Dream'nJordan

Speaking from experience....I am scared for you. I am begging you to rethink this. Gone this far or not......think long and hard before you go through with this. The man I married was the sweetest guy ever until I found out who he really was. He started to change before the interview but I refused to see it. Not wanting me to talk to his friends, not wanting me to talk to mine, once he got here, things got sooooo much worse. I was mentally, emotionally, and physically abused. He controlled my every move and thought. Had a VERY strange obsession with my 12 year old daughter that he could not keep his hands off of ( Thank God she says nothing ever happened). My best friend tried to warn me, and I really wish I would have listened before I brought him here. He was here 5 months, wouldnt work, wouldnt help me with anything and treated me like I owed him everything....may I add that I paid for everything? The trips there, the hotels, the spending money, the food, the immigration process and even his ticket here. All he wanted to do was keep me at home, control me, and he could do whatever he wanted. Which was eat, sleep, and stay online all the time. I found porn on my internet, he was all the time in chat rooms talking to other women. When I finally had enough we called his family and told them to send him a ticket back home. But before he left, he made sure to downgrade me in front of my kids and threaten me that if I messed up his "plans", he still had family here in the U.S, that would make my life hell and meanwhile he would go home and be happy with his new wife from Egypt that was truly the one that he really loved and was one of the many that he was talking to when he was here in my home. BTW....he did marry her.....not even 3 months after he left the U.S. Bad news....even after writing everyone in the immigration process, telling them my story and sending them the divorce papers, my family and I are still legally responsible for him if he steps on U.S soil within the next 2 years. Im begging you ......PLZZZZZ Stop and think about this. What he is telling you to do is not right and its not love. Thats control!

Im very sorry to hear that.
my advice after all this, is RUN, RUn and RUN far ...very far.
Email the embassy as the people adviced u, stop the process, call the embassy.
Im algerian, and i only can give you the best advice on Algerians.
I feel very sorry for you that its happening to you, but i feel if this is happening now its better than later when he will be in the Us, and u will be responsible for him for 10 years.
Im algerian woman, and im very surprised that ure finace didnt show his real algerian caracter earlier than now.Not all algerians are like that,but some are and you got unlucky to pick up this one.
Usually the algerians that are like that, uses women to have a visa and travel, and try to control the foreign woman, if she agrees in everything(like to convert, to wear hidjab, to stop all relation with male and woman friends that are not muslim...stop eating porc ,or drinking..going out alone, shopping alone...)...they will stay married..but in most cases, foreign woman dont accept and feel in prisn after few months or years..and ask for divorce, from that the man will ebhappy to divorce and have a new girlfriend(usually they already planned to marry an algerian (the moms will be happy to find a girl from same town or family to marry to..)
my question to you: is how did you feel about him, his family when u were in Algeria? u came to algeria yes? did he ever asked you to change something before: like religion, drinking...teh way you dress up??friends??what does he do in life?did he studied ?
please dont get me wrong, but im just trying to figure out how this person is, from wich area he is...you know algeria is very big and it contain a lots of different people....!!!
unfortunatly,there are many like the new salafist, that talks about religion all time,there wifes wears burka and they have a beard and wear strange clothes (im not judging them..but this is not our clothes and culture they brought that from pakistan..and excttt countries).
i feel very a shamed to hear that he is treating you that way. please think twice, but i will recomand you to broke up with him and run away, he doesnt deserve you, and believe me youre life is going be a night marre if he gets to the US.
if you need any help just send me an email here on VJ.i will be happy to talk to u and share my thoughts on this situation.

If his interview gets approved (and I really hope for your sake it dont) and he comes to the USA... I am saying now that he will NOT change, life will be like hell & you will wish you went with your gut & cut the cord loose, listened to many of us on VJ thats been here for several years, who have seen MANY fraud or many ruined lives. Even if you gave up SO much for him in clothing style, in not doing this or that like not-(smiling, picking up relatives,hiking), not eating this or that, ... you will be miserable & you will never make a person like him happy. Its not possible. I've never told a person that I didnt know the famous "I told you so" cliche... but remember that if he comes over here. You will be miserable.

Speaking from experience....I am scared for you. I am begging you to rethink this. Gone this far or not......think long and hard before you go through with this. The man I married was the sweetest guy ever until I found out who he really was. He started to change before the interview but I refused to see it. Not wanting me to talk to his friends, not wanting me to talk to mine, once he got here, things got sooooo much worse. I was mentally, emotionally, and physically abused. He controlled my every move and thought. Had a VERY strange obsession with my 12 year old daughter that he could not keep his hands off of ( Thank God she says nothing ever happened). My best friend tried to warn me, and I really wish I would have listened before I brought him here. He was here 5 months, wouldnt work, wouldnt help me with anything and treated me like I owed him everything....may I add that I paid for everything? The trips there, the hotels, the spending money, the food, the immigration process and even his ticket here. All he wanted to do was keep me at home, control me, and he could do whatever he wanted. Which was eat, sleep, and stay online all the time. I found porn on my internet, he was all the time in chat rooms talking to other women. When I finally had enough we called his family and told them to send him a ticket back home. But before he left, he made sure to downgrade me in front of my kids and threaten me that if I messed up his "plans", he still had family here in the U.S, that would make my life hell and meanwhile he would go home and be happy with his new wife from Egypt that was truly the one that he really loved and was one of the many that he was talking to when he was here in my home. BTW....he did marry her.....not even 3 months after he left the U.S. Bad news....even after writing everyone in the immigration process, telling them my story and sending them the divorce papers, my family and I are still legally responsible for him if he steps on U.S soil within the next 2 years. Im begging you ......PLZZZZZ Stop and think about this. What he is telling you to do is not right and its not love. Thats control!

