mollyandstephen

I have the same question actually about the dates. I don't know. All that I know is that the NVC is asking for the Affidavit of Support. We have already paid the fees when they asked for that. Everything is proceeding as if there was no huge backlog. So I don't know. We have been assured by the NVC that they wouldn't ask for this stuff if the visa won't be available within the next year. So we are just doing what they tell us and hoping for the best.

Thanks for your help with the form.

Molly

There are three minimum requirements for using the I-864EZ:

1. The sponsor is the petitioner who submitted the I-130.

2. There is only one immigrant listed on the I-130.

3. The sponsor is claiming only income documented with a W2 - no self-employment income, assets, etc.

Your mom doesn't technically meet the third requirement because she has no income. There is no provision on the I-864EZ for a sponsor who is not employed. The I-864, on the other hand, has a provision for an unemployed sponsor. She should fill out an I-864.

A side note: How is that someone who immigrated in October is already submitting an affidavit of support for a child? Wouldn't the child's visa category be F2A? Only priority dates prior to August, 2007, are current in the F2A category.

My MIL who is a permanent resident applied for her daughter to immigrate. We are at the point of sending in the Affidavit of Support forms. My MIL just immigrated herself in October and has not had employment since she came to the U.S. My husband will be the co-sponsor and more than meets the requirements. I know that he has to fill out the I-864 form to co-sponsor but which of the I-864 forms does my MIL fill out? Can she fill out the I-864EZ form?

I'm confused since she doesn't have any income to show with tax records. Thanks.

Molly

I'm sorry. I meant to type that my MIL came on a IR-1 visa. My husband who is a U.S. citizen petitioned for her.

What I've read about CSPA is so confusing.

My mother-in-law just arrived on a CR-1 last week. She wants to apply to bring her daughter to the U.S. The daughter will turn 21 in April 2011. I have read all the confusing information about CSPA. I am wondering how it really works. Does my SIL have to get all the way through the process and have her visa before she turns 21 (not likely, I know) in order to avoid falling into CSPA?

Would CSPA allow her to continue to be considered a child and be able to come within the current five month timeframe or would she go into the category for children over 21 but keep her priority date? That would mean she would be waiting another five years. This CSPA stuff is clear as mud.

Thanks for any help!

Molly

Anyone know how much the medical exam cost at Kamoras clinic in Lagos nowadays? My MIL should be having her visa interview this summer and we are just wondering how much the medical exam costs now.

Thanks.

Molly

Our NOA date is April 29th and we are at the California Service Center. We are still waiting for our approval. I'm getting anxious for our approval but through the last three and half years of dealing with the immigration department, I have learned that not all is fair in love, war and immigration. They don't always approve cases in the order received like they say. Sometimes people that file after you are approved first. I think that the cases filed around ours at the end of April are sitting in a pile on the desk of someone that is on vacation. LOL.

The only thing you can do is try to wait patiently. Good luck

Molly

Stephen & I still pop into the forum once in awhile to see what's going on in here. We are enjoying our two year break from USCIS but that will end in April when we apply for conditions to be lifted. We are doing really well and are enjoying our lives together. We welcomed our first little one in November. Our little boy is so precious and has brought so much joy into our lives. Hope everyone else is doing well.

--Molly & Stephen

Rose,

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! I'm so happy for you that Dan's visa was FINALLY approved! I know you have been waiting for a long time because our visa journeys started at about the same time. I'm so glad that Dan finally gets to come to the U.S. so the two of you can be together at last. Have a great reunion!!!

Molly

Congratulations, Peggy!!! It still amazes me how much you have been through during your visa journey. But the victory is yours at last!!!!!! I'm so excited for you!!!! I know that your reunion with Watson and Sweetee will be awesome!!!!

Just reminds me of my favorite quote----Thomas Paine said, "The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. That which we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly. 'Tis dearness only that gives everything it's virtue."

