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    Tahlisha reacted to Anh map in Marriage Fraud   
    Submit your evidence of fraud to ICE, divorce, and move on. Let him sort out his path through USCIS on his own.
    No need to continue the stress in your life if you believe that the marriage is failed/fraudulent.
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    Tahlisha reacted to KittyPollitt in previous application   
    MENA stands for Middle East/North Africa..
    It's not a stupid question to ask if you are uninformed. What Msheesha is skirting around out of politeness (which is shocking) is a concern that many women on VJ with MENA husbands/fiances will have for you - that he is not being totally honest with you, and is displaying a pattern of immigration related relationships. As you're about to find out, jumping into filing a K1 petition in Morocco is not something that an American woman commonly does without her Moroccan fiance having some involvement in it. And I can guarantee you, he knows more about the process than he's letting on to you- how to get to America is common conversation in Moroccan cafes among men of marrying age. I believe he is feigning ignorance with you, and you need to find out the truth about what happened with his ex before you take any further steps. If you confront him and accuse him of anything, he'll become crazy defensive and want to know who gave you these ideas.
    All I'm saying is, do a little background about Moroccan men in general, your man specifically, and take good care of YOURSELF. This process is damn difficult in Morocco, and as others have said, your case is a doozy. Don't take a leap of faith on this one. Good luck.
    Sarah
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    Tahlisha reacted to MIBEN in previous application   
    Are you married or just contemplating filing the K-1 visa? You timeline and profile do not match so not sure if I gave you and accurate reply earlier. If you are not married as hard as accepting bad news it maybe a blessing in disguise. Take care of yourself and do some research I have been in your position and wish you the best outcome just look at things rationally not emotionally to make the best decisions.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Miss smarty pants in So what happens to couples who don't get the visa???   
    You speak of the innocent Moroccan family....yet I have seen time and time again here cases where the Moroccan was not so inncocent.
    You come here to an American visa website and tell those of us here in various phases of the process how you believe our marriages should or should not be based.....and write to us in an aggressive tone as if we are sharks out to devastate some poor Moroccan. There are those of us that truly do love our foreign spouses. I would like to say most of us, anyway. The process is too hard not to do it for love. And as for the Moroccans not knowing about the visa process.....please. They know.
    So lemme ask you something......you say the process has to be overhauled for couples with sincere intentions. What is your solution? How could you do it better than them? And what would you say to those of us sincere couples who have maintained an international relationship for years because of a denial? And one more thing....did it ever occur to you that EVERYONE may not be able to move to Morocco to be with their spouse or that some people may have obligations in America that prevent them from moving and that the Moroccan moving to America may be, for some, the only way to maintain a relationship on the same continent? The divorce rate among Americans without visa issues is about 50% for first marriages. Throw in some intercontinental issues, cultural differences, financial difficulties and soon your reasons for Moroccan-American marriage failure outweigh anything any visa could fix. I would never assume every marriage that fails after a visa denial was simply BECAUSE of the visa denial. I would also never assume that anyone's failed marriage would be simply because the big bad American 'abandoned' their foreign spouse. And I would not assume that any marriage ending would be easy on either party.
    But all that is just my opinion........ I like to hear cases individually before I run out screaming or rush to judgement. Well, usually I do.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Silverberry1331 in So what happens to couples who don't get the visa???   
    You don't know anything about me aside from the tiny blurb here on VJ about my life. However, you spoke about being a researcher in your above post. I have no problem asking for 'pointers' when I need them. When I do, I tend not to ask from people who initiate a post then jibe at people's english because they are asked who they are. Although I believe your intentions are innocent and agree that it is an important topic, as a Moroccan expert you must be aware that some people don't have good intentions when it comes to asking sensitive questions about visa issues--thus people ask them to identify themselves.
    Just saying...
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    Tahlisha reacted to himher in So what happens to couples who don't get the visa???   
