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Thank you Mr. Chou. I have studied US laws and earned a PHD. My wife has 17 years experience as a qualified teacher. But comments made to her by the Mumbai Consulate staff on May 17, 2012 (hope the Mumbai Consulate read this site) are patently uncalled for and are abusive. No one has the right to abuse a person in a vulnerable position by saying things like this and I quote "Why did you marry this disabled cripple?" and "your husband's Veteran Pension of $24,000+ is inadequate for your needs?". Further, paying or demanding dowry is against the law in India even though it is widely practised, therefore, the Consular Officer also known as Vice Consul had no right to tell my wife this: "Why are you against paying dowry and you could have married earlier than your 43 years of age?" Come to a United States Federal Court Miss Vice Consul and explain to a United States Federal Judge why you as a employee of the United States State Department working under Mrs. Clinton who is the secretary of the Department of State - you would advocate breaking the laws of a sovereign nation? I assure you Miss Vice Consul you would find yourself unemployed very soon. But at that moment on May 17th, 2012, you were full of your power and you exercised it in the worst possible manner thus making us wonder why are you in this role? This Vice consul also stated to my wife "you know you cannot have children now since you married late? I hope people reading this site are outraged and will write to Mrs. Clinton so she can stop this abuse.

Rebecca Jo
Thank you for your candid assessment. In the nation of India, there are currently approximately ONE BILLION 200 MILLION persons living. Christians are a very very small minority about 2 percent. The group becomes smaller if you allow for denomination differences such as Catholics, Protestants, Syrian Orthodox and so on. Protestants are admittedly a very tiny tiny minority. Break it down further by age groups and now you can almost get them in a small town. Now eliminate those females who are not 43 to 55 and single. Further shrink the group to those who have no interest in migrating to the USA. If you are a careful person and not inclined to just plunge headlong in to matrimony with just anybody then you must know the family of the girl for a decent time period so you can verify that representations are truthful. Basically it gets down to slim pickings.
Now introduce that elusive elixir of life called true love and we are down to my wife and I. My father knew her father for 25 plus years. My dad never mentioned that there is a girl I should consider marrying because she and I have a 14 year age gap. Eventually, when I returned on the injured list and potential brides of the Indian variety viewed me as a langra (disabled) - I told my ma this is not for me and I will not be humiliated.
My dad passed away suddenly and I was left caring for my ma for 20 years or so. She died in 1998. I then thought about settling down but wondered who would even throw me a second glance given my health issues. Then in 2003, I had a chance to meet my wife in Mumbai. She was a school teacher and I was teaching insurance law. We hit it off but as soon as I got back to USA, I chatted with her and told her that the likelihood we could be a couple in the future is not good. I had fully disclosed to her my injuries and health challenges. She too shared some health issues of her own. We are both devout Christians and we agreed to sit on the topic and pray about it earnestly. Over the next 3.5 years we grew fond of each other not to mention we were aging also. Finally one day we said if it is God's will we will get married and I proposed to her. She accepted but there no sirens blaring - it was a nice loving moment. It felt good. I was not seeking a "caregiver" and she had no interest in leaving her aging mother and father. They live a simple but good life and their lives centers around church and family activities. We decided to get married in Dec 2007. I am an only child so I was going to be the solo attendee at my own wedding. She luckily had her sister and husband and two kids visiting from Germany where he is employed as an engineer. It was a modest church wedding in her church with a few friends and relatives. I was still teaching and I had to go back to states. In January 2008, literally days after our marriage her 75 year old dad slipped in the bathroom and first week in February 2008 he was laid to rest. Her only brother works in Oman and has a good job. Her other sister had to return to Germany. Now her aged ma is left bereaved. I told her to stay put and take care of ma. In this world you only get one ma. That's another commonality we share. I took care of my ma for 20 years so I know what it is like to sacrifice for your ma. In the period Dec 2007 thru June 2011. I visited my lovely wife 5 times and spent half my time with her in Mumbai at her mother's house. Her ma is a wonderful lady. When we married in Dec 2007. I did not need a caregiver or attendant.
No the bonafides are uncontroverted and I will gladly take it to a jury of our peers any time any place and I will prevail. TRUTH IS GOOD AND TRUTH IS UNASSAILABLE. In Sept 2008, I had a serious health set back and was declared disabled by the VA doctors and my VA doctors said I should have my wife with me as I now need to be monitored - must take my meds and eat properly. My Veteran community has stood by me and I have survived. In Sept 2011, I started her paperwork as her sister had returned from Germany and her ma would have someone to take care of. She lives within walking distance. The visa process finally culminated in May 17, 2012 interview at the Mumbai Consulate. Without any notice seeking whatever bonafides they are looking for they started dancing all over her head accusing her mercilessly and in vehement abusive terms. Hey you want to accuse her or me of something then lets meet in a Federal Court in front of a Federal Judge. I will win. (They have been furnished 3 affidavits, all travel details, and VA paperwork. So this attempt to harass us is just abuse.)
There is no fraud here. Just two people who journeyed in two time capsules due to circumstances but the love is enduring and has stood the test of time and will so in the future. We are both of solid character. Our needs are few and God watches over us every hour.
I have no ill will towards government functionaries but do not assail my integrity and that of my wife. That is non negotiable. Peace to all and to you Rebecca a good day. Thanks for your support. My wife joins me to wish you all that is good in this life.

