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We just got NOA 1 for date of a January 8 for my mil.  Our field office is Texas.   Good luck and good waiting to everyone.  

i couldn't read all the responses by everyone because half of them were just too judgemental altho there were some good advices thrown in there in between the judgements. we all agree that OP did wrong by talking to both woman and by marrying the one he doesn't love even if it was by "force"...but dang some people just keep talking about this and not answering his questions. altho yes OP doesn't seem to really try see thru the judgement for the advices and there are some good advices there.
OP you need to either try to annul the marriage or get a consultation with the best divorce lawyer in your town...even if you don't use that lawyer at least she can't either because that lawyer won't be able to represent her after meeting with you. plus you'll be able to get ideas on getting this divorce done with. i also agree with other comments that you should try to get away from her and not let her know your whereabouts by finding new job, new apartment, etc. i personally feel you need some support from your family, put away your pride and go to your dad for some help especially financially or just to disappear from her. Get this divorce done with then you can move on to trying to get a green card.
altho i do have to say that it'll be hard when you apply for a green card because they will probably look at your first marriage as fraud (on your part) even if it's forced on you. what you don't understand when all the other comments were saying that even if this marriage was forced, your future petition for green card, the USCIS officer/adjudicator, will not look at it as you being forced but that you did this marriage to get a green card and that it fell apart before you were able to start the process. it's just their way of thinking when they see things like this. so yes you were forced but a USCIS adjudicator may not believe that and say you tried this marriage for fraud. that means you have to be very careful and thorough if in the future you petition for green card with your true love spouse.
also yes find out about if you divorce here that you still need to do anything else in your country too...especially cuz you are fromt he phillipines.
good luck

if you came one a K1 fiance visa more than likely you won't be able to get a driver's license without I-797C (NOA for AOS) or EAD/AP. some banks will let you open accounts but most won't. you won't be able to work cuz that will be illegal.
have you ever thought that maybe this is your husband trial period on whether he likes you and if he didn't he'll just not sign the I-864. what if he decides that he likes you after 1 or 2 years but still doesn't want to sign it because of he's afraid still. if he won't sign now when he's more in love with you how can you believe that he'll sign in a few years. if your relationship starts with him not trusting you now how do you know he will change at all. i personally think he wants to keep the power over you with this I-864. but it truly it is your decision on what you want to do. i'm sorry if i'm being harsh.

You're being ridiculous here, in my opinion. First, waiting to have conditions lifted is not that big of a deal at all, as you are with your spouse and have a letter that allows you to travel and work. Yeah, it's annoying, but if I had to dedicate resources to either A) ensure that people get their conditions lifted faster or B) ensure that people don't get butchered by the Assad regime and/or Al Qaeda militants operating in Syria, I would unhesitatingly choose B. Sorry if that impacts you, but that's the way it goes: there is a terrible war being waged in Syria and no one should be condemned to death just so you have the pleasure of getting your green card a couple weeks early. Learn to deal with it.
Second, your Peruvian friends are nuts if they think that Bush left the economy in good shape. You may not remember this, but in late 2008 the entire financial sector of this country absolutely imploded, causing fast amounts of wealth to be destroyed, the credit market to become extremely restricted, and unemployment to skyrocket. Next time someone asks you why American's aren't getting all nostalgic for the good old days back when we all saw our 401ks lose half of their value, you can tell them that.
Third, using Peru as some yardstick to measure the United States against doesn't make any sense. The reason why the sol has gone up has little to do with the economic health of the United States and more to do with Peruvian economic indicators. Since the fall of the Fujimorato in 2000 Peru has experienced tremendous growth in GDP. For a while they were averaging 9% a year. Peru had the fortune of having the largest-producing gold mine in the entire world right as the price of gold shot up as a consequence of the DJIA plummeting under Bush. Vast amounts of wealth were created. Peru has also had the ability to greatly expand its tourism sector, with Machu Picchu being declared one of the "new" wonders of the world, the crime situation being brought under control, and the internal conflict against the PCP-SL and MRTA brought to and end. As I'm sure you know, ever since about 1987 Peruvians have been paranoid of inflation with good reason and the government thus never prints up gobs of cash like other Latin American countries do, nor does it allow the state to grow. With a booming economy, a small state, and little money being printed, yeah, the Peruvian nuevo sol has gone up. If you measure the dollar against the Euro, a currency that people actually care about and spend, obviously you see the exact opposite effect -- the dollar has gone up and the Euro down since Obama took office.
In any event, I don't like Obama or Romney or Bush, and I think that USCIS does a pretty bad job at a lot of things. If someone wants to vote for Mitt Romney because he had to wait seven months to get his removal of conditions petition adjudicated, I guess that's his right, but it is extraordinarily silly. Tell me, what is Mitt Romney's plan to ensure that ROC petitions are adjudicated faster? I've looked at the RNC party platform and strangely I've missed the part about petition adjudication. Can you let me know what page its on? Thanks.

No one is calling anyone racist, Obama is not to blame for how slow Vermont is moving he dosen't work there does he?
You are obviously one of those people who think that Obama was suppose to just come into office and fix everything that was already broken before he got there so your so called observations are of no value. Point is if OP isn't willing to have patience in the process it takes for he and his wife to be in the US together then he shouldn't bother going any further with it. If you want Bush to be president again why don't you go re-elect him? you are speaking about money value why don't you speak of all the Americans that bush sent to war? all the innocent lives lost? people with sons and daughters? atleast Obama fought to bring home those remaining soldiers to thier families. The man is not a superhero he can't fix everything overnight so stop dreaming. It takes time to rebuild things that have been broken!