    Your words are not words of piety but of arrogance. In this and as per the Quran, suspicion is fairly earned for you
    Which then is best? He that layeth his foundation on piety to Allah and His good pleasure? - or he that layeth his foundation on an undermined sand?
    The foundation of those who so build is never free from suspicion and shakiness in their hearts, until their hearts are cut to pieces. And Allah is All-Knowing, Wise.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Golden Gate in So what happens to couples who don't get the visa???   
    I believe most people here on Visa Journey have thought of all the possibilities of what could happen and several of them have been through hell. It isn't an easy road and quite frankly, I find it off-putting the insinuation that we don't have a clue as to what we are doing and somehow need to be advised about how to handle our personal lives.
    That is what I find offensive about the above post. People on here who have been denied are still persevering and obviously believe in their relationships (which is between them, not some arbitrary person who wants to know their personal lives) and aren't going to be deterred by some idea that they might be marrying because of what has been said above.
    I also think this journey is a very personal thing and people come here for support and advise about the process, not to be lectured to, and if the OP wants to be nice here, he might try to have more sensitivity to what people are going through here.
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from nicky&imad in Flying AA and Iberia   
    AAAWWW shoot Courtney I went thtrough Madrid the last time I went...... But can't really recall any of the details :0/ But I do remember it was super easy :0)
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    Tahlisha reacted to hope.andsun in Problrms checking status on the USCIS website   
    They are fixing their system.
    Case Status and Other Customer Relationship Information System Sites Unavailable Dec. 2nd - Dec. 5
    USCIS will conduct system maintenance from Friday, December 2nd at 7pm (EST) until Monday, December 5th at 9am (EST).
    During this time, the following on-line tools will be unavailable:
    Check My Case Status
    Sign-Up for Case Status
    Check Processing Times
    Change of Address Online
    Civil Surgeon Locator
    e-Request
    Office Locator
    For immediate change of address needs during the outage, we suggest you submit the form manually. The form is available at http://www.uscis.gov/ar-11.
    Thank you for your patience and we apologize for any inconvenience this may cause.
    Here's the link: http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=287d62c1c3073310VgnVCM100000082ca60aRCRD&vgnextchannel=e7801c2c9be44210VgnVCM100000082ca60aRCRD
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    Tahlisha reacted to Sapphire Moon in Problrms checking status on the USCIS website   
    I couldn't get in either. But I was reading on another post where OP mentioned they were doing maintenance on the site through December 5th I guess the USCIS got tired of us checking our cases constantly!
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from nicky&imad in 221 G   
    This is a very common occurance in Morocco, regardless of age, religon, race or gender...... Folks going through Morocc may as well be on another planet, they sure treat us like we are. this whole process is nuts....... We got the same thing with the "OTHER" box checked.... Got the congressman involved and all that only for them to close our case due to the "EXPIRATION" of the dates and a nice letter letting us know that we were more than welcome to reapply..... Morocco is such a high fruad country and the questions they expect folks to know the answer to is crazy sometimes..... I mean if your daughter is an adult how do they know you even know her boyfriends name??????? I mean really our adult children only let us know what they want us to know..... I, myself can't afford to go the lawyer route, so I went back and we married there..... I stayed 3 months during that visit which was my 3rd all my visits total 5 months.... We are holping it's all good this time around.... If we don't get it this time then I guess I will be moving to Morocco.... In my opinion I don't think it really makes a difference is you have a lawyer or not... There are some who used lawyers and still had a difficult time and there are some who didn't use a lawyer and it was a breeze... It's just the luck of the draw...... I really am sorry this happen to you.... I hope you are able to get things figured out and go the route that is easiest and best for you :0)
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    Tahlisha reacted to EminTX in Fiance problems adjusting to food   
    My neice had this problem with her husband. He was always disrespectful in this, among other ways. It was a huge issue. He used his face making and complaining to assert control over her about something that really should never be THAT important. That, among other things, was a major reason for their divorce.
