Got her green card....the marriage didn't work out, as 56% of marriages in the US don't work out. She divorced him. He screemed fraud, etc, threatened to kick her out of country etc, (this was before I met her)....she educated herself and learned after they married he could not deport her, as he threatened. In fact the husband or fiance has no authority over their spouses or spouses to be. The only control they have is to NOT marry them within the 90 day period...then immigration is the one that takes care of her going back to her native country.
She can self petition...she will have to prove they ENTERED the marriage in good faith, ie joint bills, etc....just because ones marriage falls apart doesn't mean FRUAD as so many love to say....The FRAUD can actually be the husband who pretends to be a good guy but in reality is a doucher.

I would have thought you wouldn't be able to bring yourself to type my username after the hissy fit you threw previously.
Not every foreigner is a leech like the person you petitioned for. There's a reason why VAWA is created.

Hi Sis ! I am so sorry while reading your story. I can relate with your experiences. It can't stop me from sharing my story. It brought back to my mind what I also experienced when I was there in the US thru K-1 visa. The difference with me was I didn't marry my ex-Fiance, instead, I went home before my 90 days. And I think that was the best ever decision I made in my life. It was a very tough decision to make, as it was a matter of my heart. It really broke my heart and shed me so many tears during my flight back home as I leave my Fiance. I know we both love each other that was why we decided to work on the immigration papers, but it was just not right for me to continue staying with them and live a miserable life. I live a happy and comfortable life in my home country.
Exactly, that was also my experiences while living together with the mother of my ex-Fiance. I couldn't spend quality time with my ex-Fiance as his mom was always watching / tracking us. And, I think they are unseparable as they always do things together. There were times that they even eat together and not even inviting me. I couldn't forget it was my 1st bday to celebrate together with my Fiance, but his mom just spoiled my day, by asking his son to drive her out. So many times I tried to talk to my ex-Fiance about my feelings, and he acknowledged it, and promised that he will do the right thing for us, but in the end it was frustrating as when his mom says something, everything changes. I respect my Fiance for being a very good son to his mom, and in fact that was one of the reasons why I thought we could make it. I was wrong, as he always considers his mom's decision. I think, his mom will never accept me. I tried to do everything to please her mom, but she was just good in front of me. At my back, I hear a lot of negative thoughts, which I knew wasn't worth of my sacrifices to start life in a strange country. I could not force her to like me.
Sis, I was lucky because before I went to the US, I got a chance to read much about VJ stories and some insights and advices in the site. Knowing and seeing my actual situation in the US, I just thought not to pursue our marriage despite we already have applied our marriage license. I was so scared-- what will happen if after marriage, they will not file on my adjustment of status so I could work and become legally stable in the US. I am a hard working woman, independent, and I want to contribute to the household. I felt so helpless as I used to earn good money in my home country. I just got the feeling that it couldn't happen, as his mom was making things difficult for me, and my fiance is a very obedient son.
IMHO, Sis, you have to talk heart to heart to your husband, since you two are now married. It was bit easy for for me as we didn't marry. If things still didnt work out, the only option you have is going back home. I understand that you have given up your job, everything in the PI. But never lose hope, God will provide..... just call upon His name. Your family and friends will understand you. This was also my earlier fear, I might have a lot of explanations to do, but in the end, if we have good friends and family, they will understand and support. Ultimately, we need to make and stand for our own decision. Without AOS, you couldn't get your GC, so you cannot stay and work legally. Just be strong..... and face realities of life. I too was so down before, but now I could say, life is very good. I have peace of mind which is priceless. I recovered and now back to my very good and enjoyable work. My Fiance still communicates and even plans to make another visit, but I just think the only thing we could be together if he relocates here for good. If I was able to move there, then he should, if he really wants us forever. He wants to petition for me again, but I told him straight that I couldn't live with another roller coaster life again. That was enough for me.
Sis, I hope, in a little way, I was able to make you think rationale. I know it is not easy when it matters our hearts. But pray to God for strength and wisdom so He could direct you to do the best thing. Love yourself..... and never lose hope. I hope your situation changes soon and become better.
God bless and take care always.