monab28

I am happy for you too! You deserve it. A lots of luck,and I hope,that everything will be fine.

I am sorry ...transporter! My hands are shaking even now. When he use to yell,thread and call me all names ,my whole body will feel numb,I had no air,and a strong sweat coming from the hair,down to my ears ,instantly. I still have those simptoms,when I think or I see his calls,but with the medication,that I started to take today,I felt all right. The doctor,that I've seen,thinks is a depression and some post traumatic stress,or something like that. He insist ,that I have to see a pshychiatrist. Today,was the first day ,I felt good,for the past 6 months,and I guess,because of the med.I wanted to call him and tell him to go to hell. I forgot to tell you,or maybe I posted,that the day before I left him,he asked me to shut up that moment,or he will make my lips looks like botox. I froze,and he said "if you're thinking to call the police,don't bother,I have been in jail for 5 years". I thought he was bluffing but I went on a site of a county court house and yes,he has 2 criminal records. Battery felony and theft/to deprive. I don't know how serious it is,I am not familiar with the legal terms,it doesn't say if or between what dates ,he was in jail,but it brought me to the point,where I hate him so much,and I never hated any one in my life. Hope I am gona sleep tonight,with all those pills,I need to give my brain a break. Good night,if we can say so...

All your stories,makes me strong and I thank you for that. I have a place to stay for a while,at least. She is a friend of mine,I hate to bother them,she has a 2 year old son,who keep asking"did you cry?". I am laughing and I always tell him that I have something in my eye. He asked me what and now he goes to his mom and ask to have his eyes checked. But that is just a story...Since I moved by her,the 11th of jully,I started to search the internet. I've seen that there is a fee ,about 500$,for the VAWA. Maybe ,I am wrong.I might go to a place,where they protect woman,to ask if they know a lawyer and if they can help with VAWA. I still scared that ,my husband is gona find out. Any ideea,what to do,so he'll give me the EAD card? If I'll loose my patience,I think I'll call the police,I rather not,because I think he'll look for me ,and I will have to move to another state.

I am trying to be strong. He keeps calling me,and when I see his number coming on the screen,I am having panick attacks. I can't breath ,I can swallow,my mouth gets dry,my heart goes crazy and if I will answer,I think I'll have no voice.I have friends,thank God,that I couldn't stay in touch too much,because he was controlling my phone. I was afraid to go on the internet,while in his house,because he might check the history. I asked a friend to do it for me,she went to a lawyer and he said if I can stay until the interview,fine,if not,to leave and not to put my life in danger. That's what I did. I try to show him that evrything is ok,everyone has bad days(all his days are bad) and I put togheter what I could find. He has a black carry on,full with documents. I didn't know when he will come ,so I grab only what I could. I wanted to go with the police,but then he will know. Is it VAWA ,100%,confidential? What if they'll send by mistake a letter there? And can you tell me ,what is the fee to file? Thank you all,so much.

I really belive again,in the fact ,that there are a lot of good people in this world,except for my friends. I went to the doctor today,and is not good. My blood presure was 180/130. He told me to calm down,gave me a pill and let me seat for 20min. He measured it again,it was 190/130. He did an EKG,I have been put on pills,he told me to swallow one,when I pick them from the farmacy. And 0.50'Mg Xanax. How did I come so far? He wants to see me on Wednesday and reffer me to some specialist. You think am I gona be able to file that petition,bymyself? I don't know how much a lawyer can cost,he is holding my EAD card,until I want to meet him,but I am shaking only when I picture his face,so I am not going to.Maybe,he'll give it to my friend and I can start working anywhere. Maybe,I'll go to a charity org,but I am ashemed to walk in to a center and tell them that I need legal asisstance. I have friends,that offer me some financial support,which hopefully I will be able to return. I use to belive that I can do anything by myself. I am not there yet,but I hope the pills will help. Thank you so,so much. God bless you

I thank you all,I am getting a little stronger. I had a nervous breakdown today. I am an greek orthodox,and I baptize a very good frien's daughter. She is orthodox,from Ukraine,just to understand why I couldn't do it togheter with my husband. The main reason will be that he won't do it,regardless,but also in my friend's orthodox church,they asked that the Godmother to be from the mom's side and the Godfather,from the father's side. The moment ,I stepped in the church ,I felt like somebody is protecting me and watching my pain. I started to cry,and did ,until the end. I am starting to loose balance,I almost felt inside and outside the church. Thank you all,God bless you and I will try not to loose hope and faith,I wish to find the strenght to put everything togheter ,but I feel like I need to put myself togheter first.

