Maxx121

You sir seem to be a good christian and i tip my hat to you. Sometimes frustration pops up and makes us lose our cool.
Giles i will say a little prayer for you and yours and i hope you find jesus cause you need help my friend.
My Memory Verse:
PSA 101:7 No one who practices deceit will dwell in my house; no one who
speaks falsely will stand in my presence.
Something you should read:
http://bible-truth.org/Eph5-25-31.html
If your wife says you dont believe in god. Tell her you are trying to understand and ask her to help you.

I don't think any mainstream religion that I know about is evil. Its people who do evil things in the name of religion that are the issue. I know some really horrible people that claim to be Christian, and I have known some really sweet and wonderful people that practice Islam. Every religion has had extremists. I don't claim to know much about Islam but there are some things I just don't agree with or understand...but as a Christian, I accept that its someone choice as much as it is mine to be Christian. Quite frankly, there are some things about my particular faith that I don't agree with or understand at all.

Hello all! I want to share this walkthrough I made regarding the medical exam I just took at St. Lukes. I hope this will help anybody in anyway.
I thought of creating this during my 2-day medical appointment, taking notes every step of the way and sketching floor plans in between waiting time. I know that there had been a few written about one’s medical experience at SLMCEC and as much as it helped me prepare and be aware of the whole scenario, I wanted to share something more comprehensive.
But please be reminded that everything here is based on my own experience and someone else’s procedures may vary. All went well on my medical so I assume this is within the typical flow of the whole process.
Ok, to start with:
The Fees:
US$213.35 for 15 y.o. and older
US$185.35 for 14 y.o. and below
Hotels Near SLMCEC
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...=48111&st=0
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/lofivers...hp/t130131.html
What to Bring:
- If you don’t have your appointment letter yet, you may bring a photocopy of your NOA2 letter and NVC letter showing your MNL case no.
- Valid Passport (have it photocopied as well)
- Appointment letter – Bring original and have the first 2 pages photo copied.
- 4 pcs. 2x2 photos – white background, with both ears uncovered and without earrings.
- Black ballpen
- jacket (it’s cold inside)
Misc:
- Bottled water. Foods are not allowed, but you can slip through hiding your crackers somewhere in your bag.
- Play Station Portable, Nintendo DS, Ipod Touch, books/pocket books – well, I mean, something you can play/read while waiting in between check-ups and procedures.
The 1st Day
:: Arriving at St. Lukes ::

W/ appointment letter:
I handed over my appointment letter but then the security guard told me to have the 1st two pages photocopied, so I did (just right across the street) and then went back to hand him both the original and the duplicate, he stamped it both with “SLMCEC---something” .. and handed me a queue number. I arrived at 4:45am and got no. 32.
He gave me a form - the Patient Data Sheet (PDS) and the guard will check specific boxes you should fill in. Upon filling out your PDS, you’ll see an ‘Alien Case No.’ – that would be you MNL Case no.
He also handed me an Evaluation sheet to be returned upon release of your medical result – well, it’s just a Rate-Our-Clinic thing, with Excellent-Good-Poor check boxes
and questions on how to improve their service blah-blah.
Without appointment letter – well I guess, it’ll be the same as above as long as you have your NOA2 letter and NVC letter with MNL Case no.
- After you completed filling out your PDS, there’s really nothing more to do but sit down and wait for your number to be called.
- When the guard started to call in the numbers, he called batch by batch, 10 nos. in a batch.
- He guided us to fall in line in front of ‘Digital Photo Room’ to have our --- well, digital photo taken
- Have your PDS, Passport and photos ready. I handed those to the guy who takes the photos, everything was returned to me shortly after that.
- I went straight ahead in front of the releasing counters and fell in line.
- When it’s my turn, the screener asked me a few questions about my medical history … basically, you just have to answer everything he/she asks.. She stapled two(2) 2x2 photos on the PDS and inserted the other two(2) on a resealable plastic and stapled it once again on the lower part of the PDS.
- After it, the screener told me to pay the medical fees at the cashier located at the 5th floor.
- I then took the elevators to 5th floor and found the cashier at the corner, right beside the elevator. Paid the fees and told me to go to 4th floor.
:: 4th Floor ::

