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I really appreciate everyone who took the effort to reply. I have learned a lot, even though the opinions were extremely varied....... Since there is even a CHANCE or raising red flags, i will not be considering possible multiple K1's.

Thanks again and best to all.

I agree with everyone else! It's not a game! Quite frankly, you need to decide what you want to do and commit to it. I sense a lot of ambiguity in your relationship and so will the CO. Best of luck but you need to be firm with respect to your intentions/plan.

how did you and "everyone else" think i am playing a game? please read all of my posts before you make that kind of judgment call........ ako seryoso

The k-1 is meant for fiance... you file a letter of intent to marry. You can always file and ask for an extension to marry under the k-1 once arriving. Getting a third k-1 is hard. Please also note Philippines does NOT have divorce. Many Filipinos and Filipinas will ONLY marry in the Philippines for love. Also, because of the no divorce ruling in the Philippines, they consider marriage to be forever. it is a lifelong commitment through better and worse. what i see in your post is your concern for you. You need to look at yourself. Please note her sister has to have a co-sponser for immigration if she does not meet the guidelines for income. the fact her sister has not brought her over is bothering. You need to ask why her sister has not yet sponsored her. Also, how close do you live to her sister and family. the closer to family you live here in the states, the better things will go. I suggest finding a Filipino community in your area if there are no family members or heavily consider moving to where her sister

You have not stated whether she is a city girl or a province girl. this WILL make a difference. A proviince girl can live anywhere. A city girl will have a hard time in the country. Also note, Filipinos are EXTREMELY social by nature. Expect your house to always have people or be going somewhere. Learn romantic tagalog. http://tagaloglang.com/Romantic-Tagalog/

There are certain phrases a filipina will use. these phrases are very very very telling of a girl. And if she is uttering certain phrases, She is extremely serious. She will not want to "try it out". If you are already talking marriage, she does NOT want a "try it out" over here. Sit down and examine your heart, examine what she is saying. if she is using the words, mahal, innibig, Mamamatay ako kung wala ka., Hindi kita pababayaan., Ikaw ang lahat sa akin., Gusto kitang makasama habambuhay., Palagi kitang iniisip.Gusto kitang makasama.Hihintayin kita.Ikaw ang lahat sa akin, Gusto kitang pakasalan..... things like this, she3 is extremely extremely serious. If her heart she is married to you. If you have met her parents, her father mainly, and he has blessed you dating. you only have two choices. she is waiting until you are ready to marry, but she will not wait forever. Filipinos are also people of action. What they say, they will do. do not say it if you do not plan on doing it.

If her father accepts you and blesses you to date his daughter, It is time to get off the pot cutting bait. It is time to fish and get the work done. Be a man and decide. She wants you to be THE MAN.

really good information and i thank you for your effort. She is a province girl,,,, i have spent 3 months with her i the last 7 months.......... went to her dads funeral and the same day to witness the birth of her newest niece,,,, she is from Mindanao and so Visayan is her native language...... dont know if i haveheard her say "mahal, innibig or Mamamatay ako kung wala ka..."

i am learning so much and thanks again.........

I tend to agree with most of the previous posters. Maybe there is sometimes a tone of accusation present in these forums that for the OP can seem very offensive, but it's important to keep in mind that these are emotional issues for all of us, and feelings run in the surface when people are separated from their loved ones for extensive periods of time.

As said, K1 is not a "try it and see if you like it"-visa. Could you technically get away with what you suggested in your original post? Sure, you possibly could. To me though, it just doesn't make sense. First of all, it is a huge waste of money - you would be paying duplicate fees, either to apply for the K1 twice, or first get the K1, then later on go for a spousal visa if you two decided to marry outside the US. Second, there is the chance of red flags after she would come here as a K1 and leave without going through the marriage and AOS plans. Do you really want to risk that?

I can understand that it is frustrating and difficult that she cannot get a tourist visa - and might also seem unfair, which in a way it is. She doesn't really have the chance many of us others have to come here as a tourist or VWP and spend a few weeks - months in the US to get a taste of it, before making a life changing decision. But, it is what it is, and you just have to make the most of the situation with the possibilities you have.