Wow you all need to stop blaming President Obama for everything, he has fixed more in this country than bush ever could have done so stop riding the man! i wonder why it is that u don't like him? because he is not a fake like romney? anyways if u don't like the President maybe you really do need to move back to wherever you are from and stop pointing fingers.

OK...I don't care if I get thread banned. Cases like this are the reason immigration is so difficult for people with BONAFIDE marriages and relationships to get through this broken system of ours. I will be the one to pass judgement. You just withdrew a petition for K1, now you're in "love" with a woman who has barely been married on a k1 to a different man and you want advice from those of us who would do anything to have our SO with us??? Those of us who have done everything legally, who love and miss our SO. Who have been separated for months, some couples for years. Couples like my husband and I, who did everything by the book,went through the entire process start to finish only to be told that we are in the black hole of administrative processing, we have to wait until the process is done. It has already been 2 months since we have been put in AP, and it could be months and months more before his visa is issued, we just don't know. We have spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on travel expenses for me to go to see him every 3 or 4 months just so we can spend a few weeks together as a married couple in the same country, countless hours on skype and msn, phone and texting. the list goes on and on. I wouldn't trade one minute of it, because my husband and I know in the end we WILL be reunited, that we have a real and true marriage and we love each other, and that all of the stress and pain and worry of being apart will have been worth it. Your whole story is a hot mess and exactly the reason it is so difficult for the rest of us. I said what a lot of people here are thinking. Sorry for the rant people, I am just so tired of reading these stories, I really really am.

Regan,
I've been following your posts, such as when you refused to read any information provided by USCIS, complained that people on here were being mean when they suggested you read the guides, and asked if one of us would put all of our life savings at risk by sponsoring you, someone we don't know, so you could continue to study. Now you are essentially asking for advice on how to mislead your grandfather into signing something.
When I was your age, I was a totally immature wreck who spent my time sitting around drinking and goofing off, so I'm not one to judge. That being said, you're a married man and you are going to be a father in two months. My honest-to-god advice to you is to man up and approach these problems like a mature adult. Mature adults don't run around trying to downplay what their grandfather is getting into, nor do they say "the entire future of my family is on the line, but screw it, I don't want to have to sit around reading this #######!" Mature adults take charge of the situation and do whatever they have to do to make sure their family has it as good as it can get.
I don't know what the solution to all of your problems it, and I wish you the best in resolving them, but it seems to me that you need to adopt a new attitude.

Well, I suppose if I had the choice between two lawyers who had just recently passed the bar, one of whom had prior experience working for an immigration doc prep service, I'd hire the guy with the doc prep experience. He's less likely to botch the paperwork. However, if I had a situation that actually required the services of a lawyer, like filing an appeal or going to immigration court, both lawyers would be equally inexperienced.
If you're going to pay lawyer's fees then vet the lawyer and find out what you're getting for your money. I wouldn't necessarily refuse to hire someone who had recently passed the bar exam if my case was straightforward, and if I was getting a decent break on the fees. It would also help a lot if I knew the guy had specific experience, like working as a paralegal in a lawyer's office while they were going to law school. If they had very little specific experience, and they were charging top dollar, then I'd back away. If I had a difficult legal situation then I'd insist on an experienced attorney.
Filing a visa petition is usually a bureaucratic process. Most people don't need a lawyer for this since it's just a matter of submitting the right forms and documents. Actually getting the visa involves the discretion of a consular officer. The only way anyone else could help you with this is if they have specific experience with that specific consulate. If you've got a difficult situation (an I-601 waiver, for example) then a lawyer with extensive experience with people in the same situation can be worth their weight in gold. If you've got serious issues with a particular consulate then a lawyer with extensive experience with that consulate can be equally valuable. For most people with routine cases a lawyer is not necessary.

I think it's a good thing that she wants his family and friends to know about her. Seems like she wants to be involved in his life. Also I do agree that the important people in his life already knows about her so it's a good start. Although I'm hoping he isn't lying out right that there is no one when people are asking about any gf or s/o.
I was being a little bit the same way too in the beginning of our engagement but then I decided that if we are going to marry and everyone will know and meet him anyways then I dont need to keep it a secret. I thought I shouldn't care about the comments and gossip cuz they mean nothing to me, only his happiness means everything to me. Also I thought I should be able to face the gossips and comments alone (when he's not here yet) cuz he will have to face them too when he comes.
I agree don't be afraid or ashamed but that doesn't mean you have to tell the whole world. Just don't lie about if people ask you.

lol i think you can find hippa info on the net. it's the same nationally.

i work in the hospital and usually if a patient gives us record of something but doesn't ask for it back then we assume that we can keep it and maybe that they don't nee it. altho our hospital we usually ask if the patients needs the forms/paper back tho...don't know about others. we do shred everything as soon as we can. can't leave things hanging around...yes hippa can cause thousands if not millions of dollar. altho they could have kept it in the records for a few days or weeks.
will you need that rfe for future. you should call and ask if you can get another.

Why don't you want to provide the greencard? Will it hurt her position if she did provide her employer with gc?