- I gave my PDS, Receipt, Passport and the photocopied appointment letter (keep the original, I believe that will be the one you’ll show at the interview) to the nurse at the reception. She gave me an “HIV Consent form” to fill out – I returned it to her afterwards and she then told me to sit down and wait for my name to be called.
- When my name was called, the nurse asked me of the last day of my last period (always remember your 1st and last day of period, they will keep on asking it till you bleed again … kidding)
- After she jotted down some notes on my papers, she gave it back to me and pointed me to go at the blood extraction room.
- Before the nurse started to collect blood sample from my arm, she asked me my name, my age and again, my first and last day of period… This procedure is to assess you of any drug use and of course, HIV.
- After the blood extraction, the nurse told me to go straight to the urine collection area, just right across the other side of the reception, a nurse is assigned there at the ladies C.R. – she’ll give you a plastic container to put your urine sample in. Hand it back to her when you’re done. This procedure is for pregnancy test and probably for other kidney-related illnesses. She told me to sit back down and wait for my name to be called.
- My name was called and they gave me back my papers and passport and told me to proceed to 3rd floor for the X-Ray.
:: 3rd Floor ::

- I gave my set of papers to the nurse at the reception. If you have previous x-rays, be sure to bring the film (if it’s still available) so they can compare (and God knows if that would actually help alter their decision against their own x-ray results at any rate ~_~)
- Anyhoo, since I don’t have an x-ray film with me, they simply gave me a paper to fill out, stating the reason why I don’t have one – I checked the box that reads “No X-ray has ever been taken”. Gave it back to them.
- Somewhere on my PDS, they made me write my first day of my last menstrual period.
- Told me to sit down and wait for my name to be called (well, isn’t it always?)
- So my name is called and another nurse wrote down additional notes on my papers before he allowed me to enter the X-ray room. He returned to me my set of papers.
- Inside the X-ray room (a little room before the actual X-ray room) is a little area with some chairs so we can sit as we wait for our turn. Another small area is a changing room with hospital gowns provided where we should disrobe our upper garments (bra and shirt) .. any necklace should be removed as well. I sat down and waited for my name to be called.
- Upon calling my name, I then gave my set of papers to the nurse inside…. and it’s X-ray time! (I’ve been very anxious about this part ever since coz this is where they would find out if you have something strange in your lungs – hence, they’ll have you undergo the dreadful Sputum test) .. the nurse inside would assist you on how to properly execute the X-ray procedure.
- After I finished the X-ray, the nurse gave me back my papers and told me to proceed to 5th floor.
:: 5th Floor ::

