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I completely disagree. ALL of us want the process to go faster, especially those that don't have the kind of money to spend on an 'extra fee'. I don't think its fair that people that have more money are treated differently than people that don't...like approving visas in rapid time for people that can afford it. It's not fair.

No.
Immigration should NEVER be a system where the people who can afford to pay more get better service.

You know, you just want confirmation. If you suspect than you know the answer.
Save your money to spend on building back up your self esteem.

Honestly, if I had enough doubts to consider hiring an investigator, I would just end things. Here's why: If I ever found out my husband had me followed while we were dating, I wouldn't be worried because I had nothing to be worried about, but I would feel extremely violated and untrusted. I would wonder why my word wasn't good enough. Why he didn't need to prove to ME that he wasn't cheating so why did he have to hire someone? That's a big step to take. I understand though how you won't want to end things without know "for sure" whether he is or whether you're being suspicious.
What does he say when you ask him about it? I know sometimes I would be late to call my husband (then fiance) because I got caught up at work, or my phone had died so the alarm didn't go off, or I was already on the phone, internet was out.. etc etc.
If you're committed to hiring one though, how much I would pay, as others said, depends on where he's from. It also depends on what service you need. As in, do you want him followed all day for a week? Just specific days? You would think you'd only want him followed after work, but maybe he's doing something with someone FROM work so you'd want maybe one entire day (but what if it's the wrong day and turns out its the next day?).
Also, what if they don't find anything and the behaviour continues? Are you going to assume that something IS going on but must have been when the investigator didn't follow him? Are you going to hire the investigator again? Are you going to blindly assume whatever he didn't find means you're not being cheated on?
LDR's are hard, and this process is long and hard. If you don't think you can do it, then don't. It doesn't make you less of a person. It's not easy. Trust is integral to a relationship. If he isn't making you feel secure and loved, he might not be cheating, he just might not be the right guy.

I'm not sure anyone could give you an idea of cost since you don't want to say the country. Each country has it's won economic system and rates would vary greatly depending on the country. I would also guess in some countries there may be issues of legality as to what you can actually do or not do.
If it were me, I'd either trust my partner, or move on. I know it sounds easier said than done, but without trust, you cannot ever be happy. Even if you hire someone and they tell you they find nothing, can you really trust they did the work?
Anyway, just my two cents. Sorry you are going through this, and whatever the outcome, I hope that in the end you do whatever is best for you and your continued happiness

Why would you want to proceed with the process without her? Isn't the only reason you are moving to America because of your wife and the love you share?

Lots of good ideas and advice for you to consider to get the paperwork completed such as filling it out for him to sign and offering to pay the fees just in case he doesn't have the money. Also, there are some basic messages I think everyone is trying to point out to you. A man usually shows you who he is as man - what you are seeing so far is a lack of attention that you would like to have from a partner. As others have implied, remove the issue of the paperwork from the equation and take a good look at your relation so that you can decide if this is really the man for you. Don't make excuses for his behavior. If you are not getting what you need from the relationship even after expressing your concerns don't try to make him into the man you want - judge him by the man he has presented and make your decision. To hear that you can talk for free and not even hear from him to check up on your well being daily - well...Girlfriend, you got a decision to make far beyond the paperwork.

Looks like both the Dems and the Republicans are willing to
tackle immigration this coming year. But something strucks me
whenever politicians talk about immigration reform. They only talk about
the borders and the ones here illegally. What about those doing it the right way?? smh..
I actually think the whole visa Bulletin is cruel, it needs to be reformed.
Besides, there's got to be provision for more H1B visas if the US is serious about
innovation.
Fianally most of the immigration laws needs to be updated. Some of the Laws are just
cruel. There is also the need to open more service ccenters to accomodate the daily increases in petitions.
You know Immigration reform should focus on legal immigration not illegal immigration.
This is common sense. Children are waiting for years to join their parents. Siblings are waiting a decade as well.
Why America???? I thought this was the melting pot? where is the pot now? lol

I don't know anything about visas aside from the CR1/IR1.
I realize a lot of people are upset about the process and the length of time, but I don't necessarily agree that it should be changed.
I Think going through that process helps to weed out a lot of fraud in itself.
If it only took, say, 4 weeks to get a visa approved, how many more people would attempt to file fake ones?
IMO Probably a lot more.
Not only that, but I think it tests a marriage.
I find too many people on this site getting married after their first or second visit
Then they end up getting divorced a couple months after they move to the US or many times, before the process is finished.
I think these issues would just increase with a shorter time span.
And it gives people the chance to really think if the US is for them.
Because maybe in that time, they change their minds and their spouse's country is a better fit.
Even though I fit in this category, I feel like the only people that should have shorter wait times, are those that have passed the conditional visa mark.
Because you'd think after 2 years, you'd know what you want.
I saw someone the other day that got married in like 2006 or something.
I felt like it was TERRIBLE they had to wait 7 8 9 10 months to get a visa.
Their marriage is OBVIOUSLY legit and they OBVIOUSLY have made a conscious decision to move to the US with a lot of thought.

That's a tough situation
I'm not trying to add to your concern but it's not just HIV that you have to worry about. 200 women is quite a few. I would go to the physician and ask for a FULL STD work up. While HIV is a big concern, it's actually the hardest to contract. You need Hep B and C testing as well. Also the full spectrum of STDs, Ghonorrea, Chlamydia, Syphilis and Herpes. Some of these viruses can go undetected in males for a long time, so he might not even know he's carrying anything.
I recommend you educate yourself, not to the point of scaring yourself to death, but to be informed on this situation. GET TESTED and that will give you peace of mind.
Good luck

Based on activity over the last two years, CR1 visa candidates are waiting 12+ (emphasis on the +) months after their case has been closed for notification of an interview. We are hoping and praying that some recent activity we have seen is a sign that things are starting to move again. There are just not enough Ghana visa members on vj to get a reasonable feel for what is happening except for the fact that people are still waiting for interviews as far back as cases closed in April, 2010.

I am looking for people interested in finding as many filers as possible going through this process at the embassy in Ghana. My idea is to create a facebook page to get the campaign going.
I would like to get this going and my thought is to prepare a campaign that would include sending a well documented complaint to Hillary Clinton, Secretary of State. She is at the top of the DOS. I just need some help thinking through the format for the fb page. I am not trying to recreate vj - don't want to answer any questions about the visa process. The page should be focused on finding people who are currently impacted by the delay in the interview process in Ghana or have in the past been impact by these delays. I want to approach this issue from an objective business perspective including a well thought out documentation of the emotional and financial impact on both the US citizen and the Ghanaian citizen.
The focus would be to simply raise the awareness not to give the solution. My hope is that with the proper awareness raised - the people who can make a difference will figure out the solution if they think the cause is worthwhile. If it works, we might not even be the ones who will benefit from our efforts - but, we may have made a difference. If this isn't worth fighting for, what is? I have been in this visa process for 2 years (my husband was one of those unnecessary multiple interview folks last year). Based on how things are going now, he won't be here with me until 2012 - that is 4 years in this nightmare. I am tired, I am emotionally drained, my cash is low. The thing that is strong in my life is my relationship with my husband - I am fortunate that my relationship is not at risk. Others have not been as fortunate.
Can I please get some volunteers on this one - I have some ideas on how to get started, but, I am not an expert. This is important to us and I want to make sure we do it right. Please don't be afraid of how this might impact your process. I think it could only help. We are Americans - we take risks - we make things happen! Help us please - or give up a better idea.