Bill Tilman

for almost 25 years ive been an advocate of foreign girls over american girls. i've had three k-1 wives now, first was 17 yrs my junior and lasted 11 years, she was a good lady, second was 24 yrs my junior, and lasted almost 8 years, she was hot,we had fun, but she ended up cheating with a young blood,leaving me and marrying him, now this one, 32 years younger, hasnt lasted 18 months! i think im done playing this game, its too much hassel. im just gonna be another lonely old celebate gringo with a blue passport i guess.

You can't manipulate her into a position of dependence upon you so that she takes you back out of desperation. That's what VAWA protects them against.

A person with $40K cash in the bank can buy a pot and pan. Something is wrong with this picture.

she actually had about 80k, 40 here, 40 there, but sent lots home, all tax free of course ("Stippers dont have to pay taxes!", she told me.)

just be glad she didnt use VAWA against you like my stripper/hooker/wife is doing now. my nitemare rolls on day by day and i still can't move on!

thats what she always told me when i'd ask her, "do you want me to stay or leave?'" i hate thate almost as much as i hate "move on"

The irony is staggering.

PS: I take it that you're now going to be following me around the forums now?

HEY GUYS! This is MY thread so keep ur bi***ing out of it. ive got a big problem here and i dont wanta hear your fiting. as to divorcing her? i dont wanta. i love her with all my heart. but your rite, i shud check n see if here is a alimony state or if i can freeze her 40k she saved in bank here last year. but still, back on topic, with all this evidence do ya'll think she'll get a new work card within a few months, or will all stuff delay it? no, i havent talked to her in 6+ weeks now, only an ocasioanl grumpy email from her. she said she bought "pots and pans" to cook her type food, so ive almost ruled out shes shacked up with a customer, maybe in a VAWA funded apartment? wouldnt they provide cookware? heck, i dunno.

i wonder if unauthorized work and failure to file or pay taxes in 2011, 2012, will have any bearing at all on my soon X wifes VAWA AOS filing? she had a employment card while dancing all of 2011, but ive since separated our tax selves, "filed married filing separately", and i know for sure she wont even file 2011 taxes. (we had an extension.) as for 2012 she worked w/o authorization for 4 months, her work card got revoked by uscis, she made a TON of money dancing+, but didnt pay any tax at all. ????delays??? RFE's???? crossing my fingers!

I am a US citizen and applied for k1 visa via Juarez. Ther is an age difference of 38 years between my wife and I (I'm 70 & she is 31 yrs. old). No problems. No questions asked. K1 approved

holy moly! you got us beat, ours is only 30 years. hope your lasts longer than 17 months!

Bill, ya gots some points there.

IMO, that's a bullet list.

Every item in that bullet list can be countered with a letter of attestation on each thing.

So, if you were wanting to file with ICE, and have a case for FRAUD opened against her, you'd have to address each one of those things via a seperate letter of attestation (one letter per thing) .

IMO.

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Typically what's in the ICE FRAUD FILE for a potential beneficiary is evaluated when a VAWA case is adjudicated. Just saying...

i tried to PM you but its blocked or something. so explain to me exactly how to do this. why a separate letter on each topic? isnt anything i say inadmissable evidence under a vawa filing? pm me if you like

if you withdrew the affadavit of support, the I-864, then mostly, yer done. Suggest you file for divorce sometime soonish.

With the I-864 being withdrawn, her eligibility to file any adjustment of status case, based on marriage to a USA Citizen, is gone.

Sure, she can attempt to file a VAWA case later, but IMO, it'll most likely go nowhere.

For now, be certain of the status of your withdrawal of the I-864.

darnell, why are you the only one who thinks itll go nowhere? consider all the flags. huge age diff, married only 17 months, hardly any evidence she has of good intentions, or comingling of life here, they know she was a hooker, numerous police visits, my arrest, her statements to cops to withdraw charges and to grand jury, and admitting to detectives during questioning she was a hooker. and also, the cops called her a month ago and asked if she wanted to file pimp charges against me for the hooking. but she told them truthfully, "No its my life and they were my choices." would that come up in her vawa app?. so..if our app together to adjust is considered abandonned, and she files a vawa alone, how long until she gets a work card, all things considered???????