- I walked towards the U.S. counter and handed over my set of papers to the personnel assigned there .. he wrote something on my papers and then a different nurse picked up my papers, he assisted me to follow him to have my body weight and height measured.
- Right after the nurse wrote down the weight record on my PDS, another nurse told me to proceed to the ‘Visual Exam Room’.
- Inside the Visual Exam Room, the nurse conducted a visual activity test where you would have to read a Snellen Chart opposite a mirror. (more like a ‘give me a headache’ test) The nurse will ask if you're using contact lens or eye glasses prior to the exam.
- After the eye test, he told me to go sit and wait for my name to be called. (I’m starting to have the feeling of omitting all these sit-and-wait-for-my-name-to-be-called in this entire entry)
- The next thing done is they measured my Vital Signs - Blood Pressure and pulse rate.
- I handed over to the U.S. Counter my set of PDS after completing the Vital Signs procedure.
- Guess what happens here ………………… Correct!! Sit down and wait for my name to be called.
- My name is called, went to the U.S. counter and they handed me a number. That would be my number for the physical exam.
- It’s been the most agonizing 15 minutes of my whole medical process … waiting while thinking of getting all naked – NOT in front of your fiancé/husband … LOL!
- My turn for the physical exam .. the doctor/physician will ask you all sorts of questions starting from your name to all your past operations/hospitalizations to inhaling mosquito coils to having contact with an alien from the outer space positive with HIV……
- After all the seemingly non-stop questioning, the doctor ordered me to sign papers (kinda like a contract) attesting that I am telling nothing but the truth. She made me sign twice – one for saying that I gave birth 2 times, and the other one for stating that I’ve never had TB nor had contact with people who are infected of Tuberculosis.
- Then she made me disrobe completely, but thank goodness, I still had to wear a hospital gown – at least. I laid down on the bed and she checks certain parts of my body. Doctors will specifically check slash marks for suicidal attempts, needle marks for drug use, tattoos for positive contamination from use of needles…
…. and then the private parts … She’ll make you spread your legs (or make you lie on your left side and bend your knees towards your chest). The physician checked the ####### and the ####### .. I believe they check it for possible signs of Sexually Transmitted Diseases or any abnormalities whatsoever. Don’t worry, if you’re a female, you’ll also have a female physician that will attend to you.
- She told me to go straight to U.S. Counter. I handed my PDS and they attached a slip where it reads, “You must personally claim your results....dah dah dah” in 3 different languages .. what the! … The nurse handed back my papers shortly right after that and told me to go to 2nd floor for immunization interview.
:: 2nd Floor ::

- I gave my set of PDS to the guy on the reception right in front of the Immunization rooms.
- loooooooong wait here ..
- Called for Immunization interview (doctors area). The physician simply asked me a few questions like previous vaccines (don’t worry if you don’t have a record or can’t remember any, just tell the physician about it), sexual contact, pregnancies, if you’ve had chicken pox before, if it left any visible scars, etc … She told me of the available vaccines that I would take if all goes well with my medical results.
- It’s a wrap! The day is done! … and the last thing to do is to check out on the 2nd floor check out counter. There they will tell you to return the next day for the results. They will tell you what time. The only things left in your hands now would be your passport, the receipt, the evaluation letter and your original appointment letter/NOA2/NVC letter.
- Robinson’s place is not far from SLMCEC .. You’ll be as hungry as **** so I suggest you go there and treat yourself
The 2nd Day
- Upon arriving at SLMCEC, the guard pointed me to another guard inside, standing behind some kind of podium, I handed him my receipt and he entered the control no. on a computer database, so this guy sort of has the ‘master’s list’ for all results of med exams.
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There are two things I know by far regarding the results:
If the guard stamped your receipt with “IMMUNIZATION” – then congratulations! You passed the medical exam and if you have anything scheduled after that, like for example - your visa interview in two days (like me), then there should be no worries.
If the guard stamped your receipt with “SPUTUM --- something” then unfortunately, you have to have a Sputum Collection and a 2-month long delay.
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…….. Okay, so I have mine stamped with “Immunization” and this made me proceed to 2nd floor for my vaccines.
- I gave my receipt to the guy at the reception (just the receipt, keep your passport) … and like always, I sat down and waited for my name to be called.
- ZZZZzzzzzzZzZzzz
- The intercom may sound vague most of the times, so you must listen attentively all the time.
- My name was called and they made us fall in line in front of the check out counter on the same floor (2nd floor). The guy behind the counter collected our passports.
- Go back to sleep. I mean, get back to your seat.
- My name is called and it’s time for my immunization. The attending nurse first asked me some few questions about allergies I might have, date of first and last day of my last menstrual period, my name, age and birth. Vaccines may vary for every applicant, I had 4 shots, 2 on each arm (TDAP, MMR, Anti-Cervical and HPV).
- *phew* .. thanks goodness, everything’s done … I was told to wait at the ground floor for the results.
:: GROUND FLOOR ::
- Zzz
- Waited like 3 hours
- My name is finally called but it’s not for the result yet … I went to window 1, the personnel made me sign my PDS and then I surrendered my passport .. told to me waaaaaiiiiiiiiiiiiit until I die … kidding … waited for another 2 hours or so.
- RESULTS!! Oh the Wonderful Result!! … I was called to window 6 with a female staff – she asked a lot of questions like a pre-screener at the interview, she seems to ask a lot about what you’ve written on your PDS and a few from the physician comments written on it .. she’s kind of like verifying.
- She finally handed down a CD containing the X-ray details and a Vaccine sheet (these 2 are the only things they'll give you). She also told me that they would be the one to forward the results of my Medical Exam to the U.S. Embassy. They would keep everything including your passport.
- I went out. Took a pedicab to Taft Avenue and bought myself a Baconator for all my day’s worth.