Thank you. I just dont want to see her make the same mistake that I did. It may hurt like hell going this far and then stopping everything, but its easier to stop it now. Once he gets here....you are stuck financially for two years. And she doesnt need to just walk away.......she needs to RUN and Dont look back.

Thank you. Lesson learned, I am so much better off without him. I happy where I am at now.

Thank you. Lesson learned, I am so much better off without him. I happy where I am at now.

Speaking from experience....I am scared for you. I am begging you to rethink this. Gone this far or not......think long and hard before you go through with this. The man I married was the sweetest guy ever until I found out who he really was. He started to change before the interview but I refused to see it. Not wanting me to talk to his friends, not wanting me to talk to mine, once he got here, things got sooooo much worse. I was mentally, emotionally, and physically abused. He controlled my every move and thought. Had a VERY strange obsession with my 12 year old daughter that he could not keep his hands off of ( Thank God she says nothing ever happened). My best friend tried to warn me, and I really wish I would have listened before I brought him here. He was here 5 months, wouldnt work, wouldnt help me with anything and treated me like I owed him everything....may I add that I paid for everything? The trips there, the hotels, the spending money, the food, the immigration process and even his ticket here. All he wanted to do was keep me at home, control me, and he could do whatever he wanted. Which was eat, sleep, and stay online all the time. I found porn on my internet, he was all the time in chat rooms talking to other women. When I finally had enough we called his family and told them to send him a ticket back home. But before he left, he made sure to downgrade me in front of my kids and threaten me that if I messed up his "plans", he still had family here in the U.S, that would make my life hell and meanwhile he would go home and be happy with his new wife from Egypt that was truly the one that he really loved and was one of the many that he was talking to when he was here in my home. BTW....he did marry her.....not even 3 months after he left the U.S. Bad news....even after writing everyone in the immigration process, telling them my story and sending them the divorce papers, my family and I are still legally responsible for him if he steps on U.S soil within the next 2 years. Im begging you ......PLZZZZZ Stop and think about this. What he is telling you to do is not right and its not love. Thats control!

Anna is right. Unless you have driven there...dont attempt to rent a car. The people there drive crazy. I think I had my eyes covered for most of my 1st and 2nd trip there. By the 3rd time I got used to it. Another thing she is right about is the kids. The kids look innocent and like they need the money. Although they might, the person they are working for doesnt.
Try not to show too much public affection. Its not looked upon highly at all.
Jordan is beautiful and one of the greatest places I have ever been. I was very welcomed and had the time of my life. Best place to stay is in West Amman. Taxis...just remember that the yellow ones are always cheaper than the white ones.
I have been to Jordan 3 times to see my husband, but we only stayed in 2 places. Razan Hotel by the Royal Hotel in the 3rd circle, we stayed at 2 times. It was 30 JD a night. They have a breakfast buffet, but if you are not arabic you probably wont eat it. lol. Its not all that bad but could be a lot cleaner...but the people that work there are very sweet. The lady that works during the day speaks English. Her name is Maria. The number there is 011-(962) 6 4649-3912.
the 3rd time I went, we stayed at Gondola Hotel and Suites. It was a little more expensive at 37 JD a night. Its in the 5th circle by the Four Seasons Hotel. The number there is 011-(962) 6-551-56-56. They also have a website: www.gondol.com
Both places had there advantages in being close to different places to eat or walk around.
It is nothing to see people walking around safely at 3 am. While you are there, you have to eat shawrma from Shawrma El Reem in the 2nd circle and go to the Dead Sea. You will have a blast I am sure. If you have any more questions feel free to ask, my husband is now here with me and would be happy to answer any questions you may have.

I have a friend who's husband is Muslim. They were asked about their favorite position, and about oral sex. They got very personal with their questions. Their response was: "We feel what happens in private between us as a married couple, is none of your business. We mean no disrespect by answering this way." They didnt ask anymore personal questions and was given the visa without AP! The question about scars, I would answer them as honestly as possible, if they separate the two of you and you dont say the same things, then you might have problems!
I wish you luck!

I have a friend who's husband is Muslim. They were asked about their favorite position, and about oral sex. They got very personal with their questions. Their response was: "We feel what happens in private between us as a married couple, is none of your business. We mean no disrespect by answering this way." They didnt ask anymore personal questions and was given the visa without AP! The question about scars, I would answer them as honestly as possible, if they separate the two of you and you dont say the same things, then you might have problems!
I wish you luck!

Are you talking about DCF?
You have to live in Jordan at least 6 months (once I even read maybe a year) to file thru the embassy. Otherwise you go thru USCIS to file CR1.
And be prepared to wait as Jordan is backed up and busy. We have been waiting since May 11 for an interview date!