Mayarz

I come from an arabic culture, and I married my husband and moved to the US almost 10 months ago.

In some cultures parents always come first ( Even knowing that I'm a girl and my parents are not poor and come from a middle class family). As the eldest daughter, I always felt responsible to help them out with money. My husband understood that when I was still home and I made it clear I will always help my parents out no matter what happens. He used to send me money just so I can help with groceries and stuff ( As I was still student), and when I came here, I got a job the first month and I was sending them around 300 to 400 a month... ( Of course after paying our own bills and making sure everything is covered) Even though my husband sometimes gets frustrated thinking that my priority should always be my immediate family ( Him and our future kids) but where I come from, parents are immediate family as well and it is my responsibility to make sure they are comfortable as they sacrificed a lot during their lives for me and my sisters to get us where we are now.

I finally had to quit my job due to a high risk pregnancy, even if I kept pushing it until I no longer was able to go physically to work only because I wanted to be a provider and make my family proud...and even now I cant afford sending that much anymore, my husband still makes sure to help them or save some aside to send them in case they need it

I struggle every time I think or only imagine that my parents might be in need, the thought drives me crazy, and I totally understand your husband's reaction as well ( He must be freaking out for the idea of leaving his parents if he is the only provider). I think part of your issue is you never really sit and talk about it before marriage because trust me, this will not change anytime soon and he will always consider his parents equal if not first ( not because he doesn't care about you but because it is part of his culture and who he is as a person) Now it is your choice whether to accept it and not expect much out of him or to end it.

Trying to avoid talking about it until he gets there will only cause more drama,and more heartaches to you. Please make up your mind and decide what you really want to do. You have to be totally open in your relationship and stop trying to postpone talking about things or avoiding them hoping that they will vanish, because they WON'T. a hole is going to keep growing between both of you and then by the end you Will find yourself alone soon or late.

I hope you the best luck..and don't forget, I rather be alone and happy than being with someone and completely miserable( Just for the sake of not being alone). Appearance and infatuation eventually get old and marriage is not a game or just something fun. it is built on trust, team work, a lot of patience and love and needs a strong bases to grow and I couldn't see that in any of your posts.

I would say wait until the NVC email you a letter that will give you the interview date and details about it as well as any documents they need you to take with you to the consulate. If I remember well, I had to retake the Court and police certificate with me and my medical as well as the small pictures they need for the passport( that's all she took from me) and I took more pictures of my husband and I ( The lady in There didn't look at any of my pictures or any more ongoing relationship evidence, she just gave me back everything we sent to the NVC and kept few stuff).

He might want to rebring the forms you filled and sent before and everything else if he has a copy of it ( Just in case to cover his basis) as well as any translations you made copies of (In my case they didn't look at any, but you never know what they can ask from other people.

I have a question for you. My husband obtained the criminal report but the Casier Judiciare was obtained from his place of birth. The translator stated this was the correct document and the police in the city where my husband now resides told him that he had to get the document from the place of birth. In order to get it he had to show his birth certificate. Are you familiar with this or were you born in the same city you lived as an adult?

Thank you,

I was born and grew up in the same city all my life. However it doesn't make any sense that they would ask him to get the police certificate from his birth city if he is living for a while in another city...The consulate wants to see if he has any criminal records wherever he lives, then there is another court record that I believe he should get from Rabat, the capital.

Just to be sure, let him try to get a police certificate from the place of his birth ( see what the police there will tell him), and from where he lives if you can,,,Just to be sure he is covered.

I don't know if this is of any help, I'm sorry I don't have more information to share with you !

My interview went very smooth and it didn't take more than 5 min for them to approve it.

I believe that part of it is culture, they might see it as an Arabic woman is less likely to commit marriage fraud just to get to the US. Families are more involved in marriages in islamic countries and it's not very common to see a lot of mixed couples in morocco where the woman is the moroccan one but it's more likely to see moroccan males married to non moroccan...maybe that can be one of the reasons but maybe i'm wrong.