I will. You are the first one,who told me to do that,beside my friends and my lawyer. I am very emotional already,I don't want to loose my sanity along the way,but I will try. He called me yesterday,I am recording every conversation since I left,on Monday. He yelled,ask me to listen and not to speak ,because I am having troubles with english(keep saying that about the eastern european),he started to extend the word and speak in a manner that will scare you,even if you are not next to him. And the main thing,he told me is that he doesn't want a divorce. I can 't talk to him,every time I answer,I am not myself,I am shaking ,maybe my english is not at the best,but is very good,I am just loosing it when I am talking to him.

You already decided that you will not go back to him, as GC is not worth it, so this is not really a question, is it?

Yes, there are plenty of people who were in your situation.

You can report your husband's behavior to police and may be able to get a restraining order on him.

You certainly can ask police to accompany you to your former home to pick up your belongings. You certainly can divorce him. You can go to your interview with USCIS and tell them all you know - they will still deny your AOS, but they will know what a jerk he is. You would risk running into your husband there, of course... is it worth it? If not, just send them a letter.

So what is your question? How to stay in the US despite splitting from your husband? Get a lawyer, I doubt anyone here can help you.

I belive that no one here,can help me,but i had to talk to people,to calm down.I can't tell my family ,until i decide to go home,because they will suffer even more than me,so i needed to keep myself busy .He called me ,yesterday,about 5 times,i picked up eventually,and he said ,he has my work permit ,to come home and start all over again.I don't think i can do that,because i don't know his intentions,especially now,after i left the apartment. I do belive ,people change,but he was the sweetest guy and changed for worse.I gave him a lot of opportunities to come back to his senses,but i guess,he didn't belive ,that i will leave. Thank you all for writing,i'll pick up the pieces and go on with my life.

Vanessa,maybe i am too tired and upset and i don't express myself ,in a right way or is not what i am trying to say. I'll start again,just because ,i am on sleeping pills,but they don't help.I didn't say ,that i am entitled to a GC,never ,not on this forum ,not to anybody else.He doesn't want to divorce me,but he told me ,he might come to the interview(don't have a date,yet),if the appointment is not too early.He is playing games with my mind,and that takes out the anger and frustration. I didn't want to sit around and listen to this anymore,yelling ,telling me that if he wants ,i will have papers,if not ,i won't.He didn't understand that for me this is nothing.I've been all over the world,when i said ,i was in Australia ,i wasn't kidding . US,is not the only country that you can have a good life in.But now,i want your advice in this:i left him in the middle of the process. They sent me the EAD,he said ,he will give it to my friend(will see).And now,should i go back to him ,and allow him to wipe the floor with me ,before the interview or i can try on my own.Is a simple question,i have no fear of beeing send home.I have a home!

and Vanessa& Tony,i joined this forum,not to gain sympathy,but to see if someone else ,faced a similar situation. I act upset and irrationally ,maybe...how would you act,if you will leave your partner ,after he threatened to hit me and telling me ,he has no fear of the law ? I left stuff in the house ,i have few things that i managed to trow in a suitcase and i almost fainted taking the stairs down to my friend's car ,because i was afraid that he will come(i would have called the police anyway). No GC,no GC,so what? i didn't marry him for that,but he has to be reported in a way,i don't know where,maybe police or i don't know.That was what i was looking ,here ,not to tell me to go home.And ,i just decided that ,i want to live in Australia(been there)!

Oh,i didn't see your other post...he has every right to call me sterile???Are you a woman or a man??Either way,i think ,you should meet with my husband.Did you hear what i said???I had cervical cancer and i am fine now,and i am not sterile and when you know that someone,has been trough cancer ,you don't use words like this. Freedom of speech,and the speech has to be yelled at me,and i had to apologize that i am not getting pregnant???What kind of education you have,what kind of parents,come on people,don't play with the words.if you think is fine to call your wife or husband like this,then you must be on heavy drugs.

I'm sorry but I agree with the others. Your only way is AOS through him, or VAWA through abuse and I don't think you qualify. He's a bad guy sure, but that doesn't mean you've been abused and you shouldn't be saying you should just hang around waiting to be hit just so you CAN try to claim abuse... that's fraud.

Can I ask why you don't just go back to your home country? You've only been here less than a year, you haven't been working (so how are you planning on supporting yourself?) and basically to me, if I was in the same position I would go home. Obviously we're different people but as you said, a GC isn't worth your dignity.

