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Wooooooooooooooooooooooooow!!!!!!!!!finally what started over 365 days ago has finally come to fruition...we are approved...praise be to God Almighty,my wife and all my VJ families here..thanks for your assistance in all manner of way..i love u all now am flying straight to my baby's arms...yikes..lol...

and am awaiting good news from those still in the process...God will see ya'll through.

Now i can remember very well that i have written a few controvertial article on this site especially the Nigerian portal to which i belong- God blesses a genuine marriage and why bite the finger that feeds u!

my experience so far through-out this immigration process by the grace of God was and has been wonderful,and i cant stop thanking God for not letting me down so my enemies will laugh at me..but as am writing this i and my wife are chatting and happy that God is faithful and wonderful..

so many people have had worse experiences with the lagos embassy...but to my dismay of what many people have said...the place is wonderful and the immigration officers/COS's are very nice,respectful and treat both non-immigrants and immigrants alike nicely..i was very surprised!....when u dont have a document they just politely tell u to go get it and everything will be fine...while i was awaiting my turn on my interview day...before me was a guy...who was being interviewed..he was shaking,he had no phone records,no chat logs,he did'nt even know his wife house address whether she lives in an apartment or her own home..my mind reflected to VJ posts..and i said this guy will be denied...but they gave him his visa...and there and then i summoned more courage...and my interview with the white lady dat interviewed me was cordial..it was just like a conversation and i so much enjoyed it..cos i even answered most of the questions she might want to ask...while showing her my pix..i was flipping thru and explaining most of them,she didn't ask me much question..i know God was with me there...it just took like 5-10min..the next thing she said was..i think i have to give u the visa....do u know i forgot my original birth certificate,my wife birth certificate?..lol...they gave it to me anyways at the visa collection center...

ok i have to run now..

please feel free to send me a private message(hyosumili25@yahoo.com) if u need help and assistance,ill be glad to talk with u,share more experience and give u the best i can..i wanna see and hear good news too...

thanks once again...God u too much!!!!!!!!!!

So sorry you were denied K1 visa. The same happened to us. I received an email that told me I could refile the I-129f or go to Nigeria and marry my fiance. We were devastated as we never thought we'd be denied and were planning on marrying not too long after his interview. We were married September 1, 2011 the National Marriage Registry in Lagos with a small group of friends! I spent 3 wonderful weeks with him at that time. I just returned from visiting Nija where we visited friends and I met more of his family. Within the next few weeks I will be filing I-130 spousal visa. This may not be the choice for you but it was the best one for us. If we have to spend time apart we wanted to do it as husband and wife! The consulate may deny our petitions but they cannot break our marriage bond! Whether it is in Nigeria or here in the States, we are husband and wife! The waiting and being apart is very hard but we know in the end all will work out. As someone once said: "What doesn't break us makes us stronger." And something as precious as our love for one another is worth fighting for.

u said it all...dey can never break ur marriage bond..dats a good one..i advise two things...1.wait for the denial to be sent to u by USCIS for possible revocation...2.come marry ur fiance and do the cr1

You are back! Your posts are always so dramatic... i still remember this one "GOD backs a Genuine marriage...Am a CR-1 immigrant" . I always wondered how you could be an immigrant when you had not even attended the interview. I guess you meant to say CR-1 applicant. Anyways i hope your medicals went well and you are ready to face the CO... Welcome back

and dont worry ok..just pray for me my friend...am looking up to God for good news ok..wish me well lol

You are back! Your posts are always so dramatic... i still remember this one "GOD backs a Genuine marriage...Am a CR-1 immigrant" . I always wondered how you could be an immigrant when you had not even attended the interview. I guess you meant to say CR-1 applicant. Anyways i hope your medicals went well and you are ready to face the CO... Welcome back

lol..u make me laugh..not so fast my brother..but all criticism are welcomed..yeah my medicals are out last week and i passed..so my interview has been rescheduled for march next month..second week to be precised..yeah point of correction my write up arent dramatic..lets say i see things differently here...and if u wana know me personally u welcome to add me on facebook so u know my personality and the company and catigory of my folks..if u might wanan know am an optimist and a proponent of the good and wellbeing of anybody around me...i dnt realy need to go into details bout my timeline..but its been wonderful from USCIS..NVC..and now LAGOS EMBASSY...take it or leave it..im not worried about wether ill be denied or approved..me and my wife are so calm and we have plan B..u will know still if am approved or denied ok...lolthanks for looking out for me..lol

