Channah&Aaron

; start calling 7 days after receiving NOA2... =)

"find yourself an American guy and file for I-129f" .... Holy cr*p!
1. So she'll force herself to find an American man (they are different than from her own culture, not necessarily in a bad way) and try to fall in love with this guy...
2. Because main reason is: going to the US because family is here, daughter has nobody over there, mom in US
3. LOVE isn't main reason, family is
4. If I were the man she is USING, I would feel... used!
5. All of the above- even when finding an American guy, intention is moving, for family, not for love!!!!
Personally, I think that's wrong! Try other options (school/work) first, instead of throwing yourself into American arms...

"find yourself an American guy and file for I-129f" .... Holy cr*p!
1. So she'll force herself to find an American man (they are different than from her own culture, not necessarily in a bad way) and try to fall in love with this guy...
2. Because main reason is: going to the US because family is here, daughter has nobody over there, mom in US
3. LOVE isn't main reason, family is
4. If I were the man she is USING, I would feel... used!
5. All of the above- even when finding an American guy, intention is moving, for family, not for love!!!!
Personally, I think that's wrong! Try other options (school/work) first, instead of throwing yourself into American arms...

"find yourself an American guy and file for I-129f" .... Holy cr*p!
1. So she'll force herself to find an American man (they are different than from her own culture, not necessarily in a bad way) and try to fall in love with this guy...
2. Because main reason is: going to the US because family is here, daughter has nobody over there, mom in US
3. LOVE isn't main reason, family is
4. If I were the man she is USING, I would feel... used!
5. All of the above- even when finding an American guy, intention is moving, for family, not for love!!!!
Personally, I think that's wrong! Try other options (school/work) first, instead of throwing yourself into American arms...

Mine weren't a problem.
I'm sure you'll be fine.

If it were me, inwould file for divorce. A marriage is about honesty. Although, people do tell very little lies "I didnt grab a cookie out of the cookie jar"- while having crumbles on your face.. This is not OK. He can tell you anything he wants, yet it's up to you what to believe. And using his grandpa's death as an excuse is nothing but disrespectful and unacceptable!
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

you can live apart, still be married, until his daughter moves out. I couldn't live with her under one roof either if I had to deal with that lazy woman. Hopefully your husband will see that you are serious about it. Don't break up or get a divorce. Hopefully things will work out between the two of you

They Can Come ... They DONT have to get US Citizenship... it's not a requirement to gain permanent residence... IF you had taken the time to read most said they did not want to come but came due their spouses/fiances ..

Being prepared is 99% of success. Anyways, this is a lesson and hopefully things will work out for you guys!! Good luck

