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We will be meeting in a third country and will go from there. Thank you all for your input.

@Boiler, getting a visitor visa shouldn't be that difficult. He has some family here and a job still in Afghanistan, proof for a reason to visit and proof he has to go back. All he can do is apply. Worst they can say is "no."

Thank you SaharaSunset! Yes, we want to make sure we do everything legally and all i's dotted and t's crossed so no one gets kicked out of anything. Lol. I am checking countries we can both easily visit but we may try for a visitor visa to America if all else fails or proves to be too expensive. Then we will meet in person and have that as proof for a later fiance visa since we don't want suspicion of fraud.

RFQ, yes, he has applied for one of those, but since they only issue something like 50 of them a year, we aren't sure he will get one. I wanted to find out as much information as I could on fiance or spouse visas just in case he does not get a special one and we have to find alternative avenues. I did talk to a lawyer and he says there is no getting around meeting each other at least once, that is only for religions that don't allow you to meet at all. Having him come on a visitor visa and hang out with a chaperone is a great idea. I will look into what a "multi-visit tourist visa" entails and maybe that is another option. Thank you!

I haven't found much on this topic, so I thought I'd start a new thread to ask.

My SO lives in Afghanistan, working with the US military. He is Muslim. He served with my brother and we met off his Facebook. For obvious reasons, I cannot travel to his country for a fun-filled vacation. I'm also a single mom, with a tight budget, so travel to far-off lands isn't totally an option either. Because of his religion, we aren't really allowed to date, so 2 years of trips and stuff doesn't fit with his beliefs. We would like to meet and get married very soon after. I know there is a waiver for religion or circumstance, how often are these issued? I have plans to meet his state-side family in a few months and to have them and my family meet soon after that. Hopefully all of them will write letters we can submit that say they approve of our relationship and wish us to marry. My question is, do you know of anyone that successfully got a waiver? How did they get it? How can we meet? If he gets a visitor visa and can get into the US, will they kick him out if we get married during that time? I do want to spend some time (a few days or a week at least) of getting to know him in person so we can make sure we really want this, but I don't want to spend 2 years going back and forth just to prove what we will be able to know in a shorter amount of time.

Thanks for any input!

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