ive already told her i will not send any money for any reason, i dont pay for my parents medical care and i wont for hers. they are cut off for life in my book.

You were only there two weeks and you hit him? That is not enough time to give a man to adjust his living situation, what did you expect from him?
Honestly he did what was best given the situation.
Understand this, in america if a man hits a woman its made out to be a HUGE deal and he could get into serious trouble. If he hit you and you called the police he would be treated horribly.
If you hit him and he calls the police the police officers will laugh at him.
When it comes to women the justice system is always in their favor here. By striking him after two weeks of being in the US you give him the impression that that is the type of person you are and he then had to think about his future with you. How would he react the second time? This time he did not hit you back, next time he might, and if you call the police, he will be the one going to jail most likely.
Like i said, you gave him no choice when you put your hands on him after two weeks, a few years ok thats different.
If I was married to my SO for 5 years and she one day blew up and hit me then i would take it as i deserved it.
If i wasnt marrieeed to my SO and after two weeks of her being here seh hit me I would prolly have a sit down with her and give her a second chance after explaining to her what is and isnt expected during an argument, as she has never been in a serious relationship before and im 10 years her senior with a marriage and kid under my belt.
He chose to not take the chance.
With relationships like many of us here you really have to think alot more when things you dont expect happen.

Sorry but you guys missed when the thread got hijacked for a bit. The OP is Boonraska with her fiance in america for two weeks and hit him, my opinion she is wrong.
the second scenario was from accrossthemiles, her ex was very abusive and she didnt know how to get out of it eventually she did and i take it she is with someone who makes her happy now. before she left when the final straw was broken she smacked hiim i take it, and from what i gather this was with a philipino man in the phils and since she is now here i take it she is now with a US citizen going through the k1 process.
to her i say kudos, if you cant understand why she did it then you both need to step out of ultra conservative suburbia.
unfortunatly the world is not perfect, and if a man twice your size is towering over you breathing down your neck yelling and screaming terrifying you to the point of madness for YEARS and you are to afraid to leave because you feel you have no where else to go and one day you snap during a fight and hit him suprising him for an instant which makes him pause and you grab your children and run never looking back.
you kinda gotta give the NEVER HIT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING bit a rest. There are exceptions to EVERY rule. so give it a rest please.
like i said the OP BONRASKA is wrong and there is no way after two weeks she was abused in any way, to the otheer poster ACCROSSTHEMILES, i tip my hat to you for having the courage to leave an abusive relationship.
and yes a woman hitting a man is wrong, but if you cant take a smack from your wife for being an idiot and cry to the cops you are prolly a puss.
thats not abuse, abuse is ongoing. unless your wife is an amazon then thats kinda different.
now a man hitting a woman is a waaaaay wrong, simply because MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT PHYSICALLY EQUAL. So dont give that both are equally wrong #######, if ya wana take it to law then think of it like this. for an arrest to be made in an assault there has to be visible damage done to a person, a smacking a man would hardly leave a mark, unless you are white then you might have a red mark for what 10 mnts? would be gone by the time the cops come making it an arrest for harrasement if im not mistaken which is not a crime but a violation.
now if a man hits a woman then she will more than likely blead or have a permanant mark, even if its gone by the time the cops come alot of times officrs will still take the womans word for it and say they see it, dont beleive me? ask a cop if you want i can give a couple NYPD officers numbers to call and talk to them about some of the horror stories theey have seen, i can even put in in contact with some of my army buddies who were with me when we had to drag a soldier off his wife.
a woman hitting a man is NOTHING compared to what a man can do to a woman, and anyone who says its EQUAL is a damn idiot and never had to see a woman hurt by a man.
step outa your idiot boxes.

