LoveMyMohamed

Hi,
Thank you for the positive post. Good luck getting through your illness and soon feeling much better.
My relationship also has sooooo many red flags, but I feel confident my fiance and I have forged a strong union and I look forward to the day too when we are living together on the same continent
Something positive - I've gone through quite a few stages since his interview and recent expiration of our K1 visa petition. But soon I will be able to visit my fiance again and am really looking forward to that. It's been way way too long. Although I would have much preferred he and I living together and being happily married by now, this process has strengthened our resolve and made our relationship even more solid. And that's always a plus!
I like this positive post idea! Thanks for thinking of this, and for posting.
Whatever it is negative in your life right now, I hope you find your way through it and have less of that negative, and good can come from it, or soon follow on its heels. That goes for all of us.
Kathy (and Mohamed)

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I understand there is a backlog if you're ordering this t-shirt. Normal processing times are 3 months, but due to the back-log, you can expect your t-shirt 7 months and 13 days from the date of ordering

I understand there is a backlog if you're ordering this t-shirt. Normal processing times are 3 months, but due to the back-log, you can expect your t-shirt 7 months and 13 days from the date of ordering

I would go ahead with my plans on time. The old me would be very considerate (too much so) with others' wishes, wants, needs but the new me is a little more "selfish" and I'm trying to life my life more thinking of my own needs too. 8 months ago did your dad really think this all was going to happen, you were really going to get married with a gal from another country, etc. etc.? Did he not start looking into it because he was maybe in denial, or is a procrastinator, or didn't know where to begin to find out how to look into this? See - that's the old me trying to see it from dad's point of view, then changing my plans to suit him better. Oh - he tried. Oh - he has a good excuse ... I must give you full disclosure! There have been many people I've come across during my foreign fiance that have advised me against this. Some who are clearly no longer in my camp. It has made me a stronger person, more sure of my convictions. I'm giving you way more than you need here, I believe, but just wanted you to see some of my reasoning why I would go ahead with my plans. It IS your life - and now not just yours but your fiancees too, and it would be disrupting your lives, together. Probably the only thing that might stop me, in your shoes, would be these considerations: does my dad not have long to live and it would mean the world to him to be at my wedding? Did my dad not try to get his situation sorted out because he's a little less considerate of me than I am of him? (I have someone in my life like that - and I am through with trying to defer to this relative, by the way. This relative has forced me to grow up and be more my own person making my own decisions) Some thoughts - if you and your gal go ahead with original plans - you could have much in your wedding that would be thoughtful towards your dad - video footage of you and your gal toasting him, saying a speech about him - or something recorded by him that you would play at your wedding/reception ... how about "live feed" so your dad is there by satellite imagining, or whatever they call it? he's there on camera looking on somehow, and you all can see him too? Maybe there IS a way for him to be there, via our latest greatest technology just thought about this .......... and of course in the future you and your wife could involve him in all sorts of ways in your lives ... have a special day that re-tells your wedding somehow - or show him the videotape when he can be with you 2 in person, things like this .......? I wish you 2 the best! And a wonderful wedding day!!!

I am SO GLAD to know my SO isn't the only mirror preener! LOL Now I feel better about it. Cuz in all other regards, I don't have a single complaint. I agree with much of what you ladies have posted - my guy is "THE MAN" - he adores his own mom and does things she would traditionally do, cuz he doesn't want her to over-exert. He forced me to sit while he hung up laundry, while I was there (I was chomping at the bit to help) but he just said, "rest". Yes yes yes he is sensitive as well, and yet, he's a man. I too am an independent sort cuz that's the way we women have been raised, yet I so appreciate and love that Mohamed is the man in our relationship. It feels "right" and I am so blessed we found each other. It is heaven on earth to have the guy take charge in a manly way!! Good topic Here's to our guys!