nekki

Guys i have all evidence, concrete thank God for blackberry messenger. I saved it all even his excuses.

I have everything in his own words and txt and chats... he wont even face me til nw

Why you are so cruel?Do you know him?Are you sure he is scammer?Do you have proof?If you got misunderstood by someone.We will flag you and put you into jail without any investigation.Just according to someone said you are scrammer.Is it ok?Nobody would like to be used.But don't judge a person unless your know him well.I am not agreed with bad guy used USC.But i disagreed saying bad things or giving bad advices without knowing the truth.

You are right on point...

Dear Nikki,

When you first reported here about the behavior of your man towards you, I know he wasn't in love with you! I was never afraid to tell you the truth about letting him be... He made you looked like you're the one with all the attitude because he was seeing someone he probably likes better... I told you that God will bless you with someone who would love you for you... And I still maintain that word of faith... If God says your husband is from outside the state then He (God) will bring him home to be with you in the state... When God is in it, it wouldn't matter whether you've filed twice unsuccessfully... My prayer is with you sister... You know if you weren't this lucky enough to do your own background check on this "scammer", he would have been a big ###### for ya shortly after he arrives the state if you know what I mean... He could frame you up and file a VAWA against you so that he could stay legally in the State and live as he want, while denting your personality before the government... Well, I say congratulation! God will heal your heart... Now, to make sure he was stopped him scamming other will not be possible at all... Just make sure he's eradicated in your momery and withdraw your k1 application for him... To be on a safe side ie in case of future petition if any, I would do a detailed statement of my finding and new discovery about him, which was never seen prior to filing the i129f... Ensure the letter gets to the appropriete authorities including the US consulate in Nigeria... He need to be red flagged anyway but you can't be over board with that... Just limit the fight to redeeming your own self from his scam and let God take him from there ok... Wishing you the very best next time...

He's my childhood friend and i do visit. We've been fighting ever since and gosh it gets nastier cos we can't be civil. In his own words and texts yes i have it all lol

Well Good thing you found out this early.

my questions for you are

1. have you ever visited him?

2. are you sure this real gf as u say is not trying to set him up?

3. you said you caught him re handed but the only red handed you caught him was someone sending you chat history

NOTE: someone can forge a text and send to you what they want you to read did she send you the screen short? ( even a screen short can be edited) did you log in his account to spy? or did this girl gave you her password to spy on him? to make sure it is him? because someone might open a facebook with same name and create chat history they want you to read even your fiance not knowing about it.

you have to be 100% sure because even this evidence you got is not enough yes i know things like this happens but my reasons of this comment is if some where along the line after you have cancealed this petition and you found out he was being set up by someone and he actually did nothing you will hate yourself so Nekki no hurry in making decisions investigate more because you can canceal this anytime even on the day of his interview am just looking both side here i watch alot of movies like this were what you see is not really what it seems like

(i know i got some spellings wrong thats because i was typing fast

Thanks he lost one .

Some men are so gullible...I wonder why they believe so much in games....u are blessed with someone and u still want to jeopardice everything....I wish u well with ur decision....

please what is ICE? Can i get more info on it?

Men like this deserve a special place in H-ll. They do not respect the people they trample in their quest for a green card and they are users and abusers in the worse way. Each time one is uncovered it adversely affects every valid relationship from the same location. Send what you know to USCIS, the embassy and maybe even ICE. Too many Nigerians use others to get to the US.

yes o i have everything on my phone. All that remains now is to print them out as hard copy. The nerve of him and til now he's still playing games with other women online abroad and in Nigeria

nekki,

See wahala! If you are sure darling then follow the advice given above and notify the embassy and Uscis ASAP. Better you find out now than when he is here, you feel me sha?

yes i have every evidence. He's being a coward and not telling me directly. We have mutual friends who he has texted, chatted and they showed me everything. Including that gf of his sent me all he told her.

You first need to cancel your petition.

You can send an email to uscis to cancel and then send a hardcopy by mail. Also send an email to the embassy so they can keep it all in his files.

Send all the facts you know.

Are you sure she is not lying? Have you verified what she says with him?

Once you send in the facts that he was using you it should follow him anytime someone else petitions for him but it is no guarentee he will be banned from the usa. Hopefully if he is just using someone the uscis, dos, ICE and whatever other agencies are involved will investigate him thoroughly before approving him.

You can send emails to all the agencies involved. But cancelling the petition and notifying uscis and the embassy should be effective.

Sorry and I am glad you found out before he came here

To cut the long story short, caught him red handed and he tried justifying everything he did. I have every evidence he was playing games and was trying to use me. His real gf and i have been chatting and talking ever since. Including messages he sent her that she showed me and in his own words. I want to put him on red flag both here and the embassy in Nigeria. As we speak, he is on his new targets even on fb and twitter just enjoying what he's doing. How do i go about red flagging him so he will never step foot here or anywhere else using anyone else please.thanks.

I don't know the pressue was just getting too much but we trying to get it under control. It's truly overwhelming and I have a hermit type of man. I have to take a fdiff. Approach with him from now on.