Wow! I haven't posted on VJ in some time because there wasn't a post I felt I needed to reply to until I ready this one...I am so thankful for your boldness, truth and honesty for stepping up and speaking out for the "good" men that still exist in your country. I am so tired of hearing people label every single Nigerian bad because of the one's that were wrong...I live in America and God knows we have enough scammers here to be a high-fraud country too. We have those in our government, schools, work places and just common folks...the truth is...real love judges people as individuals...not as a a whooole race of people. Are we not all humans? Can we not find true love from a man/woman from Nigeria? online? why not...there are single sites all over America and people meet on them all day long...it's not about how you met...it's about getting to know one another... I married a man right here in America that was the biggest scammer of them all...I was with him for 10 years and he was full of lies and deceit...I wish someone would have scrutinized our relationship the way they want to do our Nigerian relationships...no body can predict love...nobody knows the whole outcome of any situation...if so then why is the divorce rate in same culture marriages so high, or why are their couples staying together even though they really don't love each other, or so much infidelity...who can truly point the finger at who?...and is their really a race better than another...all I know is that the issue of my man being REAL is settled in MY heart...no body can change my mind...not here on VJ or anywhere else...my case concerning him and his intentions has been put to rest...my sadness and frustration now comes from all the "warnings" about Nigeria...good grief some of them really do marry for love...I would hope that in any relationship a person would want to find out the "truth" about who they are with...is it only Nigerians alone that need to be but through the test?....anybody choosing to be in a relationship needs to test it realness...how many countless relationships have come up in the news over the years where the man was previously a murderer, or rapist, a child molester, or had another family...and the wife didn't know until years later...the sterotypes of Nigerians need to stop...judge a person for who they are not for who their culture may be in the majority....it's not fair...we all need a little grace and mercy and I am so grateful that aside from all opinions and what not God is the rightful judge! Great post my friend....great POST!

thanks olamides..thanks i do appreciate and also agree with you very well in ur responses..i was particualr about NIgeria because it was my country and this is still happening everyday..its hard to curb the menace..but i just wanted to vent my anger..and lets all share ideas here..so dat any fraudulent person dat stumbles upon it sumday..might or may hv a change of heart...NIgerian men..alot of them are very good and have genuine intentions...and take this seriously...WE VALUE AND RESPECT MARRIAGEAND FAMILY VALUES.cos as xtians we believe its sacred and ordained by GOD...the rate of divorce increase in africa as as a result of globalisation..we want to abandon our culture and imbibe and copy dat of the western world..a typical african man wants to grow old and grey with his wife..watching their seeds grow...thanks for ur response too..i needed to shake and wake VJers up a lil bit dats why i posted this..and if i see a good one bout Nigerians..i wouldnt hesistate to repost

AS a man, my advice to the ladies especially my American Sisters, please be careful of men from Nigeria pretending to love you and want to be with you for the rest of your life. I am not saying all of them are bad, but majority of them are. I feel so terrible when I read some of the posts on how ladies were taken advantage of in the name of love and it saddens me. If it is too good to be true, believe me it is! Many Nigerian men found themselves in a hopeless situations in Nigeria and look for ANY way to get out and if that invloves lying, cheating or any other adjective you can think of, they will do it just to get out of Nigeria. Just vet the person very well and take your time and be sure. Finding love online is a very tough situation, if you want somebody from Nigeria, get introduced by someone you know who can vouch for their characters, it is not 100% guranteed, but someone who knows of a potential pitfall will be reluctant to push you into that hell hole. Wishing you all the best in your journey of love and life!

thanks so much brother..now i see the real ad good nigerians coming to support this struggleand even as small as our voices are here..with time is will increase..and people that need to know will now be more careful and the USgovt and US embassy here will begin to see things diffrently and make things easier for us and others yet to toe this stressful and time consuming and financially hectic immigration process cos of high fraud suspicious nigerians immigrating...thanks man..one luv

Vino, Hint, typing in CAPS means you are shouting. Try un-capping...

