OlasKween

Yes, i feel your pain. It is one of the most painful things i have ever gone through. Hang on, we will get there.

This is why I think the system is broken. (and by the way, I am not upset with you, or anyone else on here, I am just conversing:) ) #1- we wouldnt have sham marriages if it wasnt so hard to move here in the first place. Think about this: a person from another country wants to move here. He/she fills out the required forms for identification, gets a medical report, a clean police record and gets the necessary immunizations, etc. I think if she can prove that she has enough to live on (for say 6 months?) or an amount specified by the govt, or someone here to sponsor her, she should be able to IMMIGRATE HERE. Why should she have to be married, or the child, or parent or sibling of someone here? Why should she have to jump through all the hoops, and pay so much money to come here? This country is built on the idea of a refuge for those who want to be free. AM I CORRECT?? "Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free. " Most people who want to come here want to IMPROVE things. I say that- if you can prove who you are, that you have means to provide for yourself (or a sponsor), have a clean bill of health, NO trouble with the law, you should be able to come. If you get here and you dont like it, go back!! Make it a law that they will NEVER be eligible for assistance from the govt. Make it a law that if they come here to GET married, then if they are EVER divorced from that person, they go back home. Make it a law that if you have suspected terrorist contacts, or such, you will not be admitted. But for heaven's sake, there are good people everywhere. Stop destroying peoples hopes and dreams. People work years to come to an interview, and in a few minutes, your world it torn apart. We need some kind of straight forward laws- not this mamby- pamby stuff of, "do everything we tell you an pay all the fees, and we will talk to you for 10 minutes, and if we are in a good mood that day, we MIGHT let you through. . . oh, and we wont refund your money if you don't, but you can refile, and maybe next time we wont accuse you of being a scammer." That is a broken system. If people could work hard, save the money, and get themselves here- THEY WOULDNT BE MARRIAGE-SCAMMING. I will work till my dying day to get this system changed, because it is plain, flat out WRONG.

We also used his cousin, who lives in the USA, as a sponsor. He works in a nuclear medicine facility in Texas. His income is very lucrative (but he is verrry tight with his money, understandably) The point is, we jumped every hoop they asked us to. Clean bill of health, spotless police record, proof of financial responsibility, all fees paid, received a wavier of meeting, notarized letters from our families, I could go on and on. The system is BROKEN. yes, we will continue down this road, and play this stupid game, because we have no choice. We are dedicated to each other. But it makes me sick that my own country is doing this. Land of the free, home of the brave- a country built on the idea of immigration. This system is a JOKE.