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Congrats! I hope the rest of your journey is as quick!

I haven't been on the boards much lately. It was nice to get on and see your good news. Congrats!!!!!!!!

That is great!

My husband and I believe that our money is our money just like our life is our life. Our family, including family that needs to be supported back in Nigeria, is our family. It's all both of ours. But, that is our belief and it is how we feel and what we believe is right for us. For each couple it is different. Different couples have different beliefs about what is whos, what responsibility is whos and all that. Basically you have to decide for the two of you. But, you have to make sure you are both truely happy. If not, talk until the two of you can come up with something the two of you can be happy with. Good luck.

Congrats!

Hello all. We are preparing for our interview at the end of the month. We wanted any advice and suggestions. He is getting his supplemental vaccinations and supplimental form filled out on Monday. We sent the 864 with the application in Jan. (so we don't have to do it again, correct?) and think we have everything else on the list. Did people take specific "proof" (pictures, etc.) for the interview? Were they looked at? We appreciate any help you want to give. Thanks

We wish you a safe and happy journey.

Happy B-day. Sorry I didn't read until today. Hope it was great!

That is wonderful!!

That is great! Have a safe journey and a happy reunion!

I haven't had a chance to check in for a few days. I'm so glad that when I was able to come back that I was able to see your success. Congrats!!!

Welcome and congrats. to the start of your paperwork process. It is a looooooong process unfortuanately and can be really trying. The people on this site saved my sanity a number of times. Again, welcome and we will be there for you.

Good luck on the interview. Our interview is also in June. I feel June will be a month of good things.

Keeping my thoughts with her.

As long as you are both prepared that there will be issues and some rough times and that you are willing to work through them you should be fine. I love my husband to death, but the first few months were rough. We had some communication/language/ussage issues. We also had some cultural issues (choices, food, etc..) but we knew that we wanted to work through these no mater what and we kept at it and worked through them and knew that they were side issues about living together and not about our love and commitment for each other. All I can say is keep communicating (and this will likely be you initiating most of the "conversations" which was hard for me, but otherwise they never would have happened). As time goes on and you adjust to each other things will ge easier and better and better. Good luck.

Happy B-day

I had only met my fience at the the time (now husband) one time in person for about 2 weeks when we had our interview. We had lots of additional information (proof from when I was there- ticket, picures, letters from family I met, hotel receipts, etc.) and proof of ongoing relationship. It was fine. Good luck.

Nice list kiwib99!!

That is great. I am happy for your reunion.

And yes, you need pictures.

Congrats!! No experiance with the name thing, but it's been hard for my husband to remember how we write the date here.

I have heard people say do and don't (based on how it will look in Lagos). I would say go for it myself, if you thought your senator would be useful. I contacted mine and they were no help at all (mine was stuck in NVC). Well, that's not completly true. They said they couldn't do anything after they made their inquiry, but their inquiry allowed NVC to "find" our documents and so they did get processed shortly after the senator got involved (well actually I think it was the represanitive). Anyway, I guess my opinion is that it won't really hurt things (my opinion) but it won't help either. Good luck. I remember how frustrating the seperation was.

I second that!!!

My thoughts are with you.

My thoughts are with you. It was a difficult transition for my husband. We also live in the middle of nowhere and he was from the city. He would have started working the 2nd day he was here if he could have. Basically, we came up with things for him to do around the house, had friends and family drive him places, had him do research about jobs and such on the internet. He was still somewhat depressed. I know it was very hard for him. He is doing much better now that he is working and has a driver's licence (and car). Just remember that it is only a short part of your life and you will soon be at a better place. Hope things get better for you soon. My thoughts are with you.