chaz3414

I am getting a divorce and I am worried my X will try to collect from me on the 864. I have heard that it is very hard to enforce this. Does anyone know what I should expect. Should I be worried. Also my income is only a couple of hundred dollars over the 864 amount. Thanks.

Does anyone have any ideas to insure my wife does not get her 10 year visa. PLEASE HELP!!!!

My Chinese wife has not made me happy. I am convinced there is no future with her. Is there anyone out there who has divorced their wife before their 10 year green card and what were the consequences. Additionally, my wife does not want to grant a divorce thinking it will be a problem for her to get 10 year green card after divorce. Any info would be greatly appreciated. I am getting mixed info on form 864? Please give me your opinion. Thanks, chaz3414

I plan to divorce my chinese wife who only has her initial green card and is not due for her 10 year card until November, although she can apply sooner than that. My question is can my wife at the divorce proceedings submit form 864 to help her get support from me. I am on disability and that would be rough for me to handle. She is a real mean and manipulative woman. Someone out there must experience what I have. Nice and good to me before green card and then turning into a witch. She goes on these chinese forums where the american chinese american woman share ways to beat the system. I will not support her 10 year green card. Please let me know if you have any knowledge of my question. Thanks!

I agree with the person above who said let her file all the false reports she wants about abuse. If there hasn't been one single call to the police ro shred of evidence she doesn't have a leg to stand on. Yes I think it will be a difficult and trying time for you emotionally. I think you need to visit a family lawyer and find out how to file for separation/divorce in your state. If she only starts filing abuse claims once you've served her with divorce papers - the authorities will see through that verfy quickly

The support issues and living arrangements can be worked out in court - there are legal services available for those with limited funds (both you and your wife).

I wish you luck - if you currently rent - can you let your lease run out and do not renew it? Move elsewhere by yourself (after you've filed for divorce) and don't allow her to come with you - she cannot force her way into your new house/apartment without your permission.

Thanks for your help in this matter. There are many complications. Since she has been in this country, (July 2009) I have paid for everything and she has never made a purchase by herself. She does not drive although I have been trying to teach her for a year. She simply does not know how to drive and makes constant mistakes when I go out with her to let her learn. If she jumpls a curb or does not obey a traffic light I correct her, sometimes I am impatient with her constant repetive mistakes and she yells at me because my voice is not pleasant when I correct her. I am sure if I file for a divorce I will still have to support her by paying rent, food, utilities, internet, etc. I will not be able to avoid her because she does not drive. Also everything I own is in the apartment we now rent. I signed a lease April 1. How do I seek protection from the court from her claiming abuse if I have to live with her after I file. If I find a place to stay she still needs daily rides to her school classes ESL and food. Also her son needs a ride to church. I just do not know how I can separate from her with all these facts. To further comlicate thigs I have no place to go and stay. My bed, clothes are with her. It is such a mess and i feel like I am drowning.

thanks

Whoever signed the affidvait of support HAS and must by law support her antill she either becomes a USC or death. If you signed the affidavit then im just wondering how you are suddenly worried about not being able to support her as the government ask you to meet requirements in order to avoid this..eg, you must make enough above the poverty line they state (cant remember what this amount was) and a bunch of other things. If you signed and didnt meet these requirements they wouldnt have approved you.

Another things is, yes she can apply to lift the conditions by herself but she needs a substantial amount of evidence to prove the marriage was in good faith. If it was then chances are she will get her 10 yr green card. Its unfair of you to want to prevent her from doing this out of what seems like, bitterness.

I would just file for divorce, go your seperate ways and let her deal with the rest. Your concern now should be that you dnt want to be with her. You have control over that and can do something about it. The rest shouldt matter. What will be will be

Thanks for your reply. She was such a sweet girl before she came to the USA and she was turning into a controlling person before we got married but I ignored things feeling she would come around after we married. She just got worse and started a big ongoing fight with her son about his school. He is on the honor roll but to her it is not good enough. As far as meeting requirements of 864, I did. But, after we married I bought a new car and spent more money than I should have supporting three people with rent and car payments and all the other things. If I had to fill out an 864 today, I would not qualify. My big question is that I am on Disability and can they take my benefits away to pay for her and frankly I am very depressed as to the position I am in. I just need some good information that will help my stress. She is from China and seems to have her own forum of Chinese girls to give her every angle and advice.

She promised me she would take 2 years to get used to the USA and then find work. I have driven her to school every day for almost two years and all she has are plans to go to more school. School is ESL and she takes an accounting class at a local college which will lead nowhere. She was an accountant in China and has no plans to find a job. She wants to get a Master's degree and she still is learning English. AT any rate according to her plan she will be in school for at least 5 or 6 years from the time I married her. That is not what we agreed upon. The real problem is her treatment towards me demanding I behave a certain way and it is awful. So I am looking at supporting her for another 3 years and then her son will be of college age. She talks down to me and makes me feel like sh-t. I feel like a big rope is around my neck and the weight is unbearable. How can I live with her if I file for divorce. I am despondent over all of this.

Most of the issues you have raised have to do with family law. I would suggest you file for divorce if you are in misery being with her and allow a judge to decide what do do in regards to the property/living arrangements.

She can file for a removal of conditions without being married to you based on a marriage in good faith. She would have to show that she entered the marriage with the intent to remain with you as a wife and things did not work out. She would not have to file any claim of abuse to remove conditions.

The I-864 is a contract between you and the government not you and her. If she were to obtain means tested benefits the Government could sue you to repay them and note, if you have nothing they can take nothing. In no way does it obligate you to provide her with housing, food, a car, or anything else, that is for the family court to decide.

Thanks, for your reply.

I have a situation that is not good. I currently live with my K1 wife and her son and she has her first green card. The nest step is for her to file for 10 year card. I am 64 and she is 42. I have not been happy with her since we married. I am on a fixed income and am on disability. I would love to move away but I can't afford to pay rent for another place. Every day I am with her it is agony. She has revealed to me she knows all the ways to get her 10 year card including claiming abuse. She also says that if we divorce I must support her based on the form 864. The problem is that if I am forced to support her and give her my car (she has not passed her driver's test yet)I will not have enough money to live on. Second big problem is I have nowhere to go. I have no family or friends to turn to. I thought If I simply do not sign her 10 year card application she could not get the green card but I am learning there are many ways around that. HELP ME IF YOU CAN!