Who said ,i've been here for a year?I married him last year,September 2010,i was on legal status and i can go home,of course,but i don't want him to escape unpunished.I asked ,if my case is thin,should i go back to him and wait to be hit???It was a question ,that doesn't require an answer,because ,i am not going back to him,but i want to go and ask the immigration officer ,how they take a decision ,if i entered the marriage in good faith and i have to be threatened every day,that if i don't do certain things,he'll call them and deport me?? And ,to your other question ,i can answer that,i left him on Monday,the 10th and he said that my work permit is waiting for me.I don't need advice to go to my country,or you to tell me that we are different people.Of course we are,but he can't use me ,abuse me and trow me away,and move on to the next wife. I don't care at this point if i can get a green card,but i am for sure going to a lawyer. I'll let you know ,if i'll feel better,because ,this is where you people are wrong.You think a punch in the face,let's say ,is more painful, than a mentally abuse??The medication that i am taking ,made me a vegetable .No,no,i have to show the immigration ,all the evidences and they have to take a look at myself,a good one,or i will fight until the day i'll dye to let the world know about the treatment i got in Americaaaaaaaaaaaa!

I am not very,very concerned about the battery felony,or the theft/to deprive(i don't know what he did,and when). What i am concerned is that he told me ,he is not afraid to go to jail ,police coming over,because i will be laying on the floor if i would do that.And ,before you marry someone,you have to say every major thing about your past,i found out ,by mistake ,in one of his mad moments.If he is laying about this,and he forgot to tell me,that he had three wife ,not 2,before me,what other secrets will i find? is not even that,right now,i hate him,and i am scared to live in the same apartment with him. His behavior ,has changed 360 degrees,but i guess this is his real personality. And i started to record him,with some of the threats and if i go back home ,i will deffenetly ,won't make it out mental and physical .I am just lost,and i know one thing:not going back,but i'll try to go to the police,call him from there,with them as witnesses and i'll see if i can do something. he has no right to call me sterile ,useless woman,because i didn't get pregnant ,i had cervical cancer in 2005,and i am a survivor and i will survive to this one too,i will fight him and win everything.Thank God,that i couldn't get pregnant! God is good,and i am a good person and for what i suffer now,i think good things will come to me in the future.Thank you for your reply,i need to talk to people,that been trough this,i am talking with my friends,but they are at work. Tomorrow,i will stand up from bed and i will try to stop the medication and go on!

I have to agree something is not passing the smell test here. You mentioned a child. They should be the most important factor here. Find out what's going on or run for the hills. JMO

i like the quote,i am crying,i swear. I am also very emotionally,because i decided to leave my husband ,it took me long time and i endured a lot of things,hoping every time,that it was a faze . I don't know what i'll do with my green card process,but right know ,i don't even care. Is an ending and a beginning.

i keep writing,because i am in bed,i am on Valium and Xanax(by prescription) and is sad to see how many of us,had to go trough hell and hopefully made it back ,because of some human garbage . I keep checking ,to see if someone ,went trough the same thing,it can be only me !! I hope,that one day,will have a better and easier life and those losers ,that we are married or were with,will get what they deserve.

and btw,a green card is not worth my dignity and pain. I am not scared at all going to the USCIS,by myself and if they don't see ,what is very obvious and if they don't care about a woman ,that has to take heavy medication and leave in fear,then fine,maybe i will contact some international human rights organization,to let them know ,that a guy with 3 criminal records is a good citizen and i don't want to be a part of this population.

Then,maybe i should go back to him,and wait to be hit. The fact that i am scared and he was hiding his criminal record,doesn't count.I just hope and pray,it was for abusing ,one of his former 3 wife,that he had. That my blood pressure was 210/130,the night i left him and they didn't want to release me from the hospital,until my pulse went to normal,which was 4 am? That they performed a CT and i have a lesion on the brain,which the doctor said is due to a tremendous stress ? I am not trying to make a case,but i don't think a bruise ,will make anyone feel that i am credible.

And to be 100% ,accurate,he doesn't drink nor he use to come drunk and i don't think he is using any drugs.Is just ,his behavior is very scary,without any reasons from my side.I would talk as less possible ,so he won't snap at me. And the most thing i am scared off,is that i didn't really know ,who am i leaving with. Criminal record for me is something scary,i didn't even receive a fine ,in my whole life,and i am 41 years old. I don't think i have to leave in fear ,just to get a green card.Maybe,i won't be even able to use anything ,anymore,i am just in bed and have no power to do anything and i feel very lost.

i have a similar situation here.

09/10/2010 got married

05/05/2011 apply for I-130,I-485,I-765

06/21/2011 biometrics

07/12/2011 EAD ordered

I left my husband ,on july 11th. I am staying by a friend.He abused me mentally to the point,where i just leave on XANAX ans Valium(by prescription).

