NewYork321

I'm chinese (but born and raised in Singapore) and I've got to agree that comparing mainland chinese to american born chinese to chinese born elsewhere is like comparing apples to oranges to strawberries. Then again, even though there may be some patterns in each geographical demographic, you also get quite a bit of variation in any racial group even if they are born and raised in the same place.

No opinions about whether or not to divorce, since that wasn't your question anyway.. but Khomer1964, you really shouldn't expect your wife to be anything like your chinese friends in the USA.

How do you like NY, we are in Orange co... dont know if that is considered the boonies

Okay, Explain to me this:

-Do all Chinese women treat their in laws poorly? (even after my family twice paid for her airfare to come here and go home to visit her family)

-Do all Chinese woman act like spoiled brats when they don't get their way?

-Are all Chinese woman loners and never want to go out and meet people?

-Are all Chinese woman selfish, self-centered, obnoxious?

Our situations are different my friend. I don't know these girls you have met, where they are from and you have not met my wife. I do agree that their are cultural differences, but i have several Asian friends (male and female) and the Chinese woman i have met are nothing, NOTHING like my wife. My wife acts more like an American woman than a woman who grew up in China. I communicate with her, my entire family does. She does not listen. believe me, i know what i am talking about also

Good luck to you too

Didnt mean any disrespect, im just saying i have meet and dated woman like this(and she was from Shanghai),I bought many face mosturiser masks and creams, she would never let her face touch the pillow in bed, she would sleep holding her head up wearing her housecoat. Brought her to USA on travel visa and didnt want to meet my family, and basicly everthing as described as above. But when she was good, it was the best

I agree with Darnel, its part culture and and getting used to the USA. Woman from each area of China are unique, I spent alot of time in Guangzhou, Wuhan, Shenzhen, Chongqing, Shanghai all the woman are different in the way they communicate and act.

My chinese friends in the usa are very different from the people i work with on mainland china, try to understand the culture and Darnel gave you great advise try to find a professional to help you thu this, at least try before giving up

I am a loser for having a mortgage at 47? I know people in this country who never owned a home, a car or held a job that paid over minimum wage, so i don't get your point. Maybe in Romania it is considered a loser, but not in America. i make a very good living and bought my own home instead of renting from someone and wasting money. So, if that is being a loser, then America is full of losers. Owning your own house and paying a mortgage means you are looking to the future, building your credit and putting equity in your home. So i don't know what you are talking about. Secondly, I don't go to clubs. we don't go anywhere. She never wants to spend ANY money except if it is for her. As far as the stupid eye cream, my point was that she has NO Problem dropping 50 bucks on makeup and eye cream, but has something to say if i want to buy something to improve our home. Typical answer from a woman defending another woman. Believe me, she has it MUCH better here than in China. She just doesn't appreciate it. I don't know how things are in Romania, but let me tell you, it is much different here in America. You don't know her, so i don't expect you to understand. It's easy to blame me and say I am the problem. So thanks for your reply. i will let my wife know she has a fan, because you obviously don't understand the situation. Good luck to you too

Khomer

I have lived in China for 6 years, I know you are in a difficult situation, There is no Fraud, I think you are experiencing her culture.. I spent alot of time in Shanghai, I have seen Chinese men carry The Shanghai womans purse's in public, the relationship between man a woman is different in China, everthing you have described i have seen or experienced first hand,A woman in her 40's she wont want a divorce, she will loose face and look very bad to her family and no i dont carry my fiance's purse... I drew the line in the sand

in 6 years, 3 chinese GF's and now getting married to a Chongqing woman i have dated for two years, i know what im talking about. Good luck, communicate....