Incongo

@OP, you know he's a liar, manipulator and con artist... Why would you believe anything that he says.

My bet would be that he's concerned about you reporting everything to USCIS so he said this to you in order to get your reaction.

Based on your responses to him he probably now knows more than he did before.

I'll never understand why people don't just change their phone numbers and lock-out hurtful persons from their lives.

You should NEVER EVER speak directly to him again. Get a No Contact (or restraining) Order on him and move on with your life.

I want to believe he is full of it and making this stuff up but the stuff he said about me was hitting to close to home..

He even told me that he contacted his boss back at home to let him know what is going on and that he ask his boss for his job back and that he have up to 6 month to leave the country to go back to work at his old job.

Kokofe wrote something stating when the USCIS contacted him they gave him up to 6 months to get himself together and that he filed wava abuse against his wife that withdrew his petition in another thread.

so it is possible they contacted him cuz my husband is talking about leaving the country to go back home and he told me how he doesn't have anything to lose and that I have everything to lose.

think this situation calls for a calm head and proactive thinking.

be sure that you know 1. what you want to do (end the marriage? have him deported? exact revenge?) 2. what your options are now that you have made reports to various government agencies (move on with your life? change your cell phone number? move? ignore him? restraining order?) and 3. what may be expected of you (appearing in court? filing an affidavit? nothing?).

since you said you have a lawyer, you might want to talk to him/her about where things stand at the moment. remember that you are his sponsor (or co-sponsor) for roughly 10 years, no matter the status of your relationship with him.

take a deep breath, assess your situation (with your lawyer) and make smart decisions about your life, your safety and your happiness.

I never said i had a lawyer i am broke as heck from getting him up here and I lost my job so i go to him once in a while to get money from him because he is working but illegally even though he got his paperwork but his boss still pay cash. I am about to lose everything i have because of making a stupid decision spending my last to get him here. I can't even afford a simple divorce from him because of my money situation.

best of luck!

What is your concern about him knowing? If you are being truthful, then he already knows all of the things you said that he had done. It does not need to be a secret that you reported it to ICE.

No what i am concern about is he talking about now he is going to build a case against me!

That is all, he said he is going to build something against me because he found out that i reported him. I am not afraid but what i am afraid is that he got ppl and lawyers that work for WAVA that can help him to commit this fraud against me. I read some horror stories how lawyers will take cases like my husband and represent theme free to file false abuse against me. While me on the other hand have no one to back me up or represent me. I read that it is billions of dollars for WAVA victims as well. They have a lot of help[, resources and backing than us american victim do. That is what i am afraid of that he has more power and that i am broke and powerless with no backing whatsoever!

It like whoever if somebody contacted him is giving him the ammunition to try to get me back and file a abuse case against me now.

I received an letter from USCIS early January 2010 letting me know that my I130 had been cancelled by by spouse and that i have 6 months to take care of my case else i will have to leave the country. The VAWA attorneys were not surprised telling me that they deal with lots of abusive US citizen spouses who do that (go in to withdraw the petition as a form of power or control). USCIS contacted me to let me know so we filed VAWA within six months but a month before the divorce was final.

Oh they sent you a letter?? did you get the letter at your wife address and was you still living there? how did you get the letter? Do you know how long ago your wife cancelled the petition?? being that you found out in January 2010?

So uscis does contact yall when the spouse withdraw the petition i wonder do they call u guys to? my husband said something about getting a call from somebody, i am going through the samething but in my case my husband wasn't abuse at all..he got down here in the USA and started running off with friends and started cheating on me, got busted, i got the evidence and everything and he turned around called the cops on me 4 days later and made up a lie saying i burnt him with an iron..then dropped the charges cuz the cops didn't believe because where he work at. In my case i was dealt with a bad hand and is really get fraud.

If he knows how to claim abuse I'd betcha he's at least searched the internet for information. Most of us came to VJ because we needed information on subject regarding our situation(K1, CR1, ROC etc). Even though your name might not be here it's rather easy to identify someone(or identify with). Don't forget you found VJ - never underestimate anyone's ability to do the same, or recognize your specific way of writing and details of your situation.

Even though it's just an assumption, I do agree with Eabbas.

Right now(after having read your other posts) I wouldn't exactly trust your husband.

Sorry but he cannot read..so he wont be on this website he dont even know how to use a computer either..hmm he does have friends but i doubt they know who i am and talking about it ppl everyday getting fraud.

Could he have gotten this under the Freedom of Information Act? Usually when there is a complaint against you, you will be informed of the facts of the complaint but not the person who made the complaint. So even no one told him who made the complaint the deduced it was you because you lived together and no one else could have known all the correct facts about his shady business...

