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    grumpymcdorky18 reacted to SweetheartSarah in What jobs are currently in demand?   
    If I were to pick a major based on job security, preferably specific to Colorado and/or California, which would they be and why?
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    grumpymcdorky18 got a reaction from Kathryn41 in am I cheap?   
    wow that's superb spending of money! I think you need to get rid of her coz she's a gold digger and sorry to say it seems that she's wanna marry your money. I feel bad for her coz shes' one of the girls that gives Filipino a very bad reputation when it comes to money. Let me tell you a story that can enlighten you a bit.
    My bf has the same situation as yours he works in a hotel and most of the time he's lucky to have a good tip. Most of the time his paycheck goes to bill and he only saves a few money. He kindda lives alone coz his brother doesn't give him money for the rent so mortgage, student loans, bills, insurances....it's all on his shoulder. I'm also from Philippines and I first went to US to visit my bf it's actually my own expense, not a single penny from him on my ticket coz I don't want him to think I'm taking ADVANTAGE of him (coz that's what some Americans think about Filipinos). I lived at his house and sometimes split the grocery with him....I'm not rich but I tried my best to save up some money for my trip. Then after me going home here in the Philippines, he went here to come visit me and meet my folks. I helped him find a good deal for like $1100 for the ticket and he stayed in our house. I know how tough his situation is with all his payable so I'm trying to be flexible with it. It's quite hard on my part since in our culture it should be the guy paying for it. So for his one-month trip here approximately we spent like $1000 and was able to go to 3 beaches including Boracay. For the Jollibee for her kid, man I tell you that's way too much! Jollibee only cost like a dollar and maximum of 4 bucks, $100 is probably like for a whole month of Jollibee if it's not that often. For her birthday $1,200 wow that's like two-way cost of ticket should've just booked a flight for her.
    You're not cheap you're actually a generous person and I think she doesn't nor anybody has the right to call you that it's an insult. Sorry to tell you but I hate these kind of people coz for me if you wanna buy/have something you should work for it. Giving her a gift once in a while is okay but making you as her bank is not good.
    I think that if she'll be coming there soon you just need to show her that you're tightening your belt with expenses, tell her how broke you've been coz of her luxuriousness. I'm not sure if she's working though coz the way I see it she's not. And I think it's also not your responsibility to send money to her family like her niece, she can make lame excuses just to dig out some money from you. I don't know buddy the decision will still be up to you if you still wanna be with her. You're not even together yet but you're already having financial problems with her what more in the future....something to think about.
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    grumpymcdorky18 got a reaction from VanessaTony in am I cheap?   
    wow that's superb spending of money! I think you need to get rid of her coz she's a gold digger and sorry to say it seems that she's wanna marry your money. I feel bad for her coz shes' one of the girls that gives Filipino a very bad reputation when it comes to money. Let me tell you a story that can enlighten you a bit.
    My bf has the same situation as yours he works in a hotel and most of the time he's lucky to have a good tip. Most of the time his paycheck goes to bill and he only saves a few money. He kindda lives alone coz his brother doesn't give him money for the rent so mortgage, student loans, bills, insurances....it's all on his shoulder. I'm also from Philippines and I first went to US to visit my bf it's actually my own expense, not a single penny from him on my ticket coz I don't want him to think I'm taking ADVANTAGE of him (coz that's what some Americans think about Filipinos). I lived at his house and sometimes split the grocery with him....I'm not rich but I tried my best to save up some money for my trip. Then after me going home here in the Philippines, he went here to come visit me and meet my folks. I helped him find a good deal for like $1100 for the ticket and he stayed in our house. I know how tough his situation is with all his payable so I'm trying to be flexible with it. It's quite hard on my part since in our culture it should be the guy paying for it. So for his one-month trip here approximately we spent like $1000 and was able to go to 3 beaches including Boracay. For the Jollibee for her kid, man I tell you that's way too much! Jollibee only cost like a dollar and maximum of 4 bucks, $100 is probably like for a whole month of Jollibee if it's not that often. For her birthday $1,200 wow that's like two-way cost of ticket should've just booked a flight for her.
    You're not cheap you're actually a generous person and I think she doesn't nor anybody has the right to call you that it's an insult. Sorry to tell you but I hate these kind of people coz for me if you wanna buy/have something you should work for it. Giving her a gift once in a while is okay but making you as her bank is not good.
    I think that if she'll be coming there soon you just need to show her that you're tightening your belt with expenses, tell her how broke you've been coz of her luxuriousness. I'm not sure if she's working though coz the way I see it she's not. And I think it's also not your responsibility to send money to her family like her niece, she can make lame excuses just to dig out some money from you. I don't know buddy the decision will still be up to you if you still wanna be with her. You're not even together yet but you're already having financial problems with her what more in the future....something to think about.
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    grumpymcdorky18 got a reaction from AKteacher in am I cheap?   
    wow that's superb spending of money! I think you need to get rid of her coz she's a gold digger and sorry to say it seems that she's wanna marry your money. I feel bad for her coz shes' one of the girls that gives Filipino a very bad reputation when it comes to money. Let me tell you a story that can enlighten you a bit.
