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Wel my wife has been here since Dec 18th, we got married 31 Dec 2018. Have had a couple episodes of homesickenss, and one tampo. She as of late does nothing but some housework and cook dinner, the rest of the day she lies on the couch on her phone, either watching videos (Filipino) on facebook or playing games. She said to day she is bored, nothing to do and wants to go home. She has had a couple bouts like this. I am at a loss, I am retired and our age difference is 10 yrs (she is 53, me 63). Prior to coming here she had a job on a naval base in Japan and worked as a counter attendant 6 hrs a day. A lot of her free time was playing Pachenko. I have asked what she would like to do, day trips, meet other filipino's (I don't want, she said), also if she wanted to get a part time job, but she said no. We have Filipino television stations, we eat a lot of fish, adobo, dinuguan, shrimp and visit asian stores a couple times a month. I got her to start a vegetable garden letting her pick the veggies, even ampalay and long beans. She talks to family in Philippines and to her daughter and son in Japan, although she just got in touch with her son and wondering if that call yesterday triggered feelings of being back in Japan. He is 13 and she would see him once a month since the father has custody. I am trying to find a place to teach her to drive even though she had universal drivers license in Japan when she was married but that was 15 yrs ago. I am clueless as to what to do, maybe hoping this will pass after a day or so?? Any help? Oh she has a Japanese friend but she is on vacation in Japan. She takes my wife out shopping, lunch once or twice a month.
So my (beneficary) fiance and I arrived at our new home two days ago. The anxiety and fear of the interview is over. The wait for approval and papers is postponed until the next steps after the wedding. I go back to work, and now she... Is thousands of miles away from everything familiar to her. Her family, friends, and everything she's ever known. Everything here is foreign to her. She's excited for the future, but also sad for what she's left behind. Who out there knows the mixture of emotions, hope and fear, happiness and sadness? Who in the world could she share these feelings with that could relate or understand? How weird is it that there is no one to pump your gas or check your oil? Where are the car guards? Why aren't there bars on the windows? I'm being extra and dramatic, I know. But there are so many great people I've chatted with here. I think it would be great to start a What'sApp group for those who have come to the states on a K1 visa from South Africa. If the only shared experience is coming to the states from South Africa on a K1 visa, then that's a pretty big thing that is the basis for support, ideas, recipes, shopping, tips, recommendations, or just witty banter that only South Africans can understand. In fact, I don't need to be part of it. I just think it could be good for my fiance and good for others who have went through this life altering process. Anyone?