Silverberry1331

Nothing Joe can do. DoS have the final say. If it’s bonafide marriage, it shouldn’t and hopefully won’t be a problem 

No, they're not.

Hi Big Deal OP-
I don't believe your relationship is real. You haven't even bothered to claim that you love her so much, can't live without her, etc.
Dude, I know Egypt sucks right now and you wanna get out. Find a woman your own age, or pray that your "hun" doesn't have kids, because if some 24 year old punk was pushin up on my mama for a greencard, I can assure you he would WISH he'd stayed his @ss at home.
That is all, good day, folks

With all due respect...that is the Prophet of God, so let's leave him, Jesus, and Moses out of this. Those are holy men...and most of them weren't looking to immigrate.
I have heard that a thousand times, with the Khadija bit. I think it is a ploy that some men use. Some guys (not all) will say anything to get what they need, and some women will believe anything to convince themselves into believing the opposite of what is the obvious.
I will not say that all these May-Decembers fail (the Prophet-PBUH-is a fine example)...however, I would NOT put alot of these things (especially these facebook, dating website trollers) in the same league with the Prophet and his actions.

With all due respect...that is the Prophet of God, so let's leave him, Jesus, and Moses out of this. Those are holy men...and most of them weren't looking to immigrate.
I have heard that a thousand times, with the Khadija bit. I think it is a ploy that some men use. Some guys (not all) will say anything to get what they need, and some women will believe anything to convince themselves into believing the opposite of what is the obvious.
I will not say that all these May-Decembers fail (the Prophet-PBUH-is a fine example)...however, I would NOT put alot of these things (especially these facebook, dating website trollers) in the same league with the Prophet and his actions.

I am not sure what you mean by in child-bearing age because of science. Would you mind clarifying? All that I am saying is that there are alot of women who are out there...past the age where they can have children. These young guys, come from cultures where they are marrying younger women (usually) and are pushed to have families. Having a much older wife is unusual-if this were acceptable then alot of these guys would marry older women from their own country. Instead alot of these guys are trolling the net, telling women I love you, and will see who will bite.
And, putting aside religious preference as requested...picking apart the story itself. The Prophet ran Khadija's business...so they had daily interacts and had a very personal, long term relationship. He did not approach her for marriage. She approached him. He accepted. This is a far-cry from alot of these guys.
I do agree- it is a sweet story and it is endearing. I am just concerned because I hear this alot from people who have no right to use it (but I am not implying you here...I know what you mean...and didn't think ill of your intention on posting it). I am just so sad by the number of people who cling to the story to try to establish credibility in their relationship when there isn't any, and angry with these jerks who liken themselves to a holy man by making comparisons between themselves and the Prophet's situation.

I am not sure what you mean by in child-bearing age because of science. Would you mind clarifying? All that I am saying is that there are alot of women who are out there...past the age where they can have children. These young guys, come from cultures where they are marrying younger women (usually) and are pushed to have families. Having a much older wife is unusual-if this were acceptable then alot of these guys would marry older women from their own country. Instead alot of these guys are trolling the net, telling women I love you, and will see who will bite.
And, putting aside religious preference as requested...picking apart the story itself. The Prophet ran Khadija's business...so they had daily interacts and had a very personal, long term relationship. He did not approach her for marriage. She approached him. He accepted. This is a far-cry from alot of these guys.
I do agree- it is a sweet story and it is endearing. I am just concerned because I hear this alot from people who have no right to use it (but I am not implying you here...I know what you mean...and didn't think ill of your intention on posting it). I am just so sad by the number of people who cling to the story to try to establish credibility in their relationship when there isn't any, and angry with these jerks who liken themselves to a holy man by making comparisons between themselves and the Prophet's situation.

