piglett

Congratulations on your new baby! This link might be informative to respond to your question
http://www.philippineconsulate.com.au/civil-registry/registration-of-birth-of-a-filipino-child-born-overseas.html

i think i'll jump in & give my 2 cents worth
when i went to the the province for the 1st time to meet my wifes family
i got dad a 1/2 gallon of JD (i also wraped it up in bubble wrap TWICE & then built a plywood box for it to go into)
even if the man doesn't drink (most do) he will put it up on a shelf so everyone who enters the house can see it
having a huge bottle of american whiskey over there is a really big deal!!!
for mom i stopped in the local town while on the way to the family house & got her a 50 kilo sack of rice (about 115 lbs)
please understand that MANY people in the Philippines skip meals often (welcome to the 3rd world)
by taking the time to buy them a whole sack of rice you are showing them that you care (you will make big points rite from the start)
i think i got the brothers & sisters cheep body wash & stuff like that from walmart
oh i think i also layed out $14.99 for a fixed blade knife for dad on that trip
i played hell finding a knife that was made in the U.S. at the store
most were made in China which they can just buy there
good luck
piglett

The CO may want to see evidence of a strong relationship to be sure that you will not soon be ex spouse #7 and become a public charge.
Your other post talks about a pre-nup, so don't expect any sort of $$ should a divorce happen. The USC spouse likely has experience protecting assets in family court proceedings. And social services are limited when a green card holder.
Any immigrant moving far far away to live with someone that has been divorced that many times should have a back up plan.
Best of luck.

well she got the job & they said they understood the problem with the lack of ss#
due to the fact that she has only been her a little over 2 weeks
we will keep you posted
thank you

find a nice guy who is a USC
get married
buy a house
have a bunch of kids
sounds like a plan to me
good luck to you
piglett

well said if she already has a long term boyfriend here why no tie the knot.
now on the other hand that is not the case at all then i guess the OP will be leaving the US soon
best of luck
hope it all works out for you
piglett

find a nice guy who is a USC
get married
buy a house
have a bunch of kids
sounds like a plan to me
good luck to you
piglett

+1
what more needs to be said ?????
good luck man
piglett

Yes and no.
The reason she wants you to wait to file for divorce is because then it looks REALLY bad that divorce was filed right after she got the greencard. It screams fraud so her ROC will be harder (harder to prove co-mingling and a genuine relationship if she split so soon). She doesn't need months, she wants those months so it looks like she "tried to make it work".
ALSO, she needs to file ROC as soon as the divorce is final. The longer you wait the more time she has to save money to file for ROC. She is deportable once the divorce is final if she doesn't file for ROC and runs into ICE.
So my advice is this: File for divorce on Monday. Do not tell her and just have her served ASAP. Some people suggest a restraining order as well so she can't come and abuse you and act crazy or you'll call the police and have her arrested. She will probably try and fight the divorce but without much money she won't be able to do as much as she is probably planning (filing for support under the I-864 etc). Then once the divorce is final send a letter to USCIS letting them know with a copy of the divorce decree and perhaps a letter stating that she left you for someone else and while you wanted to work on the relationship she wasn't willing to (whatever the story is). You'll need her A# etc. They won't actually do anything except put it on her file.
Also, make sure you change the locks on the doors (she has moved out and therefore it is legal for you to do but double check with your lawyer). Make sure you take her name off any bills. Take her off any bank accounts (if possible) but if you can't (some won't let you without that persons permission) then change where your work pay is going (so she can't take it out). If she has an authorised card to your credit cards or anything like that shut them down. Some people suggest taking all of the money out of the joint accounts, some say don't. I personally would until your lawyer tells you whether you are obligated to leave it in there and if so then you can just put it all back (the withdraw/deposit will match so not a biggie).
Make a copy of any of the paperwork you have submitted (I-864, K1 stuff etc) and keep it in a safe place. This should have her information on it and might be useful one day (say you file for someone else you'll need to know some of her info).
You should file for divorce asap. Do not wait as she is suggesting. She has something planned and that's rarely a good thing. Oh, and never see her alone. If her ROC documents are weak she might try and claim she HAD to leave because you were abusive. So do NOT be alone with her. EVER. Until the divorce is final. Even then be VERY VERY wary.
**Edit - on re-reading your OP I thought I should warn you a little more.. the waiting 2-3 months to "do what she needs to do to be able to stay" could be:
- giving her more time to make it look like she tried
- filing for ROC based on abuse and that she HAD to leave you because you were abusive.
She is permitted to stay now she has the 2 year card (so 2-3 months to "do what she needs to do" is a lie so something else is planned) but divorce makes her in breach of the "marriage to USC" condition and so she needs to ROC immediately. So soon after getting the card looks suspicious so yeah... she's got something bad planned. Stop talking to her. Stop dealing with her except through your divorce attorney who you will see on Monday and who you will have file for divorce ASAP (same day if possible). Also, the person who files is able to set the grounds for divorce. To make life simpler I wouldn't make the divorce conditions difficult. just "this is the end. You owe me nothing I owe you nothing". She could be planning some big convoluted "divorced on grounds of abuse" thing if that's what your state permits.

