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Approved!!! thank you God!!

Approved!!! thank you God!!

I know how you feel. I went through the same, if not worse, in my previous marriage. When I found out the truth it was heart shattering. Different than a heartbreak because my whole world shattered at that moment, because I was living a lie with this person who was living a disgusting life behind my back. The person whom supposedly you have placed/dedicated your entire life to.
So I confronted her. Demanded the truth. Gradually I learned everything because she refused to come clean. In the end, I got tired and told her it was best for her to leave. I did not want anything to do with her anymore. What she had done was enough to kill any emotion. After the divorce, apparently that life she left me fore, ended. So she wanted me back. But I had a lot of time to myself and I learned to appreciate a new me, make a new life, and I just could not imagine myself with her again. So I said no. And so she left.
I’m not saying you should leave him. I did the above because It was my personal decision and I am proud I did because I did it based on reasoning with myself. However, I will tell you, when you are married, you have all right to know every detail about your husband/wife. I’m not talking about being a dictator or anything but the husband / wife relationship is the ultimate expression of love and 2 become 1. You live and breathe for the person and never take any decisions without input from the other.
So for you, I recommend : In a calm tone, explain to him everything that you and him have talked about with reference to you relationship and remind him what he has told you about his feelings ( this will set grounds and highlight current state of the relationship ). Then you disclose what happened that day you saw the chat message ( calmly now because things have a bad way of getting carried away and he might feel like he’s against the wall because he know he has been doing something bad, and people don’t like to be caught and immediately go on the defensive ). If he interrupts, respectfully ask him to listen to you and that you have the right to bring this up as his wife, as the person he has promised to love and cherish until death. You decide if you want to tell him that you sleuthed around and found more stuff ( but this usually ends up with the “you were looking at my stuff?” accusation and might trump you conversation ). Then lay the question on him, “what does this mean?”, don’t jump to conclude that he is cheating ( even though it’s obvious ) but asking him if he is cheating might get him upset ( or might not but my experience showd me how defensive and ogre like they get ). Hopefully this should get the conversation moving.
In the end, I just wanted to get to the end. I didn’t want to continue living a lie. I had found out that there was a possibility and I know that I would hate myself for allowing me to be the “other” person. If he has already said his feelings have changed and you guys are no longer romantic. I’m sorry but’s it’s time to set things straight before he commits the unforgivable or you get hurt worse.
It’s hard to meet reality but it’s better to know, get out, and not waste any more time. Or maybe it might work to where he will realize his stupidity. It’s a 50/50 chance. You won’t know until you go to that point. Nobody she let themselves permit something like that, everyone has to the right to love and be loved in return. He is obviously not reciprocating those feelings.
I hope I was able to help. I was able to survive my past and in fact I am so much better off and now, I am happily married. My job sent me to Mexico where I met a beautiful girl who is now my wife. With her I learned what how a person that truly loves you is. Any time that I have to wait for her VISA to get done is nothing compared to the years we will enjoy of each other when we are finally together.
Here hoping everything works out for you. Keep strong, love, and move forward. Never look back unless it’s to learn from past mistakes.