Rebecca Jo
Thank you for your candid assessment. In the nation of India, there are currently approximately ONE BILLION 200 MILLION persons living. Christians are a very very small minority about 2 percent. The group becomes smaller if you allow for denomination differences such as Catholics, Protestants, Syrian Orthodox and so on. Protestants are admittedly a very tiny tiny minority. Break it down further by age groups and now you can almost get them in a small town. Now eliminate those females who are not 43 to 55 and single. Further shrink the group to those who have no interest in migrating to the USA. If you are a careful person and not inclined to just plunge headlong in to matrimony with just anybody then you must know the family of the girl for a decent time period so you can verify that representations are truthful. Basically it gets down to slim pickings.
Now introduce that elusive elixir of life called true love and we are down to my wife and I. My father knew her father for 25 plus years. My dad never mentioned that there is a girl I should consider marrying because she and I have a 14 year age gap. Eventually, when I returned on the injured list and potential brides of the Indian variety viewed me as a langra (disabled) - I told my ma this is not for me and I will not be humiliated.
My dad passed away suddenly and I was left caring for my ma for 20 years or so. She died in 1998. I then thought about settling down but wondered who would even throw me a second glance given my health issues. Then in 2003, I had a chance to meet my wife in Mumbai. She was a school teacher and I was teaching insurance law. We hit it off but as soon as I got back to USA, I chatted with her and told her that the likelihood we could be a couple in the future is not good. I had fully disclosed to her my injuries and health challenges. She too shared some health issues of her own. We are both devout Christians and we agreed to sit on the topic and pray about it earnestly. Over the next 3.5 years we grew fond of each other not to mention we were aging also. Finally one day we said if it is God's will we will get married and I proposed to her. She accepted but there no sirens blaring - it was a nice loving moment. It felt good. I was not seeking a "caregiver" and she had no interest in leaving her aging mother and father. They live a simple but good life and their lives centers around church and family activities. We decided to get married in Dec 2007. I am an only child so I was going to be the solo attendee at my own wedding. She luckily had her sister and husband and two kids visiting from Germany where he is employed as an engineer. It was a modest church wedding in her church with a few friends and relatives. I was still teaching and I had to go back to states. In January 2008, literally days after our marriage her 75 year old dad slipped in the bathroom and first week in February 2008 he was laid to rest. Her only brother works in Oman and has a good job. Her other sister had to return to Germany. Now her aged ma is left bereaved. I told her to stay put and take care of ma. In this world you only get one ma. That's another commonality we share. I took care of my ma for 20 years so I know what it is like to sacrifice for your ma. In the period Dec 2007 thru June 2011. I visited my lovely wife 5 times and spent half my time with her in Mumbai at her mother's house. Her ma is a wonderful lady. When we married in Dec 2007. I did not need a caregiver or attendant.
No the bonafides are uncontroverted and I will gladly take it to a jury of our peers any time any place and I will prevail. TRUTH IS GOOD AND TRUTH IS UNASSAILABLE. In Sept 2008, I had a serious health set back and was declared disabled by the VA doctors and my VA doctors said I should have my wife with me as I now need to be monitored - must take my meds and eat properly. My Veteran community has stood by me and I have survived. In Sept 2011, I started her paperwork as her sister had returned from Germany and her ma would have someone to take care of. She lives within walking distance. The visa process finally culminated in May 17, 2012 interview at the Mumbai Consulate. Without any notice seeking whatever bonafides they are looking for they started dancing all over her head accusing her mercilessly and in vehement abusive terms. Hey you want to accuse her or me of something then lets meet in a Federal Court in front of a Federal Judge. I will win. (They have been furnished 3 affidavits, all travel details, and VA paperwork. So this attempt to harass us is just abuse.)
There is no fraud here. Just two people who journeyed in two time capsules due to circumstances but the love is enduring and has stood the test of time and will so in the future. We are both of solid character. Our needs are few and God watches over us every hour.
I have no ill will towards government functionaries but do not assail my integrity and that of my wife. That is non negotiable. Peace to all and to you Rebecca a good day. Thanks for your support. My wife joins me to wish you all that is good in this life.