    My bf has the same situation as yours he works in a hotel and most of the time he's lucky to have a good tip. Most of the time his paycheck goes to bill and he only saves a few money. He kindda lives alone coz his brother doesn't give him money for the rent so mortgage, student loans, bills, insurances....it's all on his shoulder. I'm also from Philippines and I first went to US to visit my bf it's actually my own expense, not a single penny from him on my ticket coz I don't want him to think I'm taking ADVANTAGE of him (coz that's what some Americans think about Filipinos). I lived at his house and sometimes split the grocery with him....I'm not rich but I tried my best to save up some money for my trip. Then after me going home here in the Philippines, he went here to come visit me and meet my folks. I helped him find a good deal for like $1100 for the ticket and he stayed in our house. I know how tough his situation is with all his payable so I'm trying to be flexible with it. It's quite hard on my part since in our culture it should be the guy paying for it. So for his one-month trip here approximately we spent like $1000 and was able to go to 3 beaches including Boracay. For the Jollibee for her kid, man I tell you that's way too much! Jollibee only cost like a dollar and maximum of 4 bucks, $100 is probably like for a whole month of Jollibee if it's not that often. For her birthday $1,200 wow that's like two-way cost of ticket should've just booked a flight for her.
    You're not cheap you're actually a generous person and I think she doesn't nor anybody has the right to call you that it's an insult. Sorry to tell you but I hate these kind of people coz for me if you wanna buy/have something you should work for it. Giving her a gift once in a while is okay but making you as her bank is not good.
    I think that if she'll be coming there soon you just need to show her that you're tightening your belt with expenses, tell her how broke you've been coz of her luxuriousness. I'm not sure if she's working though coz the way I see it she's not. And I think it's also not your responsibility to send money to her family like her niece, she can make lame excuses just to dig out some money from you. I don't know buddy the decision will still be up to you if you still wanna be with her. You're not even together yet but you're already having financial problems with her what more in the future....something to think about.
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    grumpymcdorky18 got a reaction from marklovetina in am I cheap?   
    wow that's superb spending of money! I think you need to get rid of her coz she's a gold digger and sorry to say it seems that she's wanna marry your money. I feel bad for her coz shes' one of the girls that gives Filipino a very bad reputation when it comes to money. Let me tell you a story that can enlighten you a bit.
    My bf has the same situation as yours he works in a hotel and most of the time he's lucky to have a good tip. Most of the time his paycheck goes to bill and he only saves a few money. He kindda lives alone coz his brother doesn't give him money for the rent so mortgage, student loans, bills, insurances....it's all on his shoulder. I'm also from Philippines and I first went to US to visit my bf it's actually my own expense, not a single penny from him on my ticket coz I don't want him to think I'm taking ADVANTAGE of him (coz that's what some Americans think about Filipinos). I lived at his house and sometimes split the grocery with him....I'm not rich but I tried my best to save up some money for my trip. Then after me going home here in the Philippines, he went here to come visit me and meet my folks. I helped him find a good deal for like $1100 for the ticket and he stayed in our house. I know how tough his situation is with all his payable so I'm trying to be flexible with it. It's quite hard on my part since in our culture it should be the guy paying for it. So for his one-month trip here approximately we spent like $1000 and was able to go to 3 beaches including Boracay. For the Jollibee for her kid, man I tell you that's way too much! Jollibee only cost like a dollar and maximum of 4 bucks, $100 is probably like for a whole month of Jollibee if it's not that often. For her birthday $1,200 wow that's like two-way cost of ticket should've just booked a flight for her.
    You're not cheap you're actually a generous person and I think she doesn't nor anybody has the right to call you that it's an insult. Sorry to tell you but I hate these kind of people coz for me if you wanna buy/have something you should work for it. Giving her a gift once in a while is okay but making you as her bank is not good.
    I think that if she'll be coming there soon you just need to show her that you're tightening your belt with expenses, tell her how broke you've been coz of her luxuriousness. I'm not sure if she's working though coz the way I see it she's not. And I think it's also not your responsibility to send money to her family like her niece, she can make lame excuses just to dig out some money from you. I don't know buddy the decision will still be up to you if you still wanna be with her. You're not even together yet but you're already having financial problems with her what more in the future....something to think about.
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    grumpymcdorky18 got a reaction from fil01 in am I cheap?   
    wow that's superb spending of money! I think you need to get rid of her coz she's a gold digger and sorry to say it seems that she's wanna marry your money. I feel bad for her coz shes' one of the girls that gives Filipino a very bad reputation when it comes to money. Let me tell you a story that can enlighten you a bit.