I know how you feel. I went through the same, if not worse, in my previous marriage. When I found out the truth it was heart shattering. Different than a heartbreak because my whole world shattered at that moment, because I was living a lie with this person who was living a disgusting life behind my back. The person whom supposedly you have placed/dedicated your entire life to.
So I confronted her. Demanded the truth. Gradually I learned everything because she refused to come clean. In the end, I got tired and told her it was best for her to leave. I did not want anything to do with her anymore. What she had done was enough to kill any emotion. After the divorce, apparently that life she left me fore, ended. So she wanted me back. But I had a lot of time to myself and I learned to appreciate a new me, make a new life, and I just could not imagine myself with her again. So I said no. And so she left.
I’m not saying you should leave him. I did the above because It was my personal decision and I am proud I did because I did it based on reasoning with myself. However, I will tell you, when you are married, you have all right to know every detail about your husband/wife. I’m not talking about being a dictator or anything but the husband / wife relationship is the ultimate expression of love and 2 become 1. You live and breathe for the person and never take any decisions without input from the other.
So for you, I recommend : In a calm tone, explain to him everything that you and him have talked about with reference to you relationship and remind him what he has told you about his feelings ( this will set grounds and highlight current state of the relationship ). Then you disclose what happened that day you saw the chat message ( calmly now because things have a bad way of getting carried away and he might feel like he’s against the wall because he know he has been doing something bad, and people don’t like to be caught and immediately go on the defensive ). If he interrupts, respectfully ask him to listen to you and that you have the right to bring this up as his wife, as the person he has promised to love and cherish until death. You decide if you want to tell him that you sleuthed around and found more stuff ( but this usually ends up with the “you were looking at my stuff?” accusation and might trump you conversation ). Then lay the question on him, “what does this mean?”, don’t jump to conclude that he is cheating ( even though it’s obvious ) but asking him if he is cheating might get him upset ( or might not but my experience showd me how defensive and ogre like they get ). Hopefully this should get the conversation moving.
In the end, I just wanted to get to the end. I didn’t want to continue living a lie. I had found out that there was a possibility and I know that I would hate myself for allowing me to be the “other” person. If he has already said his feelings have changed and you guys are no longer romantic. I’m sorry but’s it’s time to set things straight before he commits the unforgivable or you get hurt worse.
It’s hard to meet reality but it’s better to know, get out, and not waste any more time. Or maybe it might work to where he will realize his stupidity. It’s a 50/50 chance. You won’t know until you go to that point. Nobody she let themselves permit something like that, everyone has to the right to love and be loved in return. He is obviously not reciprocating those feelings.
I hope I was able to help. I was able to survive my past and in fact I am so much better off and now, I am happily married. My job sent me to Mexico where I met a beautiful girl who is now my wife. With her I learned what how a person that truly loves you is. Any time that I have to wait for her VISA to get done is nothing compared to the years we will enjoy of each other when we are finally together.
Here hoping everything works out for you. Keep strong, love, and move forward. Never look back unless it’s to learn from past mistakes.

I know how you feel. I went through the same, if not worse, in my previous marriage. When I found out the truth it was heart shattering. Different than a heartbreak because my whole world shattered at that moment, because I was living a lie with this person who was living a disgusting life behind my back. The person whom supposedly you have placed/dedicated your entire life to.
So I confronted her. Demanded the truth. Gradually I learned everything because she refused to come clean. In the end, I got tired and told her it was best for her to leave. I did not want anything to do with her anymore. What she had done was enough to kill any emotion. After the divorce, apparently that life she left me fore, ended. So she wanted me back. But I had a lot of time to myself and I learned to appreciate a new me, make a new life, and I just could not imagine myself with her again. So I said no. And so she left.
I’m not saying you should leave him. I did the above because It was my personal decision and I am proud I did because I did it based on reasoning with myself. However, I will tell you, when you are married, you have all right to know every detail about your husband/wife. I’m not talking about being a dictator or anything but the husband / wife relationship is the ultimate expression of love and 2 become 1. You live and breathe for the person and never take any decisions without input from the other.
So for you, I recommend : In a calm tone, explain to him everything that you and him have talked about with reference to you relationship and remind him what he has told you about his feelings ( this will set grounds and highlight current state of the relationship ). Then you disclose what happened that day you saw the chat message ( calmly now because things have a bad way of getting carried away and he might feel like he’s against the wall because he know he has been doing something bad, and people don’t like to be caught and immediately go on the defensive ). If he interrupts, respectfully ask him to listen to you and that you have the right to bring this up as his wife, as the person he has promised to love and cherish until death. You decide if you want to tell him that you sleuthed around and found more stuff ( but this usually ends up with the “you were looking at my stuff?” accusation and might trump you conversation ). Then lay the question on him, “what does this mean?”, don’t jump to conclude that he is cheating ( even though it’s obvious ) but asking him if he is cheating might get him upset ( or might not but my experience showd me how defensive and ogre like they get ). Hopefully this should get the conversation moving.
In the end, I just wanted to get to the end. I didn’t want to continue living a lie. I had found out that there was a possibility and I know that I would hate myself for allowing me to be the “other” person. If he has already said his feelings have changed and you guys are no longer romantic. I’m sorry but’s it’s time to set things straight before he commits the unforgivable or you get hurt worse.
It’s hard to meet reality but it’s better to know, get out, and not waste any more time. Or maybe it might work to where he will realize his stupidity. It’s a 50/50 chance. You won’t know until you go to that point. Nobody she let themselves permit something like that, everyone has to the right to love and be loved in return. He is obviously not reciprocating those feelings.
I hope I was able to help. I was able to survive my past and in fact I am so much better off and now, I am happily married. My job sent me to Mexico where I met a beautiful girl who is now my wife. With her I learned what how a person that truly loves you is. Any time that I have to wait for her VISA to get done is nothing compared to the years we will enjoy of each other when we are finally together.
Here hoping everything works out for you. Keep strong, love, and move forward. Never look back unless it’s to learn from past mistakes.