Absolutely true - arrest and conviction are different things. However, USCIS does not require a conviction to fail a person for the good moral character requirement.
Conviction on an aggravated felony = applying for US citizenship could result in deportation.
Arrested but not convicted of an aggravated felony = USCIS can consider the underlying arrest in determining if the person has good moral character. USCIS can also pursue deportation. This is the gray area between USCIS exercising its discretion in determining good moral character and a fight in immigration court.
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The arrest in 2003 for aggravated battery and the 2006 arrest for felony traffic violations are relevant even if there is no convictions.
What were the results? Convictions? Sentence greater than 1 year?
What was the nature of the felony traffic violation? Hit and run? Drunk driving?
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http://www.ansarilawfirm.com/index.cfm/hurl/obj=319/USCitizenshipNaturalizationNApplicationforNaturalization.cfm
Becoming a U.S. Citizen - The Naturalization Process
Applying for U.S. Citizenship / Naturalization
Permanent residents may apply to become U.S. citizens through a process called naturalization. Naturalization is the last step in the U.S. immigration process and usually the last time the Bureau of U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) will review your immigration file not only to see whether you are eligible for citizenship but also to make sure you are eligible to stay in the United States.
Permanent residents should strongly consider applying for U.S. citizenship. U.S. citizenship gives a person many rights and privileges, including the right to vote, the ability to travel freely outside the United States for long periods of time and return, the right to apply for special government jobs, and eligibility for public benefits not available to non-citizens. Perhaps most importantly, U.S. citizens cannot be removed or deported from the United States.
WARNING
It is not always a good idea for a permanent resident to apply for U.S. citizenship. When you apply for U.S. citizenship, you must give the government a lot of information. Some of this information could lead to the government starting removal (deportation) proceedings against you. For example, when you apply for U.S. citizenship, you must disclose detailed information about all of your trips outside the United States since the date you became a permanent resident. If you were outside the United States for long periods of time, you may have abandoned your permanent residency without knowing it. In addition to your citizenship application being denied, it is possible the government may argue that you are no longer allowed to be a permanent resident. Another case in which you would definitely not want to apply for U.S. citizenship is if you have a criminal history that makes you deportable from the United States. You should always consult with an immigration attorney before applying for citizenship.
Eligibility for U.S. Citizenship / Naturalization
Generally before you apply for U.S. citizenship, you must:
be at least 18 years old;
have continuously resided in the United States as a permanent resident for at least five years;
have been physically present in the United States for at least two and a half years out of the last five years; and
reside in the state or the district in which your citizenship application will be filed for at least three months before you apply.
Meeting these eligibility requirements does not mean that you will be allowed to become a naturalized U.S. citizen. You must also show that you have "good moral character," pass the English literacy and civics test, and promise that you agree with the principles of the U.S. constitution by taking the Oath of Allegiance.
"Good moral character" Requirement for U.S. Citizenship / Naturalization
Becoming a naturalized U.S. citizen requires that the government must find that you were a person of "good moral character" for the five years before you apply for citizenship.
There are two exceptions to this rule:
If you were convicted of an "aggravated felony" after November 29, 1990, you are not allowed to show that you are a person of "good moral character," even if you were convicted before the five years before the date of your citizenship application.
Lots of different kinds of crimes qualify as an "aggravated felony" under U.S. immigration law. Even some state law misdemeanors are aggravated felonies according to U.S. immigration law. If you have any sort of criminal history or have ever been in trouble with the police, you should consult with an immigration attorney before you apply for U.S. citizenship.
Even if you were not convicted of an aggravated felony, the government may look at your life before the five years of if doing so would help it determine whether you otherwise lack "good moral character."
U.S. Citizenship Exam / Naturalization Test
In order to become a naturalized U.S. citizen, you must show a basic understanding of English and pass a test on the history and government of the United States. If you are physically unable to comply, developmentally disabled, or mentally impaired, you may be exempt from both the English test and the U.S. civics and history test.
If you fail the English and U.S. civics and history test on your first try, you will be given a second chance to pass either one or both tests within 90 days. If you fail the second time, your citizenship application will be denied.
English Test
To meet the English requirement, you must show that you can "read and write simple works phrases."
The immigration officer will also make sure that you have the ability to speak and understand English. Certain groups of people are exempt from the English requirement. For example, if you are fifty years or older and have been a permanent resident for more than twenty years, you are exempt. If you are over fifty-five years old and have been a permanent resident for more than fifteen years, you are also exempt.
U.S. Civics and History Test
In addition to the English requirement, you must show "a knowledge and understanding of the fundamentals of the history, and of the principles and form of government, of the United States."
The immigration officer will test your knowledge of U.S. history and government from a standard list of 100 questions. You will probably only be asked six to ten questions, and you must get at least six questions right to pass the test. USCIS has made available Study Materials for the Naturalization Test as well as Scoring Guidelines for the Naturalization Test (PDF).
Five-year Continuous Residency Requirement for U.S. Citizenship / Naturalization
To become a naturalized U.S. citizen, you must have five years of continuous residence sicne becoming a permanent resident.
Your five years of residence before the date of your citizenship application must be continuous. Absences of less than six months do not break the continuous residency requirement. But any absence from the United States between six months and one year creates a presumption that you violated the continuous residency requirement. You can overcome this presumption by providing evidence that you had no intention of giving up your residence in the United States during your absence.
If you are outside the United States for more than one year, you have broken the continuous residency requirement. Generally before becoming eligible for U.S. citizenship, you will had five years of continuous residency from the date you returned to the United States.
If you are outside the United States for more than one year, there is a presumption that you have abandoned your permanent residency in the United States. To prevent this from happening, if you know you will be absent from the United States for more than a year and want to keep your permanent resident status, you should apply for a Re-Entry Permit before you leave the United States.

Channah & Aaron, ... I like all that stuff about your relationship!
You two are too kewl!
Very similar to the way Aury and I look at ourselves.
Except,... we won't be having (more/our own) children together.
Hey! Let's have another round of happiness here today! lol
I'm thankful that........Even though we're still awaiting the NOA2,I have the confidence we'll be together ever after, come Valentine's Day 2012! We both want to get married on that day. yeah, yeah! I can hear all the girls giving me the business now, about 'saving a holiday'. Right on! But, what a great day to consumate your relationship! Don'tcha think???

She's waiting for a denial notice, not an RFE.
The US deports over 300,000 people every year. The number has grown substantially since Obama became president. Whether they'll try to deport the OP depends entirely on why her adjustment of status was denied. I suspect it was probably because they determined her joint sponsor's affidavit of support was insufficient, in which case the AOS is denied without prejudice - they won't try to deport her, and she can file again with the required evidence. If it was denied because they found her inadmissible for some reason then it's denied with prejudice - she can file a motion to reopen within 30 days of receiving the denial notice. If she doesn't then there's a good chance they'd start removal proceedings. It's not very common for a K1, but it does happen.