I forgot to say that I am in the US, so how do I have these docs have SWORN translation

I believe they meant a certified translation done by a certified translator... When I was going through this process I read somewhere that they only accept certified translation made in morocco..

You will find a lot of certified translators around the consulate in morocco, and it usually doesn't take them more than few hours to translate all of your papers.

I hope this helped !

Best luck !

I think whatever information is wrong !

I met my husband (he is a US citizen) 4 months online and we got married after that from a first visit.We applied for the visa 2 months after our marriage and he went to Iraq to deploy. the whole visa process took 7 months and I was approved for the visa.

I was too afraid of their reaction from the fact that we married on a first visit and only after 4 months of chatting, I guess maybe the fact that he was in iraq and couldn't get more vacation days off to visit me made it easier for us. But I know for sure that the short period of time we talked in didn't affect our visa process.

They were nice and receptive, I wasn't even questioned about it or anything ! I guess in your case, there won't be any doubt either since your family came to morocco and met your husband's family + the visit's time you spent here.

Don't worry too much, and trust in your relationship, I think they are well trained to know the difference between a real and a fraud relationship and I don't think the timing really matter that much in those cases.

Yes the packet is normal.

My POE was Boston and my husband was with me, one Officer asked him to go thru the US citizen line while she sent me to the other line,,Later after the other officer took the envelope from me, she asked me where my husband is and when I told her, that he is waiting for me outside as they didnt let us go through the same line, she got so mad and said that they are not supposed to separate Couples...and He or I should have gone with him on the same line...So even if someone else asks you otherwise, Insist On staying with your spouse.It's wont be a big deal.

I think you should really take some time to review the information that mayarz posted for you, as well as the I-130 instructions...It can be tedious but the answers really are there. Are you the US citizen or is your spouse?

If you read the VJ guide and the USCIS instructions carefully, you will see that YES, you need to send the birth certificate of the US citizen if that is how they acquired citizenship in the US (i.e. - born on US soil). If they were naturalized or gained citizenship through some other way, then review the other ways to show that you are a u.s. citizen. The birth certificate or other documentation of citizenship goes in the packet with the appliaction I-130 and g-325a (and everything else on the VJ list) to the lockbox.

Loveturtle - I think Divs was referring to evidence of a bonafide marriage (needed with the I-130) and you are referring to evidence for the affidavit of support I-864 which comes later.

THANK YOU !!!! everything is in the link im sending it...CLEARLY AND IN DETAILS....IF ONLY he takes time to read it...He wouldnt have to ask all those questions,,( which he asks me in private too) Simo, The answers are RIGHT THERE on the link EVERYONE gave you..it's easy to follow, just take an hour or less to read it...

Best luck.

i think you didnt see the link another member posted for you,

you will be going with a cr1 visa,

you will need :

1. Payment as required by USCIS. Use a personal check if allowed by the Service Center (as of 4/2005 they do allow this). If not, use a money order so you can track the payment.

2. Cover Letter. Should include a description of what your are petitioning for (I-130), a table of contents (list everything in the packet). If you need additional room to explain your case, attach a separate sheet (list the attachment on the cover sheet). Make sure to sign and date the cover sheet.

3. Form I-130: Petition for Alien Relative

4. Copy of the full Birth certificate (front and back) for the US Citizen or a copy of ALL pages of the US Citizen's passport. This is used to establish citizenship.

5. A copy of petitioner's proof of naturalization. (If applicable)

6. A copy of petitioner's proof of permanent residency. (If applicable)

7. A copy of the intending immigrant's birth certificate and/or passport along with English translation. (If in any language other than English) (no longer needed)

8. A copy of your marriage certificate (If not inEnglish then again get a translation)

9. If either you or your spouse were previously married, submit copies of documents showing that all prior marriages were legally terminated (court certified copies of the petitioner's and/or intending immigrant's divorce documents).

