DerekJ

On 8/12/2019 at 7:38 PM, Heather&Miguel said:

Okay. I understand the "not using public benefits"portion of all of this. I agree with that as it's our job as sponsors to take care of our beneficiaries. My fiance won't even receive his K1 visa until Oct/Nov and by the time we marry and apply for his green card, we may not get it, according to these new regulations. The credit checks and 250% over poverty level is too much. This excludes (and I'm sure on purpose) those coming here from poorer countries, who also have lower income families that are supporting them. I make enough to support both of us until he can start working legally but not at 250%! This reeks of not only racism but of class-ism as well.

That is exactly the point of all this.

Hello everyone

I got a letter from uscis saying that i did not send the RFE they requested and that my I751 application (had a rough divorce, filed with a waiver) was considered abandoned, and all my residency rights and employment terminated.

It further says that a denial due to abandonment may not be appealed and that i have limited motion rights. It also says that the denial is without prejudice to the filing of a new form I-751 and that I have 30 days or so to reply.

I don’t think that a motion applies to me because i don’t have actual material proof justifying me not sending the RFE on time. I had a rough time and personal issues with travel and money that resulted in this situation, and obviously i didn’t want this to happen.

I've been living in the US for more than 15 years now and the thought of having to leave truly frightens me. Do i have any options at all? Does the no prejudice part of the letter mean that i can refile? And if i do, will my residency be restored/extended until a decision is made? Do I have to pay for everything again?

I'm sorry for my bad grammar. I’m trying the best i can. Thank you all in advance. Any help is greatly appreciated it.

"Without Prejudice" does mean that you can refile. Do so immediately. Don't wait. Not sure about the status of your residency though. You're going to want to clarify that.

If she won't listen to a friend who knows her why would she listen to complete strangers on the internet?

Because she thinks I'm jealous of this guy....we had a relationship previously and are still friends.

I think it is a “Someone please tell her what trouble she can be bringing onto herself by doing this as she will not take my word for it” post.

Yup....that's exactly what it is. Sorry if I was unclear. She needs to hear it from someone other than me.

Hi all,

I need some help. I know a woman (US citizen) who is a bit lonely who has recently met this rather shady, significantly younger man from Jamaica. There is a nearly 20 year age difference. This man is taking her for a ride financially and I can't make her see what's really going on. Recently, he started (with her knowledge and consent) using her address for filing for unemployment benefits and for filing for renewal of his I-765. He does not live at her address. I am very much afraid that this person will lead my friend into trouble/heartbreak. I know she watches this forum so I am hoping some commentary from other members here will dissuade her from what I believe to be a destructive path.

Thanks,

DerekJ

While you should not have hit him (and he certainly shouldn't have pounded you), it sounds like you have a very dangerous situation on your hands. This is not healthy. You need to take steps now to protect yourself and your child. Just about every community has domestic violence shelters. Even if you don't take up residence there, they always have people you can consult with and resources to assist with legal issue. Please avail yourself of the help they can offer.

Derek

You also might want to check out japanesepod101.com. You can get their lessons both as podcast from iTunes or download from the site. Check out their "Survival Phrases" series of lessons. They are very helpful

Visa approved today

Congrats!!!

hello Japan friends, i havent post for awhile and was busy with school and work..after a month of waiting I got 2nd mail from embassy requesting another docs from for the second time.They requested me to send the following:

1. Identity Document

a. Preliminary Interview Form

b. All prior passport and/or an explanation why they are not available

c. Reason the birth certificate was registered more than 6months after the date of birth.

2.Relationship Related Documents

a. The circumtances of initial meeting and on going relationship

Now, me and my fiance all bit confused if do i have to send my whole passport to the embassy or juz a copy. But, before the requested me all these docs I sent them the first doc the requet and this one is the second requested docs. Please vj member whoever had the same experience please share..any advice/help wud be appreciate..And oh im Foreign here in Japan.Thank you so much for the time reading my post

Quitting is nothing compared to trying to get a vacation of any more than a week to come to the US for my fiancee. Last time, Fumie was on the ground here 5 days before she had to be on her way back....and that was after her boss canceled her prior date at virtually the last minute because he needed her to work. I had to fight with the airline to recover half the airfare.