Thanks,

really..i didnt know man..thanks..anyways i should be shouting bout this matter...i do also agree with you that there are more good people than bad people..and some unscroupulous immigrants will stumble on this article someday..and know dat some ppl dont approve of their illicit act..thanks man

sorta... but for someone that promises to share his intvw experience, why dont u start by sharing your timeline? It's good you are fired up for your interview.

it sure is a shame. It seems ur just realizing what many have realized and experienced various times.. my take is that... in life there are shortcuts.. when anything has a shortcut, people will try to gain from it.

Let me ask you: have you ever driven or being in a car that drove two ways on a one way road in Nigeria? well, i guess you were finding shortcut to avoid a traffic of some sorts right? well, wen you where doing that "wrong/shortcut" driving, did you think of the other car coming and wonder maybe there's a baby/life in that car who is driving legally or did you just want to accomplish ur goal?

My point is anything that has a loophole, people will bite! sucks! Goodluck!

CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME MY BROTHER..WATEVER LOOPHOLES THERE IS..POSTS AND SUBSEQUENT POSTS LIKE THIS WILL ASSISTS THOSE WHO NEED IT..TO CAREFULYL LOOK..INVESTIGATE..READ AND RESEARCH THEIR POTENTIAL SPOUSES BEFORE THEY BLINDFULLY FALL PREY AS A RESULT OF FALLING IN LOVE..INTERVIEWS AT EMBASSIES FOR IMMIGRANTS OR FAMILYBASED VISAS WERE MEANT TO BE A COLLECTION POINT FOR VISAS AND NOT TO STRESS PPL..BUT THE REVERSE IS THE CASE COS OF MANY REDFLAGS AND FRAUD EMBASSY POST...IF NOT WHY CANT WE JUST MARRY OUR SPOUSES AND MOVE WITH OUR FAMILIES THE NEXT DAY...WATS WRONG IN DAT...AM LOOKING FORWARD TO DAT DAY OR YEAR..AS IMMIGRATION POLICIES CHANGE...

That is a good one i agree with you. i hope and pray that most people read this article. This is the best article post on visajourney that could help most people that are about to start this long journey. Thank you very much for this beautiful post.

THANKS DEAR I DO APPRECIATE..I WAS SO ANGRY WHEN I READ WHAT MADE ME WRITE THIS POST..I HATE TO BE CHEATED ON..AND DONT LIKE TO HEAR OR SEE SOMEONE BEING SHORTCHANGED...IT COULD ME MY BROTHEROR SISTER OR A RELATIVE..OR EVEN YOU..I JUST WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW DAT STILL SOME NIGERIANS ARE VERY GOOD PEOPLE

Hi my loving VJ brothers and sisters and our dearest foreign spouses...good afternoon..

It pains me to my marrow as a Nigerian and a conditional US citizen spouse knowing fully well that am likely to read something bad about us Africans and Nigerians in particular in any topic..from social life,politics down to even matrimony that is suppose to be sacred as ordained by God...

I read a post here on VJ about what most of our foreign spouses go through after discovering that their marriages to us was a sham!!!

no i wont keep my mouth shut..it hurts me so bad..it pains me to my marrow..and adversely affecting us all..i just still cant find the post again to re post it..posted in 2006 on Nigerian portal here...am still looking for it.

we are so busy crying foul that Lagos embassy is so harsh and so many negativity associated with the embassy..yeah i agree..but why cant some of us face the real fact..why don't we sometimes talk about pressing issues like families on here, so that we can accept some faults.

I cant imagine my spouse abandoning all the better men in the US,Canada flying thousands of miles above sea level,minus the constant financial support,the risk of being kidnapped or plane crashed,coming to a strange land to find her King,her lost rib and supposed soul mate as regards what i have been telling her since, her giving to me what my supposed Nigerian girls wouldn't do..because we all know that MOST..if not ALL,our Nigerian women wont do what most of our foreign wives did or does or are doing now..no they cant!!!..they don't have that patience...even her families will ask her...abi na juju(witch charm) he/she dey use for you.... lol

which Nigeria girl will marry you knowing fully well you don't have a job and your future at present is so BLEAK to her!!!most of our Nigerian women marry us for our monies..most of our foreign wives picked us from the gutter..anybody who is an exception should please object...and tell me what happened to the millions of our single aging men and women looking for miracle in churches to find a financially stable mate..and please don't say am being one sided here...am so f##king angry reading that post.