10. A copy of a prior spouse's death certificate. (If one or both of you were married before, and the prior spouse died)

11. G-325A filled out by the US Citizen, signed and dated.

12. One passport-type photo (see specification) of the petitioner. Write the full name on the back. Place in a plastic bag and label the bag "Photo of <Insert Name>". Attach the bag to a sheet of paper and place behind the corresponding G-325a.

13. G-325A filled out by the non-US Citzen spouse signed and dated.

14. One passport-type photo (see specification) of the non-US Citzen spouse. Write the full name of the beneficiary on the back. Place in a plastic bag and label the bag "Photo of (insert name) ". Attach the bag to a sheet of paper and place behind the corresponding G-325a.

15. Evidence of a bonafide marriage : PICTURES TOGETHER, LETTERS, CHAT CONVERSATIONS,PLANE TICKETS, PHONE BILLS,ANYTHING ELSE THAT PROVES THE RELATIONSHIP

All supporting documents must be in ENGLISH or be translated

read this website to see where you should send your package( all info are there : http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide1

Good luck !

A husband who can stand by while you waste away like this does not love you, regardless of what words come out of his mouth.

I dont know if Its going to be the same situation for me as I just got my visa..I didnt travel yet...

My husband came to morocco and stayed with me for 4 months after he was done with his deployement..and Like your husband His a video games Freak...He used to spend like 6 hours straight playing Until I yell and fight with him...Some nights I used to sleep while his playing in the whats supposed to be *Our honey moon*and yes he would just remember me whenever his Horny !!!

After that we came and stayed with my family fr the rest of the period he was staying here..so Whenever he pissed me off I would Just go and sit with my family till I cool down...

His excuse was that he just came back frm Iraq and Videogames make him stop thinking about the war Horror and that will change once he gets home and there are better things to do...(His mother confirmed to me that he was always like that even at home)

Just like your husband I know he loves me but also I know that he doesnt just ignore me when Im freaking out..Coz I make sure he doesnt !!! one day it got so bad that I took his new laptop and threatned to break it cz he refused to stop...and that just made him stop and say SORRY.

It scares me knowing what your going through as Im afraid the same will happen to me..especially when we are just adjusting and there is no one else we know but him and his family...But I would advise you to try to find any kind of work..ANYTHING, even as a waitress..cz it would be very good fr you to change vibes, meet people and stop focusing only on him as the center of your interest...Get a Pet as well cz that would help..and If you cant work, check on fb or social sites and meet with girls from your area.. !!

Try to find a different way of dealing with your husband..Cz he has no right to ignore you or threaten you to leave you alone and go with his mother,I find this cruel..He should understand that you made a big step in your life to move to that country to be with him...Unfortunatly somtimes men just take us for granted and get too confortable in the relationship that they would just stop trying even if we are Sure they Love us..Maybe more than anything else..But they Just dont know how to express it anymore since We are thers now.

Have some Courage...It takes a while always to adjust..I know that from other peoples experiences and My feelings..But it will get better..So darling,stop stressing youself please and look fr alternative solutions.

Best luck

Yes her leaving before marriage and AOS was definitely unexpected but maybe she'll return again. There's still hope...

Come on??? SERIOUSLY? I Really believe that now your taking ALL of us for a ride...I dont Think you need a woman right now..I think you need to see a psychiatrist..Wether to stop inventing LIES..Or Work on your self esteem( if any of this is true) !!!!

The reason I put up with her lack of love and hoped it would improve is because she just seemed to be having a hard time dealing with the new small town. I thought with time she would adapt.

Also she is the prettiest, hottest fiancee I have ever dated in my life. She is A++++++ hot, I just could not give that beautiful woman up. Wow, I doubt I would ever meet someone so pretty in my life again.

Everyone that saw her was absolutely shocked by her beauty. As you all know, women that look like that can get any guy they want and use them.

broken heart

NO COMMENT...SO just because Im HOT and pretty...And my Husband is average..That Gives me the right to F...Him over????? NO, STOP justifying her or yourself..

