JStarr

One correction. Looks like we will do a consent judgement instead of a mutual restraining order.

First, I really appreciate this website. It was very helpful in assisting me during the K-1 Visa process. I met an Ethiopain in Bahrain while serving overseas. At the time it all seemed right and I made the decision to ask for her hand in marriage. At the time I thought we both wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Unfortunetely, my marriage to the woman I love so dearly has failed. Reading the other blogs, I see that what has happened to me is a common occurance.

My wife arrived here (in the US) on the 8th of August 2012. Due to Hurricane Issac, our marriage was delayed over a week. We finally where married on the 12th of Sept (happiest day of my life). Soon after the wedding things begin to go down hill. My wife demanded that I buy her a ticket to Florida to visit a man I had never met or talked to before, 7 days after our wedding. She claimed he was her brother and that she had to travel to Orlando the first week of October. Before that time, she had never mentioned she had family in the states. She told me that if I didn't buy the ticket, he would. So trying to be a good husband, I volunteered to buy the ticket.

In order to buy the ticket, I needed to know where she was going to fly to in Florida. My wife became angry when I asked, stating that I didn't need know where she was going. Finally, she told me to buy a ticket to Orlando. As the travel date approached, I got more concerned. I told I was cancalling the ticket and we could reschedule. She became irate and demanded divorce and to be sent back to Ethiopia. Later that tonight she had a panic attack and I had to take her to the ER. The next day we agreed to divorce. The following day, she apologized and said she wanted to stay with me.

The next week, October 5th 2012, I took my wife out on a dinner date. Before the night ended, she asked to go out to bar hop and dance on bourbon st. While dancing a man grabbed my wife's rear-end. I confronted the man and me and my wife exited the club. When I told her the night was over, she became very and demanded a divorce and to be sent back to Ethiopia. She refused to come home with me and attacked me with her shoes. I called the police for help. The police could help me. After the police left, my wife went to another police station and filed a complaint siting abuse. The police did not press charges against me. She is in womens shelter now (I believe). Initially, I attempted to reconcile but my wife rejected all efforts. This has been without a doubt, the worst month of my life.

My wife (with help from the womens shelther) put a temporary restraining order against early this month. I in turn, hired a lawyer. The lies enclosed within the temporary restaining order were jaw dropping. We recently went to court and it appears my wifes lawyer want to settle for mutual restraining order and want to stay in the U.S (I have not for filed for AOS; as I didn't have the marriage certificate yet). The lawyer mentioned my wife wanted to stay in the U.S and maybe working on a work visa or she could attempt to use VAWA as well to stay in the country. I recently filed for divorce and updated USCIS/ICE on this matter.

Any other thoughts on what I can do for this situation?