I guess so this could be possible, but how the hell he can get that info but when i try to get info on him or anything i can't get it!

why is it these aliens can get all these benifits and know what going on with them when they are using us citizen and we can't find nothing out!

now i heard if he files a WAVA against me report abuse that they wont even contact me and tell me anything but he can find out what i put against him..that some shady ###### if the uscis and ICE is contacting him!

did you put all that in writing to uscis and ice it's possible he was sent copy to ask if it is true.before auction is taken.

I do not know that is why i am asking you, but yes i put it all in writing and sent it to the UcIS!!

He said he knows everything and he knows what im doing and up to!!

I heard another guy on here said he knew/heard his wife withdrew the petition and he ended up filing an abuse case against him..

So if somebody from uscis and ice contacted him that like setting me up and trying to allow him to get a lawyer and try to get me on some false ###### if they are contacting him about what i wrote against him!!!

Because he said he now is going to get me and he is going to bld a case against me so the usicis and ice is giving him ammunition to get back at me!n and that is not FAIR! if they are doing that ####### to ppl!!!

You are assuming that he is telling you the truth.

Could a common friend have told him?

I don't know but it like he knew too much and a common friend told him? i do not know who that common friend that could know about me writing all that stuff up and giving it to uscis and ice. Therefore i do not think a friend told him that, plus none of his friends talk to me or anything

it's possible he read VJ and saw evthing you posted

good question but no he do not know i post on here at all!! nobody knows who i am on this forum that why i am incongo but my husband never heard of this board and he does not read well.. so therefore no it is not this forum at all.

He said a consular told him about it?!!! ####### they are doing calling him telling this

Hi i hope everyone remember my story but i was the one that reported my husband abandoned me after a month of living here.

He tried to report me for abuse and later told the cops that he didnt want to press charges on on me..

Well i immediately went to ice and withdraw the I130 petiton or whatever the number is when you withdraw petition!!

And I documneted everything I mean everything he did, the condom, the phone records calling date lines everything I documented everything and took it in to the uscis.

I told the uscis in my documents that I was scared for my life and i told them how my husband is working under the table and that i told them i would report him to the IRS because I lost my job while we was together and he just up and abandoned me when he got caught cheating on me.

Anyhow he just called me tonight and told me he know everything that I did and he talk to a consular or somebody on the up and they told him what I did and put on his file I was like #######???? he told me some of the things that I mentioned above what i wrote in my documents..

How the heck do he know all these things??? let me find out the uscis or Ice somebody is being shady and contacting my husband telling them what I am doing! so he goes on to say i need to watch my back and that he is going to now build a case around me!

Like how cuz im not abusing him or anything???? so what kind of case can he build around me?

but i can't get over the fact he knew that i put all this stuff on his file..do yall guys think they contacted him gave him a warning or something??

This is crazy so now he might go and try to really file a Wava case around me?????? a false one at that!!

Help!

No. In 2010 i filed for VAWA after my US citizen spouse went in and cancelled her I130 petition. I had immigration attorneys specialized in abuse file my I130 for free since people in my situation are known to me broke. It was filed within 6 months after my US citizen spouse withdraw her petition and a month before we were legally divorced.

Hey kokefe can you please answer this for me How did you find out that wife did this??? did she tell you or did they contact you and told you about it???

Thank you i will appreciate it.

So bobby what would be the best thing to do is divorce him first??

So it that easy? he can just dump me and get a divorce n file for ROC without me??

He is on a 2 year conditional green card he came here on a CR1`visa

Just wow it that easy for them.

From what i heard he have to be able to prove that he enter here in good faith with his first marriage. when it time to file his ROC

He is taking desperate measures by blding a abuse case so he can get granted to stay here permamenently.

So the Police are not taking any action?

No the police are not taking any action because he stuck to his story and his employer who is also jamaican and hire illegals to work for him, took up for him and said the burnt mark didn't happen at work.

So they didnt arrest me because they believe he is lying they just cannot prove he is lying.

Are you the same ethnicity as your husband?

What exactly are the Police investigating?

Yes both black

but he is from Kingston Jamaica

He lied told the cops four days later that i burnt his hand, and I told him the truth how his hand got burnt at his job so they went to his job and saw that he work on a huge grill and smoker. So they asked him how did i burn his hand and he said i burnt him with an iron. So we get in from hanging out it like 3 in the AM, I was looking for some money I hidden before we went out while I was searching for the money and so was he in the room. I find a dirty used condom with feces and blood on it and the semen still inside intact fresh. So I go to the other room heat up and iron then chase him and ends up burning his hand.. << can you really see that happening? i mean who will run and plug up and iron during the heat of a moment argument when i found the condom and confronted my husband he hauled #### out the house. the cops knew he was full of ####### and lying so they just dropped it because they can tell he is pulling desperate acts now to save his behind to stay in the USA without needing me.