You know she doesnt Love you...PERIOD. MOVE ON !! You should have a strong personality..Its never about Beauty..You can be with an ugly person outside..But their good inside would make them look wonderful in our eyes..If you keep thinking that superficial..You will never go far with your life..and Trust me,,You will suffer more and more in your life..Coz you are just not getting your lesson.

Just when you think you have seen it all... ! Unbelievable

Sir I felt bad when I started reading your stories...But as Im reading more and more of the members comments and Your comments. I just started feeling sorry for the people who are sitting here giving you advises While YOURSELF not willing to do anything, But just sit here and whine about what happened to you. While YOU SAW IT COMING.

Any Person-Naive,Dumb or Smart would be moving his #### and Doing somthing about that situation...YOU PUT yourself in that situation By taking her back after everyone’s warnings .

If You really need someone in your life,,GET A PET !!! and stop grieving a woman who never loved you..and who ( Im sure you will take back AGAIN if she comes back for the Third time).

Get Over it and Move on with your life..and Hopefully learn a lesson from that.If you are truly a good man as You said in your profile and You were taking a good care of her…You will end up meeting a good person In your life..Just give it sometime . Goodluck

I've often said that if every timepiece on the entire continent of Africa stopped working, no one would know the difference. When hubby first got here, the concept of "being on time" was totally lost on him. Still to this day, if I call him and tell him to be ready to leave when I get home from work, I know I'm going to wait a good 30 minutes AFTER I pull up for him to come out to the car.

The whole bathroom thing is why he won't shower after dark. He says that jinn sleep in the drains at night after haunting the world by day, and running water over them after evening prayer will cause you to be cursed. When I lived in Morocco and would shower after dark, his family would meet me on the stairs and pray over me.

Yes we Believe in that...I got my visa but I didnt travel yet...When I told my husband that once I get there, I should pour milk in the drains so to make peace with the Jinns..and Cant shower at night ( Its culture thing) He made fun of me and he said NOWAY !!! But Im still doing it anyway !!

Brushing teeth before eating is a habit for us too, Not before every meal but only before breakfast Because I just think its nasty and gross...(My husband already adopted that...Now before he eats anything in the morning, I give him the stinky eye and He knows why Im starying at him, so He goes brush his teeth immediatly..)

Also changing our Clothes once we get Home to pijamas,He used to wake up and wear his outside clothes and his running shoes and sit..I was like what the hell?? Your gonna mess your outside clothes..So he adopted the new habit too( Changing his clothes once his home)

I enjoy reading those differences as I know my husband will be writting in this forum few months from now to make fun of me as well..Wether to tell you that I adopted his habits or He did !!! LOL

I had the same problem, but for me They said that they want the original or a certified copy while the one I sent WAS certified..They asked me to wait for a supervisor to review it..I waited but then one of the operators advised me to go ahead and send the original coz he might just not accept it..thats what I,I sent it by FEDEX and it arrived there 2 days later..So maybe if you can, go ahead and send it,,If you would like to wait then use some Fast postal service like Fedex...It does cost Money But its Fast and Garanteed..

Good luck !!

Thank You Everyone !!! and Best luck for those who are going through this Process...I Will Pray for you

Congrats on your approval and thank you for sharing. In Casablanca I have not seen too many women denied, I know it happens as I was preview to two cases during my visits to the consulate. You had two good things going for your case one your husband is an Army Officer and two you are a lady. I am sure not everyone will agree but it does make a big difference and lastly he is converting which is a plus. I too was an Army Officer during our journey and my husband had converted to Christianity so I completely agree it is not an easy process. Even with all things done right going through that consulate causes anxiety making sure we cross our Ts and dot our I.

Glad to hear you had a great experience it does happen in Casablanca glad to see they are still human..

God bless and Merry Christmas and if you ever have any Army wives questions feel free to ask.