I totally agree with San Diego!!
though, not about for you to leave him, since you are married to him and happily in love, but you def have to keep this in mind about him not defending you.
He didn't do his task of being a husband, as of he has to protect you at all times!!!!!
I would move away with him and give him a last chance, because he is the one who should protect you and make you feel safe whenever he is around. When the next situation occurs, hopefully not, and he'll stand there as a scared kitty cat, then keep the pride to yourself and walk away from this crazy situation/family.

; Can you please make a donation to the following:
the Channah&Aaron charity ??!!
Thank you

I do not think it is relevant if he is a member. In fact, I think, it would be useful for him to read this as it may change his prospective and change his behavior and may still save his marriage. Nobody is slamming him. Just merely stating facts and making relevant conclusions. I think this is a time for him to become a man. This is part of getting married: becoming a responsible human being.

I totally agree with San Diego!!
though, not about for you to leave him, since you are married to him and happily in love, but you def have to keep this in mind about him not defending you.
He didn't do his task of being a husband, as of he has to protect you at all times!!!!!
I would move away with him and give him a last chance, because he is the one who should protect you and make you feel safe whenever he is around. When the next situation occurs, hopefully not, and he'll stand there as a scared kitty cat, then keep the pride to yourself and walk away from this crazy situation/family.

I may be a little harsh, but I would like to advice the following:
1) I would like to say I am really sorry that it happened to you and I think this is awful
2) Never live with anyone but your husband! No relatives.
3) Finally, at least judging from what you said: it will not work., The fact that he cannot support his family outside of the house, that he made you live with his parents, and more importantly, the fact that he was not defending you from your in-laws from the very beginning is a VERY BAD SIGN. I know this type of guys: weak, unmanly, children forever, take abuse from their families and everyone else, do not defend their wives and loved ones. These type of guys will never be able to be MEN in the family, will never support or defend their family. The worst part: they never change. The fact that he started defending you ONLY after conversation with you only proves my point. I am sorry that it happened to you but unless you are OK with this and you like this type of guys, RUN AWAY. I know this is bad to give relationship advices but this is true. I am sorry...

; Don't continue this ridiculous plan as it sounds like a very stupid and immature plan.
File for divorce if you are SURE you don't want to spend your life time together with this woman. Do everything in legal way and don't play mean games since there are kids involved.
These kids can't help their parents are irresponsible and don't take responsibilities for their actions.
One last tip:
Next time, don't think with your wurm, think with your brains

; Don't continue this ridiculous plan as it sounds like a very stupid and immature plan.
File for divorce if you are SURE you don't want to spend your life time together with this woman. Do everything in legal way and don't play mean games since there are kids involved.
These kids can't help their parents are irresponsible and don't take responsibilities for their actions.
One last tip:
Next time, don't think with your wurm, think with your brains

; Can you please make a donation to the following:
the Channah&Aaron charity ??!!
Thank you

; Can you please make a donation to the following:
the Channah&Aaron charity ??!!
Thank you

; Can you please make a donation to the following:
the Channah&Aaron charity ??!!
Thank you

all,
I know people can get out of shape, with the whole "im American #######" and I know the OP didn't mean to insult anyone. as most know as in a recent post, America was built by immigration, unless you were part of that original tribe (can't think of the name for the life of me) then somewhere down the line in your family, was an immigrant.
I am a little sensitive with that subject, as myself, a green card holder, and here legally, and working and paying taxes, I had a run in with one of those arrogant Americans who think that "he deserves something" for being American, being a Canadian, living in the south, I have a bit ob an accent, and get "where are you from " daily, well i was interviewing him for a job, yes interviewing him, and he asked me that question, and he boldly told me to go home, and im not welcome here, and that I am taking jobs away from the Americans. and he deserves a job before I do. well needless to say, I did not give him that job, and well, it did rub me the wrong way, so i do get a little hyper when i see posts when at first you think someone saying "i'm American" i deserve something. i know the OP didn't mean it that way, but were all here in the same boat, and alot are sensitive, so, on both sides, understand each other, and just quit, before it gets ugly. so much negativity here on this site lately. were here for "support" not arguing or belittling someone.
i know i kind of blabbered but i wanted to put my word in. for both the Americans, (not the idiots who think they are owed something, as they need to look at their family tree) and for us "immigrants" who came here for love, and love only.
Jen.

I am sorry but all USC get treated the same way. My husband served this country in the US army for 26 years( 2 tours in Iraq) Kuwait and we certainly did not get any special treatment at all . Neither of us had a criminal record nothing but we had to wait just like everyone else. Be patient it will happen soon.