With all due respect...that is the Prophet of God, so let's leave him, Jesus, and Moses out of this. Those are holy men...and most of them weren't looking to immigrate.
I have heard that a thousand times, with the Khadija bit. I think it is a ploy that some men use. Some guys (not all) will say anything to get what they need, and some women will believe anything to convince themselves into believing the opposite of what is the obvious.
I will not say that all these May-Decembers fail (the Prophet-PBUH-is a fine example)...however, I would NOT put alot of these things (especially these facebook, dating website trollers) in the same league with the Prophet and his actions.

With all due respect...that is the Prophet of God, so let's leave him, Jesus, and Moses out of this. Those are holy men...and most of them weren't looking to immigrate.
I have heard that a thousand times, with the Khadija bit. I think it is a ploy that some men use. Some guys (not all) will say anything to get what they need, and some women will believe anything to convince themselves into believing the opposite of what is the obvious.
I will not say that all these May-Decembers fail (the Prophet-PBUH-is a fine example)...however, I would NOT put alot of these things (especially these facebook, dating website trollers) in the same league with the Prophet and his actions.

With all due respect...that is the Prophet of God, so let's leave him, Jesus, and Moses out of this. Those are holy men...and most of them weren't looking to immigrate.
I have heard that a thousand times, with the Khadija bit. I think it is a ploy that some men use. Some guys (not all) will say anything to get what they need, and some women will believe anything to convince themselves into believing the opposite of what is the obvious.
I will not say that all these May-Decembers fail (the Prophet-PBUH-is a fine example)...however, I would NOT put alot of these things (especially these facebook, dating website trollers) in the same league with the Prophet and his actions.

Hello OP. Can you answer this one question?
How did you meet this girl?
And,
did you understand that the consulate will look closely at how effective your communication is with her while determining to grant her a visa?
If there is not good communication btwn the marriage couple, then their chance at a successful marriage is diminished.
It doesn't matter how nice of a grand damn party you have......
Wishing you nothing but the best of luck!
Peace.

You don't know anything about me aside from the tiny blurb here on VJ about my life. However, you spoke about being a researcher in your above post. I have no problem asking for 'pointers' when I need them. When I do, I tend not to ask from people who initiate a post then jibe at people's english because they are asked who they are. Although I believe your intentions are innocent and agree that it is an important topic, as a Moroccan expert you must be aware that some people don't have good intentions when it comes to asking sensitive questions about visa issues--thus people ask them to identify themselves.
Just saying...

Hi Eric,
Thank you so much for your post. I think it takes alot to admit that you are uncertain. The unknown is a frightening thing. America, and what it consists of, cannot be fully judged until one lives in it. Movies, newspapers, even the subjective experiences of native borns won't tell the tail. Only after you get here and live it, will you be able to make your evaluation. People don't like uncertainty so, it is easy to be tugged this way and that on the issue. England is safe. It is what you know. You have an embedded social history there--not to mention family and support networks. It is nerve-wrecking to leave that behind. Just remember---it is not gone and it won't be when you move here.
I say, take the plunge. You don't know what will happen. It may be the best, the worst, or the most indifferent thing you have ever done. However, once you get here--the uncertainty will be eliminated, regardless of the outcome and the fear (the understandable fear) I "hear" in your post will disappear.
If you want my opinion, I say talk to your wife and your family about your hopes and fears. Ask them straight out for reassurance that no matter what the outcome is, they will support whatever decision you will make. Speak to your wife, in particular, dialogue about the potential joys and challenges you face and how you will handle them. For example, Faisal and I are talking about how to handle his home-sickness when he comes here. We both agreed that when he goes through a rough patch that I will not take it as a personal failure to his happiness. We agreed that we would visit his home country as often as we are able. He agreed that he would try to keep an open mind and open dialogue with me about his experience. In return, I promised that if he absolutely hates it here that we would find a solution such as: a) moving to his home-country together b) moving to a new country entirely or c) try to split our time here and there.
Creating these safety nets are important. It will make you feel better about walking the immigration tightrope across the pond. It will put you more at ease to know that you have options. Good luck.

