Traveling abroad withing the removal of conditions window

[Mila 0]

Hello everyone! It's been a while since the last time I posted something... but then again, sometimes life gets so busy we might even forget to breathe!

Anyways, I have been really worried about something and I need some advice from people that's on the same or similar situation. My husband and I got married in Brazil, got me a visa and here I am. December 31st was one year since I moved to the US. Last November, on a 30 day trip to Brazil to see my family, I found out I am pregnant, which is great, we really wanted a baby - even though not yet, but oh well, we're still really happy about it!!!

The thing is... I am really considering going to Brazil to have the baby and spend some time with my family. Thing's haven't been the best here since I moved. At first things were ok and we are both working and paying bills... but here in California it's pretty much all we can do: work and pay bills. Cost of living here is absurd comparing to other states, and with the economic crisis it's been extremely hard to find people that are hiring, specially if you're pregnant. I still have my job, but once the baby is born, bye-bye working life for me - no way we could afford a 1200 dollars babysitter!!!!! My husband is also working and love his job. He has a good paycheck and he's not thinking about quitting at all.

To make it short: My removal of conditions window starts September 30th/2009. But since I'm thinking about going to Brazil around May/2009 I would still be there by September. If I fail to file for the removal of conditions, what happens? I mean, can I go to Brazil with a re-entry permit and when I decide to come back to the US (probably June 2010) I file for the removal?? I read something like if I am not here at the time I have 60 days to file after I'm back......... Really really confused right now!!

I want to be with my husband and my family right now, and really want to go to Brazil. His family's been great so far, but I don't think I can handle them anymore! Going to Brazil will give me the opportunity to go back to work after my baby is born because my mom and dad are both retired and can stay with the baby a few hours a day for me. While here that won't happen! If we stay I won't be able to work and contribute, leaving all the expenses to my husband, making it more complicated and stressful for all of us. My husband lived in Brazil for one year with me and learned Portuguese. He is afraid of not being able to work there, but my parents already told us that we can stay with them till he is ready to go look for a job! Here we don't have the same support from his family and I feel that whatever we need from them they find ways of making it hard to do!!!!! For instance: when my husband went to Brazil, he needed a document stating that his parents would be financially responsible for him in the case of him needing to come back here but had no means (which wouldn't happen!!!!!). His parents, even though it was just a paper that didn't mean anything, refused to do the document, saying that he was an adult now and could handle things by himself!!!!! MY parents had to make the document for him so the Consulate would approve his financial conditions to go!!!!

Ohhhh well, I said too much already. I'm sorry it was a long post. I just felt I needed to talk to someone that's not him right now. i really appreciate any advice regarding the re-entry permit thing...

Lots of love!

[Kez/JWolf 6]

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