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    Tahlisha reacted to Boiler in K1 Visa - I won't marry him!   
    That would be the obvious conclusion. The SSN will say not valid for work but I doubt if ever had any intentions of going home no matter what happened.
    Does beg the question how this got past the Consulate. Seems to have the flags of whatever colour.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Darnell in K1 Visa - I won't marry him!   
    this lawyer thing is a pile of turkey poo,
    as
    the I-134 you signed is not a legally enforceable document
    and
    expires when the I-94 expires.
    Sign nothing.
    so, what happens when you sign nothing in the turkey poo pile, and not marry, and not file AOS?
    --the K-1 visa holder only has 90 days in the USA
    --the K-1 visa holder SHOULD return to his home country, as after the I-94 expires, will not have any legal presence in the USA
    --the petitioner has no further responsibilities. No further paperwork to file either.
    IMO, your K-1 visa holder will scamper off to his brother's house, get his SSN (which he is entitled to) and start to live and work illegally in the USA.
    Still, even he does that, you are not responsible for him, the I-94 expires soon.
    [apologies, I not read any of the prior posts here, so if I'm echoing someone else - hey ! ]
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    Tahlisha reacted to discoverusa in K1 Visa - I won't marry him!   
    Agree. Relationships require work and time. You hardly given it any time to make things work. The guy just left his entire life for you. Give him some credit.
    To all the people who just want to ship him back: Even if he decides to go back home he is still allowed to go visit his brother and then leave. I would assume flights to and from Morocco are expensive so why not visit a brother while he is already here and then go home. Call me naïve, but that's how I see it.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Peace.... in K1 Visa - I won't marry him!   
    One trip to morocco, eight,days.... I'm sorry, you both really needed more face to face time before jumping into a marriage.
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    Tahlisha reacted to belinda63 in K1 Visa - I won't marry him!   
    Here's an idea. You have only given it a few weeks. Why not wait a bit longer see if things mesh. He has just given up his life and moved to a new country. The person you are seeing is not the person he is. He has a lot to adapt to right now. If he wants let him visit his brother for a few weeks then come back to you and see how things go. You are not married, you have 90 days to do so. Take your time and let the man get used to the change.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Raznattybongo in K1 Visa - I won't marry him!   
    I'm surprised people are only talking in favor of the woman, forgetting the man involved too. Did the woman say the man has done something bad to her that she dislikes?
    All because she filed for him, so she could just get up one morning and say i don't wanna be with you again so leave? She has the absolute right to do that, but VJers should analyze this issue well. At least you guys have to know what the guy has done because bringing out such harsh conclusions......
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    Tahlisha reacted to BKKflyer in K1 Visa - I won't marry him!   
    It's funny to me that everyone else in this thread is saying things like "don't let him come back to your house" when the OP is clearly at fault here (if her description of the situation is accurate). She brings this guy over and decides in a week and a half that they are not alike? And you are more worried about her?
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from DJ&L in What to do when immigrant spouse leaves   
    Wow... Doesn't seem fair.... Anyhoo no good luck will come to him I am sure... I will move forward with my life... Have no time to waste on people such as him and his family..... Thanks for the info....
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    Tahlisha reacted to Hypnos in Things went wrong....How do I get her out of my house   
    1) A lawyer would be able to (advise you).
    2) People are not commodities to be "sent back" if you don't like them.
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    Tahlisha reacted to TBoneTX in What to do when immigrant spouse leaves   
    Folks, let's please stick closer to the OP's situation.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Avery Cates in What to do when immigrant spouse leaves   
    People can get all uppity about just about anything here. Fact is though high fraud countries are high fraud for a reason.
    You're not the first one who's married someone with an unrealistic vision of what life in the US is.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Jamie & Izzy in What to do when immigrant spouse leaves   
    That sounds pretty common for Moroccans :S to be honest all my relationships with Moroccan man did work at all ...i`m not saying they are bad ! its just different culture like you said,i`m sorry this happened to you
    Izzy
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    Tahlisha reacted to tbthree86 in What to do when immigrant spouse leaves   
    I am so very sorry Tahlisha!
