USAmale

Contact a family law attorney. ASAP

If you want more info, please send me an in-box message....My experience with marriages as far as my own experience as well as what I have observed is NOT positive..

Yes, I have been through the interview process in the US Embassy in Lima....and Yes, and I found out myself, Peru is considered a high-fraud country as far as marriages go...I would say that my interview was 9 months or less after the application, which is less time than the marriage actually lasted..

Yes, I did go through the same things with my wife who refused to work. Ultimately she returned to her home country. That may not at all be the case with your situation however; there are many ESL courses out there in the community, including at churches, community centers, etc. that may help him to gain more confidence

I hope that it works out for you.

I sponsored my estranged wife and her minor daughter. No matter how much pressure the daughter and your wife put on you, I don't believe that there is a visa category where you could sponsor him in any way, since he is not a blood relative.

throw it back on him, saying that you have looked into it and there is not way for your to do it. Let him apply for a Tourist Visa himself. Also, no matter how much they pressure you, you cannot apply for his tourist visa for him...it's all on him.

Best,

USAmale

Darnell:

I live in a big city, so I don't yet know whether we would file the divorce in the city, or in an outlying county where I was actually married...

I haven't had a chance yet to get to a law library..

Hey Darnell:

I have found a lawyer who actually does have experience with international family law cases, like mine. I did have a phone interview with her, and

she gave me some good information that assured me that I can get out of this fairly cleanly..

I have a meeting set up in the coming week to get the divorce action rolling..

Thanks,,

She has told me that "she was in love with another man " who has now dumped her. I hear from one or another of her family members almost every day. She is apparently in a depression now and won't talk about anything which is why they are coming to me to ask what has happened between us.

Thanks. I just spoke to a lawyer in my city experienced with these matters who says that if I serve her at her family address where she was previously living that she can be considered served as long as a family member signs for it

Thanks, to the Alaskan responder...is this something that you have personal experience with? I don't believe that she will give me the address of the apartment that she has bought.....In fact I don't even have the last address where she was living, or even the last two addresses...

Vicky:

I am not using these terms, these were suggested to me by a family law attorney who does not have familiarity with international

cases like this, but suggested that her intentions may have been fraudulent all along.

Here is what I said in my e-mailL

>I spoke to one lawyer who says that I have grounds for abandonment and adultery, and potentially fraud.

I just need to find someone who has had some experience with this type of situation...I am at a loss..

Thanks,

Basically, my two cents is to be very wary of this process....I was completely taken in myself in the K1 process, only to have my wife leave after 6 months saying that she had to deal with a family problem...I believe that they often believe that if they just marry a US citizen and then leave the country that we are somehow obligated to support them once they return to their home country.

VerySadGuy, I am sorry that you are going through this, but if you had adjusted her status, you would have had a lot of work to do to show fraud on her part. If not you would be on the hook supporting her for ten years..

I hope that it works out ok for you, brother..

ok thanks, I am checking it out now..

Thanks, what does that site relate to?

Friends:

I am looking for some input from some experienced hands here.

I brought my foreign spouse here approx. 2 years ago on a K1 visa. We married in my home state within the required timeframe.

Her daughter came shortly after she did, and we enrolled her in school.

The child turned out to be constantly in trouble at school, as well as fighting with us, running away, etc etc etc.

The mother and daughter fought violently with each other, which was very upsetting to me.

The daughter was sent home, then the next month (a year and a half ago) my wife went back on her expired K1 visa saying that she

had to deal with her daughter's issue there. She would not let me adjust her status. We lived here in the US as husband and wife for 5-6 months total.

I did visit her 3-4 times since that time, to see if we could save our marriage, and if she would return.

She finally said that she was ready to return, and I filled out the forms for the Spouse Visa.

Before the holidays, she abruptly informed me that she did NOT want the Spouse Visa, she did not want to come back, it's completely over, she never wants to see me again. I have started talking to her again about it, and she has nothing positive to say, she does not love me, never wants to see me again, and in fact has been involved with another man. She even said that she never loved me.