The fact that he's very likely cheating on you, possibly with a man, doesn't mean he committed fraud just to come to the US. You have to proof that he COMMITTED FRAUD in order to come to the US....

Wow less than a couple of wks he get here and he is already cheating on me?? calling single line and messing with ppl in my house and get busted that not being a fraud to you? then lying telling cops that i burnt his hand with an iron 4 days later? when he work at a resturant cooking a big ole girl and smoker? if that not being a fraud then i do not know what it is! then tell cops he do not want to press charges on me because i am very sweet and nice person. He obviously do not love me and never wanted me and didn't know all of the stuff he was doing to me was going to backfired like the way it did!

Cheating with a man but married to a damn woman is not being a fraud to you??? you need your head exam seriously! u know men like that do not like women!! they hide behind us and use us especially from where he is from being gay and messing with men in taboo in Jamaica. So he have to put on an act or fear if he ever goes back home he can get hurt or killed down there.

Very well said, Jimvaphuong.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this, incongo.

Your situation is very hard to prove worth looking at

without getting people to initially think of you as a

disgruntled can't move on USC petitioning spouse.

I wish we live in a perfect world where things like what your husband's doing

get reprimanded, but I guess you're up for a rude awakening.

I feel bad for you, but you know, karma's a ######, honey

@ scotty at all the things happened to me in such a short time can you blame me for not being disgruntled?? my husband wasted no time showing out on me, sad thing while he was busy plotting and showing out. I was all in lala land treating him like a KING and didnt see all of this coming. Me finding the condom was such a slap in the face you damn right i am disgruntled!

I swear all the ladies that are being rejected and their cases are getting denied sent back better count their lucky stars because it a reason why they are getting denied and sent back!

I wish i was one of the ones that got denied and sent back! Hell i even asked god to deny him if he doesnt mean well by me and he still was approved. Now I have to sit back and see why he was able to get here knowing his intention wasn't genuine.

It's not for me to police whether what you write here is true or not. I take things based on what you write.

So was a police report AGAINST YOU filed? I find your husband impossible to deal with and looks like he has a game plan. Why don't you write a letter to USCIS with his case number and full information and inform them of what's happening? I don't know if that will help, but maybe if he tries to file ROC he will be flagged for an interview?

Yes a police was filed against me, however the cops didn't believe his story and dropped the case along with my husband saying he didn't want to press charges against me because i am very nice and sweet person go figure.

Yes he has a game plan but it is failing miserably he is not such a great con artist after all..however he is still running to the clinic for what ?? I do not know why not even the cops no why they just know that it impossible that i burnt him with an iron when he works at a restaurant on big ole grill all day cooking food.

I already visit ICE got a case against him and withdrew the petition on him, and i have an appointment on the first to go see him so i am getting a police report and i am going to take all of my documents including the condoms and his phone record to them.

He been here less than 2 months and cutting up like this, even the cops said he is taking desperate measures to stay here in the USA

I think people are just advising you based on the reality of the situation. USCIS determined you were eligible to submit a petition, and they approved it. The consulate vetted the relationship at the visa interview, and they also approved it. To go back now and ask the government to conclude it was a sham from the beginning requires proof. Unless you give them that proof then they won't do anything.

Lots of people marry foreigners and those marriages fall apart. In a divorce situation it is extremely common for an angry spouse to want to exact revenge on their estranged spouse using any means they have available. When these relationships involve a foreign spouse who acquired a green card through their marriage to a US citizen it is very common for the US citizen spouse to accuse the foreign spouse of entering the marriage solely to get a green card. USCIS will not give a US citizen the authority to initiate deportation on a foreign spouse at will. This would give the US citizen spouse far too much power over their foreign spouse, and you can be absolutely certain that there are a lot of US citizens who would abuse this power by holding their foreign spouses immigration status over their head as a threat to get what they want. This sort of threat is considered in immigration law as a form of abuse, and can actually be used as grounds by the foreign spouse to get a green card or remove conditions from a conditional green card.

You can report your suspicions to USCIS and/or ICE. If they think it's warranted then they'll note your suspicions in your husband's case file. If you have irrefutable proof that your husband engaged in fraud then they'll consider initiating proceedings against your husband. However, it's critical, from the US government's point of view, that any action they take be based on evidence and the law, and that it not appear like they're carrying out a vendetta for the US citizen.