yes, like someone said it is how you make of it. What are your qualifcations? (rethoric question), how big is your social appetite, how low are you willing to start from. It is not how for but how well! I came in here 5years ago on an employment visa and yes I am aware U.K. and Nigeria are not the same but still this country gave me unbelieveable opportunites. I make a good amnt of money( I have just ONE job), I have a BRAND NEW CAR that is completely paid for (within 2.5years of purchase).I earned my bachelors last year and am in the process of acquiring two masters degree from two schools now.
I dnt go buying clothes, latest gadgets etc just to show off. My credit is EXCELLENT. I live within my means. Occasionally if I have a project, I do extra shifts to meet up the needs for that and then I revert to my regular hours.
You have options so I would say give it 5years ( 3years since you are marrying a USC right?) and after you get ur citizenship, you move back to U.K if you still dont like it.

If you are truly a researcher, particularly when researching sensitive subjects, then you are accustom to dealing with people who are suspicious of your intentions. Researchers bear the burden of proof to establish trust and legitimacy when posing their questions--not making snarky replies.

If you are truly a researcher, particularly when researching sensitive subjects, then you are accustom to dealing with people who are suspicious of your intentions. Researchers bear the burden of proof to establish trust and legitimacy when posing their questions--not making snarky replies.

If you are truly a researcher, particularly when researching sensitive subjects, then you are accustom to dealing with people who are suspicious of your intentions. Researchers bear the burden of proof to establish trust and legitimacy when posing their questions--not making snarky replies.

Hi everyone!
Faisal will be here in about 2 weeks. It is his first time to the USA. In fact, it is his first time on an airplane . His POE is Miami. My family lives there and, I will be there for the Christmas break. The first night we will stay in a hotel so, he can sleep and be in a place that is comfortable and quiet (without my noisy fam around).
He is so accommodating and when I ask him what he needs to be comfortable or the level of activity he wants to engage in...he always replies that he is happy doing whatever.
I want to make his first few days here as comfortable and smooth as possible. What are your suggestions for this? Is there anything I should do to facilitate a smooth transition? Also, any suggestions I can give him as a first time flyer going solo?
Thanks everyone!
G

Agreed...Madrid is easy.
However, I hate to say but American Airlines sucks a lollipop. I experienced cancellations, delays, rudeness from the staff, and very little in the way of accommodation. Not to mention, I had a few things wrapped up in my luggage and they broke EVERYTHING...even my hairdryer
Double check everything with those fools.
Aside from that...enjoy your trip!

Casa is REALLY REALLY tough, and there is no way you can be over prepared, so when you think you are done, do some more !!! The reason it was painless is that they followed all the directions, took us seriously when we said to expect the worst in Casa, so be prepared for everything, and to be relaxed but also confident at the interview.
We are all really happy that Gina & Faisal will be here together soon, and ask that everyone dealing with Casa do all their homework and don't take any shortcuts.