No. Cheating is not a crime. Period. It is fvcked up, but not a crime.

Actually, in some places it is a crime. It's just rarely prosecuted.

Are you saying you would live in the house peacefully while your spouse ran around with other people? I bet living at his home is not what the cheating wife wants, as its infringing on her ability to do what she wants with whomever she wants.

He can give her a 30day notice, I think that would be fair.

The abuse card can be played, so some cautions need to be taken. Maybe he can talk to neighbors (not to air dirty laundry) but in case she does pull something like screaming murder, to have them know what she's capable of.

I would not! but there is the legal aspect of 'who can stay in the house'. Since it is a good practice to have your spouse on a lease or home ownership, the cheater wife can invoque her right to stay in the house and have her husband move out and depending on the couple's money/income condition have the husband pay for the lease or mortgage. It is not an impossible scenario.

If I was in his situation and know the marriage is ending, I would find out what she wants, since the husband has not much saying in the matter of removing her condition, I would facilitate and help her with this process but would ask for repayment of the money spend on the K1 process.

I would try to see this matter with my head and not my hart or anger. Hard to do tho!. However at the end it becomes a business transaction.

ESoll

Best advice seen today. In most states, both parties have equal rights to the marital residence regardless of who is at fault for the divorce. Definitely make this a business transaction, split any joint property you acquired during the marriage. You'll get to keep the majority of what you had before the marriage. By all means, take the high ground. If you make it nasty, it could come back to bite you.

Hi all,

We're thinking of finally tying the knot when I go to visit Fumie in September. In order to prepare, I have downloaded the Single Affidavit For Marriage that I will have to have notarized at the consulate in Fukuoka. Two questions about the form: I presume as I will only be on vacation when we marry that I can use Fumie's address for the "local address" on the form? Secondly, as I was married previously, would I use my ex-wife's maiden name or married name on the form?

Thanks.

Derek

Culture or Marriage should not play a role in a father's love toward his CHILD. That is ridiculous. You were right to not want to marry this person, any good man would want to be part of his child's life regardless of ALL other circumstances.

Jonas

Unfortunately, that is the way it has been in Japan. My fiancee's ex-husband had no responsibility for their son after the divorce. She raised him to adulthood without support of any kind. Things are slowly changing in this regard. Only recently was there a change in the law that allowed wives to be entitled to a portion of the husband's pension after a divorce.

Alright let us paint both candidates in Green : would there be any hesitation to vote for obama-green ?

I would have hesitated if it was an head to head between Obama and H. Clinton but now , please give me a break...

Republicans need to prepare themselves for defeat and actually bring forward for the next election a decent candidate (young , fresh ideas , etc...).

In answer to your question: no. There would be no hesitation to vote for Obama. No sensible person with a lick of sense would vote for the candidate of the party in power after what we have been through over these last 8 years. That is the elephant in the room for America this election. There is still a sizeable segment of our population that would rather poke out their eyes than vote for a black man no matter how much sense his contemplated policies make. This is not something I say lightly but I have listened, watched and it is the only logical conclusion.

I don't care at all about Obama's color, nor do I know anyone who does. I'm voting against him because I disagree with his policies and views. If I agreed with him, I'd have no problem voting for him. I vote for or against the man, not his pigmentation.

Speaking for myself....yes. I would have voted for McCain 2000 but not this year's version. He has very much aligned himself with the faulty policies of the current Administration. Sorry, but I like what Obama has to say and I'm willing to take a shot on the new guy. Yes, the new guy. I think people forget that some of our worst Presidents have had the most experience prior to taking office. It's all about how well you organize the staff you enlist to help you do the job and the judgment you display in taking advantage of that assistance.