I don't have an interview date,yet,but this is over.I am meeting with a lawyer ,tomorrow evening,to see what can i do on my own.

I don't care if i stay in the US or go back to my country,i just need to know if there is a chance and what do i need to do,if the interview date comes? Go by myself,file a WAVA,get a divorce?

he told me ,if i call the police,he'll take care of me,when he gets out. I swear on my life ,on God ,that i didn't know he has a criminal record,one is for felony battery(i don't know how bad is it)and the other one is theft/to deprive(not very sure about the meaning). On every paper we filled for the USCIS,he stated ,he has no criminal record.I can stay by a friend for a while,hope i will start working. I want to divorce him and not see him again.I don't know if i am doing the right thing,but i have 2 reasons:1.i hate to harm people,even if they harm me,i would like to but i don't have the courage .2.if he goes to jail,am i gona leave in fear for the rest of my life?

Hello everyone.I am new here,but i've read some of the posts,and if any of you could help me with an advice,i will truly appreciate .I am going to see a lawyer on Monday,but i can't stop crying and maybe there is things that some of you know and will make me understand is i did the right thing.I am originaly from Romania,came in the US,about 3 years ago,in B2 visa.i was in and out,and then i met my husband and got married on September 10th,2010.We filled for I-130,I-765,I-465,in may ,somewhere at the beginning .I had my biometrics done and i have seen on the USCIS ,that they sent my EAD card,2days ago.On Monday ,the 10th i left the apartment ,i use to leave with my husband and i have no intention of returning to him. i will try to tell you in few words,that we met ,we started to go out,we use to talk and sip coffee for at least 2 hours.I was in legal status ,and when i told him that i will return for a while to Romania,he asked me to marry him.He was the sweetest ,polite ,calm person i've seen ,he would treat me like a special person. i had a first husband,that i was divorced for a year,back then. I don't know if i loved him so much or was the way he was acting around me ,that made me say"yes". i moved in with him ,like a week prior to the marriage. Everything went all right ,until around Christmas time. Since then ,i am leaving a night mare. He started to treat me like i was a maid,nothing of what i said or did,was right,i don't drive,so i had to go with him ,whenever he had time,to shop for everything that i needed.I had a cervical cancer in 2005,the doctor said i can still have children but he calls me a sterile ,although ,i don't think he wants any children. I asked him to take me to a medical appointment and he said he has to meet up with his accounting to do the taxes.He was home 7 hours latter,with a fresh tatoo,and he said is not my bussiness,he is the one working,and he can do whatever he wants with the moneyHe started to curse all the eastern European people,telling me that we think we are above everybody,but i have to please him ,in order to live in this country or go back to the greatest Europe.Then he will apologize ,days latter,telling me that he had co-workers from Hungary that made him upset. Since december 2010,until this day,he never give me a penny to spend ,without him being next to me ,to approve the grocery,shampoo,e.t.c. Many,many more other staff,i didn't need to drive ,i didn't a manicure ,pedicure,i was just staying in the house,and maybe we went to 3 dinners and 2 lunches. His father passed away a month and a half ago,i asked him if he is gonna attend the funeral,he said they had no relationship,ever. Now he started to cry,when i told him that is over and told me ,that he can loose 2 people,in a such short time.I asked who was the other person,he told me ,his father.People...he was working the day of the funeral!!! Prior to the day i left,i asked him why is he doing this to me ,what changed him and i asked him if he is seeing someone.I thought ,i will never make it out of the apartment,alive. He claimed he was 5 years in prison and i can call 911,but he'll survive and my hands were numb. i said that i was sorry for making such a presumption(that he had someone else),and i apologize and tried to calm him down,until he kind of did.The next day ,i called a friend,she came and pick me up,and i am staying by her.I called him and told him that i am not coming back and where do i go from here? I think,we'll have the interview in less then 2 months,but i can't stay in the same house with him,and i don't know if he means that or not,but he kept saying he'll show up ,if the appointment is not too early.I don't know what changed him so much,or how he hided his personality,but for sure there is something wrong with him. i forgot to mention that he had 3 wife ,prior to me,when he file for the I-130 ,he only wrote 2 marriages and i went on a site that you can pay ,like 19$ and they show if someone has a criminal record.He had a felony battery and theft/to deprive ,whatever that means. I don't know who he is anymore,don't want to be with him,and i need an advice,how can i do this by myself.I thank in advance,whoever is gonna take time to read my post ,i know is long and i still didn't put myself together and tell you everything.I called him and told him to bring my EAD,or i will go to the police for mail fraud.He said ,he'll bring it to my friend today.He knows i went to see a friend ,in New York. I am scared.