OP,
If you're concerned about her wanting to remain in the US then you need to understand that VAWA is her only viable option now that the marriage is falling apart.
Here is the exact advice I gave another VJer (albeit his spouse had given him reason to believe VAWA may be in their future):
NEVER EVER EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES be alone with this woman again. If she approaches you take out you phone and tell her you're calling the cops, then enter a business or public place with people around and wait for the police to arrive. If she physically assaults you DO NOT STRIKE BACK EVEN IN DEFENSE. Go to the men's bathroom of the business where you are waiting and lock yourself in a stall until the police arrive.
If you do this then she will not be able to successfully file a VAWA claim.
You're the one who knows her so it's your call but if you do this then there is no chance of her making an Abuse Claim stick. If you want to remain cordial with her and meet always do it in a public place with a friend or two as safety witnesses.

This relationship is dysfunctional at best, and more likely pure torment. End it promptly. Once she's out of your immediate life, you may just sit down, crack a beer, and say aloud to no one in particular, "I'm free!"

rip up any AOS's in the house rite now & don't tell her, no point in getting stabbed with a kitchen knife over this....is there?
find her a place to stay with a "friend" so the 2 of you can have time to "work through this"
really it will give you time to get all of your ducks in a row.
like change the locks & maybe even move to another place till she leaves the country.
people have ended up dead for less man
use caution & lots of it
cover your back side
good luck
piglett

most driving schools on the PI will help her get a license but she will not know how to drive..........
i will explain, she will have ZERO time behind the wheel & still not know how to drive a car.
yes yes i know it all sounds crazy
most people learn how to drive by watching their parents
if her parents don't own a car (my inlaws don't)
then i will probably take her between 4 & 6 trys to really know how to drive & pass the road test here
that is about the average for the average Pinay
please don't shoot the messenger
i'm sure once my wife arrives in June i'll have all sorts of fun teaching her how to drive, however i'm the guy who signed
up for this....didn't I???
the only question i have is can she stay in the Philippines till you return from duty
or can she stay with her inlaws? most Pinays are used to always being around other people
i'm talking 24/7, if she is all alone for a year that mite become a huge problem
good luck
piglett

I'll dig it out for you! (see below)

Seriously, in-cabin is way better. Less noisy, better temperature, and you're there to reassure the animal. I took 2 in cabin and I highly recommend it.
Okay, here is a piece I wrote about my experience, a couple of years ago:

Off topic - just a bit:
I think if the OP actually knew anything about Latinas in general perhaps he would not have the problems he's had...
First of all, most Latinas are posessive of their men (in varying degrees). You need to understand their upbringing and family attitudes. They were raised to be loyal to their men with very strong family values. BUT - most Latinas (and I know more than a few) have been cheated on or abused by their Latin boyfriends / husbands, etc... I am not putting down the Latino male species, just that without exception my fiance and ALL of her friends and acquaintces have has these experiences with their Latin mates. So - this in general makes Latinas more suspicious of their men and more possessive. They simply don't want any more pain or disappointments.
So - when the OP met his beautiful wife at first I'll bet that he found her attention as a positive attribute. It's a wonderful thing when a beautiful woman makes you the center of her world. Then when she arrived here the same attuitudes she displayed when they dated in Argentina continued and all of a sudden they became unacceptable?
Getting to know a person AND their culture is the most important thing when it comes to mariage. When men see their foreign fiance in their environment the romance overwhelmes the senses and most guys don't see that the relationship they have in "Argentina" is not the same as what they have here on Main Street USA. That is why repeated trips and truly getting to know the person is crucial to a sucessful marriage.
Back to topic:
Deserting your wife back in her home country is the worst thing you cna do to her AND your child. Just so you know, to even remove your child from Argentina will be impossible without the WRITTEN consent of the mother - the police will stop you from boarding the plane. No judge will award you full custody and prevent the mother from having access to her child. Bribing a jusge will get you put UNDER the prison for a very long time, it's not the same as "paying the policeman" for a speeding ticket.
Do the correct thing. You made the child, whether by "accident" or by the grace of God and you'd better be prepared for the reaction to your actions. YOU could wind up not being able to see your own child and still having to pay support to your spouse, even if you desert her in Argentina.