    Another family member married someone who also did this. He honestly did not know how outright hateful and rude it is. He had been coddled by his family and when dating, the bride-to-be had a sit-down with him and explained that this was a deal-breaker. Being so disrespectful to her over something so silly as food was an indication that he hated her in his heart. He was shocked that he was expressing that and changed his ways immediately. Does he like everything? No. Does he act like a spoiled little brat? Never. They hosted Thanksgiving this year and he was a perfect gentleman about every creative dish that showed up with the international grouping of guests.
    There are lots of good suggestions here, but this really boils down to respect. You can try to mimic this, take video of him and show him how he looks like a 2-year-old, coddle him, or talk to him about it. I'd suggest printing this thread out and leaving it in a place for him to read over. (The bathroom? Boredom can make anything interesting.) Highlight or underline the title or your first post.
    If he really loves you, he won't want to be so hateful and disrespectful or be stressing you out this way. No one should be insulted on a daily basis, especially by someone who professes lifetime love.
    Good luck.
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    Tahlisha reacted to samira_07 in November 2011   
    Hey gang long time since I have posted on here. I wanted to stop by and say hi to some old faces and all the new ones. DH will be applying for naturalization and I am the designated informant on the process, haha I guess I have become his secretary! I know lots of MENA folks come and go and sometimes you wonder what the heck every happened to so and so. Well we are still around life has gotten us busy and keeps it that way. Careers are coming along for DH and I am finishing up the doctorate while still doing my civil service paid like I work at Burger King JOB! Although once again I will need time off from my studies since we are expecting another addition in June, yeah me. Never when I started my relationship 6 years later I ever predicted being a mama to five children, holy smokes world watch out as my spawns are out there in the mix !!!!!!!!!!! Looking forward to making those old connections and some new ones out there. Hope you all are enjoying Thanksgiving weekend it will be a great closure to this holiday tomorrow when da Bears kick the BUTTS of the Raiders
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    Tahlisha reacted to Meriem_DZ in November 2011   
    Congratulations Samira, on your new little bundle of joy!
    Hi everybody. I too have not been around for a while. Just wanted to check in and give a quick update. Hachemi and I celebrated our very happy 5th anniversary this past Sept. He did get his citizenship this year and just started a new job with Toyota Manufacturing. It is a huge new plant that will make Corollas. They had 43,000 applications for 1500 positions. We are so thankful that he is one of them. They have wonderful benefits and so happy to have great insurance now. We lived about 45 minutes from the plant so we put our house up for sale and bought another house closer to the plant in Tupelo MS, (the birthplace of Elvis) LOL. We have been in the new house since Sunday and slowly getting everything in order.
    I hope everyone is having a great Thanksgiving weekend!
    Meriem
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    Tahlisha reacted to Operator in Fiance problems adjusting to food   
    You obviously haven't taken him to In-N-Out yet. He will forget all about Moroccan food when he grabs hold of a double-double. Forget about fresh ingredients and fancy taste.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Nigerian Queen in Fiance problems adjusting to food   
    thats.right
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    Tahlisha reacted to nejma in Question about pictures   
    True dat. Engagement parties are common. Just label the pictures as such. Heck I even knew of a couple who was questioned by the CO as to why they DIDN'T have an engagement party and the girl had to fly back to Morocco just to have it and produce pics after the interview. (Not saying it's required either, it was probably a fluke in that couple's case). Most people have them tho, because who doesn't like a party with henna and a caftan!
    Next time post Morocco-specific questions in the MENA forum
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    Tahlisha reacted to KittyPollitt in Question about pictures   
    Casablanca is notorious for not looking at evidence that is brought to interviews. It's advisable to "front load" a petition package that will be forwarded to Morocco, with anything you absolutely want to consulate to see.
