Mrs.Proud2010

I met my USC husband a few days after my 21st birthday. Since then we were unseperable!
We met August 11, 2010 and talked about marriage by the 23rd! We made it happened on September 27, 2010 in Seattle with his family ! I believe in destiny, hope, faith, and true love - but the other person n the relationship should also believe this too. It's not gonna work if your then,y be that believes in the relationship.
Don't wait in vain for her to grow up and be mature. She has a lot of growing to do, starting with being a woman of her word.
But please do tell her thank you for all the memories, and for being honest with you.
You will make it through this. Through the pain and hurt. You are strong enough to put your love for her in action and stand by it. ( going to Ukraine, proposing to her to prove your good intentions). You will be strong enough to respect her decision and respect yourself by not lingering on something she ended. You deserve better. You are obviously a person with a lot of love. Make sure that falls on a person who sees it, appreciates it, stands by it no matter what, and cares for it.
Praying for your heart and love,
Been there, done that.

Well, I'm sorry to hear what happened to you and your fiancé.
1. If she has second thoughts. Then give her space. There is no point in pressuring her. She might not know how she feels about the big change. (marriage, commitment, new country, etc). Give her a time frame.
2. How sure are you that what you have is real? If it is for real then, 10 years down the road she will end up with you so don't worry.
As for the already filed petition. I would cancel it or just let it eventually die out by not to responding to it.
Give her an ultimatum, "if your feelings change i will still be here, but if i dont hear your final decision till the end of this month, yes or no, then i am moving forward, and abandon the petition"
You canceling the petition means that you accept and respect her decision and is moving forward (you deserve better). And if she comes back to you a year from now, sincerely sorry for putting you through the pain, and if you believe her intentions, file the petition again. She is loosing out not you so don't beat yourself up for it.
You leaving the petition to die out eventually by t responding to it, is like you keeping your options open to continue the petition once she snaps back into loving you again. (remember you deserve better)
But honestly dude, E-mail her and pour your heart out. But end with telling her that if she is sure about her decision- you will cancel the petition because there is no point. Wait for the time to pass. Then stick to your guns. It's gonna hurt but if she can do this to you now that your not even married think of the things she can do when you are married. She needs to know what she really feels and stand by it.
Don't be sad about it . There are billions of girls in the world. There ought to be one out there that is sure about loving you. You deserve better.
Praying for Blessings and healing for your heart friend.