Wow, really??? You're coming on here asking us how to dump your wife off in her country...and to kidnap your child???? Oh...and you want to "pay off" a judge. You sound like great husband and father material.

I understand that when you're looking at a hot sports car or a hot young girl, you can sometimes make a quick decision out of the spur of the moment, like buying that Lamborghini on credit or marrying the smoking hot chick from the Copacabana.
If the car or the chick doesn't perform as desired, it helps to have purchased a "money back guarantee." On the same token is "having a child by accident" to be seen. Having a child is not an accident. It happens if you don't use birth control or fail to pull out in time. That's not an accident, that's extremely irresponsible, as the outcomes does not only effect you, but two more people. So it appears to me that you show a pattern of making irrational decisions in the spur of the moment without using much or the capacity the Almighty himself has given you so generously.
my thoughts to you therefore: think, think first, and think carefully, before you make any further decisions that can have a life-changing effect.

This woman is a word that starts with C and rhymes with "punt".
Anyway, I'm glad you're solving this. I hope this raving psychopath doesn't bother you or anyone else anymore.
From now on, be sure to focus on your FAMILY first. Your KIDS come before your wife. Always.

God what a loser. Tell him he can sleep with his mother.
I'd leave him. He isn't a man.

Ok...no offense but the only person you need to blame is yourself! You knew she was evil to you...your mom...and YOUR CHILDREN! Yet when they were ready to deport her you helped her out. I have a philosophy...if someone gets hit by a car I feel sorry for them. If they throw themselves in front of that car they got what they deserved. I was sympathetic until you kept helping and trying to be with that woman. From that point on you're to blame for your misery. Sorry...don't use love as an excuse and make better decisions for your kids!

Jason,
Your obgligation ended when you decided there would be no marriage and provided the FIRST ticket home for her. The best news is that she willingly agreed to leave your home and she's not physically present there any longer.
If she ever had a key to your place, change the locks. If she still has any posessions at your place, send them to her at her friend's place. If she received any mail at your home while living with you, file a change of addrsss with the Postal Service. Same goes with any ATM cards. Change the PIN, etc...
My recomendation is that now she's left the home, have no more communication with her. No phone calls, texts, emails or any other means. Sounds like you've acheived your objective of getting her to leave.
Best of luck to you and I'm very sorry that things did not work out.
Al

az110965 word of caution should be underlined. When a woman comes from another country, they CAN push you under the bus to die if it means they will survive here. Not all of them but some. Based on what I know, I would absolutely pack my suitcase and move somewhere and have her evicted if you are living together. All she has to do is cut herself, bruise herself and you will find yourself in jail and when you get out, you will not be able to come home to your own house. If you argue at all with her stop because she might be drawing you into a trap.
If she is a manipulator and lies on occassion.. this is a real volital mix with a hidden survivoralist instinct. Be afraid but you know your situation better than us.

You have no legal obligation to provide for her, the I-134 is not a legally binding document. Morally I believe from the information given you have done the right thing. You have provided her with an honest assessment of the relationship and indicated you did not wish to continue it. You have provided her with paid transportation, if she chooses to not accept the free ticket from you then she can pay for her own way home.
I would just cut ties with her and move on.

When her I-94 expires she will be out of status. She cannot adjust status in any way except through marriage to you. I would suggest you take steps to have her removed from the residence, with witnesses present, and if she is still in the country after the expiration of the I-94 contact ICE and provide what information you have.

Your fiance has not commited an overstay, so at this point there really is nothing that you can do. Being that you did not / will not be marrying her, the affadavit of supoort you filed is not enforceable and basically it's on her to leave the country voluntarilly. Contacting immigration is not an option at this point - she has done nothing illegal to this point.
One note of caution... If she is still living in your home be VERY careful. All it takes is a call to the police that you committed an act of domestic violence and you can have a world of trouble. I'd recommend having her stay someplace else, preferably a hotel. Staying together in the same residence can cause you problems that you never imagined...
Good luck.