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Yipee!! We figured it would happen in Nov. or Dec. That seems to be the timeline for our area. But, about a month after we sent it I had a dream it would be in July. Then Malcon said no, it would be in June. Well..... June 26th. We so pleased. Can't believe it is so soon.

COOL!!

Oh, I'm so happy for you. Let us know when you have the details of his arival.

Yes, there have been many couples woh have gone through the Lagos consulate that have been turned down because of co-sponsers for k-1s and k-3s. Basically, Lagos wants to deny any one they can and so they try anything. So far, they have been allowed to deny co-sponsership. There have been a few who have gotten through, but only a small few and those seem to be a while ago. Good luck.

thesnowman-- what is undertake? I'm the USC and I'm lost.

My husband has not been able to get a hold of his brother in over a year. We talked a little by e-mail before that, but not since then. His mother and uncle don't speak any english (or write/read), so I pretty much never communicate with them. I have talked a few times on the phone with mom over the last 2 years, but she spoke Igbo, and I spoke English. It was just nice to hear each other's voices. My husband only speaks to them once a month or so. He speaks to his friends and people who are looking out for them more often (once very week or two) and I often say a few hi's to them. I really wish my inlaws spoke English or that I spoke more Igbo (more than 3-5 words) so that I could talk to them. Oh, well. Maybe someday.

Yes, sometimes it seems that people just go through everything and post something, even if it doesn't really add so that they can get as many little bars as possible. I agree that it can be anoying. If you have a question or input, ask it or give it, don't just post for the sake of posting.

Good luck and much speed!

It looks like your wedding was this last weekend. I hope it was fantastic!

Congrats. POE should be easy. Did you say it is his first time flying? That may be the hardest part of the whole thing. I know it was my husband's first time flying (well, the small plane earlier in the day from his hometown to the international airport was). I was really worried about that and transfers in airports and things like that. Basically, I wrote him a detailed (I MEAN DETAILED) list of the process from when he got to the airport until he was in my arms at this end. I included things like popping ears, food/drink service, bathrooms, transfers, luggage, buttons on the plane, etc. Anything that I felt he might possibly need. I think he took one glance at it, but hardly read it. He met someone as they were boarding and told him that he had never flown before and he was kind enough to advise him. I think I was more worried about his traveling than he was. So, give him as much guidance on the trip as you think he needs/will use and just hug and hold him once he gets here.

I don't know. I would study the information about a job visa and see what the requirements are. I'm assuming that there has to be a significant reason why a person from another country is needed and that an adaquete (sp?) from here wouldn't work. I don't know if that would qualify or not. I would read up on sponsoring a work visa. Sorry I'm not more helpful.

We are doing good. Just setteling into life together. We had our wedding on the 15th. It was fantastic despite a tornado warning (luckily we didn't knwo about it until later. If we had it would have upset things, and as it was, we were blisfully unaware). It went really well. It was an outdoor wedding/reception. We started at 6. We had a short ceremony and then had everyone eat. We cut the cake, had a toast, had a dance, an just as that was finished and they took the cake inside it began to rain (about 6:45/7). Everyone grabbed something and pulled it up to the porch and the reception was indoors from then on. A little after 7 the electricity went out. But, everyone was fantastic. It just a little more cosy and close knitt. It was really wonderful even with the weather. So, we are finished with all that and I am crazy finishing out the school year (I'm a teacher). He is working and we just got a second car (for him) so we are just enjoying ourselfs and being together. I still stop in here regularly (about every other day or so), but I'm not on 10 times a day like I used to be. But, I do still find it helpfull to communicate with you all. I also like giving support and advice when people need it. So, I'll continue to be around and lurking.

That is wonderful. Congradulations.

It is quick. Our appoitment was about 6 weeks after the letter and the letter was a few weeks after the noa1. Congrats!

I think it's good info. I don't think you should worry at all about posting it.

I'm sure you'll be able to access it online soon. It's probably just a bit too early still. Keep trying.

I love reading these threads. I learn so much, especially about stuff I would never think to think about. So after reading about periods/full stops, I wondered what my husband called them. Nigeria was settled by the British, so I thought perhaps they might use full stops. So, sure enough he said they did. Very interesting. It made me wonder how many other things I say that he has no idea what I'm talking about but doesn't ask .

Well, I asked about adding him to my employment policy. They said that there had to be a qualifying event or open enrollment. You have to make the change within a month of the qualifying event. So, marriage is one, but he didn't come over here for a year after that. Also, changing jobs was, but he quit his job a few months before he came here. So, I called around to a number of personal health insurance plans to get catistrophic (sp?) insurance until open enrollment next year (even though it will be an arm and a leg). I have talked to 8 and they have all said that he must have his green card before he can be covered. I asked why and they couldn't really tell me. They said something about him maybe leaving. But this didn't make sense to me. They would get their money and should be happy if he leaves (not that he is going anywhere ever again!!! ) and never uses the insurance. And, at the same time, I've heard people on here talk about employment plans that let them add before greencard status, so I don't know. But, after calling the 8th place, I ended up believing them. I guess we just have to wait until August and pray nothing happens to him in the meantime.

Congrats! Can't wait until he is here with you.

Everyone I've talked to says that he can't get coverage until he has his green card. Anyone else here on a k-3 that has heard different?

Yeah, my husband loves it that he is on lost. Shortly after he arrived here (when we were back to watching tv ;P ) I was watching lost. It was really the first one that gave his backstory. Malcon was doing something else around the house and herd him speaking Yourba and came in and very excitedly said it was Yourba and asked what I was watching. He thought it was very cool.

Yes, I agree about getting stuff done too soon. Even the 134 can be done too soon. They like to have the most recent documents (pay stubs, letter from employer, etc.). Also the date the notery signs it needs to be recent. So, don't do it too soon. Good luck.

Maybe counsling? See if you can get her involved in that with you?

We are talking about this right now. We talked about it before he was finally able to come over. We decided to live with each other for about 6 months before we even started because we wanted some "us" time and to get to know each other before hormones went on a rampage. But, we are continuously revisiting it and it will probably constantly be up for discussion until it actually happens. Good Luck!

Fantastic!