    My bf has the same situation as yours he works in a hotel and most of the time he's lucky to have a good tip. Most of the time his paycheck goes to bill and he only saves a few money. He kindda lives alone coz his brother doesn't give him money for the rent so mortgage, student loans, bills, insurances....it's all on his shoulder. I'm also from Philippines and I first went to US to visit my bf it's actually my own expense, not a single penny from him on my ticket coz I don't want him to think I'm taking ADVANTAGE of him (coz that's what some Americans think about Filipinos). I lived at his house and sometimes split the grocery with him....I'm not rich but I tried my best to save up some money for my trip. Then after me going home here in the Philippines, he went here to come visit me and meet my folks. I helped him find a good deal for like $1100 for the ticket and he stayed in our house. I know how tough his situation is with all his payable so I'm trying to be flexible with it. It's quite hard on my part since in our culture it should be the guy paying for it. So for his one-month trip here approximately we spent like $1000 and was able to go to 3 beaches including Boracay. For the Jollibee for her kid, man I tell you that's way too much! Jollibee only cost like a dollar and maximum of 4 bucks, $100 is probably like for a whole month of Jollibee if it's not that often. For her birthday $1,200 wow that's like two-way cost of ticket should've just booked a flight for her.
    You're not cheap you're actually a generous person and I think she doesn't nor anybody has the right to call you that it's an insult. Sorry to tell you but I hate these kind of people coz for me if you wanna buy/have something you should work for it. Giving her a gift once in a while is okay but making you as her bank is not good.
    I think that if she'll be coming there soon you just need to show her that you're tightening your belt with expenses, tell her how broke you've been coz of her luxuriousness. I'm not sure if she's working though coz the way I see it she's not. And I think it's also not your responsibility to send money to her family like her niece, she can make lame excuses just to dig out some money from you. I don't know buddy the decision will still be up to you if you still wanna be with her. You're not even together yet but you're already having financial problems with her what more in the future....something to think about.
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    grumpymcdorky18 got a reaction from jamster in am I cheap?   
    wow that's superb spending of money! I think you need to get rid of her coz she's a gold digger and sorry to say it seems that she's wanna marry your money. I feel bad for her coz shes' one of the girls that gives Filipino a very bad reputation when it comes to money. Let me tell you a story that can enlighten you a bit.
    My bf has the same situation as yours he works in a hotel and most of the time he's lucky to have a good tip. Most of the time his paycheck goes to bill and he only saves a few money. He kindda lives alone coz his brother doesn't give him money for the rent so mortgage, student loans, bills, insurances....it's all on his shoulder. I'm also from Philippines and I first went to US to visit my bf it's actually my own expense, not a single penny from him on my ticket coz I don't want him to think I'm taking ADVANTAGE of him (coz that's what some Americans think about Filipinos). I lived at his house and sometimes split the grocery with him....I'm not rich but I tried my best to save up some money for my trip. Then after me going home here in the Philippines, he went here to come visit me and meet my folks. I helped him find a good deal for like $1100 for the ticket and he stayed in our house. I know how tough his situation is with all his payable so I'm trying to be flexible with it. It's quite hard on my part since in our culture it should be the guy paying for it. So for his one-month trip here approximately we spent like $1000 and was able to go to 3 beaches including Boracay. For the Jollibee for her kid, man I tell you that's way too much! Jollibee only cost like a dollar and maximum of 4 bucks, $100 is probably like for a whole month of Jollibee if it's not that often. For her birthday $1,200 wow that's like two-way cost of ticket should've just booked a flight for her.
    You're not cheap you're actually a generous person and I think she doesn't nor anybody has the right to call you that it's an insult. Sorry to tell you but I hate these kind of people coz for me if you wanna buy/have something you should work for it. Giving her a gift once in a while is okay but making you as her bank is not good.
    I think that if she'll be coming there soon you just need to show her that you're tightening your belt with expenses, tell her how broke you've been coz of her luxuriousness. I'm not sure if she's working though coz the way I see it she's not. And I think it's also not your responsibility to send money to her family like her niece, she can make lame excuses just to dig out some money from you. I don't know buddy the decision will still be up to you if you still wanna be with her. You're not even together yet but you're already having financial problems with her what more in the future....something to think about.
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    grumpymcdorky18 got a reaction from Sunny123 in Personal Problems   
    hmm, well I think most of us felt that way too. I agree to what Angelheart1962 said that this whole process is stressful, I felt that when I started preparing our I-129F package. To be honest with you I did most of the paperworks; stayed up late, sneaked from work just to read through the forums, it's like making a thesis in college again. My bf doesn't really have that much patience when it comes to paperworks but he made it clear that he wants us to be together (I guess that's the reason why some couples get a lawyer). Thousand times I told him to read through the forums so just in case I miss out something he can help me, but I guess he'd rather read his "games" forum, spend money on it and procastinate that sometimes made the "waiting" frustrating. Sometimes it makes me feel I'm the only one who's in this whole thing, but when he sent the package he got concerned a bit and I hope it'll get more better. I even told him that if not for him I really don't have plans of settling to the US, I'm settled here in the Philippines so why start from scratch.....but I guess that's how love works.
    I think you need to assess what you really feel. There will be a lot of times that you'll be scared, and you have to communicate this with your partner coz he should be the first person to support you in this long journey. There will be tough times but communication is the most effective way to keep this long distance relationship strong. Fellow VJers are also here to support you Good luck
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