RDV

She has left me

Wish you best of luck there. Actually I've been in a similar frustration such as yours (not quite the same situation) so I feel your pain. I had my first K-1 approved in 2000 but that woman freaked out from the long distance and waiting, and married some local guy.

Thank you,

If people would see each other more often it would not be so difficult to be faraway, just time and a distance can kill feelings.

But I decided that I will do all to be with her and in any case I will be able to say I DID\MADE ALL!

The liability for a co-sponsor could be millions of dollars. In a nutshell, I would not co-sponsor for my own child's fiance. It's one thing for an immigrant to become a public charge an absolutely destroy the life of the petitioner forever due to say a medical injury, etc that could cost hundreds of thousands of dollars. It is another thing to destroy the life of a co-sponsor that has absolutely no ties to the relationship. I.e. just find a friend to co-sponsor. Really??? Like I said, I wouldn't even think about co-sponsoring even a family member of mine... child, brother, sister, etc. This idea of cosponsoring can absolutely wipe out innocent sponsors and destroy relationships forever. I can't believe people don't understand the full extent of this idea of co-sponsoring. The govt simply should not even allow it.

That is why her parents don't want to be sponsors, they understand all responsibilities!

I see there is only one hope that she does not have to work for years to be able to start the K1 visa process.

I will be happy if it is enough to work about a year

And I would go to live in other countries with her, I even asked her to move to Russia and Canada, but she is not willing to leave the US at all.

And she really stressed and scareod about all responsibilities what will be on her shoulders.

Please tell me, is it realy so responsible to have an immigrant fiance\husband?

And I wish I could take all the responsibilities, I don't want to depend on her.

Ugh just she is a young girl who grown in plenty, it is not difficult to understand her worries.

And I am sure if I would send money to her she would not leave me with my money.

I trust her 100%, but I see that she is very very tired to wait for years and me too, and I worry what if I waste my life time, I really love her and it hurts when she goes to clubs etc because she is atractive and than longer I am away than more chances that she will find another guy.

I asked her to marry me about 3 years ago, she said we can do that only when she is done with her education and that is right!

I hope we can start the process in 2 years, one year to be done with her education and 6 months for work and then about 6 months for the K1 process.

Thank you JimVaPhuong, all what you have written is logical, I really hope that 90 days of work will be enought, that is even okay, but to wait for years is too much. Im not sure my fiance can wait for so long especially because of her girl friends

Time will show everything

Thank you guys, now I see that we still have a chance.

Also I sent an email to US embassy with my problem, soon we will know what they will say.

RDV - your fiance plans to find work does she not? - there really is no 3-year work rule. I'm assuming she is young (living with parents) so if/when she does find work, that should work as long as it is over the minimum required. Also - her parents are unable/unwilling to co-sponsor?

She is 26 and of course she is going to get a job after college, in a year.

And her family is not poor, her father is a lawyer.

Of course her family is able to be my co-sponsor, but they don't want to I guess they don't believe in me because I don't have appropriate education for America.

That is why we try to find a way to be together.

Hello everybody,

I and my fiance have been being together for 5 years,

I live in Russia and she lives in USA, she is a citizen. We see each other 1-2 times a year for a month, but now it is more difficult because we are busy.

She will finish her education next year and we want to marry, but we don't have a co-sponsor and she has never worked and she lives with her parents, she has nothing except her car and dog, so those things mean we can't start a process for a K-1 visa, right?

But I have a business in Russia and can support us. She does not want to live in Russia. Can I be my own sponsor?

Or are we in an impasse?

Is it possible to do anything to be together, to marry? Or we have to wait for 3 more years when she has a work and pays taxes and saves money!?!

We are in despair!