So, she has been gone for 1 1/2 years and never returned, claims to want a divorce , is not a citizen, and has no visa.

I spoke to one lawyer who says that I have grounds for abandonment and adultery, and potentially fraud.

This lawyer says that he has no experience with the international aspects of the divorce and suggested that I look for a lawyer who does, which I am still in the process of doing.

Does anybody out there have any experience with a situation like this? Can I obtain a divorce in absentia, and not have to pay any sort of support etc to her? She has her own job, car, and apartment, and has built her own life there. BTW, I live in Pennsylvania.

Thanks in advance for any help that you have.

USAmale

Thank you for letting me know that,,,,,I guess that I won't be getting his perspective then....any idea how things worked out for him?

Thanks,,

You should contact INS immediately and explain the situation to them, telling them why you want to renounce the AOS and your support of her..

It may not be too late..

Best of luck..

I also want to make another point: I don't know you or your wife so I am not commenting on her intent or her character. However, Is she under the impression that just having married you makes you responsible to/for her if she flees the country? You wouldn't owe her anything if she does go...

no settlement , no support, nothing..

BTW, please don't assume that I am somehow urging you to make her leave.. Just giving you some advice in the event that she absolutely insists on leaving...

If she absolutely insists on leaving, I urge you to ask her to consider physically signing divorce papers before she leaves...that will make things a million times easier for you...

Look at it this way: You married her with the agreement that she would live with you in the US. Now she wants to basically abandon the marriage, the visa, and the agreement that you had with her.

I am sure that this is very,very hard to take right now,, but if she does leave, please go to a lawyer IMMEDIATELY. You can sever any responsibility for her by ending it quickly, possibly by having the marriage annulled...

If she leaves on you,, think about yourself first brother, somebody has to do it..

I went through this with my K1 wife in 2012, and tried to keep things together with her by visiting her. She agreed to come back and try again.

If your wife actually leaves, you can actually apply for a Spouse Visa for her, probably without too much trouble..

You will probably get advice from others here that you should just divorce as soon as she leaves. If she does leave, I urge you to consider the divorce.

I know that's very very hard to deal with , but I should probably have done it very soon after my wife left, because things didn't really get better.

best of luck with your situation..

I am in a similar situation as this gentlemen and I am trying to figure out my next step. My wife was here on a K1 visa, we married, and things were really not working out at all between her and her teenage daughter, who was living with us. IN fact, they had violent fights. The other issue is that my wife talked almost non-stop about money, me giving her money to send back to her mother in her home country, etc. She essentially lied to me constantly about money, debts, etc. Her Fiance Visa expired and she would not let me adjust her status,, she went back to her home country.

Fast forward,, I spent the past year trying to resolve issues with her to have her return here.. I did visit her several times in her home country, but we only lived together as husband and wife for 5-6 months. Now she says that she will never return here, doesn't love me, etc.

I believe that the marriage was fraudulent and was only about obtaining a green card and getting money from me constantly, How can we advertise the divorce proceeding if she is not in this country, and I don't even know the address where she is living in her home country?

essentially she abandoned the marriage 1 1/2 years ago and left the country. Can I divorce her in absentia? I am in Pennslyvania

thanks..

Hey 6060842s:

I remember reading your story when I was going through a similar (but perhaps not as severe) situation with my foreign wife.

Her K1 visa had expired and she didn't want to adjust she just wanted to leave. Now that things have completely broken down with her and we

aren't even in contact, I have to look into divorce proceedings.

Did your wife ever try to get money from you once she left? Your input would realy help me out, thanks..

Darnell:

thanks, I will more carefully re-read your responses to me..

Thanks again...

Darnell:

I don't know what claim she could have for support or assets from me; she left the U.S. voluntarily and has decided to never return here or to the marriage.

She has her own condo in her home country and a new car, and a career. For all I know there is already another man there helping her to pay her bills.

I have no idea what she is doing, and I don't even know her current address.

We only lived together for 5-6 months as a married couple before she left the country and abandoned her visa which had already expired.

She essentially deserted/abandoned me..

thanks,