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    Tahlisha reacted to Cathi in What to do when immigrant spouse leaves   
    I don't think it's judgmental in the least. Leaving without giving a reason is quite cowardly, doesn't matter what his side is, he should have at least had the balls to tell her why.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Novembro in What to do when immigrant spouse leaves   
    Yeah I'm sure if your spouse peaced out with no notice, you'd be super f*cking happy about it and definitely not make any irrational comments.
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from Tanya and Barry in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    My husband is a MENA man... Has been here since feb of this year. Been working since April. I am given just about all of his pay check (he keeps enough for the bus/metro to get to and from work)
    It is well known that Morocco has one of if not the highest fraud rate when it comes to this process... With that being said, I think so many couples have issues for a few reasons...
    1) Non muslims marrying muslims thinking they will change/convert their spouse and vice versa or thinking that persons religion should be last on a persons list of priorities.... If some of these women took the time to learn something about Islam they would know that it is a mans responsibility to care/provide for their parents when they are elderly and unable to do so for themselvesand also for their unmarried sisters if their parents are not able to, however is oblogation is to his wife first...... Many of these wome would save themselves alot of time, money, stress and heartache if they took the time to learn of Islam and the culture of whatever country their spouse came from....
    2) folks not being understanding or excepting of of one anothers cultures. Not will to compromise or try new things.. (this has bee a issue with my husband and I, but he is starting to loose up)
    3) Beigning so silly in the head to believe their DH or DW wanted to come here based soully on their love for them.... Come on.... We have to be real and honest with ourselves... I know part of the reason my husband looked to marry outside of his country was to leave.....
    From what little the OP did say it sounds to me that they did not discuss a great many things and chose to over look many of the few red flags that were revealed to them....
    If you trully love your wife try to get some counseling.... Insha'allah Allah will help you and your wife through this difficult time....
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from Golden Gate in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    My husband is a MENA man... Has been here since feb of this year. Been working since April. I am given just about all of his pay check (he keeps enough for the bus/metro to get to and from work)
    It is well known that Morocco has one of if not the highest fraud rate when it comes to this process... With that being said, I think so many couples have issues for a few reasons...
    1) Non muslims marrying muslims thinking they will change/convert their spouse and vice versa or thinking that persons religion should be last on a persons list of priorities.... If some of these women took the time to learn something about Islam they would know that it is a mans responsibility to care/provide for their parents when they are elderly and unable to do so for themselvesand also for their unmarried sisters if their parents are not able to, however is oblogation is to his wife first...... Many of these wome would save themselves alot of time, money, stress and heartache if they took the time to learn of Islam and the culture of whatever country their spouse came from....
    2) folks not being understanding or excepting of of one anothers cultures. Not will to compromise or try new things.. (this has bee a issue with my husband and I, but he is starting to loose up)
    3) Beigning so silly in the head to believe their DH or DW wanted to come here based soully on their love for them.... Come on.... We have to be real and honest with ourselves... I know part of the reason my husband looked to marry outside of his country was to leave.....
    From what little the OP did say it sounds to me that they did not discuss a great many things and chose to over look many of the few red flags that were revealed to them....
    If you trully love your wife try to get some counseling.... Insha'allah Allah will help you and your wife through this difficult time....
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from Caryh in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    My husband is a MENA man... Has been here since feb of this year. Been working since April. I am given just about all of his pay check (he keeps enough for the bus/metro to get to and from work)
    It is well known that Morocco has one of if not the highest fraud rate when it comes to this process... With that being said, I think so many couples have issues for a few reasons...
    1) Non muslims marrying muslims thinking they will change/convert their spouse and vice versa or thinking that persons religion should be last on a persons list of priorities.... If some of these women took the time to learn something about Islam they would know that it is a mans responsibility to care/provide for their parents when they are elderly and unable to do so for themselvesand also for their unmarried sisters if their parents are not able to, however is oblogation is to his wife first...... Many of these wome would save themselves alot of time, money, stress and heartache if they took the time to learn of Islam and the culture of whatever country their spouse came from....