ENJOY YOUR GLORIOUS TRIUMPH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Molly

Stephen and I are still around but don't take the time to post much unless we feel our reply can really add some helpful information to the thread. And I dont' usually post any advice to anyone that is dealing with K-1 or K-3 until the petition gets approved and forwarded to the embassy. The reason---IMBRA (whatever that is). I didn't have to deal with that so I know nothing about it. It just shows that not only does the petitioner and beneficiary's lives change once AOS is given, but sometimes the immigration journey itself changes.

I do come to the Sub-Saharan forum about once or twice a week to check on things here. I may not be posting but I am reading to check for any news or for questions that I feel I could help with. The main reason that I dont' post very often is because I LOVE to spend time with my husband. We were apart for long enough and VJ got a lot of my time and energy during those days. Now since we are together, I choose to spend more time with him and less time with VJ. It's just where my priority is at. I am very grateful for VJ and the help we received from the people here. I check the forum and will definitely speak up if someone really needs my help but most of the time, by the time I see the posts, someone else has already given a great answer.

And, by the way, I dont' remember ever posting that I am pregnant because I'm not. Maybe you got us confused with Mandolinv and her husband. She posted back in July or August that they are expecting a baby. But Stephen and I arent' expecting one yet. Just wanted to clear that up.

I'm glad that the advice I had given you previously was helpful to you. Have a great day!

Molly

GGT, to get a police report in Lagos, you go to the police headquarters and request one. The price depends on how fast you want it and how much they feel like charging you for one. The information for the police headquarters will be in the packet of information you pick up at the embassy after they receive your petition. You should not get the police report until after you pick up the packet from the embassy as they are only good for a certain period of time. You will also need to get a police report for every place that you have lived other than Nigeria.

Molly

Where, Oh, Where is Valentine?

It seems that this guy likes to post all his troubles (allbeit in a very vague way) and then disappear and leave us guessing as to what the truth really is.

Valentine, I'm sorry it didn't work out with your fiance. Lots of advice has been given on how to find a plane ticket and get back to Nigeria. I hope you are able to find a solution and go back before your 90 days are up. If you overstay your 90 days, it will be harder to get future visas and there can be some potential serious consequences for overstaying. My suggestion would be to go back before your 90 days are up and work on rebuilding your life in Nigeria. As for the Affidavit of Support, that is an agreement between your ex-fiance and the U.S. government that you will not become a public charge and seek government assistance. It is NOT an agreement or promise to YOU that she will pay your rent and buy your food. She has no responsibility to support you or help you get back to Nigeria. Sorry it didn't work out for you. Good luck to you.

Molly

It's been seven months and two days since Stephen arrived in the U.S. on the K-3 visa and FINALLY America has greeted him with a "You're welcome". If we were playing by Nigerian rules, it would definitely be worthy of a slap for America---not welcoming my husband sooner.

We had our AOS interview last week on July 12th and the interview went well, although it was pretty brutal. It lasted one full hour (the actual interview) and the officer was VERY thorough in his questions. Right down to ridiculous questions like, "Who called who the first time you talked on the phone?" "What did you talk about the first time?" "How long did you talk for?" Neither one of us really remembered. Anyway, all of the questions were about the beginning of our relationship---no questions about our relationship since the k-3 interview. That kind of surprised me. After defending our relationship, we gave the officer our documents and he kept almost everything and looked through two photo albums of pictures. Then he let us go and told us that we would receive notification of their decision in the mail.

We both came home from the interview exhausted and had to take a nap. The whole experience was nerve-racking. The interview went pretty well though. Then yesterday we received an email stating that a welcome letter has been sent to my husband. We were both pretty relieved! Now once the green card arrives in the mail, we'll begin our two year break!!! YEAH!!!!

Molly

Oh no....this is not good for me. I havent even made to my NOA2 yet. Now to hear it'll be months and months more for an inerview date

Not good

Neya,

The previous posts are regarding CR-1 visas. That is the I-130 visa (aka green card). K-1 and K-3 visas seem to get interviews about three months after the NOA2. Even in Lagos.

Molly

Congratulations on the green card approval and on your pregnancy!!! How exciting!!! I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months. And I hope that very soon we'll be able to post the same good news.