Bill it doesn't mother if you withdrew the I-864, because who is applying for Vawa doesn't need a co -sponsor. The USCIS can put a hold when the I-485 is pending until decision of the I-360. If she submitted the I-360 before they considered her I-485 abandoned then she is still good.

but does there lie the problem? when we missed her second aos interview in may they said the whole app for work and adjust would be considered abandonned. i doubt shes even filed the i360 yet. my lawyer probly just mailed the withdrawal of support today. so, how long until she gets a new work card maybe?

i wish you dudes would stop saying "MOVE ON", its tiresome. theres nowhere to move on to. i had all my eggs in her basket. theres noone left. there all fn dead.

jeez, the more beers i drink the more i post, aye? and what about her hooking? she said once ICE already came into the strip club looking for her, months ago, when i had left and called them to get her out of there. her boss got real worried. or was she mistaken and it was only the city cops? i dunno. this is a huge club and millions of dollars in sales. but she wasnt there. i was gone home to our state. so ICE and thereby USCIS have knowledge of her activities in there, and outside. they know. wonder how that will affect her filings?

and "bona fide" marriage is another issue. how can she prove it? she is far away and has zero papers i think. she wasnt on any of our bills, mortgage, nothing, and has no friends there to write anything. the only thing she mite have is a copy of our marriage license. all our finances were mostly separate. how difficult will it be for her to prove a bonafide marriage? it wasnt "bonafide" (whatever that means) from the get-go.

If her I-485 is pending she can file I-360 along with I-765 and she will get the EAD in 90 days,if she doesn't have a pending I-485 she can file form I-360 but she won't be able to get EAD before the I-360 approval.The I-360 is taking around 14 months to be adjudicated.

It seems she has a pending I-485, because you said she didn't attend two interviews, well maybe you didn't show up, but maybe she attended the interview and asked USCIS to hold the I-485 until decision of the I-360 and USCIS always accept that!. USCIS will issue the EAD without considering the "fraud allegations". The fraud allegations will be analyzed when USCIS will adjudicate her case I-485 not the I-765.

sandraj, read posts plz. i have withdrawn my support for her adjustment for temp conditional green card today. it was filed but when we missed her interview for the second time they said itd be considered abandonned. so does this mean its NOT poending? will she have to wait the year +? for a work card? this is eating me up with each beer i drink.

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sandrajh, will you plz stop using all those + things and fix your tabs? hassel to read your writing.

Seems like a tough situation. Does she even have a claim for VAWA? just wondering.

yes she has a VAWA claim. cops were called when we fought. she was bruised i was cut to ribbons by her lovely long nails, but only i was charged since i declined to press charges against her. shes also been in the psyc ward three times on suicide watch during our lovely time stripping.

good point. Hey Bill - what were the two interviews for?

adjust staus for temp green card

she could change. shes not evil. she needs to go to nursing school or something. she just got so addicted to her fame and popularity in the club. she was the QUEEN out of over 200 girls! it was incredible. i was even proud of her in a wierd way. she was making in a nite, more than her mom n dad make in a year! and sending almost all home. but now, even if she was a RN she'd think, heck, i made this much in an hour dancing, or something. i'm gonna write a book, "Married To The Pole" The Trials and Tribulations Of A Stripper's Husband. someday, from Ecuador or somewhere.

no, she cant dance anywhere coz they have to do a check and i showed the only checking company a copy of the uscis letter saying shes illegal to work and out of status, so no way, also she told me today shes still not dancing. (?) she'd have to go to the naybering city to dance and its far and taxi etc.. and its even more dirty over there. no, i belive her. anyway, i looked up a i-485, adjustment of status application. so when we missed her 2nd interview her AOS was abandonned by uscis and today i withdrew my support for AOS and her employment app thing. so we had it pending but now its not, rite? so does that mean she'll have to wait a year for a new work card? allah how i hope so!

on another note. she has no passport, no visa inside, no i-94 card inside, coz they all got stolen from a mysterious hotel room break in there when i was 2000 miles away. how will lack of these things affect her EAD and her VAWA? all she has is our state issued ID. i gotta get another beer. and again, sorry guys, but no pic for you!

