frankielove

You've gotten a lot of good advice, and it is hard to make a big change like this. For what it is worth, I would also argue that being ignored is mental and emotional abuse.
If it helps you in your decision, make a list of what you want your life to be like in 5 or 10 years--all your hopes and dreams, what you think a good marriage should be like. Then make a list of how life with him will be in 5- 10 years based on what you have seen so far (be very honest with yourself as you don't need to share this with anyone else). Hopefully you will better understand what decision to make after comparing the lists.
Another perspective that might help: if you had a friend who came to you for advice and told you what you have told us, how would you counsel that person? Often we can give the best advice to others, and find it difficult to follow ourselves.
I wish you all the best, and the strength to make the right decision for you.

You've gotten a lot of good advice, and it is hard to make a big change like this. For what it is worth, I would also argue that being ignored is mental and emotional abuse.
If it helps you in your decision, make a list of what you want your life to be like in 5 or 10 years--all your hopes and dreams, what you think a good marriage should be like. Then make a list of how life with him will be in 5- 10 years based on what you have seen so far (be very honest with yourself as you don't need to share this with anyone else). Hopefully you will better understand what decision to make after comparing the lists.
Another perspective that might help: if you had a friend who came to you for advice and told you what you have told us, how would you counsel that person? Often we can give the best advice to others, and find it difficult to follow ourselves.
I wish you all the best, and the strength to make the right decision for you.

You've gotten a lot of good advice, and it is hard to make a big change like this. For what it is worth, I would also argue that being ignored is mental and emotional abuse.
If it helps you in your decision, make a list of what you want your life to be like in 5 or 10 years--all your hopes and dreams, what you think a good marriage should be like. Then make a list of how life with him will be in 5- 10 years based on what you have seen so far (be very honest with yourself as you don't need to share this with anyone else). Hopefully you will better understand what decision to make after comparing the lists.
Another perspective that might help: if you had a friend who came to you for advice and told you what you have told us, how would you counsel that person? Often we can give the best advice to others, and find it difficult to follow ourselves.
I wish you all the best, and the strength to make the right decision for you.

You've gotten a lot of good advice, and it is hard to make a big change like this. For what it is worth, I would also argue that being ignored is mental and emotional abuse.
If it helps you in your decision, make a list of what you want your life to be like in 5 or 10 years--all your hopes and dreams, what you think a good marriage should be like. Then make a list of how life with him will be in 5- 10 years based on what you have seen so far (be very honest with yourself as you don't need to share this with anyone else). Hopefully you will better understand what decision to make after comparing the lists.
Another perspective that might help: if you had a friend who came to you for advice and told you what you have told us, how would you counsel that person? Often we can give the best advice to others, and find it difficult to follow ourselves.
I wish you all the best, and the strength to make the right decision for you.

You've gotten a lot of good advice, and it is hard to make a big change like this. For what it is worth, I would also argue that being ignored is mental and emotional abuse.
If it helps you in your decision, make a list of what you want your life to be like in 5 or 10 years--all your hopes and dreams, what you think a good marriage should be like. Then make a list of how life with him will be in 5- 10 years based on what you have seen so far (be very honest with yourself as you don't need to share this with anyone else). Hopefully you will better understand what decision to make after comparing the lists.
Another perspective that might help: if you had a friend who came to you for advice and told you what you have told us, how would you counsel that person? Often we can give the best advice to others, and find it difficult to follow ourselves.
I wish you all the best, and the strength to make the right decision for you.

15 yrs of service here---I asked around for a document and everyone I asked was clueless! I just wrote up a letter, and then Ihad it signed by my commanding officer--was Air force, too easy to walk in ,lol. As well what i did was printed out my UER (unit employment record) and sent that in. Worked for me. BUT make sure you are discharged before the interview----I had no problem (my official release date wasn't till after the interview--but they didnt ask,lol) BUT 1 VJ member did have a problem--they would not issue him the visa until he was out!! So had to mail his passport back in! Just saying! I'm sure your UER would suffice.