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Helen Louise Pile

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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Hemutian in A courthouse marriage followed by 'wedding' 8 months later?   
    Many people do this.
    We did the small wedding in our house within 90 days but we were happy with that so we don't plan to have another. We thought about it briefly though.
    We waited for a couple of months after we were married to apply for the AOS. Once we applied for it it was approved in 6 weeks, expect around 3 months. Check how long it takes to get the marriage certificate in your state also, in Vermont you get it right away but I have heard that some states it can take a while. You need your marriage certificate before you can apply for AOS.
    You can volunteer when you arrive and make connections so you have US references when you do apply for a job. This helped me get my first job in the US and gave me something to do while I waited
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Married2009 in negotiating about family visits   
    I think 6 months out of the year is crazy.
    But I disagree with the tone of this thread. Just because you had an agreement, doesn't mean that the final word has been spoken. I could never tolerate a relationship like that. Of course, we have agreements and we stick to them, but I am not eternally bound by them. We compromise and change with each other and as our lives change. We are flexible but we consider each other first and foremost in any decisions we make.
    If you tell your husband 'No', then he may see that you are controlling the relationship.
    So then there is compromise. You can remind him of your agreement and suggest that they could stay in your apartment for that length of time but that you feel really strongly that it would have a negative impact on your relationship if they were to stay of 6 months in your 1br apartment, and you could not properly accommodate your husbands family in that environment. How about they rent their own place nearby?
    He may just be homesick, his parents may be making this decision for him, I don't know. They may not qualify for a visa for a 6month stay anyway. You need to find out what had made him change his mind so drastically. Talk to him about it and try to keep your mind open to all possibilities...though I know that would be hard to do if I were in your shoes.
    I wish you luck!
    Helen
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from kittylondon in I need some help: Driving in the US with your UK driving license   
    Hello! Idon'tknow whether you will be notified of this.I just wanted to say thank you. I hadmy 'hearing' in traffic court today to contest my ticket and the ruling was in my favour.
    Helen
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from pddp in Happy Couple turned to Unhappy   
    I agree with what most people have said here. My husband and I lived in Scotland for 2 years together and we went through an adjustment period when we moved here. I have a life, a job, classes (college, exercise, art) but I am still a little bit homesick. It was hard when I first arrived and couldn't work and my husband worked hard to make it easier for me. Even suggesting that he should go back home is unacceptable. If I were you I'd apologize for that remark, it's rude.
    This is the risk people take when they marry someone they don't know that well. But it seems like he wants to work on it, and you do too. And isn't that what makes a string marriage? Get some counselling. Admit to him that you don't know how to help him and you are finding it hard too. Also, tell him that your experience is a normal one and others go through it too.
    Best of luck!

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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Saska+Tim in HELP! COMPLETE change of personality.... :(   
    If it's at the point where you're pretending you've been kidnapped in order to get her attention....time to collect your pride and move on.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from cdneh in HELP! COMPLETE change of personality.... :(   
    If it's at the point where you're pretending you've been kidnapped in order to get her attention....time to collect your pride and move on.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Harpa Timsah in HELP! COMPLETE change of personality.... :(   
    If it's at the point where you're pretending you've been kidnapped in order to get her attention....time to collect your pride and move on.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Stephen + Elisha in HELP! COMPLETE change of personality.... :(   
    If it's at the point where you're pretending you've been kidnapped in order to get her attention....time to collect your pride and move on.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from chaine1 in HELP! COMPLETE change of personality.... :(   
    If it's at the point where you're pretending you've been kidnapped in order to get her attention....time to collect your pride and move on.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Kathryn41 in Happy Couple turned to Unhappy   
    I agree with what most people have said here. My husband and I lived in Scotland for 2 years together and we went through an adjustment period when we moved here. I have a life, a job, classes (college, exercise, art) but I am still a little bit homesick. It was hard when I first arrived and couldn't work and my husband worked hard to make it easier for me. Even suggesting that he should go back home is unacceptable. If I were you I'd apologize for that remark, it's rude.
    This is the risk people take when they marry someone they don't know that well. But it seems like he wants to work on it, and you do too. And isn't that what makes a string marriage? Get some counselling. Admit to him that you don't know how to help him and you are finding it hard too. Also, tell him that your experience is a normal one and others go through it too.
    Best of luck!

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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from decocker in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Kelly C in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from beejay in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Harpa Timsah in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Penny Lane in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from pddp in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from KayDeeCee in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from LeftCoastLady in Wedding within 90 days?   
    Actually, it's kind of awesome.
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    Helen Louise Pile reacted to decocker in Wedding within 90 days?   
    you are completely and totally, wrong.
    and also, completely and totally, offensive.
    the only thing shameful about your view of marriage is how utterly materialistic it is.
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    Helen Louise Pile reacted to decocker in Wedding within 90 days?   
    um, your statement might have been somewhat true if it were say, 1958 - but it's 2012 and the OP isn't asking for your opinion about civil ceremonies, they're asking about the marriage requirement of the K1 visa.
    OP - my husband and i were married in a quick civil ceremony @ a pub we both like. it cost us $40. our AOS was approved without interview. we provided our marriage certificate and pictures the officiant took of us. the amount of money spent on a wedding or rings, is completely up to the couple involved. my husband and i don't even have rings and we don't want them. there is no law that states the validity of a marriage is attached to the cost of such things.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from momof1 in Got a letter today   
    It can be legal process, there is not enough information to make the assertion that they have committed visa fraud so please do not do so.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from yachachiq12 in Got a letter today   
    It can be legal process, there is not enough information to make the assertion that they have committed visa fraud so please do not do so.
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    Helen Louise Pile reacted to pddp in 1-864 scares the hell out of me   
    Regardless of nationality, immigration status and what not, isn't marriage a commitment to be there for each other and take care of each other in every way you can? Or what did you guys agree to in your marriage vows..? Could it be that divorce is so prevalent these days because people don't fully commit to each other to begin with but basically already have one foot out the door from day one...? Hmmm... :/
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    Helen Louise Pile reacted to david'sgirl in 1-864 scares the hell out of me   
    I am with you. I cannot understand the issue. If you are happily married why would anyone have a problem supporting thier spouse? If the OP is so certain the marriage is doomed to end in divorce then perhaps it is not wise to continue with the visa application.
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    Helen Louise Pile got a reaction from Yagisama in 1-864 scares the hell out of me   
    Yes.
    What's scary about it?
    You are agreeing to provide for your spouse and if you're married, you've already made that vow.
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