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Thank you Mr. Chou. I have studied US laws and earned a PHD. My wife has 17 years experience as a qualified teacher. But comments made to her by the Mumbai Consulate staff on May 17, 2012 (hope the Mumbai Consulate read this site) are patently uncalled for and are abusive. No one has the right to abuse a person in a vulnerable position by saying things like this and I quote "Why did you marry this disabled cripple?" and "your husband's Veteran Pension of $24,000+ is inadequate for your needs?". Further, paying or demanding dowry is against the law in India even though it is widely practised, therefore, the Consular Officer also known as Vice Consul had no right to tell my wife this: "Why are you against paying dowry and you could have married earlier than your 43 years of age?" Come to a United States Federal Court Miss Vice Consul and explain to a United States Federal Judge why you as a employee of the United States State Department working under Mrs. Clinton who is the secretary of the Department of State - you would advocate breaking the laws of a sovereign nation? I assure you Miss Vice Consul you would find yourself unemployed very soon. But at that moment on May 17th, 2012, you were full of your power and you exercised it in the worst possible manner thus making us wonder why are you in this role? This Vice consul also stated to my wife "you know you cannot have children now since you married late? I hope people reading this site are outraged and will write to Mrs. Clinton so she can stop this abuse.

Condolences for your loved one. These types of issues (mistakes, errors, washing machine destroys papers, etc) are not uncommon. Most US embassies and Consulates do have emergency personnel to handle such issues.
The trick is to find a phone number. Many times your own elected person representing your location has back channel access and would be prudent to contact that person.
I feel for you but try harder and do not give up.
Good Luck and Many Blessings.

There are some distinct and separate issues here. Let me see if I can help you sort it out. I am not a licensed lawyer but have studied law in USA.
First lets take the issue of taxes and filing your US Income Tax return. In USA, you have the choice to file as "Married filing separately". Conversely USA returns require social security numbers and your Indian hubby probably does not have one. You can file your return as stated above.
Second issue is whether he can annull the marriage in India. Well sad to say in India with enough money on the line you can darn near accomplish anything whether legal or illegal. You are a US citizen and you should stay within the law if you can. Once you are married anywhere in the world - USA will treat that as a lawful marriage if it was conducted as per local law. You can get a divorce in your jurisdiction and many places offer help for "No Fault" divorce. It is your choice. I would suggest that you do all things above board. Regardless, if one day you have to file another I-130 - you must truthfully answer if you were married before and cannot sweep it under the rug. Clean up your act legally and go live a bountiful life. Mixing cultures can be rewarding and punishing depends on who the players are.
I wish you God speed in all you do. Many blessings.