nab

ok i'm not going to flippant this time in case this is legit. these are all things you need to sit down WITH him, go over and DISCUSS. you are not his mother so do not nag, you are not his child so do not beg or whine for things... you are his WIFE and as such you need to treat him as a man in the home. you are equal but different. you are correct that nagging will hurt more than help. but to "back off" and ignore a situation is just as bad.
get a binder and notebook.... you need to get organized
#1 - make a honey-do list for the unfinished projects. obviously he knows these things need done, he worked on them. find out why the work stopped (lack of money? job was too large for one person? or too dangerous for unexperienced?) address the issue and go about fixing the problems holding up the projects (hire a professional or get a family member to come help or save the money to buy the materials).
for the jobs that CAN be completed... make a list, or put them on pieces of paper and put in a jar which he will select one at a time and work on that job till it is complete. or some other method that the two of you come up with that will work for you two.
do you also do home projects? or do you help him with them? (just curious)
#2 - as far as 'you make 10x what he made while working' perhaps he doesnt feel the need to work if you remind him of this. obviously money isnt an issue if for 5yrs he hasnt worked so perhaps he should look for a volunteer position to hone his skills (out of job market for 5yrs) and bring his resume/CV back up to date. it will get him out of the home in a good way (working, rather than going out at night to party) and bring his self-esteem up a little as well if he is feeling depressed.
with the economy the way it is, trying to send him out to find a job now (5yrs out of the job market) would be quite ruthless and is a recipe for disaster. if money is an issue, have you considered a home-based business of some type? are his skills marketable on the internet? try temp agencies who might be able to get him a temp job into a company who wouldn't normally give him a chance otehrwise. exhaust all options.
#3 - make goals. daily, week, month, year, and even 5yr.
what does he (and you) want to accomplish in these time periods
what does he (and you) need to do to meet these goals
#4 - begin treating each other like you are newlyweds again.
look for the good things in each other, not the faults.
do nice little things for each other EVERY day.
treat each other kindly

IMO, a fiancee is NOT an relative of any kind, immediate or otherwise. The distinction is an important one, as simply trying to circumvent the fiancee visa process by using a student visa carries a different penalty than a direct material misrepresentation would. Not saying either of those happened in the case in question. I'm just pointing out the distinction. Which application was used, makes a difference.

i suspected as much. i've been shooting firearms for about 40 years. it's one thing to hit a stationary target at the range under a controlled, familiar setting. it's quite another to hit a small moving target like you suggested in a situation where the adrenaline is pumping. the leg is about 4 times smaller a target than the chest.
just look at how police do (and yeah, they are fairly familiar with their firearms)
Officers hit their targets roughly 34 percent of the time. link
Well, both NYPD and LAPD give hit-rates that hover around 30 percent. In the article, New York claimed a 34 percent hit rate, while LA listed a 31 percent hit rate last year. link

i advocate women being armed with something that starts with a 4

This is completely wrong. For a "marriage" to be recognized for US immigration purposes, both parties must be free to marry. That means the divorce must be final BEFORE the second marriage takes place, not just before filing the petition. Look at the I-130 itself (also the G325a) where it asks for both current marriage date and the date any previous marriages were terminated. If the marriage termination date is AFTER the marriage of the Petitioner and Beneficiary, the petition will be denied based on no valid marriage.
Exactly how to solve this problem depends on the details of the second marriage and how it was registered and what if anything can be done to get a legitimate marriage certificate that bears a date AFTER the divorce was finalized. The solution may well be beyond the capabilities of the members here.
In any event, do not file a petition until you're sure you have this problem solved.

jason_do I find your comments extremely disrespectful. If you have nothing useful to say then refrain from saying anything at all.

Hit the report button.

Jason, your comments are extremely rude and insensitive. i have no idea how any of this immigration stuff works, and as a wife i am extremely worried about my husband. this is a forum to discuss and ask questions, as i am clueless. it should be understandable if i know nothing, and i dont know where to turn to ask it here... you never know anything until you ask... think before you say things