when these women cry it touches my soul cos i still have conscience...how much is your integrity worth????a Greencard? lol why Telling that woman u love her knowing fully well that you don't..and immediately you get to the US u'll abandon her and bring your local Nigerian girlfriend who wouldn't have done nuffin for you if it was her...(SHARP GUY/GIRL)lol

you make her go through pains,she loses financial and emotionally, and you don't give a damn..cos you have arrived your plans have come to fruition and in other words, spoiling things for others going through the process legally...am so angry and don't wanna write much..i just wanted to vent my anger here and get a fresh air..and if we don't talk about this matter or take it with levity..let Lagos embassy become even so harder.

my dear brothers and sisters..the economy globally is not smiling on anybody, America and Americans arents an exception...if you cant make it here(Nigeria)..you sure cant make it anywhere...even if they put your lazy #### in the white house..lol

lets respect the word MARRIAGE,lets respect God,lets respect the people who help or are sent by God to brighten our future...if you are deceiving someone today...just back down..yeah i said back down..tell her the damn truth...yeah please do....cos if u don't..nemesis will surely catch up with you someday..He hears the cries of the oppressed,duped,deceived.. and He fights for them..except God lies..and i know HE doesn't.

i love u all...my interview is in a couple weeks from now....ill post when am granted..and if not ill still post..lol..but i know by God's grace ill reunite with my lovely wife and in-laws soonest..lol

am not in a hurry to go to America or meet my wife...surely at the appointed time..ill go..my wife isn't running away and America has been were it is for hundreds of years.lol

my wife is now a Nigerian too by marriage and happy and she so much love her second home Nigeria..and thinking investments here in the near future..how sweet....the beautiful country you hate so much..and wanna run away fraudulently from.. ...lol

AM STRONGLY AGAINST SHAM MARRIAGES/MARRIAGE VISA FRAUD...i hate the content whenever i read it..it doesn't tell well for u and i...

love is so sweet internationally,inter-racially..u name it..don't spoil it..enjoy it... help propagate this gospel...one love

i see red flags everywhere on these matter...first why so much now in a hurry to remarry and go thru stressful petition process again?were is the present fiance from and how did they meet?u just got outta a failed marriage...why the hurry to hop in again...my advise just take sumtime off from the process cos USCIS is watching u...u might spoil it for u and ur fiancee now....take a break bro......

and if i may ask...is ur husband result finally out?...how long did it take and was it negative or positive i don't know why one will go for a tuberculosis test when he doesn't have any symptom of TB...has he being interviewed?

...this is strange....why will they lie to someone that you can go to the interview knowing fully well that one will be turned away...and the Lagos embassy is very poor in responding to correspondence...i have emailed them earlier this week about the situation..if i can reschedule my interview because of the x-ray report or if i should still come to the interview with the medical receipt..and a second date when the result is ready..yet no response..

ur response has being helpful and ill be starting the sputum test process next week Monday...and i wont take it lightly at the hospital when i get there.. because i have found out that when u are too calm they take u for a ride...

how does one even reschedule interview appointments when the embassy hardly reads or reply emails....?

woooow..THIS IS FUNNY..SUMTHING U LEAST EXPECTED....BUT I KNOW ILL BE NEGATIVE AT THE END..COS I DONT HAVE ANY OF THE TB SYMPTOMS..IS JUST DAT..THIS IS KINDA GOING TO DELAY MY APPROVAL OR FINAL INTERVIEW I GUESS

HELLO MY BELOVED VJers...HOW YOU ALL DOING...I HAVE A REALLY VERY SERIOUS QUESTION TO ASK AND I PRAY I GET ANSWERS FROM U GUYS MY FAMILY HERE..

I WENT TO KAMORAS HOSPITAL IN LAGOS FOR MY MEDICALS AND THE DOCTOR SAID EVERY OTHER TEST IS NEGATIVE BUT..I HAVE TO GO FOR THE SPUTUM ACID TEST..ITS A TEST FOR POSSIBLE TUBERCULOSIS INFECTION..I ONLY HAVE CHEST PAIN..BUT NOT ANY TUBERCULOSIS SYMPTOMS LIKE COUGHING AND such as a chronic cough, weight loss, fever, chills, and weakness, that may be due to TB or another mycobacterial infection

MY QUESTION IS

1. IS IT AN ILLEGIBILITY IF FOUND TO BE TUBERCULOSIS...AND WHAT IS THE SOLUTION?

2.. THE DOCTOR SAID MY MEDICAL RESULT WILL BE OUT IN 6WEEKS SO I WONT BE ABLE TO HAVE MY MEDICALS FOR THE INTERVIEW....WHAT IS THE IMPLICATION?

