I think the biggest surprise is that it has taken you this long to figure it out. Cut your losses buddy. Sounds like you've been depressed from this for a long time.
Just a point of clarifcation:
Intent to marry is not the issue. Intent to *immigrate* at the point of entry is the issue, and intent to marry is relevant insofar as it relates to intent to immigrate. Time elapsed is relevant insofar as it appears to establish intent to immigrate, but it's just a guideline and can't be given too much weight.
E.g., I know plenty of international couples who met while in grad school. They didn't cancel their student visas and run home to wait out a spousal visa process once they got engaged. As they were legitimately using their student visas (properly enrolled, etc), they just adjusted status based on their marriage. Why? Because they didn't use the student visa to immigrate or with immigrant intent. They used it to go to school; then they fell in love, got married, and then decided to immigrate. And that is completely fine by the U.S. government.
So the issue isn't the marriage. It's whether the marriage itself looks like evidence of intent to immigrate. Here, the worry would be that it really looks like you had both -- intent to marry and to stay. So the CR-1 is likely the route with the least hassle. But it is not fraud to enter without immigrant intent, marry, and then decide to stay. It's just difficult to prove that you didn't have intent, and the burden of proof is on the applicant.
I don't want to sound harsh here, but no one on here wants to be away from their fiance(e), or spouse for that long, but we are doing it because it's the process that we're required to follow, and we want to be with our loved one forever when the time comes. If the two of you love each other as much as you say you do, then 3 months, 6 months, or a year is not going to matter. For you to say that it is too long to be away from your true love, implies that because the vast majority of us are away from our loved ones for that long that we must NOT have true love? Which is a ridiculous statement to make.
Sorry, but I have been apart from my "true love" for over 7 months and I promise you I love her every bit as much as you love your husband.
Congratulations on your marriage!
(And yes I'm doing a bit of venting here!)
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