The time to fix these problems is before they happen. It's often very difficult to do anything about it afterward. In most cases, there are signs before the foreign spouse comes to the US that something is not quite right about the relationship. Unfortunately, too many people don't pay attention to those signs, or they disregard them as a difference in culture. The best advice for other people is to take your time and make sure it's right. If you have any suspicions then investigate them until you're satisfied. If you're still not sure then ask someone who has no emotional investment in the situation.

I like the idea of a support group on VJ. This would provide an opportunity for people who are just beginning the process to see how fraudulent relationships develop, and what sort of signs they should be looking for.

I'd be careful going to the media unless you have solid evidence. You're legally responsible for any derogatory public statement you make, and a defamation lawsuit could cost you a lot of money.

So far i gave them more than enough proof, the condom, and his phone records that shows he been calling lava life single line since September when he got here in September. Then he runs off and abandon me and he goes make false report 3 days later after the condom episode.

If i didnt show enough proof then i do not know what to say.

http://www.visajourn...sband-deported/

The link above is my story in case nobody familiar about my story on here.

Okay i found out by the cops that my husband said I burnt him with an iron

however the cops do not believe that lie because they went to his workplace and they believe it happened at work.

The firs thing they did was talk to his boss who of course is jamaican took up for him and said the burnt did not happened there on the job .

So the cops talk to my husband and he said that i burnt him with an iron! I cannot believe he made up that lie, the cop said why would somebody find a nasty ole condom and run go plug up an iron to burn your hand.

Anyway they couldn't get him to confessed that he was lying on me he stuck with his lies and his boss sticked up for him as well.

So the cops asked if he wanted to charge me. He immediately tells them no because I am very nice and sweet person, but he just wanted everything documented.

So i said the cop wow i didn't know ppl that goes around burning ppl hands are nice and sweet.

She said that he is definetly lying but she couldnt prove it so she is not arresting me and she believes that he is pulling these desperate act to stay in the USA.

However in this case there is nothing i can do but get a police report..

What is it I can do from this point on? is obvious that he is lying on me

Oh i found out that he is going back n forth to the doctor i guess to put stuff on his file about me..he is really trying to bld a vawa case around me and I do not even be around him or talk to him or nothing what can he possibly going to do the doctor for???

Please help what is the next step..I go see img/infopass next tuesday

Hey i have a question i would like to take my situation to the news ppl and put my husband on blast is this possible???

I want a news company to pick this up so it can put a stop to this.

How can i do this?

Okay thank for your answer where can i find such ppl at I read a couple of stories on here and I would like to connect with these ppl that has been victimized by foreigners, but you are telling the truth.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/335045-need-advice-getting-husband-deported/

The link above is my story.

So far since i posted my story on here it seem to be no help out here for us American cit zens this is very sad.

I went to the ICE and it seem like they couldn't do anything or wanted to do anything about my situation.

Anyhow I am now looking for a support group that has been through the same thing I am going through. I want to get help and not let my cheating lying husband get away with this!

I am looking for others that gone through this and that can help me

I read a lot of comments on here and it just seem like everyone is telling me to move on with my life.

That is so easy than said, so that how it is? it that bad you get scammed and just move on??

I see why us US Citizen get scammed because we are told to move on and act like nothing happened

Yes my husband has his green card but it the one for only 2 years we have nothing together, no bank account, no house together, no life insurance, no kids no nothing together that he can prove that we was together married in good faith.

I am hearing ppl telling me to go get a divorce? like what is that going to solve? yes i am very confused by this because I heard if i divorce him now, that he can go and just get married to another woman and still stay here in the US!

I read one lady story on here that divorce her husband now she have to sit around wondering if he got deported!

I want to stay married but away from him because I want to know and see that justice been served.

The police are investigating my husband fraud claim on me tomorrow I pray they find the truth that he is a liar and making false claim on me!

We must stop allowing this and do something about it! I married in the name of Love and not to help him get a green card!

I didn't know if they get there 2 year gn card that they can just run off and make fake allegations about us, why is this being allowed?? now these gn card holders can start stuff, provoke us citizen make u false lies and then get granted to stay and it like hell with us US citizen it like we are the illegal alien and they are the US citizens

Last thing can you please recommend websites, forums groups that can help me in my situation.

I notice about this forum when u post stuff most ppl do not even come back in and respond. I am looking for a constant response back and forth.

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17 views and no answer just WOW!

Oh sorry i realized i post this in the wrong forum

I would like to know can my cheating husband try file divorce on me first can he do this?