Mimi

Thank you for your answer...Yes I was very worried...I know that there arent too many muslim girls married to US soldiars...People are Just not used to it..and somtimes they dont seem to Understand...But Im lucky I have a very supportive parents..Even thou they are religious,,But it didnt seem to be a problem for them..But only to some of our relatives..!

Anyway yes..Maybe him being in the army helped while I was seeing it as a Red flag,Plus (Marriage after 4 months knowing eochother and In THE first time..)I Expected a lot more questions than were asked..I made scenarios In my brains Every night and I stressed my Husband too..But its for no reason,

During my Interview,I saw other females Being aproved..as for the guys, They were interviewd in the other side so I couldnt honeslt hear what was going on..Most denials were for Tourist Visa..and I do feel sorry for guys here in the forums who got denied as I read many stories and It is sad to see some real couples suffering..

Thank you very much for your post..Being an army wife is not easy at all( I think the Co took that in consideration too )..especially in cases like mine..where I got married to my husband who had to go to iraq only 3 days after our marriage..and I had to worry all year and fret about him Staying alive and coming back to me...But finally I think it just made us stronger and more patient and tolerant with eochother.. !!

Thank you so much for posting this, I have been so nervous for our interview scheduled for 1/24/12, and you made it sound as easy as it was for me to fall in love with my husband. Thanks again and CONGRATULATIONS!

Just dont Fret !!! I was all shaking when the moroccan woman was interviewing me But I tried to Hide it..and Even that I couldnt,,My stomach was making noises..It happens to me when I stress and I was all embarassed as people who were sitting next to me were staring at me..and I was like : Pleaaase stop , please stop !! Was Funny !!!

Just stay Calm..Im sure you will get it...Best luck sister

Its the first time for me to writte in this forum since All I did before Is reading for hours...and I found some of the experiences helpful..

Im writting you today to share my experience in US consulate in casablanca..Dont know if it will help anyone since my case is a bit special but sharing is always good..

Im married to my americain husband for a year now..we met online and after 4 months he came over and we got married..He serves as an officer in US army..and we married from a first meeting as he was getting deployed to Iraq..Took me a while to convince my parents with our relation since its not very commun for an arabic girl to marry from the army..But love wins ?!!!

Anyway I had my interview few days ago...It was smooth and I Got Aproved..Even if i was very worried hearing how tough this consulate is..But apearantly they are not as I imagined..

At first I passed by a moroccan woman,who checked our paper work and asked for My court record...She checked Some of our pictures and asked if my husband is in the army..which I answered by yes...Our file had already a big aproved in it..so I was wondering if its the NVC aproval or they already aprove the cases before the interview..Then thats all,she asked me to wait till they call me again..

Then after 30 min, An americain young lady,,Very nice called me...The questions were pretty simple...How are you?? Then How did you and your husband met..which I answered with Facebook, and I gave her some details about how the chat started..Then she asked when the relation got romantic which I answered by Few months after that..she was friendly and nice !! She asked me Why we didnt have a big engagement party...My answer was that we have small family and my grandma was on stroke so she couldnt really handle noises..and her presence was important thats why we decided to have a small party at home, she asked if he converted and when, which I answered that he couldnt do it in iraq as he couldnt go out and he wanted to do it here with my parents and family;s presence and in a mosque !!!...she asked also when he first came and how many times we met : I answered that and that his waiting for me outside as he finished his deployement in september and came stay with me which makes it 4 months together..her last question was if I talked to his parents, I already had many chat logs with his parents, sister,cousins and Friends..and I answered by that..and Thats it !! she said Congrats, ur visa is granted and come back tuesday to pick it !! she didnt see any album or anything else...

Was that simple and Easy while I was really freaking out about it...Was worried about him being in the military and marrying the first time as Red flags..But Hamdulilah everything went smooth...

People tell the truth and Have faith in your marriage..God wont let you down,,for those who didnt Pass...I wish you Luck and Patience coz this journey isnt really easy on anyone..But it is worth it !!