He probably didnt tell her right then that he wanted her to leave because he was afraid she would lose control again. He thought about it overnight and talked to his best friend and everyone told him to get this unstable person out of your house.
I am sorry you hit him and now regret it, but you fiance has also suffered much humiliation as well. He is being laughed at by many of his casual friends and is out a ton of money and time to get you here. In only two weeks you claim he was non supportive of you emotionally, took advantage of you sexually and enraged you to the point of violence.
You both lost equally....you are both where you should be...apart from each other.

You were only there two weeks and you hit him? That is not enough time to give a man to adjust his living situation, what did you expect from him?
Honestly he did what was best given the situation.
Understand this, in america if a man hits a woman its made out to be a HUGE deal and he could get into serious trouble. If he hit you and you called the police he would be treated horribly.
If you hit him and he calls the police the police officers will laugh at him.
When it comes to women the justice system is always in their favor here. By striking him after two weeks of being in the US you give him the impression that that is the type of person you are and he then had to think about his future with you. How would he react the second time? This time he did not hit you back, next time he might, and if you call the police, he will be the one going to jail most likely.
Like i said, you gave him no choice when you put your hands on him after two weeks, a few years ok thats different.
If I was married to my SO for 5 years and she one day blew up and hit me then i would take it as i deserved it.
If i wasnt marrieeed to my SO and after two weeks of her being here seh hit me I would prolly have a sit down with her and give her a second chance after explaining to her what is and isnt expected during an argument, as she has never been in a serious relationship before and im 10 years her senior with a marriage and kid under my belt.
He chose to not take the chance.
With relationships like many of us here you really have to think alot more when things you dont expect happen.

You were only there two weeks and you hit him? That is not enough time to give a man to adjust his living situation, what did you expect from him?
Honestly he did what was best given the situation.
Understand this, in america if a man hits a woman its made out to be a HUGE deal and he could get into serious trouble. If he hit you and you called the police he would be treated horribly.
If you hit him and he calls the police the police officers will laugh at him.
When it comes to women the justice system is always in their favor here. By striking him after two weeks of being in the US you give him the impression that that is the type of person you are and he then had to think about his future with you. How would he react the second time? This time he did not hit you back, next time he might, and if you call the police, he will be the one going to jail most likely.
Like i said, you gave him no choice when you put your hands on him after two weeks, a few years ok thats different.
If I was married to my SO for 5 years and she one day blew up and hit me then i would take it as i deserved it.
If i wasnt marrieeed to my SO and after two weeks of her being here seh hit me I would prolly have a sit down with her and give her a second chance after explaining to her what is and isnt expected during an argument, as she has never been in a serious relationship before and im 10 years her senior with a marriage and kid under my belt.
He chose to not take the chance.
With relationships like many of us here you really have to think alot more when things you dont expect happen.

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.eb1d4c2a3e5b9ac89243c6a7543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=ddce0b89284a3210VgnVCM100000b92ca60aRCRD&vgnextchannel=ddce0b89284a3210VgnVCM100000b92ca60aRCRD
just sent an email myself...

We're in agreement.
No problem. As someone noted, "dependency" does not have a negative connotation unless the context is constructed to mean that.
What you did was emphasize the reciprocal nature of the arrangement, and yes I agree with that too.
One of the reasons I found Filipinas attractive was their committment to family.
It didn't hurt that they were generally scorching hot beautiful.