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Hi Everyone!
Some people asked me to post about the details of the interview. I was referring them to the review I wrote but, then realized it might just be more helpful to cross-post it in the forum.
Hope this helps!:
Review:
From the beginning: Faisal's interview was at 8am. He arrived to the Consulate in Casablanca at 7:30am. He said there was a long line and it was raining. A security officer separated the people into different groups depending on what type of visa you were applying for. So, he gets to the front of the line and the security officer informed him that his computer bag was not allowed in. Fai thought he would be okay since it wasn't a backback but, the guy told him that he couldn't have this kind of bag either. So Faisal went over to a coffee shop and asked some random server to watch his bag (only in Morocco-LOLOL). Then he ran back and got back on the line. They let them into the consulate early because it was raining.
He went to the window and present his documents, his photos, his passport and appointment letter. They cleared him for entry. He began at security. They asked him to shut off his cell phone and give it to the security guard in exchange for an identification claim number. They asked him if he had anything to declare (like weapons or something ).
Once he made it through security, he sat in a row of chairs. He saw several consulate people giving interviews. He saw the blond lady and the "grumpy" man and prayed to God he would get the woman. Then he heard his name called and he went to the window. It was a Moroccan woman and, she spoke to him in Dareega.
She took his binder he brought with him and looked through it. Very first thing she asked was:"Who is Linda Longo?" He wasn't expecting this and was thrown off but remained composed. He said the answer came automatically despite consciously being nervous that he almost forgot. "My wife's step mother." Woman: "Where does Linda live?" Fai: "In Florida, with my wife's father." Woman: "Do they have children together?" Fai: "No, she has a daughter but she is not my wife's blood sister. She was from another marriage." Woman: "Does your wife live with her father?" Fai: "No, she lives in her apartment in Madison, WI." Woman: "Was your wife ever married?" Fai: "Yes" Woman: "Is this your first marriage?" Fai: "Yes" Woman: "Did you wife have children from this marriage?" Fai: "No". She fingerprinted him. He said it appeared that she looked through carefully and asked him a question about whatever page she turned to. However, she seemed to have a list of questions they were going to ask him because she made check marks on her paper. He did not see our file. She asked him for his phone number. He gave it to her and then she called his cell phone. I don't know why-maybe to see if it was off. She returned his papers to him and instructed him to give the Consulate Officer whatever he asked for.
Then, she told him to return to his place. Then he heard his name being called again. Wouldn't you know it, it was the man he DIDN'T want. The man told him to pick up the phone so they could talk. He asked him to swear to tell the whole truth and to attest that everything in the file was true and correct. Faisal swore. He was asked to place his hand on a pad to take his prints again-probably as an electronic signature. Then he signed the DS-130 form that we send in that had part II blank. The man then said "Good morning". Faisal said he looked no nonsense and very stern but, treat him respectfully.
He asked: "How did you and your wife meet?" Faisal told him the whole story. CO: "What does your wife do?" Fai:"She is a full time student getting her PhD and she is a teaching assistant." CO: "How much does your wife make each month?" Fai: "$xxxx per month" CO: "That isn't alot of money. What does she want to do when she graduates?" Fai: "She either wants to work for the government or work as a teacher." CO: "You mean like a high school teacher?" Fai: "No, in the university." CO: "Was your wife ever married?" Fai: "Yes, she was married to XXXXX XXXXX but it didn't work." CO: "Do you know her family?" Fai: "Yes..." then Faisal proceeds to give a brief description of my immediate family-where they live, their names, who they are married to, and children. CO: "Does your wife have any children from this marriage?" Fai: "No". The CO raised his eyebrow like he was unsure that this was true. CO: "Where were you married?" Fai: "Here in Benslimane." The CO saw our photo album and said, "I will look at your pictures from the wedding, may I have them?" Fai said of course. The man began flipping through the pictures. To Faisal, it appeared he was looking for a particular picture because he hardly looked at our wedding pictures. He landed on the one he wanted. It is a picture of Faisal and I with a little boy (who doesn't look Moroccan) on my lap. Co: "Who is this little boy?" Fai chuckled: "That is my cousin Marwan. His mother is my aunt who is Moroccan but, his father is French. They came from France for our wedding." He said that the CO typed everything into a computer.
Then the CO smiled and "no longer looked grumpy" and said, "We have approved your visa. Congratulations!" He told Faisal to return on Friday to pick up his Visa at 3pm. Then he gave Faisal a receipt.
Faisal left the Consulate at 9:36am. He was only in there for about one and a half hours.
Overall, it was painless! Now we plan for his arrival! Hooray!

I am already shopping!
Santa will have alot of things under the tree for this guy! I can't wait to spoil him!

Madison in December, huh ?? Better buy him some warm clothes. My wife is freezing and the temperatures haven't even dipped below 40 yet !!
It's wonderful Silver--there will be many stories to tell about his first few months in a WI winter.