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you are right!  thank you so much. I''m on it now, getting ready to file the I-130

Can not see the 15 year old making it, probably the other 4.

Customary Marriage: After the customary rites of marriage are performed, the couple can register at the local Registrar of Marriages in the district where they reside, along with one witness. They will be asked to provide a statutory declaration describing the marriage ceremony and declaring it was made in accordance with their ethnic group’s customary law. The application for the registration of the marriage must be made within three months of the marriage ceremony. The certificate will say "married under customary law" in the space provided for "condition."
 
So assuming that has not been done your Mother can file for her, you do not file for the children.
 
I think it is safer that your Mother naturalises as then the question would be is it F1 or F3 not is she was petitioned at all.
 
She only files for the Daughter, the newborn would be a derivative.
 
You should also file for your sister, her being married or not is not a factor for your petition.

Thank u so much for your great advice. I appreciate that. 

OP is not a terrible person. She is in a terrible situation, but she must put herself before her mother now because she has little children depending on her now. Many of us have had wonderful, hardworking parents who have sacrificed much for us but also knew that they had to care for themselves so they could care for us.

Thank u. Yes we sure can need some help financially but i dont expect her to work and pay rent or anything.  I want her to work so she can have her own money to take care of herself. 
Also get her something to do instead of staying in her room all day.
She criticize everything my kids does. She wants me to raise my kids like how she raised us which i hate. Screaming and beating kids up.
She always says, yeah she knows how kids here in this country r disrespectful.
I believe respect is 2 ways. U earn it. 
 

Thank u. Yes we sure can need some help financially but i dont expect her to work and pay rent or anything.  I want her to work so she can have her own money to take care of herself. 
Also get her something to do instead of staying in her room all day.
She criticize everything my kids does. She wants me to raise my kids like how she raised us which i hate. Screaming and beating kids up.
She always says, yeah she knows how kids here in this country r disrespectful.
I believe respect is 2 ways. U earn it. 
 

I don't know how people get your perspective with their parents.  My mother is retiring and there was not an icicle's chance in hell she'd be living with us or staying for extended visits.  Thankfully, she has purchased her own house nearby.  I hoping that such close proximity won't be too much of a strain.
 
 
I disagree with this completely and I have a parent who died when I was in my mid 20s.  From my own perspective, toxic people get cut out and then who cares what happens to them?  It isn't the right of a parent to act like a child or a jerk.  If my mother criticized me all the time, she'd no longer be my mother.  
 
OP, you have to do what is best for your mental health here.  You have children who are relying on you to be your mental best and if your mother is putting too much pressure on you and your family, then it is her who has to go.  Your children and you come first.

Unless the worker has a very well paying job, a family of 5 - now 6 - will be struggling financially. 
 
Does your mother attend a place of worship and have a spiritual counselor she trusts?  That would be the ideal person to explain the situation to her.
 
They need t explain to her that since she is only in her 50s, she needs to get a job so she will not be destitute in her old age.  She needs to work at least 10 years for her social security.  Americans do not want or need to support an able bodied immigrant for the rest of her life.  She is a problem not only to her daughter but to you and me.

She’s living the American dream. Lol 

At the end of the day, no one asks to be born.

You have a new life in a new country. Don't let your mother force "old country" customs on you. You are the boss of your life now. Lay down the rules. 

Why is she unable to babysit your kids? Or she just doesn't want to? 
 
What kind of discussion did you have with your mom before she arrived? Did she tell you then that she won't be working? Did you tell her you'll be taking care of her all the time? 
 
At this point I'd just give your mom an ultimatum - she either find a job and has her own money or you're going to save up and buy her a ticket home. 

Stuff like this is very easy to say, when you never had to take care of someone who is nothing but troubles and who is ungrateful. Do you really think its all about food? She's an adult, not an old person and she should be able to contribute. And if she can't find a job, she should at least babysit so OP can work.
 
And I'm sure its all kind of emotional burdens also. There is TONS of people who think that taking care of elderly parents is easy, but when it actually comes to that - they give up.

Thanks to each and everyone of you for your advice and ideas. You guys have given me a new perspective over the whole thing and I appreciate it a lot.
My mom and I talked and I'm going 
to support her in every way I can and be a great daughter to her and help her adjust to being here.
Thank you all so much.

Thanks to each and everyone of you for your advice and ideas. You guys have given me a new perspective over the whole thing and I appreciate it a lot.
My mom and I talked and I'm going 
to support her in every way I can and be a great daughter to her and help her adjust to being here.
Thank you all so much.

Thanks to each and everyone of you for your advice and ideas. You guys have given me a new perspective over the whole thing and I appreciate it a lot.
My mom and I talked and I'm going 
to support her in every way I can and be a great daughter to her and help her adjust to being here.
Thank you all so much.

You have to think back and remember what it was like when you first came to the US to empathize with her a  bit more.
 
She is experiencing culture shock, depression from being away from her friends and family and familiarity of her surroundings.  You may have gotten over it more quickly, but everyone experiences it differently.  In my opinion, it would be even more a culture shock in a way to live in America for 7 months, and then be shipped back as though she weren't worthy enough in your eyes and then feel abandoned (not saying you said this to her, but how she may take it).  Also, with her green card status, she can also lose it by being back in her country for a lengthy period of time while you move into your new house.  So that concern would also be on her mind, maybe.
 
If you have already mentioned to her about "going back home" so soon after her arriving, that may have made her feel more depressed now and as though she is nothing but a burden on you.  Which would explain why she feels uncomfortable in the house and just watches TV in her room all the time...almost as a way of locking herself apart from others so that she doesn't feel awkward around them or you.  She may be refusing to do things with you because in her mind she may think that you are only asking her out of obligation or feels like she would be intruding somehow (if you have already mentioned sending her back home, it's natural she's going to feel like she is already intruding on you and your family).  I would imagine that after spending most of her life sacrificing things to raise you and your sister as children/teenagers/young adulthood...and then feel all of a sudden unwanted by one of her children struck at her very core.
 
I know it's frustrating for you as well because you are trying to get her out  more and do things with her. You are taking the right step in trying to spend more time with her. Have you thought about setting her up for free classes or social groups in your local community center/church?  Socializing more with people her own age will brighten her spirits a bit, make her feel  more productive and useful, and lift her spirits about herself too.  She also will be in control of what she wants to do in her spare time and get her out of the house more often.  Has she mentioned wanting to go home---or it's only you that ever brings it up?

I think the fact that you and your husband are living in your in-laws house is greatly adding to the anxiety you are feeling. especially if they are no longer happy your mother is there. If you mother is having a difficult time adjusting it may be better for her to return at least until you and your husband can get a place of your own. Maybe she can return then. I am sitting here thinking about the living situation under that roof and it must not feel good.
 
I just wanted to add that it from you first post it seems like had a plan to bring her here to help and now you realize it is not working. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes we make plans with good intentions but they just don't work out. If your mother being here has caused more burden than help then I understand your frustration.

This is a suggestion.  Maybe she doesn't know how to go about looking for a job.  Sit down with her and make up a resume.  Then go online and start looking for jobs.  This is a great time of year to get hired for retail jobs.  Maybe she wants to work but just doesn't know what to do.
 
Just something from my personal perspective.  Only you can know what is best for you and your family and I am not judging you in any way.  But I do want to say that my mother passed away a few years ago.  I took care of her for years and it was not always easy.  But I never regretted at all any sacrifices I made for her.  And I would do anything to see her again. 
 
If you suggest depression, get her to see a doctor ASAP.  If she is diagnosed, there are meds that can do wonders!
 
Good luck whatever you decide.