rylin

we met sept. 2010 then chatted for almost 2 months after that he decided to visit me here in davao for a week
then when he got here we decided to be more than friends and continued our relationship.and in the month of january he decided to come back here and i was surprised coz while we had our dinner date he proposed to me and of course i said yessssss.. then we spent together 24/7 in two weeks...then when he flew back home thats the time we filed our papers...wohoooo
yes our lovestory was fast but geeee loving someone is not about counting the days or months or years of knowing or being with them.its about what you feel and how he/she makes you feel sooo good,so comfortable about yourself! finding someone whom you can say your betterhalf! thats how i felt when i met ryan so no wonder why i said yes without any doubt!

let me share my opinion about this.. coz me and my fiance had already discussed this.lol
i am a filipina (hardheaded) lol and my fiance is an american (and a hard headed too) lol hehehe..
but what i like about our relationship is we talked and share everything that goes to our mind even if sometimes it will lead us to disagreement coz we dont drop the issue or just keep it in ourselves. we listen,argue,understand and come up with a solution that will be fair to the both of us..
so like for me i explained to ryan that helping our parents is a way of appreciation to our parents for giving us life and oppurtunity to live in this beautiful world.its one of the culture of the filipino(a) to help their parents at all cost.which some or most of the americans dont understand, coz their culture is different from us.
so what i did i told my fiance my plans and said that it is what it is u cant take it away from me i must help my parents,if the time comes that i will be able to get a job im going to help them but it doesnt mean that ill be sending them monthly pension, nope it wont be like that. we come up with a plan which is fair and my fiance agreed with it and that is we will give my parents 2 gifts...
1.) HOUSE =we are going to help them to have a nice and a comfortable house to live in.
2.) BUSINESS = we are going to give them some money for business and they shouLd work on it to make that business profitable where they can get all there daily expenses...and not expect that whenever they need they'll just call us and tell us we need money and there you go we wil be like an atm machine and thats not fun at all and we dont like it.
so a business that is profitable will make us feel good that our money is not wasted and my parents are helping us too and they still have their pride coz they dont just wait for our help they are the one who will work on it.so if the busines will work im sure it will, then good for them coz all the benefits of that business will go to them.
i already discussed it to my parents too, that this what will happen and never to expect and think that my husband to be is rich.. plus im not going to the US for just a vacation and rob all the banks there to send them money lol i am going there to be with the person whom i love so dearly and start a family of our own live a happy married life..
my parents understand and agreed to me..which is good and a relief in my part. so i think its fair to the both sides..
ohh plus i think
its more nice if the filipina will be the one to tell the parents and explained to them this things rather than let your fiance tell them this. coz it will be much nicer, more respectful and the pride of your parents wont be step on...
so me and my fiance are done discussing about this and i know in the near future we wont have this drama anymore.lol
its just a matter of compromising and trying to work things together! a WE and not I..
HAVE A NICE DAY EVERYONE!

let me share my opinion about this.. coz me and my fiance had already discussed this.lol
i am a filipina (hardheaded) lol and my fiance is an american (and a hard headed too) lol hehehe..
but what i like about our relationship is we talked and share everything that goes to our mind even if sometimes it will lead us to disagreement coz we dont drop the issue or just keep it in ourselves. we listen,argue,understand and come up with a solution that will be fair to the both of us..
so like for me i explained to ryan that helping our parents is a way of appreciation to our parents for giving us life and oppurtunity to live in this beautiful world.its one of the culture of the filipino(a) to help their parents at all cost.which some or most of the americans dont understand, coz their culture is different from us.
so what i did i told my fiance my plans and said that it is what it is u cant take it away from me i must help my parents,if the time comes that i will be able to get a job im going to help them but it doesnt mean that ill be sending them monthly pension, nope it wont be like that. we come up with a plan which is fair and my fiance agreed with it and that is we will give my parents 2 gifts...
1.) HOUSE =we are going to help them to have a nice and a comfortable house to live in.
2.) BUSINESS = we are going to give them some money for business and they shouLd work on it to make that business profitable where they can get all there daily expenses...and not expect that whenever they need they'll just call us and tell us we need money and there you go we wil be like an atm machine and thats not fun at all and we dont like it.
so a business that is profitable will make us feel good that our money is not wasted and my parents are helping us too and they still have their pride coz they dont just wait for our help they are the one who will work on it.so if the busines will work im sure it will, then good for them coz all the benefits of that business will go to them.
i already discussed it to my parents too, that this what will happen and never to expect and think that my husband to be is rich.. plus im not going to the US for just a vacation and rob all the banks there to send them money lol i am going there to be with the person whom i love so dearly and start a family of our own live a happy married life..
my parents understand and agreed to me..which is good and a relief in my part. so i think its fair to the both sides..
ohh plus i think
its more nice if the filipina will be the one to tell the parents and explained to them this things rather than let your fiance tell them this. coz it will be much nicer, more respectful and the pride of your parents wont be step on...
so me and my fiance are done discussing about this and i know in the near future we wont have this drama anymore.lol
its just a matter of compromising and trying to work things together! a WE and not I..
HAVE A NICE DAY EVERYONE!