    2) folks not being understanding or excepting of of one anothers cultures. Not will to compromise or try new things.. (this has bee a issue with my husband and I, but he is starting to loose up)
    3) Beigning so silly in the head to believe their DH or DW wanted to come here based soully on their love for them.... Come on.... We have to be real and honest with ourselves... I know part of the reason my husband looked to marry outside of his country was to leave.....
    From what little the OP did say it sounds to me that they did not discuss a great many things and chose to over look many of the few red flags that were revealed to them....
    If you trully love your wife try to get some counseling.... Insha'allah Allah will help you and your wife through this difficult time....
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from sara..... in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    My husband is a MENA man... Has been here since feb of this year. Been working since April. I am given just about all of his pay check (he keeps enough for the bus/metro to get to and from work)
    It is well known that Morocco has one of if not the highest fraud rate when it comes to this process... With that being said, I think so many couples have issues for a few reasons...
    1) Non muslims marrying muslims thinking they will change/convert their spouse and vice versa or thinking that persons religion should be last on a persons list of priorities.... If some of these women took the time to learn something about Islam they would know that it is a mans responsibility to care/provide for their parents when they are elderly and unable to do so for themselvesand also for their unmarried sisters if their parents are not able to, however is oblogation is to his wife first...... Many of these wome would save themselves alot of time, money, stress and heartache if they took the time to learn of Islam and the culture of whatever country their spouse came from....
    2) folks not being understanding or excepting of of one anothers cultures. Not will to compromise or try new things.. (this has bee a issue with my husband and I, but he is starting to loose up)
    3) Beigning so silly in the head to believe their DH or DW wanted to come here based soully on their love for them.... Come on.... We have to be real and honest with ourselves... I know part of the reason my husband looked to marry outside of his country was to leave.....
    From what little the OP did say it sounds to me that they did not discuss a great many things and chose to over look many of the few red flags that were revealed to them....
    If you trully love your wife try to get some counseling.... Insha'allah Allah will help you and your wife through this difficult time....
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from mounir412 in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    My husband is a MENA man... Has been here since feb of this year. Been working since April. I am given just about all of his pay check (he keeps enough for the bus/metro to get to and from work)
    It is well known that Morocco has one of if not the highest fraud rate when it comes to this process... With that being said, I think so many couples have issues for a few reasons...
    1) Non muslims marrying muslims thinking they will change/convert their spouse and vice versa or thinking that persons religion should be last on a persons list of priorities.... If some of these women took the time to learn something about Islam they would know that it is a mans responsibility to care/provide for their parents when they are elderly and unable to do so for themselvesand also for their unmarried sisters if their parents are not able to, however is oblogation is to his wife first...... Many of these wome would save themselves alot of time, money, stress and heartache if they took the time to learn of Islam and the culture of whatever country their spouse came from....
    2) folks not being understanding or excepting of of one anothers cultures. Not will to compromise or try new things.. (this has bee a issue with my husband and I, but he is starting to loose up)
    3) Beigning so silly in the head to believe their DH or DW wanted to come here based soully on their love for them.... Come on.... We have to be real and honest with ourselves... I know part of the reason my husband looked to marry outside of his country was to leave.....
    From what little the OP did say it sounds to me that they did not discuss a great many things and chose to over look many of the few red flags that were revealed to them....
    If you trully love your wife try to get some counseling.... Insha'allah Allah will help you and your wife through this difficult time....
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    Tahlisha reacted to abbi627 in Marriage in Morocco   
    It took us 29 days to get married in Morocco. The first thing your husband needs to do is go to the court there and get a list of required documents. It varies depending on where you get married. The Judge in the village where we married had never done a mixed marriage before and it turned into a bit of a difficult process. I have heard it is faster and easier in the cities.
    Your husband will have a list of documents he needs to get.