Why yall think u are the only people arguing,fighting or having any misunderstanding of that sort?NO...You are two adults who need to sit down and settle it. There is a saying in my language here in ghana that says if u invite or ask someone to marry u and live together with u? u just ask for a fight but what do u do?u go through it thats life and work on being better. for all this time put in with this process I will take my time to make decisions. NEVER USE THE WORD D

We had a very long talk for over an hr. After the convo looks like i will be calming down and controlling my mouth. From the convo i sensed he was having some cold feet but wanted reassurance that i wont drive him away with my mouth. We are hoping for the best still. Thanks to you all

OK... U should wait a bit B4 cancelling, this is your 2nd time and it wont look good comes a 3rd time, based on

your story U do seem like a continiously vocal person, which some men call nagging, U should have never

block or delete him so quickly , try to communicate with him with a level head, if he is serious thats its over then

go head and cancel....good wishes on your journey.

Guys i'll like to add, we had a long talk and will be taken it real slow til we get approved not to tick each other off. I'm happy but now i really need to work on my flaws and he needs to do the same. Thanks guys i hope it works out for the better.

Thanks dear. The 1st petition in 07 was not for him.

Sorry for your predicaments dear. Was the first petition in 2007 for this same guy? If the answer is yes, then it'll be a miracle for you both to live together since you've for long become incompatible... I hate to force someone to love me? It has to be compatibility otherwise, there will be no need to keep on patching this thing and after visa approval and your man is in the state, then another story comes up... Relationship is not by force fwiw... I know nagging is tough to cope with but there are men who came handle you the way you are and not all men could... Your guy has made a good decision for his own good and don't force him to accept you for you... Pray for your true husband from God... There can be miracle when you believe... As for stopping the fiancee petition I don't see how you'll regret it if you both aren't this compartible! What is the essence of bringing your man down to be with you and within few months you find he's gone? Does that make your future petition if any be less scrutinized? It's a hurt decision but imho base on the anticident of your relationship between you both it'll be hard to move together than we all know it... My prayer is with you on your final decision sister!

yes my 1st was in 2007. It expired cos we moved on and now this i'm sick of it

Posted 19 October 2012 - 02:12 PM

Please i'm going crazy here. I petitioned for an ex fiance in 2007 and withdrew the petition after getting my approval and No2. Suprisingly i never followed up on the withdrawal because i never thought i would find myself filing for someone again. I sent out my new fiance petition sometime in August of this year 2012 and something told me to check the receipt of my old petition. It looked like it was not officially withdrawn and was sent back to NVC. I've sent out multiple withdrawal letters since then and i'm not getting any feedback or confirmation. I'm tired of speaking to people on the phone and not getting the answer i am looking for. I'm just hoping it does not have any effect on my new petition. What do i do because this is the forth time i am sending the same withdrawal letter to Vermont and they keep claiming they are not getting the letters

This post has been edited by nekki: 19 October 2012 - 02:13 PM

SO IS THE SECOND TIME THAT YOU WITHDREW????????

thanks i might let it get approved sit there and get returned

You can pull it at any point up until the visa issuance, but I'd follow up and make sure they actually do it. I found mailing a letter to VSC to not be very successful, but you can do that or you can just let it sit at NVC and not fill out the paperwork or contact NVC and withdraw it. It is really up to you.

I'll still like to know if withdrawal before it gets to the embassy or let it just roll and expire?

He has refused to accept yet. He told our mutual friend that he doesnt wanna accept yet. He wants to relax a little from my naggings

Wait. Some people need more time to cool off, and also add him back on Blackberry chat messenger as you dont want to totally cut communication.

Hello guys this came as a suprise to me. I and my fiance have been going through tough times like arguing, fighting and he complains i nag too much and suffocates him. Finally after our last argument, i deleted him from our blackberry chat messenger. Since then going on 5 days no word from him. Last convo we had he says he doesn't want to make it work.I sent three apology text messages; still nothing. Initially i though he needed some space and time but now it's beginning to seem like it's really over. I should be expecting out NOA 2 in feb or early Mar. I have 2 questions, is it better to withdraw it now before it gets approved or wait til it get approved and gets returned to NVC? I don't know if we are going to get back together but i'm not putting my hope in that...

Thank you guys and It hasn't affected my new one yet. The new one is still in process but i'm scared it may affect it because they never revived any of my withdrawal letters.

Please i'm going crazy here. I petitioned for an ex fiance in 2007 and withdrew the petition after getting my approval and No2. Suprisingly i never followed up on the withdrawal because i never thought i would find myself filing for someone again. I sent out my new fiance petition sometime in August of this year 2012 and something told me to check the receipt of my old petition. It looked like it was not officially withdrawn and was sent back to NVC. I've sent out multiple withdrawal letters since then and i'm not getting any feedback or confirmation. I'm tired of speaking to people on the phone and not getting the answer i am looking for. I'm just hoping it does not have any effect on my new petition. What do i do because this is the forth time i am sending the same withdrawal letter to Vermont and they keep claiming they are not getting the letters