WILL I STILL BE INTERVIEWED BY THE CO...AND ASKED TO COME WHEN MY MEDICALS IS READY OR WON'T BE ATTENDED TO UNTIL MY MEDICALS IS COMPLETED..COS THE DOC SAID I SHOULD JUST TELL THEM MY MEDICALS IS YET TO BE READY..

3. I KNOW I WONT GET A FINAL DECISION UNTIL MY MEDICALS IS FINALLY OUT...BUT I WANT TO KNOW WHAT ANYBODY WHO HAVE HAD THIS KIND SITUATION WENT THRU..

IM LOOKING FORWARD TO HEARING FROM U GUYS..MUCH LOVE

woooow...am so nervous too..i just went for my medicals and they said ill have to do sputum test for tuberculosis...right now am so worried..

but is it an inelegibility?...will i be able to have my visa interview without my medicals at the embassy?

what is the true definition of dating or courtship?i think most of us are confusing the two words...a matured man and woman who have the same interests and ideology bout marriage can know within hours wat they both want.1,5,10yrs is not a time enuff to know anybody...most our parents never knew who we really are

Ill say here dat its not illegal to meet sumone in the morning and marry them before night fall....if not for immigration who will care about when and how u met each other...

well...lets keep our fingers crossed and hope for the best for all of us...am wishing myself and everyone the best..approved at the end or not....we are all here for the best arent we?..love u all my brothers and sisters and i see my post has generated lots of comments and i do appreciate u all...mmmuah

@HARMONY2012......if wisemen kept quiet....are u saying those whose post uv read dat hv helped u are fools?my friend u are selfish...come out of ur shell and contribute ur quota/input wether positive/negative...it will help others and i believe dats why VJ opened this resource for u and i

@ igwe and lolo..well i see ur experience may hv been awful before u got final approval...but i want u to know dat am not here to boast...but to be confident and encourage others to do same....and US embassy in lagos is not different frm others as we hv read from several VJ members..if i will be denied for watever reason..which my faith hasnt agreed of...ill take it as it comes....i started this immgration process several months ago...and am not ready to chicken out by fear from denied people post...but to encourage myself and others awaiting interviews to be hopeful for the best to come....

there are several red flags...age difference...correnspondence emails..marriage photos and pre or post marriage pix...wedding video..proof of communication with both relatives..cultural and ethnic racial bkground....i believe if a genuine union has close to 60-80% proof of most of these...its only a wicked or shud i say racial CO dat will want to delay u....as i await my interview im SURE of an approval at first visit...ask me why lol....my wife is US citizen,we are born the same month and we are of same age bracket..and my motherinlaw and i are name sakes on a rare name...lol right from the day we met ppl hv marvelled at our union dat its GOD's handiwork...irrespective of dat we overmeet the poverty guideline and others at USCIS/NVC stages...im not just confident..im thankful to GOD and internet resources like VJ...we shud be hopeful..confident...and prayerful...ill post my APPROVAL in a couple weeks

well its not bout being over confident or being to proud...as long as u have a genuine marriage...just go ahead and prove it...CO's hv delegated rights by USCIS and they dont hv the right to deny visas...delay isnt denials and our lifes arent dependent on visas.

do ur job and let them do theirs...i believe a genuine alien spouse has the same rights as any CO's.

My stand is be hopeful for the best cos from several comments and posts here u cant never have enuff documents in the eyes of a CO dat wants to deny u.if not for fraud sakes intervews are just a supposed visa collection points

VJ is the BEST resource iv come across online for visa seekers...iv been here secretly reading several posts..while going thru my visa petition...and ill say my case has been wonderful from USCIS to NVC and now dat i have a date for december...i know fully well dat ill be APPROVED in Jesus name.

I see approved persons here boast of there preparedness and denied persons crying foul....for me ill be so glad to sit with over 50 consular officers proving my case face to face even if it will span a 6hrs interview.

My take here is GOD backs a genuine marriage thru anything...for those of u who worry bout not having all the documents on earth....i say u have ur GOD and ur mouth be ready to sit any CO down for hrs and tell them bout ur relationship as it is without mincing ur words....GOD bless us all genuine immigrants