Alright let us paint both candidates in Green : would there be any hesitation to vote for obama-green ?

I would have hesitated if it was an head to head between Obama and H. Clinton but now , please give me a break...

Republicans need to prepare themselves for defeat and actually bring forward for the next election a decent candidate (young , fresh ideas , etc...).

In answer to your question: no. There would be no hesitation to vote for Obama. No sensible person with a lick of sense would vote for the candidate of the party in power after what we have been through over these last 8 years. That is the elephant in the room for America this election. There is still a sizeable segment of our population that would rather poke out their eyes than vote for a black man no matter how much sense his contemplated policies make. This is not something I say lightly but I have listened, watched and it is the only logical conclusion.

Divorce laws depend on the state in which you live. As to the status of your spouse with USCIS, it may depend upon the reasons for the divorce. IIRC, you have to remain married a minimum of 2 yrs or the non-USC would be subject to having to go back to the home country. There is the possibility of an exception/waiver in cases of domestic abuse.

Someone correct me if I have misstated something.

hi all,

this is my first post and hope you can help me ; i'm engaged to a us citizen and we are planning to apply for a k-1 visa as it is faster than k-3 visa but as i come from a very conservative family it would be impossible for me to travel with my fiance to USA without marriage, so i was wondering if after applying for a k-1 visa and getting it we can get married here in morocco before i travel with him to USA to get married there...please help me

It's best to make your life plans first then embark on the visa path that matches them. If marriage in Morocco is your plan, then the US Citizen will need to petition for a spouse visa, not a fiance visa.

I don't know whether your religion recognizes a non-legal marriage as a "married" for the purposes you are concerned about. Mine doesn't. Your Consulate is one of the toughest to obtain a visa through. A bona fide marriage may well make it easier.

Solid advice. There is a procedure for whichever route you wish to take. It's a long process, so you might as well be comfortable while you wait.

Didn't we win already 5 years ago? Victory can mean many things when you havent really defined the objectives.

You know the objectives. They are the same as they have been for 5 years. A stable democracy with a government that can protect itself from the outside forces that seek to take it over. But you don't care about that, you only want a political issue to hammer Bush with right?

Victory, victory, victory....That's right, our worth as Americans is dependent upon whether we "win" or not. For some, we're too proud to say, "We f**ked up." News flash: we already have egg on our faces from George's Excellent Adventure. There is no way you can pretend that this was about protecting the Iraqi people. Under normal circumstances, we would be able to get some assistance from the international community in stabilizing what we broke. Unfortunately, we are largely on our own with this one. Nice job.

I am heartbroken for the dad as I can imagine my son who just turned 9.

However, this is another example of why I don't go hunting. I love the taste of wild game but the number of careless hunters out there who do not verify their target before firing is not worth the risk.

Nonsense. The superdelegates don't drink that kool-aid. They get her. They're going to choose Hillary because it was hers to begin with until that johny-come-lately ruined it for her.

Last I checked you had to get people to vote for you before it becomes "yours." As they say in the sports world, "That's why they play the game."

I have a 54 mile round trip to work. With the summer approaching, I'm seriously considering biking it to work. Heck of a way to get back into shape.

Hi all,

Calling your honey looks to get a bit cheaper in some instances:

Overseas calling

i am still confuse which is faster and better...K1 or K3. Is it better to get married outside the US then petition her or take her as a fiance.

I don't think you have to marry outside the US. It's just that your spouse would have to leave the country for the K3 process. Someone correct me if I'm wrong.

C'mon now...EVERYONE knows that leadership ability is directly proportional to the number of times you have been fired upon in a war zone.

Everyone has a past...some more extensive than others. As others have said, jealousy can be very destructive to a relationship. This can be especially so when regular contact with an ex is a necessity (children, finances). The most important thing to realize that you are currently with each other and exes are exes.