Have you two considered marrying abroad, in the Philippines, and applying for a CR1 visa for her? That way she would get the spousal CR1 visa while being in the Philippines for the whole process - she would become a legal permanent resident immediately upon entry, meaning she could start working / studying / doing whatever here once she arrives, and the first GC is for 2 years, during which she could still go back to the Philippines and even spend several months there if she wanted. After that 2 years, she could then either decide to apply for removal of conditions and get then 10 yr GC if you two still wanted to stay in the US, or, if she at that point was sure US is not for her, and you want to move your lives to the Philippines, she can give up her GC. Also, keep in mind that once she has been here for 3 years as a permanent resident and your wife, she can apply for citizenship, which will give you much more freedoms in terms of where to live, traveling abroad, or even re-locating abroad for a period of time.

Two years flies by. It is not that long of a period - and as I said, she would not have to be only in the US for that two years, she could visit home while living here with you.

Little-MY

thanks for your kind reply. This sort of information is what i was seeking...... i am a newbie and i want to honor the law. i was hoping i would not need to go to an attorney for help, but perhaps im being pushed that direction now... i apologize if i have offended anyone with my OP...... I truly wish that all of us will be promptly reunited with our loved ones.... best wishes to all...

Well your intensions are not to immigrate her here it seems? What you seem to wanna do is have her come here, marry then decide if you wanna live in america or not? I am sorry but you are suppose to get married on the k-1 you make a promise to, any other intensions is visa fraud in my eyes. And i never said you didnt love your fiancee, i said it was wrong what you were wanting to do. And i never said it was a competition as to whos more worthy for a visa. People who truly want their spouses here to live and be with them and be a family are all worthy in my eyes

The only thing required with the K1 is an INTENTION to get married, Not a promise as i see it......... anyway we WILL get married, whether its here or in her country. Your judgment of it being "wrong" has nothing to do with reality. i am only doing some research at to whats possible. i see no point in debating this further with you Steph1988 i am not asking for your or anyone else's approval......

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I really appreciate all the replies. My original post was to gather information only. I am very much in love with my fiancée, and we in process of planning. My concerns are about her potential happiness here.....i understand the seriousness of the K1 and my intention never was to have a vacation here with her. i refuse to believe there is a competition between any of us over who is more worthy of a visa....

like i said, a visitor visa for her is impossible......

Tyeger87, Thanks. It is my understanding that a visitor visa is all but impossible for her. Do you think that is true? her Sister who lives here as a perm resident, has applied several time for her as a visitor and family. so, yes it would be sensible IF she could get a visitor/tourist visa. But can it be done?

Hi and thanks in advance for your replies.

My Philippine fiancée and i are struggling about which country in which to live. My thoughts are that she could come here to the US on a 90 day K1, check the place out (and me too of course) and then probably return back to the Philippines, without us getting married just yet. Basically i just want to make sure she will be happy here first. MY long term plan is to retire in The Philippines, with her of course, in about 10 years. She has a sister here in the US (permanent resident). My question, dear forum members, has two parts:

1. If she is granted a first K1 with my being the petitioner, and we decide NOT to get married yet and she returns back to the Philippines, would a second K1 be possible, more or less probable in the future?

2. Since she has a sister who lives here, if my fiancée lives up to her obligations and does not overstay her K1, would it be more probable that her sister could succeed in bringing her here for a family visa?

I have been approved for 1 K1 visa in 2003 (ex wife now naturalized citizen)

Hi and thanks to all. I have sponsored a fiancée in 2002. She and i are divorced now but still good friends. She became a naturalized citizen. I am currently putting together a new I-129F packet for my new fiancée. My question is regarding question 11 on the I-129F where it asks if "Have you ever filed for this or any other alien fiancée before?. If yes give name, place, A# and result (attach additional documents if necessary) Can anyone please give me advice?experience on how best to deal with this? Should i attach copies of all the NOA?

thanks and good luck to us all