My first wife cheated on me many times and my eyes were closed to it, even after i found out and she repented and was born again (which didnt last long) she cheated again and we both realized we werent ready to be married to one another. Had i listed to advice given to me i wouldnt have gotten married inthe first place.
You have to love with your heart and your head.
The extremes that you will go to to ensure that she is being faithful will take you to your limits and push her away from you. If she is being faithful you wont be sure and because you are not sure she will eventually resent you for keeping the reigns around her neck. And you will never be able to trust her to go home alone, trust me i been there.
By trying to work it out with her, you will probably be validating a marriage that was started for the purpose of bringing another here. and by the time its over she will probably do just that, unless he decides to be with someone else. In which case she may just resign herself to stay with you. when you are courting someone you love you hope they will return your love, you shouldnt have to hope that your wife will return it. If you can deal with that then get ready for the ride. Ive been on it and didnt enjoy it, i doubt you will either.
But who knows, maybe yours will turn out different. Thats what i thought back then.
A house built on a poor foundation is bound to fall if the wind blows a bit to hard.

You sir seem to me to be the non confrontational type SHE seems to be the spoiled brat type and they love a fight. No offence but you are spoiling her, if she was spoiled to begin with then you should have known what you were getting yourself into, if she wasnt and you made her this way then thats worse.
Solution:
Divorce, if its not that serious then you need to tap into the below:
Righteous indignation typically a reactive emotion of anger over perceived mistreatment, insult, or malice. It is akin to what is called the sense of injustice. In some Christian doctrines, righteous indignation is considered the only form of anger which is not sinful, e.g., when Jesus drove the money lenders out of the temple. (just just need to get the beggars out - alot harder if you ask me)
They are your family to now, and if it takes you picking up the phone and letting them know you are not rich, do that. It may get her upset but if she loves you then she will understand.
If it takes you letting the electricity get turned off and saying to her that this is your fault because your letting those people bleed me dry, then do it and get reeeeeaaaaallly pissed.
if you cant tap into that anger give me a call and i will have a couple of big black dudes come to your door claiming to be loan sharks telling your wife you owe them money and if you dont pay up they wil break both your legs.
I mean from what i can gather its been almost a year she has been here and if she still doesnt get it then maybe she wasnt the one. I mean you married her to be with her and care for her, not a bunch of money grubbing show offs that like to get stuff from the US to say they got something from the US tha tthey coudl ahve brought there for cheaper.
Oh and to me this is key, always have a plan with your money. If you dont have a house, then save up to buy a house, if you have a house, save up to buy another house. If you have two then save up to buy a house in the phills, and if you got it like that tehn you shouldnt be buggin about money. Alot of times your counterpart needs to see that the two of you have a goal in mind and they will not think of money in the bank as there to send back home.

my first wife was very irresponsible with money, caused huuuuge arguments and finally when we got divorced (more than just money) i felt financial freedom again. Now i have saved and saved purchased my first home, met a beautiful new woman who is young and responsible (the two words rarely go for americanized women ) and looking forward to the future.
sucks to go half way around the world and wind up with the type of women you coulda found in your own backyard.
Life is full of choices if you love her then fine, but love can only take you so far before your sanity is thrown out the window.

You sir seem to me to be the non confrontational type SHE seems to be the spoiled brat type and they love a fight. No offence but you are spoiling her, if she was spoiled to begin with then you should have known what you were getting yourself into, if she wasnt and you made her this way then thats worse.
Solution:
Divorce, if its not that serious then you need to tap into the below:
Righteous indignation typically a reactive emotion of anger over perceived mistreatment, insult, or malice. It is akin to what is called the sense of injustice. In some Christian doctrines, righteous indignation is considered the only form of anger which is not sinful, e.g., when Jesus drove the money lenders out of the temple. (just just need to get the beggars out - alot harder if you ask me)
They are your family to now, and if it takes you picking up the phone and letting them know you are not rich, do that. It may get her upset but if she loves you then she will understand.
If it takes you letting the electricity get turned off and saying to her that this is your fault because your letting those people bleed me dry, then do it and get reeeeeaaaaallly pissed.
if you cant tap into that anger give me a call and i will have a couple of big black dudes come to your door claiming to be loan sharks telling your wife you owe them money and if you dont pay up they wil break both your legs.
I mean from what i can gather its been almost a year she has been here and if she still doesnt get it then maybe she wasnt the one. I mean you married her to be with her and care for her, not a bunch of money grubbing show offs that like to get stuff from the US to say they got something from the US tha tthey coudl ahve brought there for cheaper.
Oh and to me this is key, always have a plan with your money. If you dont have a house, then save up to buy a house, if you have a house, save up to buy another house. If you have two then save up to buy a house in the phills, and if you got it like that tehn you shouldnt be buggin about money. Alot of times your counterpart needs to see that the two of you have a goal in mind and they will not think of money in the bank as there to send back home.