    You will have a list of documents you will need to bring from US:
    Police record check
    employment letter (probably good idea to bring copies of pay stubs too)
    birth certificate
    if divorced - copy of divorce certificate
    passport sized photos
    (there may be others I am forgetting and there may be others required by the court depending on where you get married)
    once you get in Morocco you will need to:
    Go to the US embassy in Casablanca to get a Certificate of Nationality and Eligibility to Marry
    and a notarized copy of passport. These cost $50 each for a total of $100. You can make the appointment online. Best to do this as soon as you arrive in Morocco
    You go to Rabat to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to get a stamp on this document.
    Also in Rabat you go to the Ministry of Justice for a police record check on you. I went early and gave them copies of my birth certificate and passport and then came back late that afternoon and picked it up.
    Take all documents that are in English to a translator to have them translated to Arabic. Make sure the translator is accepted by the courts.
    You will both need to get medicals done in Morocco. I think this experience varies from place to place too. But ours was basically paying the fee and the doctor listened to our hearts and asked if we had any illnesses and then signed our documents. I have heard some require bloodwork. I have heard some require pregnancy test. But that was our experience.
    Once you get all of your documents you file it at the court and the fun begins.
    We were interviewed by one Judge and then our papers were sent to the police station for an investigation.
    After that investigation we were sent to a second Judge who decided to make our life as difficult as possible.
    It was extremely frustrating to say the least but finally he signed our permission to marry and we took it to the adoul who drew up our marriage contract and we signed it.
    I am probably leaving out something important but I can't remember it all right now - probably best sometimes to just forget about all the stress and drama (LOL). It was very stressful. And if you don't live near Casablanca or Rabat you will have to do some traveling. I felt like for a while I lived in taxis and busses. We didn't organize our time and spent extra time running back and forth for things we could have done in one trip if we were better organized.
    Oh and after you are married you need to have your marriage contract translated into English. You will need it for the petition.
    If you have any other questions about this process let me know. We were just married on April 17 of this year.
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    Tahlisha reacted to msheesha in Marriage in Morocco   
    It took us just under two weeks. But time frames are generally dependent on where in Morocco you are getting married. Also my husband had prepared ahead of time. I scanned any paperwork needing to be translated to Arabic to him and he had it ahead of time. Also went directly from airport arrival to consulate to get papers I needed there. Your husband needs to know the process there and have a plan that is the most time efficient for the process.
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    Tahlisha got a reaction from Darnell in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    My husband is a MENA man... Has been here since feb of this year. Been working since April. I am given just about all of his pay check (he keeps enough for the bus/metro to get to and from work)
    It is well known that Morocco has one of if not the highest fraud rate when it comes to this process... With that being said, I think so many couples have issues for a few reasons...
    1) Non muslims marrying muslims thinking they will change/convert their spouse and vice versa or thinking that persons religion should be last on a persons list of priorities.... If some of these women took the time to learn something about Islam they would know that it is a mans responsibility to care/provide for their parents when they are elderly and unable to do so for themselvesand also for their unmarried sisters if their parents are not able to, however is oblogation is to his wife first...... Many of these wome would save themselves alot of time, money, stress and heartache if they took the time to learn of Islam and the culture of whatever country their spouse came from....
    2) folks not being understanding or excepting of of one anothers cultures. Not will to compromise or try new things.. (this has bee a issue with my husband and I, but he is starting to loose up)
    3) Beigning so silly in the head to believe their DH or DW wanted to come here based soully on their love for them.... Come on.... We have to be real and honest with ourselves... I know part of the reason my husband looked to marry outside of his country was to leave.....
    From what little the OP did say it sounds to me that they did not discuss a great many things and chose to over look many of the few red flags that were revealed to them....
    If you trully love your wife try to get some counseling.... Insha'allah Allah will help you and your wife through this difficult time....
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    Tahlisha reacted to Darnell in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    Luckily (FYI) that wasn't Rabasaski's generalization.
    It was someone else's, and he was writing of it.
    Just FYI, at the moment.
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    Tahlisha reacted to Jawaree in my wife she gonna kick me out of state   
    Two sides to every story... but Y not try counseling....Funny it seem the same ppl
    from the same place marry crazy ladies & ladies who want them gone...cultural
    differences should be thoroughly discuss, or more & more it will seem like scams
    to the COs in certain areas
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