Molly

Hi Everyone,

We have our AOS interview next Wednesday and I am doing the final preparations. I am just wondering if we should take the four inch thick notebook we have full of proof that our marriage is legit that we put together for the K-3 interview. We do have all the usual documents from my husband's arrival in the U.S. until now showing that we are happily married. I'm just wondering if we should take all the emails and chats and cards, etc from when he was still in Nigeria. Any thoughts on this?

Thanks.

Molly

Tarionna! I'm just openin' up the show for YOU!!!! Your act is comin' up right behind mine. And well, truth be told, I just wanted you to share your cookie with me. And a nurse is a good thing to have around if you be chokin' on a cookie. I'll be there to save your butt.

For the record, no, I didn't do stand up comedy while I was in nursing school. I'm just a clown in a world that's not a circus. But when I was in nursing school, I quickly learned that the only way I was going to survive THAT insanity was going to be through laughin' my butt off as often as I could. Take it from me, girl---the most important skill a nurse could have is learning to laugh and how to make other people laugh. LAUGHTER HEALS!!!! And sometimes being a nurse can just get downright depressing if you can't find somethin' to laugh about. Like they say----a picture is worth 1,000 words, a song is worth 1,000 pictures and one good belly laugh is worth 1,000 songs. So amidst all this crazy drama up in here today, YA'LL JUST GO AHEAD AND LAUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!! But PLEASE don't choke on no cookies!

Molly

a.k.a. Stand Up

Valentine,

How do you know that Sweetee is the one that exposed you to all of us here on VJ? She definitely wasn't the first one to post and say that you had lied to your fiance about being a preacher. Now, I don't know you and I have no idea if you were a preacher in Naija or not. BUT...it does sound fishy to me. In an effort to give you the benefit of the doubt though, I have a couple questions for you.....

1. How did you get to know these friends that you are staying with? Are they YOUR friends from Naija or are they some of your fiance's friends? Just wondering....

2. If you are so in love with your fiance and really want to spend the rest of your life with her---and not just use her to get a greencard---then why is it that you have RARELY talked about her or your relationship with her here on VJ? I have gone back through your posts here on the forum to try to understand what is going on here and even on the day that your visa was approved, you did not mention your fiance ONCE in your post--all you talked about was the visa. And on the day that you were flying to the U.S., you didnt' talk about how excited you were to be reunited with your fiance or your excitement about getting married---only about your excitement to leave Nigeria. As far as I could find, you haven't ever posted and told your story to us about how you met your fiance or how much time you've spent together, or anything AT ALL about your fiance. Because of those things, I am very skeptical about your true desires in coming to the U.S. It sounds like you have used your fiance as a free ticket out of Naija and into the U.S. I hope that I am wrong about that. I would like it if you would post and give us some real explanation of things because your case ain't looking so good right now.

Oh, and one more thing---I think you are the one that needs to be very careful of what you say here---NOT Sweetee. She didn't threaten you...all she did was express her opinion about the things you have been posting here and the information that you have lied to your fiance about who you really are. I'd be very careful right now about pissing people off with your threats....it's really not cool. She didn't do anything wrong and doesn't deserve your threats. If she is wrong, start posting and giving us the truth about the situation so we'll know what to believe. Even your "explanation" is very vague about the real issue. Makes me wonder....

Just my 0.02.

Molly

I'm passing popcorn AROUND in here! And I'll go pop some more (with extra butter for you, Livi) while I wait for Tari's update on this fool's drama!!! And we'll save the unpopped kernels to use for pelting in case we be threatened up in here too!

BTW, I do really feel bad for the fiance. She must really be hurtin' after going through the whole visa process and being lied to for so long!!! It sure makes it hard to trust now. And I hope she has resources to help her figure out where to go from here.

Molly

Well........ A little "birdie" told me that Valentine misrepresented himself, and professed to be a preacher...However, fiance recently discovered that this was a blatant lie...

OH, NO, OPTIMYSTIC!!!!! Now you and your "birdie" gonna get things heated up in here!!!!!! Here goes another Visa Journey scandal!!! We all gonna need some in here!