For something like this i would suggest presenting your case to a Lawyer and see what he has to say. At least then you can fully explain yourself to him and find out what legal things might come back at you and what her options would be.
People are a bit to judgemental. In my first marriage my wife and i went through alot of #######, when we divorced she moved to another state rather than sucking me dry emotionally, mentaly, and financially. If she is really as bad as you say then i doubt a divorce would end anything, in fact she might even not want to give you one. If your heart is totally out of this then do what you feel is right. But if there is a chance you still love her and later on down the line you want her back, doing her dirty like this would prolly be a bad thing.
Best of luck to you in whatever you decide, im sure there are personal factors that you dont wish to share on such a public forum.

Hi Giles!
I happened to pass by to your thread.... so while I am resting in front of my computer.... I would give my one-fourth cent.... LoL
About your situation in hospital bills, you wife can help them but probably to a certain extent only that your financial side will not suffer. My one-eighth cent on this, she probably not the only family member and shouldn't be paying all the bills. Her other relatives could contribute in paying hospital bills as hospital bills are really expensive. Like for instance, I have uncle-grandpa that doesn't have kids, so when he got hospitalized, I gave money for the bills but I only gave what I really can afford to give (which mean the extra money that we usually have to buy some non-necessities stuff). The rest of my family members contributed to help paid his bills.
This is just my mere observation and I don't intend to insult anybody nor hurt feelings by addressing this. Most Filipinas have this so-called "kayabangan" and sending money to their family implicate progress to their family. It will give their neighbors the notion that they are getting rich and they would be above them in terms of status in life (esp. if they came from a poor way of living). So no matter how much money they will send to their family in the Philippines, it will never be enough.
My one-eighth cent of your situation, did she marry you in order to get here and work to earn money for her family? or did she marry you in order to build a family of your own? and which reason weighs more?
You said you asked your wife about the future of your kids(if you already have), my husband asked me that too because we're comparing the way of living here and in the Philippines. I told him that we will save for our kids education and probably send them to Philippines for college if the quality of education is the same.
I am probably bias on my opinion or probably I am addressing some truth, I don't send money to my family in the Philippines like how most of the Filipinas regularly do because for me, helping is necessary but it always have boundaries. I have family here to take care of (though, just my husband and our little pup only for now). I have to think ahead of my family's future. I sound probably selfish, but come think of it, I didn't go in this foreign land to earn money for people that probably not thinking of my future but only what their present, I went here to build a family that I will call my own and have them until I could work no more.

honest, gary was a bit rude when he said " K1's are not eligible for expidite, which part of that is not clear? " yaaaaa thats a bit harsh when thats the first time i read him say it.
And as far as being defensive, i am a single father myself and my son is just about 2 years old. If i was dating an american woman no one would think twice about why. But even at my work people make off the cuff coments not gettin as they say it that its a bit rude and offensive to boil our love down to simply wanting a nanny and not knowing that when she comes here she will go to school and wants to work herself AND wants a baby.
So i can understand the OP's defensiveness, people in life often speak without care for what the words they say will do. Words can kill you know, but they can also save lives, just gotta know and care enough to use them properly.
Course thats a lesson that i myself continually learn every day