Lottie

Hi Guys

I wonder if anybody can be of any help?

I got my packet 3 on 6th April, it was sent a few days before this I believe.

A week later there was a death in my family, and a lot of upheaval and change. Because of this, we neglected the visa to sort out funerals and wills and houses and all sorts of other things. Then I wanted to stay at my mothers house for a while to keep her company and get her back to normality, then my fiance switched jobs and had a bit of an upheaval there too.. basically we haven't sent back the packet 3 forms yet.

Now things are settled, he is happy in his new job and the estate has been dealt with, my mother urging me to carry on and get moving over there. But I am ever so worried that we left it too long and the visa has expired. I'm also not sure if we even have the full packet anymore, there has been so much moving around and paperwork everywhere... it's a bit of a mess.

I considered getting in touch with the embassy and telling them we never got the paperwork - or just telling them the truth.. I just don't know what's for the best.

I want to be over there with my fiance ASAP, I miss him so much and the past few months have been so traumatic... but have we left it too long??

Lottie x

Treat them as if they're six year olds. When my fiance phoned up to ask if they had our RFE the woman he spoke to say they 'maybe had' and that he should send it again 'just in case'. He was worried we would miss the deadline on the RFE because we had been waiting so long to hear if they had got it, she waved the deadline away as meaningless. Loads of people have RFE's for things they've already sent. All you can do is resend the passport photocopy, send the evidence of meeting again and perhaps include a couple more things.

If it helps, I only sent a copy of the page in my passport with US stamps on, 2 photos of us together and some boarding pass stubs as evidence we met. I did send some envelopes from letters postmarked over the past couple of years with both of our addresses on (I sent ones with return address on front and postmarks clear) and a screenshot of my email inbox (with emails pretty much every day from my fiance for the past 4 years!), but I don't think this evidence of an ongoing relationship is needed until your interview.

I remember that thread too. The gentleman was awfully rude but they had messed him about so bloody much!!!

I don't think they even know your K1 status when you are at the POE for a visit, btw. I went a few weeks ago through Newark. Very friendly guy. Asked my purpose of travel (vacation) stamped, photo, prints, 'have a good vacation Lottie'.

If they say 'what is your reason for travel' just say 'vacation' (true). The less details you give the less they have to pick on. In my opinion so long as you tell the truth and embelish as little as possible there shouldn't be a problem (unless you've spent too much time in the US in the past 12 months).

Your answer seems about right. I've heard the less detail you give, the less chance of it looking suss. I wrote something like 'met online in 2002, met in person in 2005' and that's it.

There's nothing wrong with meeting online, if they dig deeper with us they'll find we met playing an online video game, I'd rather admit to a chatroom relationship than tell strangers we played Everquest together!!!!

Don't worry about it. He's from the UK, it's not like many people here are desperate enough to marry just to get over there .

Thanks for posting this, you've put my mind at rest a little. I'm flying to the States next week and I'm soooo nervous about PoE.

We had an RFE because we sent a short form birth certificate for my fiance (I told him 20 times it was the wrong kind but he swore it has been used for everything he's ever done, military, schools, passport etcetc). We got another one after a lot of messing around, and then they didn't get our first RFE, my fiance called them and we sent it again, 3 days after they got it we got NOA2.

It seems that generally you get approved quickly after they get your RFE.

Three days after they told us they got it We got our NOA2 today!

Don't worry

We got a fast response (though not the one we wanted!) back too. Having just sent off our RFE we're hoping that our NOA2 will come through as fast as our RFE did! *fingers crossed*

RFE's are scary but they're not so bad. They didn't like my fiance's birth certificate so we have had to track down a new copy. Don't worry about it .

I have just booked a ticket to fly out to the States for 2 weeks as a supprise for my fiance's birthday.

However, we are in the process of the K1 visa.

I have never overstayed on the VWP, and it will be 11 months since my last entry when I arrive, so I am definately covered by the VWP.

Will there be a problem with me getting through checks because of my impending visa?

At the time I won't have a job, and live with my parents, so it's hard to provide proof of intent to return other than our obvious efforts to do things 'by the book' by applying for the K-1 visa.

Our visa is at a standstill at the moment while we wait on a copy of my fiance's birth certificate. There was a problem with obtaining it but we expect to have it sent off to NSC within the next 2 weeks. The flight is booked for 21st March; from Birmingham UK to Newark and then on to Oregon (though I've allowed a good 7 hours between flights in case of complications!). I do have a return ticket.

I'm just worrying now about being turned away!!!