It does kind of explain why she would just go ballistic on him and not want to marry him anymore. Wish I had seen this post before I opened my big mouth and started my preachin' in response to his "explanation". I would have said some different stuff in that sermon! Now I'm just gonna go get my popcorn ready and wait for the show!!!

Molly

I think everyone's advice is good and should be considered. It definitely takes two to make a marriage work and it is HARD work sometimes.

Valentine, as I read your explanation of your situation, I had to really wonder what your fiance's family and friends think about your relationship. Are they supportive? Are they getting to know you since you've been in the U.S.? Her family and friends may have nothin' at all to do with what is going on---I don't know. But if it was like you said and she just blew up in your face and you can't think of anything you did to upset her, I'm wondering if she is catching heck from family or friends about your relationship. Maybe she's feeling stuck in the middle and confused. It is totally normal for people to have last minute doubts about getting married right before the wedding and then if her family isn't supportive, it can really be rough on the woman. I know that many of us here experienced the hassling of family members and friends that were telling us that we were being ridiculous in marrying someone from another country that we met online, etc, etc, etc. Ya'll know what I'm talking about. And as much as we hate it, Nigerians don't have a good reputation for being honest and up-front. Maybe your fiance' is getting slammed with some of that talk too. I dont' know if this is even the case....just a thought. I do agree with the others that you need to sit down with your fiance and have an honest, heart-to-heart talk about your relationship and your wedding plans. My advice is to just apologize for upsetting her (even IF you don't know what you did wrong) and tell her how much you love her and need her. And you gotta romance her like she wants to be romanced---don't call her to talk about this stuff on the phone. GO TO HER HOUSE AND TAKE HER ROSES!!!!!

I won't weigh in on the living apart debate because I think it could work out both ways. HOWEVER, make sure that you are spending plenty of time together if you are going to live apart until you get married. You definitely need lots of time together to get to know each other and figure out if marriage is really right for you. I think that spending every possible minute together is SO important at this point.

The last thing I'm gonna say is this: There has been a lot of talk lately about how hard marriage is and how much work is involved in making it work. That's all true and I'm not discounting anything that has been said about how hard marriage can be, especially at the beginning when the two people are getting to know each other so intimately. HOWEVER, marriage is GREAT!!!! It's the hardest relationship you'll ever have because it is also the one that can bring you the most happiness and joy. Every marriage has its struggles and difficult times but it should also have happy and loving times. It is incredible to me to come home after a long, hard day in this grueling world and see my husband's smiling face and have him kiss me. When that happens, my whole world becomes right again. He has this amazing ability to turn the worst day around and remind me about what's most important in life. And that, my friends, is what marriage is really about.

Molly

Congratulations, Mandolin!!!!!! How exciting! You get to start your two year break!!!! Hopefully we will be starting our break in a couple weeks too!

Molly

CONGRATULATIONS, CLAIRE!!!! I know that is a HUGE relief to have your AOS approved! Thanks for the info on the interview. We're getting ready for our interview now and we really appreciate the tips. Enjoy your two year break from USCIS!!!!

Molly

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! WHAT A FUN TIME THIS IS FOR YOU!!!!! ENJOY IT!!! I"m really happy for you.

Molly

Felicia,

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! I'm so excited for you! And so fast!!! YEAH!!! Some of the K-1 visa holders are transferred to CSC for processing and do not usually require interviews. ALL K-3 visa holders will have interviews at their local offices. I'm not sure of the rationale behind it but who ever said that the immigration dept makes sense?!?!! We never got our EAD either and it has been a whopping 6 months since our application date. Of course, we got the interim EAD but it's still frustrating we didn't get the real thing. However, for us, it doesn't matter since we have the AOS interview next month. The green card is better than the EAD.

I'm not sure when your AOS interview is and whether you will be eligible for the interim EAD before then. If so, you can always apply for it 90 days after the NOA date at your local office. If your interview isn't too far off, it might not be worth it to you but that's a personal decision.

Hope this helps.

Molly

P.S. Got your message and I'm doing a four day stretch at work. But I'll call you this weekend.