i cant remember all the I numbers. we filed to adjust for temp green card and work card, she got a work card, but when time finally came for her AOS interview we missed it coz we were out of state. they rescheduled it but we missed it again. then her work card got stolen during a hotel break in. it expired anyway the next week, in may. shes not dancing now coz her boss found out she was working illegally, but he'll hire her back the day she gets a new one for suure. i have just now withdrawn the affadavit of support and new work card application. she hasnt filed yet for divorce coz i just called the county clerk and they checked. i dunno if shes filed a VAWA AOS yet or not. the reason i care is coz if it takes her a long time to get a new work card, maybe she'll just bail and go home. i hate to think of her returning to stripping coz shes very naieve about her guys and i know she'll also then return to her side job afterhours. she hasnt been charged or convicted of hooking. only she has admitted it to the detectives who interviewed her downtown. she dont care who knows. so, how long until she gets a work card? 60-90 or many months? you guys dont understand. she is my last woman, EVER! im too old to deal with this anymore and i loved her superly. so moving on is a scarey proposition. anyway someone give me an idea of timeline. she cant wait forever just sitting there not banking 1000 a nite.

Why do you care? I ask this with the outmost respect.

She may be morally flexible enough to bend the rules. You file for your divorce and do your stuff. Let her worry about her paper and paperwork.

I think SandraJ has your answers below.

coz i hope it takes a long time so she doesnt return to that lifestyle and get in deep poop.

i know, i know, hey, i'm trying to move along. but noones answered my question about how long itll take her to get a new work card. and also to file for a divorce doesnt she have to have had an address in that state for six months and be a resident?

firstly, i was suspended for a week coz i attached a pic of my wife in her standard attire, a mini-skirt! why? isnt that only illegal in iran or saudi arabia? they were NOT porn pix unless you're from over there. now to my topic, if the moderators will allow it.

as some of you know my thai wife will soon file her VAWA abuse adjustment of status app. if she hasnt already. (came in on K-1, married within 90 days, huge age difference, married less than 17 months, no conditional card yet, missed two interviews already) we're not divorced yet and she hasnt yet filed to. i'm on one side of USA and she's on another. she emails me often but refuses to tell me who she lives with (a "customer", a countrymate girl, or in a shelter?)or what shes been doing these last 6 weeks of torture. she cannot dance anymore coz i showed her former club the letter saying her work card is revoked. she worked anyway for four months there. she has no passport or k-1 visa or i-94, it all got stolen, she says, from the hotel room?? she only has our states issued ID card and thats it. she has no access to any proof of our marriage such as tax returns, pix together, bills together, etc.. coz they're all over here in our house. she is not a resident of the state she's in now and has no real address there i guess. and her cell is usually disconnected to all, family included! so i am so curious as to how long it is gonna take her to get another "work card" so she can return to dancing+? she has emailed me that as soon as possible she will return to that lifestyle coz the money is too good to refuse. she wouldnt last long at $10 an hour anywhere, after $70-100 an hour dancing. i am sure the uscis is investigating our whole case for fraud/good intentions/good "moral" character, etc.. i hope they do.

so, how long do you think its gonna take her to get a new work card considering all the red flags her whole filing has? maybe if it takes long enuf she'll just bail and go back to mom. it'd be better for her safety if she did. she's very naieve about the whole business she's become addicted to. no pic this post!

i wonder how my wifes VAWA app AOS will go if they look at her FB? i'm not her friend, i'm blocked, theres no mention of me, never has been, profile says she's single, and last time i snuck into it there was only like 2 pix of me out of 200 of her. out of all her 400+ friends only about 10 are women.

I didn't even know what VAWA was until this all happened. Now, after many long beer filled hours of research I know. Heck theres whole websites devoted to how to get in USA fraudulantly! This has GOT to end! I'm all for helping true victums of abuse. But to give a free green card to any foreign girl (or boy) who can dupe a gringo into marriage in order to get into paradise (?) using our tax dollars is screwed up! I've never been a republican, but about this issue I mite just become one. Repeal the VAWA loophole filled law!