ok i'm not going to flippant this time in case this is legit. these are all things you need to sit down WITH him, go over and DISCUSS. you are not his mother so do not nag, you are not his child so do not beg or whine for things... you are his WIFE and as such you need to treat him as a man in the home. you are equal but different. you are correct that nagging will hurt more than help. but to "back off" and ignore a situation is just as bad.
get a binder and notebook.... you need to get organized
#1 - make a honey-do list for the unfinished projects. obviously he knows these things need done, he worked on them. find out why the work stopped (lack of money? job was too large for one person? or too dangerous for unexperienced?) address the issue and go about fixing the problems holding up the projects (hire a professional or get a family member to come help or save the money to buy the materials).
for the jobs that CAN be completed... make a list, or put them on pieces of paper and put in a jar which he will select one at a time and work on that job till it is complete. or some other method that the two of you come up with that will work for you two.
do you also do home projects? or do you help him with them? (just curious)
#2 - as far as 'you make 10x what he made while working' perhaps he doesnt feel the need to work if you remind him of this. obviously money isnt an issue if for 5yrs he hasnt worked so perhaps he should look for a volunteer position to hone his skills (out of job market for 5yrs) and bring his resume/CV back up to date. it will get him out of the home in a good way (working, rather than going out at night to party) and bring his self-esteem up a little as well if he is feeling depressed.
with the economy the way it is, trying to send him out to find a job now (5yrs out of the job market) would be quite ruthless and is a recipe for disaster. if money is an issue, have you considered a home-based business of some type? are his skills marketable on the internet? try temp agencies who might be able to get him a temp job into a company who wouldn't normally give him a chance otehrwise. exhaust all options.
#3 - make goals. daily, week, month, year, and even 5yr.
what does he (and you) want to accomplish in these time periods
what does he (and you) need to do to meet these goals
#4 - begin treating each other like you are newlyweds again.
look for the good things in each other, not the faults.
do nice little things for each other EVERY day.
treat each other kindly

I received a text about my NOA1 on a Sunday if that's any help.

Thanks for your efforts to keep it the best

quite frankly, even those of you with 100% health and in civil countries could get hit by a car tomorrow so dont take for granted today... tomorrow could never come, so spend as much time with your loved ones even if via phone/computer

The email I received earlier today was from Denice Mitchell. It was a response to my follow up email to her on Thursday which I CC'd Congressman Rohrabacher's aide. I had left the last digit off of the receipt number in my my original email that I sent to Barbara Valarde Monday morning which I forwarded to Denice Mitchell Tuesday and followed up on yesterday. Damn, does that confuse you?
We'll have to wait and see what happens now. At least I know that a manager at TSC is personally looking into my situation.
I am mentally and physically exhausted with this whole ordeal.
Oh, I also got an email from a writer for the local paper tonight, going to answer it now. Regardless of what happens, I want to make damn sure that this whole fiasco is made known to the general public.

thank you for all you do for us Saylin, we really appreciate it.

Just my opinion but stick with the USCIS number.

No, thank YOU.

I need somebody to tell me what the hell is going on in California Service Center. They are approving I-130 & 129 in as little as 60 to 90 days. I heard someone file on Jan 4th, 2011 requested expedite service and was approved on Jan. 27th, 2011. If they are moving so fast why did they transfer over 35,000 cases to TSC? Also what logical reasoning would TSC have for using last in first out method (LIFO) for the cases file June 1 to August 31? It don't make any sense to me.

Ok Ron, I have no idea what you are talking about anymore, but I hope your posts make you feel better. Thanks for all your advice, you have done so much for us...I dont know what we would do without you. I think it is time for you to move on.

I said fermat was feisty, and it was a joke. Now please go away, good luck with the rest of your process.

I've got something else in mind you could also do single-handedly.

Ok so are you saying you had their petition numbers and all other info to tell to those people so they are approved faster? Sorry but total BS! Or are you saying they came here to this thread, READ it and then approved? Just looking at nicknames??? hahaha that is even a bigger BS

If my sister was working at DHS, I wouldn't wait 6-months then send an email to somebody at USCIS in DC. That's just me though. I'm not buying any of this tomfoolery.

If TSC currently has time to surf the web, and make our approvals into some sort of personal vendetta, not only is the very notion insane but this organization is in a lot worse shape than any of us suspected.

I dont care for your advice, especially when you are a total jerk about it. Why did you quote me anyways? I said that all we can do is wait...yes I did all of that in the past, but I haven't done anything since and I am sure I am not "clogging" their system. You spoke your mind once, no need to do it again. Good luck with your process.

We never should have been transferred...EVER! When you have a 5 month processing time, and a person is at 4 months already, why would you transfer them? It just is not logical. Ive said it all along... late Sept/ Oct filers should have been transferred, not June/July filers. It makes no sense, but it is what it is.