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    Tahlisha reacted to KittyPollitt in Question about pictures   
    Girl these people are crazy. Having these "engagement" parties is common for K1 couples in Morocco. Indeed I know of no one who has NOT had one. Casablanca knows this, and they're also aware of how difficult it is to marry in Morocco. I sent these pictures with henna, hugemongous caftan, crown on head, etc. NO PROBLEMS- they had NOTHING to ask about them. They know the deal. Every country is different about this kind of thing. It's a bad idea for people to generalize when giving country specific advice.
    paix
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from nicky&imad in Moroccan KHOBZ bread recipe needed   
    You know I have tried making some things that my hubby would like. He is not here yet but I thought I would try. My sister in-law who is here in the states tried to teach me how to make the bread but mines never turns out like hers... LOL... At this point I have given up. We have 3 Moroccan restaurants in our area so when he is missing the foods from home we can go there :0) LOL Also it Occured to me... I have visited Morocco 3 times my last visit was 3 moths long and not once did anyone try to make anything I would have at home... LOL I was craving tacos like crazy lol and all I got was some nasty Mc Donalds... Try cooking with Alia she is on facebook and she has a website. She also has a book but there is no recipe for bread in it but maybe you can send her a message and she can give you some pointers :0)
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from tany1157 in Refiling of K1 in Morocco   
    So if you applied for a K-1 and it expired and you then apply for the CR-1 this does not apply... This is my understanding.... I know of some one with same situation as me... K-1 was sent back then it expired within months she went back and they married there she came back and filed the CR-1 and did not need a waiver....
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from Sofiyya in Combating the "yo mama don't live here" issue   
    I am not thatfamilar with Darnell's posts.... However he has a point..... Far too many women mary muslim men not knowing much about Islam or just beleiving what their fiances/husbands tell them... I went through it prior to my taking shahada I dated a tunisian american for 8 years I (like a dummy) beleived all the silliness that spued from his mouth.... But then I started studying about Islam with some women from the local Masjid and found that most he had told me were variations of Islama mix of his own ideals and Tunisian culture.... Needless to say after taking shahada we started to grow apart and eventually broke up.. Now I am married to a Moroccan man whom I love to death :0) But he gets all caught up in his culture and most born muslims from foreign mix thheir culture with Islam... I am learning things about Islam everyday and I am glad I am married to a man who is open to learning how some things he grew up beleiving were part of Islam are not... From an Islamic point of view Squeaky's husband is totally wrong... My advice to any woman who is engaged/married to any muslim man is to learn about TRUE ISLAM.... Know where you stand Islamically and call your man out when he is in the wrong....
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from Muh and me in Combating the "yo mama don't live here" issue   
    He needs to just get off his butt and help out!!!! In my opinion it doesn't matter what country he is from because I am sure there are plenty of american men who do the same.... If the shoe were on the other foot he would expect you to have that house clean his dinner cooked and his child tken care of so because he is not working he needs to make sure those things are done... Moroccan men tend to be spoiled by then wimen in their families.. But he needs to know that you are not his mother or his sister or his maid nor are you his slave.... You are his wife therefore it is his obligation to take care of you. Now because he is not able to work outside of the house for now taking care of you means taking care of the house..... I have had this discussion many times with my husband.. I let him know I am not a super woman, I'm not his momma or his sister nor his maid or slave.... And as along as I have to work outside of the house and pay bills with the money I make he has to help out around the house....
    Remind him that even the Prohet Muhammad (saw) helped out around the house... So he needs to get off his butt and help you out.... Especially during Ramadan...
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from KittyPollitt in What goods to bring back to morocco from U.S.?   
    Yep.... We have stuff they can't get just like they have stuff we can't get.... But please keep in mind that a big reason some snack foods we have are not sold in Morocco because off what they are made of.... Doritos for instance and some other cheesy snacks are made with stuff that muslims are not supposed to consume..... I think Doritos changed their formula but I'm not sure.... Anyhoo checking to make sure snacks are kosher would be a good idea... Avoid gummy snacks/candy and things made with marshmallow..... Unless of course they are halal/kosher....
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